Brains or Beauty? [Archive]

M. Malone

Sep 8, 2006, 05:35 PM

Whatever gets me laid.

yep, that's it, but you don't want it lasting longer than a month where you try to have a conversation, some are just too dumb, you can't talk about anything! like wanting to test a child in multiplication when he still doesn't know how to add.

pianoman

Sep 8, 2006, 05:43 PM

does it have to be either/or? i look for both, but i will say that i am more inclined to woo beautiful women over brainy women. although, being smart is rather attractive. i like someone who can argue with me :)

kasei

Sep 8, 2006, 05:49 PM

Can't you have both?

mactastic

Sep 8, 2006, 05:50 PM

Brains anytime. Beauty fades. Luckily I didn't have to choose. :)

jelloshotsrule

Sep 8, 2006, 05:52 PM

brains are beautiful. seriously.

viccles

Sep 8, 2006, 05:54 PM

Brains but looks are a bonus :cool:

beatsme

Sep 8, 2006, 06:02 PM

The ageold debate... yet again.

Brains over Beauty? Beauty over Brains? If you had to choose - what would you pick?

brains make them beautiful, but the physical attraction has to be there, too. It isn't usually just one or the other...

EDIT:
a more interesting question would be brains, looks, or money...

cait-sith

Sep 8, 2006, 06:03 PM

Brains anytime. Beauty fades. Luckily I didn't have to choose. :)

Brains fade too. Ever heard of senility?

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 8, 2006, 06:04 PM

Brains but looks are a bonus :cool:

Beauty but brains are a bonus :cool:

beatsme

Sep 8, 2006, 06:04 PM

Whatever gets me laid.

hehehehe :D

bousozoku

Sep 8, 2006, 06:19 PM

I've always choosen beauty first... Perhaps its shallow, but what can you do...

Use your brain, maybe? :D

Beauty is fleeting and staring will only get you so far but intelligence and good conversation will last a lifetime.

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 8, 2006, 06:32 PM

Well, I would rather be with an interesting, intelligent person who's ugly than a beautiful person who's completely empty headed. But that's typically not the case.

I'm Asian, and (I'm going to generalize here, sorry) most Asian girls are decently smart. So in most cases, although there are dumb ones out there, I can have a good time, good conversations, and find interest in most of the girls I know. So, beauty is a greater factor for me, because very few people are polar to where they are very good looking + super stupid, or vice versa.

mactastic

Sep 8, 2006, 06:42 PM

Brains fade too. Ever heard of senility?
Not everyone's brain fades, and it only happens long after beauty has already faded.

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 8, 2006, 06:50 PM

but intelligence and good conversation will last a lifetime.

72.9 (http://dukenews.duke.edu/2002/02/mpvonset0202.html) years*

Then again, that's mighty close to a lifetime if you're male.

Unorthodox

Sep 8, 2006, 06:53 PM

Why does this have to be an open poll......

wimic

Sep 8, 2006, 06:55 PM

Why does this have to be an open poll......

why not??

Oryan

Sep 8, 2006, 06:59 PM

72.9 (http://dukenews.duke.edu/2002/02/mpvonset0202.html) years*

Then again, that's mighty close to a lifetime if you're male.
lol. I usually look for beauty and then for brains. If both are there, I'm good. :cool:

bousozoku

Sep 8, 2006, 07:02 PM

why not??

Because people who really have their own opinions want to blend into the crowd falling off the cliff? ;)

72.9 (http://dukenews.duke.edu/2002/02/mpvonset0202.html) years*

Then again, that's mighty close to a lifetime if you're male.

That's just for white people. :p

Yes, I'm being evil and yes, I'm joking. :D

mpw

Sep 8, 2006, 07:19 PM

I voted 'Brains', but I guess what I mean is the person inside the body not raw IQ. Of course beauty is important as it's what attracts one person to another in the first place in many instances. I've spent a lot of time looking at 'beautiful' women and many of them have been empty shells, then bam out of the blue I met a woman absolutely bursting with personality/pizzaz/that indescribable quality that makes looks an irrelevance. Of course I'm incredible lucky as this amazing person just happened to be gorgeous to boot:)

The truth of it is, l've loved her from the first second I met her.

