Whats the absolute Worest Low

[carbonmotion]

Whats the absolute Worest Low You've hit in Your Life?

Ex. Someone once told me their absolute worest low was when their wife left them after 15 years.

[Thomas Veil]

The hijacking thread? :rolleyes:

[iLikeMyiMac]

Whats the absolute Worest Low You've hit in Your Life?

Ex. Someone once told me their absolute worest low was when their wife left them after 15 years.
When I forgot to use spellcheck before I posted in an online forum. ;)

[Thomas Veil]

Okay, seriously...

It would probably be when I got fired from a job I'd had for over 20 years. An altercation between me and a snotty employee. I gave back as good as I got, but I'm the only one who got canned.

I couldn't sleep for a week without drinking heavily. I'm still angry about it, two years later. I'd love to sue the bastards, but I don't have the money. (Lack of money is one of the lingering repercussions.)

[vniow]

http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=103999

[Blue Velvet]

That's easy.

About 12 years ago... within the space of 6 weeks, I lost my job, my flat (apartment), and before I knew it, I was homeless on the streets of London with about £50 ($100) to my name... but then things got worse.

A few weeks later, I found myself in a hostel fighting off a crack-crazed junkie wielding a solid cast-iron frying pan... and that was before I got stabbed a few weeks later.

Aaah... the good old days.

Still, my life is back on the right track now...

So, the moral is: just when you think things can't get worse -- they can.

But, although at the time you can't see your way out of the s**t-storm, there is always a way to get things together. Eventually.

[MacDawg]

http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=103999

Nice catch vniow

Woof, Woof - Dawg

[jsw]

http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=103999
Oh, sure... feed him viewers.

[jsw]

That's easy.

About 12 years ago... within the space of 6 weeks, I lost my job, my flat (apartment), and before I knew it, I was homeless on the streets of London with about £50 ($100) to my name... but then things got worse.

A few weeks later, I found myself in a hostel fighting off a crack-crazed junkie wielding a solid cast-iron frying pan... and that was before I got stabbed a few weeks later.

Aaah... the good old days.

Still, my life is back on the right track now...

So, the moral is: just when you think things can't get worse -- they can.

But, although at the time you can't see your way out of the s**t-storm, there is always a way to get things together. Eventually.
I was about to post regarding my stupid relationship mistakes (alluded to in other threads...) when I read this.

You win.

[OutThere]

That's easy.

About 12 years ago... within the space of 6 weeks, I lost my job, my flat (apartment), and before I knew it, I was homeless on the streets of London with about £50 ($100) to my name... but then things got worse.

A few weeks later, I found myself in a hostel fighting off a crack-crazed junkie wielding a solid cast-iron frying pan... and that was before I got stabbed a few weeks later.

Aaah... the good old days.

Still, my life is back on the right track now...

So, the moral is: just when you think things can't get worse -- they can.

But, although at the time you can't see your way out of the s**t-storm, there is always a way to get things together. Eventually.

Whoa. I'm not really sure what to say to this...but, I'm glad that you are back on track now... :)

[OutThere]

I was about to post regarding my stupid relationship mistakes (alluded to in other threads...) when I read this.

You win.

I had pretty much the same thoughts on this...wow. :eek:

[Mechcozmo]

A few weeks later, I found myself in a hostel fighting off a crack-crazed junkie wielding a solid cast-iron frying pan... and that was before I got stabbed a few weeks later.


I hate to say it, but that almost reminds me of a bad movie. Good to know that you came out ok, though.

Worst low? Hmm... I'll need to think for a second, choose the best one...

[Blue Velvet]

Whoa. I'm not really sure what to say to this...but, I'm glad that you are back on track now... :)

Thanks.

But good things did come from that 'interesting' period. Namely...

1) A thick skin and some highly-tuned assertive street-smarts.
2) A sense of personal strength having survived that period, and finally...
3) A highly instructive life-lesson on the meaning of friendship as 'friends' fell away like autumn leaves...

You truly know who your real friends are when your life goes astray.

