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I'm assuming you would like your active buddies to appear near the top of your buddy-list. Try sorting your buddy list by "status" or "groups". This should do the trick.
 
well the list is sorted by groups right now, but the groups themselves are alphabetized. it'd be nice if "buddies" were below "family" but i can't seem to make that work.
 
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