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 8, 2006, 07:21 PM

then bam out of the blue I met a woman absolutely bursting with personality/pizzaz/that indescribable quality that makes looks an irrelevance. Of course I'm incredible lucky as this amazing person just happened to be gorgeous to boot:)

It's just a terrible pity that many of those people are taken :( I sometimes wish that I had less mainstream tastes. Like a real fondness for the flat-chested, annoying, etc. so that I could be easy to please.

Though, thinking of it right now from my vantage point... *shudder*

vniow

Sep 8, 2006, 07:24 PM

I sometimes wish that I had less mainstream tastes. Like a real fondness for the flat-chested, annoying, etc. so that I could be easy to please.

So...how you doin'?

generik

Sep 8, 2006, 07:26 PM

Brains anytime. Beauty fades. Luckily I didn't have to choose. :)

Mental capabilities will eventually decline too :rolleyes:

spicyapple

Sep 8, 2006, 07:27 PM

Beauty, definitely!

But personality trumps both beauty and brains!

dcv

Sep 8, 2006, 07:27 PM

Not sure what you're asking here.

What you'd choose to have, or what you look for in a partner?

If the former, then may I be greedy and ask for both?

If the latter, then again, both. Brains takes precedence but looks are obviously what you first notice about a person. I can't go out with someone that I can't have an intelligent conversation with, or that my personality doesn't gel with, but nor can I date an ugly guy! I have in the past been out with people that I've not fancied, but just got on well with... but because there was no physical attraction and no 'spark' it just didn't work out. So, I'm *never* doing that again... it's all or nothing...

Of course I'm lucky that I've recently met the most amazing *and* gorgeous guy ;-)

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 8, 2006, 07:27 PM

So...how you doin'?

*RUN AWAY!*

kidding. :p

edit: nevermind, not kidding

vniow

Sep 8, 2006, 07:33 PM

Of course I'm incredible lucky as this amazing person just happened to be gorgeous to boot:)

Of course I'm lucky that I've recently met the most amazing *and* gorgeous guy ;-)

What an astonishing coincidence.

*RUN AWAY!*

edit: nevermind, not kidding

Hrm?

21stcenturykid

Sep 8, 2006, 07:35 PM

A bit of both helps!! and usually you get a bit of both in most people! tbh i find that id rather have someone with common sense not just brains! I once knew an Oxford university graduate who couldnt change a lightbulb! so u can be the brightest person in the world and it still wouldnt matter without an ounce of common sense!

You can get on with intelligent people but in a relationship if your not attracted to that person its utterly pointless therefore you can never truly say one or the other!

mpw

Sep 8, 2006, 07:39 PM

What an astonishing coincidence...
What, finding brains and beauty in one amazing person?;)

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 8, 2006, 07:40 PM

Hrm?

I was just being picky with my English. Original = run away. Just kidding = I wouldn't run away. But after thinking about it, if a girl like that did come up to me, I probably would run away. So I'm not kidding about running away. But I'm kidding because I hope that you're not a flat-chest annoying girl.

Who am I kidding. Of course you're not.

The internet,
Where men are men,
Women are men,
And children are FBI agents. :D

Anyways, I'm pretty sure that everyone's looking for some combination of both. It's more a factor of which one you'd rather have more of - the drop-dead beautiful girl who's fun to talk to, or the very intelligent/fun to talk to girl who's pretty cute.

vniow

Sep 8, 2006, 07:42 PM

What, finding brains and beauty in one amazing person?;)

Yeah. That. ;)

In my case its more of an availability problem. :o

But I'm kidding because I hope that you're not a flat-chest annoying girl.

First isn't much in dispute, second depends on who you ask. ;)

Xander562

Sep 8, 2006, 07:50 PM

Brains by far, beuty would be nice too. I couldnt STAND someone who says stupid ditsy things.

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 8, 2006, 07:51 PM

Brains by far, beuty would be nice too. I couldnt STAND someone who says stupid ditsy things.

like, omgosh. totally duuude.

Lau

Sep 8, 2006, 07:59 PM

Brains all the way. There's a type of look that I find attractive (in theory) over others, but the people I've actually properly fallen for have been male and female, young and old, short and tall, thin and not so thin, and so on.

Sense of humour, strength of personality, intelligence, passion and all the other aspects of personality are what makes me actually attracted to them. Looks mean eff all — some of the people I've truly fallen for have been far from what most people would find attractive, but I did because we clicked so well and they were such an amazing person, and consequently found them far more attractive than some random 'attractive' person.