[OutThere]

I have had quite many lessons on 'real friends'. It's obvious who they are as soon as something starts to go bad. Granted, I haven't ever reached a point in my life that I could really compare to what happened to you, but even in little situations, people who you thought were your friends get weeded out quickly. Real friends will stick with you. :)

[skunk]

That's easy.

About 12 years ago... within the space of 6 weeks, I lost my job, my flat (apartment), and before I knew it, I was homeless on the streets of London with about £50 ($100) to my name... but then things got worse.

A few weeks later, I found myself in a hostel fighting off a crack-crazed junkie wielding a solid cast-iron frying pan... and that was before I got stabbed a few weeks later.

Aaah... the good old days.

Still, my life is back on the right track now...

So, the moral is: just when you think things can't get worse -- they can.

But, although at the time you can't see your way out of the s**t-storm, there is always a way to get things together. Eventually.
London can be pretty rough. Well done for turning things around.

I don't really want to talk about my lowest point: it'd be too depressing...

[maya]

Thanks.

But good things did come from that 'interesting' period. Namely...

1) A thick skin and some highly-tuned assertive street-smarts.
2) A sense of personal strength having survived that period, and finally...
3) A highly instructive life-lesson on the meaning of friendship as 'friends' fell away like autumn leaves...

You truly know who your real friends are when your life goes astray.

Sorry to hear about your past experiences, that did sound terrible. Good to see that you got many positive experiences and lessons out of it.

Some wise words for all. :)

[AnewMac]

Not so low as the guy who went homeless, but mine would have to be getting my powermac after waiting for 2 months to only have to send it back being defective. :mad:

ok, I know that isn't the lowest, but I dont want to dig harsh memories.

[joepunk]

An absolute worst low that has hit my life happened during my first quarter at Community College during the Fall of 2000. My mother was diagnosed with lung cancer, which spread to her brain and caused a tumor. In the end the cancer cells spread to her blood even after radiation treatments for the tumor and the lung cancer. She died Dec. 06. That was the day before finals. At least she got to see me graduate high-school.

And a few months ago, my stepmother was diagnosed with colon cancer. This time it was caught early and she had a successful surgery to remove it. She is currently going through radiation treatment and chemo"therapy". She is expected to make a full recovery and hopefully the cancer will not reappear.

[Dr. Dastardly]

That's easy.

About 12 years ago... within the space of 6 weeks, I lost my job, my flat (apartment), and before I knew it, I was homeless on the streets of London with about £50 ($100) to my name... but then things got worse.

A few weeks later, I found myself in a hostel fighting off a crack-crazed junkie wielding a solid cast-iron frying pan... and that was before I got stabbed a few weeks later.

Aaah... the good old days.

Still, my life is back on the right track now...

So, the moral is: just when you think things can't get worse -- they can.

But, although at the time you can't see your way out of the s**t-storm, there is always a way to get things together. Eventually.
I was going to post that I didn't pass my driving test the first couple times... :p

[hcuar]

Not so low as the guy who went homeless, but mine would have to be getting my powermac after waiting for 2 months to only have to send it back being defective. :mad:

ok, I know that isn't the lowest, but I dont want to dig harsh memories.

I think calling BV a "guy" is going to be your "Worest" low.

[absolut_mac]

You truly know who your real friends are when your life goes astray.

I was going to post mine, but then I realized that they were so trivial compared to yours.

I'm pleased to hear that you got out of it okay. As for your last statement, that is so true.

[snkTab]

Right now is my low, can't find a job after college. I'm trying to get a finance job in dayton, OH but there are plenty of big companies laying of finance people, so the job market is full with finance people with experience. Anyone in Dayton want to hook me up?

It also sucked when I was going though labor statistics and found out the city I lived in prior to sophomore year in college had the lowest unemployment rating.

[Mechcozmo]

And a few months ago, my stepmother was diagnosed with colon cancer. This time it was caught early and she had a successful surgery to remove it. She is currently going through radiation treatment and chemo"therapy". She is expected to make a full recovery and hopefully the cancer will not reappear.

Just wondering why you placed "therapy" in quotes. I feel bad for you, but I'm just wondering as to why you did that...

3) A highly instructive life-lesson on the meaning of friendship as 'friends' fell away like autumn leaves...
You truly know who your real friends are when your life goes astray.
How true.


Alright, I'll share so I don't feel like I'm being left out. ;) :rolleyes:

Being given the "lets be friends" speech. Which made me feel like **** for the next few days. But a year later, we are good friends. Very good friends. Which doesn't quite compare to living on the street, but if anyone has heard it-- it sucks bad.

[virividox]

wow BV crazy story you have there. i do hope i never have to experience that first hand. glad you are alright now :)

[Xtremehkr]

Are we talking about worst here?

Luke, use the edit button, it will guide when others have pointed things out.

[7on]

Those good few years around Jr. High when I became a porn addict after my 3 closest friends left school.

[joepunk]

Just wondering why you placed "therapy" in quotes. I feel bad for you, but I'm just wondering as to why you did that...

I find it really strange that it, chemotherapy, is refered to as therapy. A person is injected with poisons and it is called therapy :confused:
And the side effects that accompany treatment are quite nasty to have to go through.

Thats all.

[dubbz]

Being diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis is probably the worst so far. My dad have and I was hoping I whould avoid it, but I wasn't that lucky. Oh, well.

[skunk]

That's pretty tough: good luck with any treatment.

I wasn't going to revisit my lowest point, but what the hell.
My absolute worst low was when my wonderful son died at the age of 12 after suffering from astrocytoma (a kind of brain tumour), hydrocephalus, epilepsy and two strokes since the age of 3. During that time I also went bankrupt and lost my beautiful house in Richmond. Not a good period of my life. Taught me a lot though.

[blackfox]

My (belated) condolences to you Skunk, I can't imagine what it is like to lose a child.

Words fail.

<sarcasm>Although I now see why you are such a right bastard.<sarcasm> ;)

For me, it was actively intervening in preventing my best friend's suicide, which got me (temporarily) arrested for my trouble.

Bad day. Oddly, it was also one of my best...

[skunk]

My (belated) condolences to you Skunk, I can't imagine what it is like to lose a child.
Thanks, BF. It's quite a trip, I can tell you. It's like being on a different planet from everybody else. Looking after him, and seeing his courage, was a deeply rewarding experience, though. Sometimes I think it was the only time I've really lived.


<sarcasm>Although I now see why you are such a right bastard.<sarcasm> ;)
No holds barred! :D

[hcuar]

Being diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis is probably the worst so far. My dad have and I was hoping I whould avoid it, but I wasn't that lucky. Oh, well.

Woah... I'm sorry to hear that. I suffer from IBS which is bad enough. I believe that Ulcerative colitis is even worse.

[skunk]

For me, it was actively intervening in preventing my best friend's suicide, which got me (temporarily) arrested for my trouble.

Bad day. Oddly, it was also one of my best...
I hope he or she was grateful!

[solvs]

My dog died, my Grandmother died, the love of my life left me because of something she did, I got sick, lost my job, and the business I was trying to establish went under before it even started, causing me to go almost bankrupt. Things eventually got better (hard to get worse), but it was still a painful time. The best advice I got was "it could be worse" or "get over it" which if course didn't help. But even though it all still hurts a little after a couple of years, eventually you do sort-of get over it.

[skunk]

I don't think you do, really. You just learn to live with it. That's quite an "annus horribilis".

[blackfox]

I hope he or she was grateful!
Indeed she was. In fact, that day and/or my efforts marked a turning point for her, and she is doing much better these days.

[skunk]

Indeed she was. In fact, that day and/or my efforts marked a turning point for her, and she is doing much better these days.
Well that's a result! :)

[AnewMac]

BV please forgive Me :o I should read posts more accurately. Replace my "worest" low with this one!

[solvs]

I don't think you do, really. You just learn to live with it. That's quite an "annus horribilis".
I guess you're right. You sort-of get over it, like I said. But I guess it's more of just trying not to think about it. Old wounds, and all.

And if you mean horrible year, it was all within a couple of weeks actually. But yes, it was a horrible year that just kept getting worse. My condolences to you as well skunk.