Doctor Q

Sep 8, 2006, 08:05 PM

You know what's most important in people? A good sense of humor. I find that smart good-looking but humorless people tend not to be good company for very long.

With Mac OS X and Apple computers we get both brains and beauty. Even though you can ask a Mac to tell you a knock-knock joke and Apple has specs that remind us not to eat their products, there's only a small bit of humor built into our computers. But that's ok. It matters a lot more with people.

Abstract

Sep 8, 2006, 08:33 PM

What's "smart"? :confused:

I don't want to date an encyclopedia, or someone who's going to talk circles around me. However, I'd date someone who is great with people, handles herself well when there are problems, and is willing and capable of learning, although she may not know a lot of facts or figures. :)

And if you choose beauty, does it mean that the other person is a complete airhead, or does it mean she's of average intelligence? I'd choose beauty then. :o

carbonmotion

Sep 9, 2006, 05:46 PM

all i have to say is if i make an effort to keep my self in top shape when im 35ish, my wife better do the same or else she probably shouldn't blame me if i leave her for someone more health concious....

Josias

Sep 9, 2006, 05:58 PM

In no way bragging, but I'm often told I have both (behold my A+ in my Danish essay:D ). Anyways, if I were to give away one of them, It's be brains. You can gain that, you can't really change your looks.

beatsme

Sep 9, 2006, 06:03 PM

Yeah. That. ;)

In my case its more of an availability problem. :o

First isn't much in dispute, second depends on who you ask. ;)

ok, I've seen your pics in the Member photos thing. You're a stone fox. If you think otherwise you are quite mistaken.

Queso

Sep 9, 2006, 06:07 PM

Like Doctor Q says, brains are no good without an accompanying sense of humour. Beauty is great for a night (and oh boy, what nights you can have!!) but airheads get very dull after a week, especially when they start ringing you five times a day and leaving increasingly irate and/or desperate voicemails.

So it's got to be brains. I need someone witty as a companion. Probably to make up for my own inadequacy in that department :)

backsidetailsli

Sep 9, 2006, 06:12 PM

what do you mean by brains? ;)

Josias

Sep 9, 2006, 06:14 PM

what do you mean by brains? ;)

wits, smarts, whatever.

he means whether you believ intelligence or good looks are of higher importance...;)

I will seem very stupid if you asked as a joke. :p

spicyapple

Sep 9, 2006, 06:16 PM

You know what's most important in people? A good sense of humor.
Humour doesn't pay the bills. :) Unless your Seinfeld.

GreatOne08

Sep 9, 2006, 06:33 PM

Brain is definiteely better for the long haul. Beauty fades.

Counterfit

Sep 9, 2006, 06:56 PM

Whatever gets me laid.
The same goes for 85% percent of men everywhere.

scem0

Sep 9, 2006, 07:13 PM

In myself I'd rather have brains. Same goes for a S.O. However, beauty is such a nice thing to have in a S.O. I'll be blunt - It is absolutely wonderful to be head over heals in love with a person's body and then to have them allow you to touch it all over :). But you definitely need more than that to form a healthy, loving relationship.

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Doctor Q

Sep 9, 2006, 07:28 PM

Brain is definiteely better for the long haul. Beauty fades.Brains do too, eventually, but by old age your eyes won't be as sharp either, so perhaps beauty will be less important!

Cloud9

Sep 9, 2006, 07:52 PM

Mmmmmmmmm......brainssss.....

Zwhaler

Sep 9, 2006, 08:30 PM

Grr. I Voted beauty because I thought that you were asking what would you rather have in a girlfriend/wife. make it more specific.

Leareth

Sep 9, 2006, 09:29 PM

carbonmotion

Sep 9, 2006, 09:44 PM

Beauty gets guys laid cause they are stupid enough to do it.

Brains over beauty any day.

Beauty fades knowledge grows.

I don't know how guys can find a female who spends more time and money on make up and beauty products than she does actually doing something productive , to be more attractive.

I tend to have no problem finding a woman that is both physically beautiful and intellectually brilliant...

i guess it could be because im not working in a engineering or comp sci related field... in international buisness law, you have to make an effort to keep yourself looking good to get major brownie points with the clients.

HOWEVER,

while a woman who's pretty and smart is a prize, a woman who is stunningly beautiful and intellectually brilliant (far beyond me) should be avoided at all cost. most men can't handle being in a relationship with a woman that is both far better looking AND far smarter.