[stubeeef]

My fathers death when I was 9, never have gotten over it. At least I was young enough to not know the ramifications at the time, so the worst was when I was 18..........
I guess it was lower when my step father, a great guy, died 2 months before I graduated from HS, I was the youngest and my brothers lived 4 and 6 states away, and was going away from home for college. I remember the day I left for college in Aug and we had helped my mother move to a condo, she was now going to live alone. I can still see her crying at the back door of the condo as I left, and remember how I felt knowing there was no one there to comfort her as I had left, and she was alone! UGH!

I now live 20 min away and drop by all the time and call at least once every 48 hours.

GOOD JOB BF!
skunk, I can't and don't want to imagine your pain. I am VERY sorry.

[skunk]

Thanks, Stu. It looks like quite a few of us have seen the other side.
Losing two dads seems very unfair.

[apple2991]

Worst low? Hmm... I'll need to think for a second, choose the best one...[/QUOTE]

Um, shouldn't you do that before you post?

[Lyle]

Being diagnosed with Ulcerative colitis is probably the worst so far. My dad have and I was hoping I whould avoid it, but I wasn't that lucky. Oh, well.If it's any consolation, I was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease when I was sixteen years old (almost twenty years ago, now) and, after some adjustments (and an occasional surgery) I've led a pretty normal life. I hope that you're able to get hooked up with a good doctor who understands the disease well and is able to help.

[Lyle]

An absolute worst low that has hit my life happened during my first quarter at Community College during the Fall of 2000. My mother was diagnosed with lung cancer, which spread to her brain and caused a tumor. In the end the cancer cells spread to her blood even after radiation treatments for the tumor and the lung cancer. She died Dec. 06. That was the day before finals. At least she got to see me graduate high-school.

And a few months ago, my stepmother was diagnosed with colon cancer. This time it was caught early and she had a successful surgery to remove it. She is currently going through radiation treatment and chemo"therapy". She is expected to make a full recovery and hopefully the cancer will not reappear.I understand at least part of what you're going through, Joe. My wife was diagnosed with tongue cancer six years ago and had surgery at the time to remove the tumor. A few years later, she had a recurrence and went through simultaneous chemotherapy and (external beam) radiation, followed up by brachytherapy. We've experienced a lot of low points during the last six years, but oddly enough, a lot of the "highest" points as well.

The good news is that she has now been cancer-free for three years, and we're cautiously optimistic that she's beat it this time.

P.S. I understand why you put quotes around the "therapy" in "chemotherapy". It's a prime example of how the cure seems much worse than the disease.

[skunk]

I understand at least part of what you're going through, Joe. My wife was diagnosed with tongue cancer six years ago and had surgery at the time to remove the tumor. A few years later, she had a recurrence and went through simultaneous chemotherapy and (external beam) radiation, followed up by brachytherapy. We've experienced a lot of low points during the last six years, but oddly enough, a lot of the "highest" points as well.
What a nightmare! But it's true, the lower you get, the higher the highs - when they arrive.

[jefhatfield]

Okay, seriously...

It would probably be when I got fired from a job I'd had for over 20 years. An altercation between me and a snotty employee. I gave back as good as I got, but I'm the only one who got canned.

I couldn't sleep for a week without drinking heavily. I'm still angry about it, two years later. I'd love to sue the bastards, but I don't have the money. (Lack of money is one of the lingering repercussions.)

i am working on being an employment lawyer and i will gladly take your case...but what state are you in? if it's cali, then we can talk ;) you could also PM mcrain on macrumors because he's a lawyer on the east coast and he may know somebody...he's established and i am only an L1

[spikeovsky]

Man, this is a tough thread to read. It's not exactly depressing, because most people seem to have managed to overcome their worst lows. But tough. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a child, or *one* father, let alone two.

My worst low was probably when I was 9, and diagnosed with cancer in my right leg, shortly after my grandmother (mother's mother) had died from cancer. Cue six-seven months of chemo, amputation, etc. It's weird, though - it happened so long ago, that while *objectively* I know it was my worst low, it doesn't seem so bad in hindsight. I think it was a lot tougher on my mom. And I think that the combination of my grandmother's death and my own cancer really brought my family closer together.

[Abstract]

I don't think you do, really. You just learn to live with it. That's quite an "annus horribilis".

Yeah, I don't even know what I'd do. I have never had an important part of my life die, so I really can't contribute anything to this thread regarding a "low".

I understand at least part of what you're going through, Joe. My wife was diagnosed with tongue cancer six years ago and had surgery at the time to remove the tumor. A few years later, she had a recurrence and went through simultaneous chemotherapy and (external beam) radiation, followed up by brachytherapy.

No recurrences....sounds great. I'll be doing this sort of work hopefully in the future (Medical Physics), and the PhD I'm about to start next month (in Oz) is related to prostate brachytherapy.

While I hope to never meet any of you lot in person, it would be great to see people become cancer-free.

Is she a smoker? If so, she shouldn't smoke after eating. Eating opens up little pores on your tongue, so a greater amount of harmful substances from the cigarette enter the tongue after a meal. Well, that's what I was told 2 years ago by a pathologist, so don't blame me if I'm wrong, but it sounds logical. ;)

[joepunk]

Condolences to all on this thread who lost a family member or friend. Especially to those who lost someone at a very young age. IMO that is the worst time to lose someone.

And congratulations on surviving through your painful times.

[Lyle]

No recurrences....sounds great. I'll be doing this sort of work hopefully in the future (Medical Physics), and the PhD I'm about to start next month (in Oz) is related to prostate brachytherapy.Cool. We'd never heard of brachytherapy before her oncologist recommended it, and when we went to research it on the Web, most of the references we found were for uses of brachytherapy to treat prostate cancer (as you will be studying). So I gather that it's still a (relatively) experimental treatment for cancer of the tongue.

Is she a smoker? If so, she shouldn't smoke after eating. Eating opens up little pores on your tongue, so a greater amount of harmful substances from the cigarette enter the tongue after a meal. Well, that's what I was told 2 years ago by a pathologist, so don't blame me if I'm wrong, but it sounds logical. ;)No. As she will be quick to tell you, she's never smoked or drank (alcohol) in her life. The "typical" tongue cancer patient is an old white guy who's smoked all his life, so she definitely doesn't fit the profile. ;)

[stubeeef]

Especially to those who lost someone at a very young age. IMO that is the worst time to lose someone.

Agreed! It would seem the equivalent to the death of hope. As a father of 3 elementary aged kids, it is by far my worst fear. As a parent it would seem nearly unsurvivable without other children to be responsible for. Two families in my church lost 3 of their 4 sons in a stupid car wreck, each had 2 boys, the familiy that lost both of their sons (2-3 yrs ago?) is adapting an asian girl this month, and we are all so excited for them.

skunk, it sounds as though you either had an awesome support network or a lot of time has past, or both. I realize a forum is not a REAL place, and opinions are expressed in sniglets, and that know one really knows how someone else can and does feel, but I TRULY feel for you, and all parents in that perdicament.

All the best to those in here in 2005, hopefully it will be full of "the best highs".

[njmac]

My 19 year old brother was killed in a car accident. The worst part was the driver was his good friend, and he was drunk. Two people died because of it. Time does make the suffering less, but I miss him every day.

[skunk]

Agreed! It would seem the equivalent to the death of hope. As a father of 3 elementary aged kids, it is by far my worst fear. As a parent it would seem nearly unsurvivable without other children to be responsible for.
The other children suffer too, of course: we took our two out of school and educated them at home to try to include them more in our routine, which sort of helped.

skunk, it sounds as though you either had an awesome support network or a lot of time has past, or both. I realize a forum is not a REAL place, and opinions are expressed in sniglets, and that know one really knows how someone else can and does feel, but I TRULY feel for you, and all parents in that predicament.
So many here have suffered such terrible pain, loss and disappointment (yes, it is the "death of hope", you're spot on), whether through bereavement, injury or disease, and the weird feeling of alienation from "life as advertised". And yet, here we all are, sharing "sniglets"! I really haven't talked about it much in the seven years since - it tends to frighten most people away! But I have found encouragement here from your stories and your comments, BF, Lyle, Stu, Blue, Spike and the rest, and I have enormous admiration for the strength you all are showing through your own problems. That's what I call a support network!


All the best to those in here in 2005, hopefully it will be full of "the best highs".
Yes, indeed. :)