2nyRiggz

Sep 9, 2006, 11:04 PM

Brains please....Beauty can get you far but only last for so long....give me the ugly beast with a brain than the beauty queen with a nut:)

Bless

azzurri000

Sep 9, 2006, 11:13 PM

while a woman who's pretty and smart is a prize, a woman who is stunningly beautiful and intellectually brilliant (far beyond me) should be avoided at all cost. most men can't handle being in a relationship with a woman that is both far better looking AND far smarter.

Re: "most men" that can't handle the "woman who is stunningly beautiful and intellectually brilliant... they should just deal with their own insecurities. It seems silly to me to pass up a good person for that reason...

CubaTBird

Sep 9, 2006, 11:19 PM

xPismo

Sep 9, 2006, 11:22 PM

Whatever gets me laid.

Yup. + Really hot or really smart will get me anyday.

azzurri000

Sep 9, 2006, 11:25 PM

Women between the ages of 18-22 don't know what the hell they want. If they have a boyfriend its just because he's some punker kid with a gotee and a chip on his shoulder. See, we "nice" guys get to wait it out. Otherwise, we're thrown in the friends category. Yeah we can talk to those HOT chicks, but thats about it. We are not "boyfriend" material. The KEGMEISTER is braaahh. :o

My best guy friend complained of the same things to me...

I can only speak for myself, though, and I can honestly say that I do not fit into that generalization:p I've only had one serious boyfriend, and he was the person that got me hooked on macs! He's really the opposite of the "punker kid" type that you mention.

I have also been told that I think like a guy, and that I am an exception in that respect. I do see a lot of girls going for the type that you mention, though, so I understand what you're getting at.

To be fair, girls can suffer from that as well, because many guys in the age group that you mention aren't looking for the nice girls, either.

zap2

Sep 9, 2006, 11:30 PM

dukebound85

Sep 9, 2006, 11:41 PM

If brains mean personality, then brains, but if it meens she got As in high school or is book smart, and an ass other then that, i'd go for Beauty.

Honestly I like an a litte of both, a good personality is more important, but I like looks to go on top of that...each one is greatly helped by the other.

Also is this what you like in other people, or what you like in yourself(to try and get a girl/boyfriend or spouse)

True, but can i have one that was smart and one that was super uber hott

I mean im the alpha male I can do whtever I want haha im just kidding

I would say a combo but would prefer a decent looking girl wth smarts over a hottie that cant fill up a gas tank. Well, maybe the hottie if she was the heiress of a billionaire (paris anyone) then i think i could live with it lol

carbonmotion

Sep 9, 2006, 11:55 PM

Re: "most men" that can't handle the "woman who is stunningly beautiful and intellectually brilliant... they should just deal with their own insecurities. It seems silly to me to pass up a good person for that reason...

its smart to date someone who's around where you are... and as far as dealing with insecurities go... they hold you back in life, yes true... but you still need a tiny splinter of it because it keeps you from getting too big headed. if a girl is neurosurgeon smart and victoria secret model hot, why would she want to be with you? i mean KNOW i'm good looking, but i also know that i'm not that good looking or that smart. so what? she likes you for your 'personality'? thats ******** 90% of the time ... for most women who like guys who aren't in their league its either for a) money b) because they they like ***** whipped guys c) they're insecure about themselves ... if a, they'll bled you dry, if b, you (at least I) won't be happy being someone's servant, and if c) eventually they'll wise up and won't need you anymore.

but i'm getting long winded here.... my point is

if you're just after sex, then date whoever you want... but if your goal is a stable steady romantic relationship, you should go for someone who can truly love you back.

freebooter

Sep 9, 2006, 11:59 PM

I'd pick Kind Hearted if that were one of the chioces.

There are lots of beautiful and smart people who are absolute monsters. No thank you.

adroit

Sep 10, 2006, 12:23 AM

... for most women who like guys who aren't in their league its either for a) money b) because they they like ***** whipped guys c) they're insecure about themselves ... if a, they'll bled you dry, if b, you (at least I) won't be happy being someone's servant, and if c) eventually they'll wise up and won't need you anymore.

You're missing one.

d) Because he makes her happy.

true777

Sep 10, 2006, 10:07 AM

I basically want brains and beauty and integrity and heart of gold and emotional depth and money and good taste and coolness and.... that's why I'm still single ;)

Reaver

Sep 10, 2006, 02:08 PM

I have had both and I must say the women that had the brains was alot better than the blonde air head. if you can find one that has both more power to you :D .

nitynate

Sep 10, 2006, 02:10 PM

I want a pretty nice person. :D

Someone beautiful, yet kind hearted.

Brains dont matter. :p

carbonmotion

Sep 10, 2006, 04:18 PM

You're missing one.

d) Because he makes her happy.
cough, ok, back to the real world now....

in a world filled with qualified guys who can make a girl happy the only reason why a girl would be happy with a significantly more frumpy guy is because in order for her to be happy she needs a ***** whipped guy and/or the other reasons i mentioned in my previous post.

Sun Baked

Sep 10, 2006, 04:29 PM

I'm sure as heck not going to pay a hooker/escort/dancer extra for her brains ... ;)

Queso

Sep 10, 2006, 04:52 PM

in a world filled with qualified guys who can make a girl happy the only reason why a girl would be happy with a significantly more frumpy guy is because in order for her to be happy she needs a ***** whipped guy and/or the other reasons i mentioned in my previous post.
Hmm. Someone doesn't like women very much do they...

Lau

Sep 10, 2006, 04:58 PM

Hmm. Someone doesn't like women very much do they...

I was thinking the same thing. :p

There seems to be a few folk with strange ideas about women and dating on MR. I suspect they may be dating the wrong kind of women...

Blue Velvet

Sep 10, 2006, 05:09 PM

Anyone with a pulse... although I have a certain someone in my sights at the mo who is lucky enough to have both brains and a certain beauty, as well as a very keen sense of humour. Let's see how things pan out... ;)

ZoomZoomZoom

Sep 10, 2006, 05:11 PM

Anyone with a pulse...

Well, that's always a good start :) 'Cause you know, not everyone... I'll stop there.

Lau

Sep 10, 2006, 05:13 PM

beatsme

Sep 10, 2006, 05:22 PM

Anyone with a pulse...

I'm usually willing to negotiate on that one...;)

Chaszmyr

Sep 10, 2006, 05:24 PM

I'm picky, I demand at least a moderate share of each ;)

McGiord

Sep 10, 2006, 05:28 PM

...Use your brain...

...is not common but you can find them togheter

....but who wants to be common when you are asking for brains or beauty....:cool:

BoyBach

Sep 10, 2006, 06:09 PM

Definitely brains.

I've just come back from a holiday where we met some really nice looking girls. But what made them the highlight of an already great holiday was the fact that they were funny and interesting company.

Precisely the type of women I never meet around here!

I've only been back a day and I miss them already :o

dcv

Sep 10, 2006, 06:11 PM

Precisely the type of women I never meet around here!

Around where? Here? http://upload.yo-momma.net/uploads/smilies/dogeyes_s.gif

Lau

Sep 10, 2006, 06:13 PM

Around where? Here? http://upload.yo-momma.net/uploads/smilies/dogeyes_s.gif

Yeah, quite. <takes offence> :p

calculus

Sep 10, 2006, 06:14 PM

I was thinking the same thing. :p

There seems to be a few folk with strange ideas about women and dating on MR. I suspect they may be dating the wrong kind of women...
Some of them are dating the wrong kind of species...

BoyBach

Sep 10, 2006, 06:15 PM

Around where? Here?

Sorry! I meant back home in my ****** little town!

Edit: Whoa, they just edited my swearing! I'm impressed!

jade

Sep 12, 2006, 11:50 PM

Well this is a tough one. So I'll the story of 2 guys I know (who were roommates). Both of them were good looking. Ok one was really hot in the whole "good on paper" way. The other one was really cute..but maybe on the short side. At the end of the day the winner in the battle of my friends was the short cute guy. The other guy was boring and had no personality. What a shame.

So I'd say beauty gets your foot in the door, and the brains is the door stop. I'll take the brains. But yeah I agree, great to have both.

Now a questions: do you think people stick with people in their same 'class?'

Me personally, I think beautiful people end up with beautiful people, cute people with cute, good looking with pretty and so on. Usually it is 5s with 5s etc, and they don't always seem to crossover. when I do see the crossover, the guys always ends up as the winner. I.E. I never see a super hot guy with a super-not girl. What do you think is happening here?