Five things that turn you off...

[ghall]

So, we all have things that turn us off from the opposite sex (or the same sex, if you're "like that"), so I thought it would be interesting if we all were to share our 5 (or more, if you want) biggest things that turn us off. They can be physical traits, personality traits, habits, etc...

Well, since I started this thread, I might as well go first.
Here they are in no particular order:

1. red hair
2. hair dye
3. smoking
4. really loud voice
5. lack of kindness

[tcrab]

These things that turn me off :

1. People who do not take care of themselves (i.e. extremely overweight)
2. Excessive drinkers
3. Excessive smoking
4. unintelligent
5. Do not care what goes on around them (i.e. people who don't pay any attention at all to politics etc.)

[Allotriophagy]

As TRITE as it may SEEM, I tend to find it DISCONCERTING when I meet a person and DISCOVER that they have a WHOLE LIST of items which they deem UNDESIRABLE and which they declare an inability to see BEYOND.

So MY list of THINGS would be THIS:

1) Having preferences which seem random or arbitrary.
2) Being stuck in their ways with regard to random or arbitrary things.
3) Showing a general unwillingness to accept people who either express different preferences to themselves OR who possess those attributes which they do not like.
4) Fat people.

That is ALL.

[UserofMacOSX]

1. Smoking, Drinking, Rudeness, Loudness
2. Supercilious-ness, excessive cussing
3. OCD-ness about appearances, take 3 hours to make up mind
4. Cocky, Crude, Stupid
5. Constant gossipers (I like to hear about what happened to Bill and Jean too, but not ALL the time), laziness, hyperactivity

[jessica.]

So, we all have things that turn us off from the opposite sex (or the same sex, if you're "like that"), so I thought it would be interesting if we all were to share our 5 (or more, if you want) biggest things that turn us off. They can be physical traits, personality traits, habits, etc...

Well, since I started this thread, I might as well go first.
Here they are in no particular order:

1. red hair
2. hair dye
3. smoking
4. really loud voice
5. lack of kindness

Yanno as a female I completely understand the hair dye, however someone once told me that I turned them off because I colored my hair. I devulged the information myself. I dye my hair or color it rather because I have gray and I have had gray since 16. It gets a bit rough when you're a teenager with gray hair. However I also pay someone $150 every 6-8 weeks to do an amazing job...so amazing that no one knows I do this unless they see roots. I don't get the hair dye thing, but to each is own.

My turn offs

1. bad teeth/breath
2. lack of concern for others
3. lack of ability to think for themselves
4. inability to succeed. (I do not mean "poor" I mean driven in life whether they're the best burger flipper ever or just doing what they do best)
5. back hair and too much chest hair. ;)

[twistedlegato]

1. red hair


That is not cool....

[xsedrinam]

Speech:Loud, Patronizing, Scatter-brained, Overly assertive, Embellishment
Appearance: Dirty fingernails, Unkept hair, Nose hair
Smell: Overpowering perfume, B.O.,
Temperament: Moodiness, Whining, Sulking, Melancholy
Intelligence: Present, but doesn't put all their furniture on the front porch

P.S. I married a redhead. :p

[spicyapple]

1. Smoking (by far, number one turn off)
2. Funky Smells (bad breath, B.O., etc)
3. Laziness (no ambition, overweight, slackers, etc)
4. Foul Mouth
5. Negative Personality

[Frisco]

1) Facial Hair
2) Big hands
3) Muscles
4) Ear Wax
5) dirt under fingernails

The above is my wife, jk

[MACDRIVE]

1. Short finger nails with paint (it's ok if they're long; otherwise, don't paint them).
2. Toe nails that are painted.
3. Earrings or studs in the nose.
4. A spinal vertebrae that sticks out.
5. Overbearing strong perfume that's nasty.

[Leareth]

1) Smokers
2) People who think that alcohol makes them say intelligent things
3) Gossips
4) Overexpressive - think used car salesman smiles...
5) Dirty hands and fingernails

[MACDRIVE]

1) Facial Hair


Absolutely, facial hair does not belong on a woman. :mad:

[poopyhead]

That is not cool....

I agree completely

1. blonde hair (but only if combined with #7)
2. lack of intelligence
3. conservative
4. closeminded
5. fear or dislike of large dogs (I have a pyr)
6. lack of ambition
7. excessively skinny
8. complaining/victim (everything is someone else's fault)

[Fearless Leader]

5. hypocrites
4. unnatural hair coloring
3. know-it-alls
2. people who talk too much on cellphone in public places (thinks of thatphoneguy)
1. extremely tiny/short clothing on girls/guys

[pianoman]

1 smoking
2 unwillingness to learn
3 overweight, too skinny
4 generally mean/nasty
5 otherwise poor appearance/poor hygiene (poor teeth, disheveled hair, etc.)

[mcarnes]

1) Pubic Hair (shaven poon is ideal, but a groomed vertical hitler stash is ok)
2) Girls that don't wash their butt hole (no chunks please)
3) Genital Warts (condylomata acuminata)
4) Girls with bad gas.
5) Girls that use PCs (or don't like macs). It reflects a character flaw, imho.

[Cassie]

In guys:

1. control freak
2. black hair
3. any kind of peirceing (ear rings are ok)
4. ignorrence
5. bad friends

[Silentwave]

1) cruelty
2) smoking
3) drug use
4) letting themselves go
5) utter stupidity.

[Chundles]

1. Smoking.
2. Being a bogan.
3. Lacking a genuine personality.
4. Arrogance exceeding my own. :D
5. Lacking a willingness to learn and hold an open mind.

[nitynate]

1. Lithium
2. Giodon
3. Lamical
4. Depacon
5. BiPolar Disorder

[Scarlet Fever]

1. Smoking - biggest turn off ever
2. too fat or too skinny - be conscious, but not paraniod
3. girls who think they are too skinny/fat when they aren't, and go on stupid diets to get to what they think is 'normal'
4. "oh my god, like" etc.
5. dyed blonde hair. I'm a fan on natural hair (pay no attention to my avatar :p)

2. Being a bogan.

yeah that one is a real problem out where i live. Any further east of Melbourne than Ringwood and you may as well give up.

[heehee]

Gold diggers
Tattoos
Bad breath
Rude
Inconsiderate

[vniow]

(or the same sex, if you're "like that")


People who refer to being gay as "like that" Its okay to say the actual word you know.


In other news...

1) People who are skinnier than I am
2) Depending on other people too much for things you can do yourself
3) Constantly negative attitudes
4) Manipulation/games
5) Afraid to try new things

[panoz7]

2. Being a bogan..

Had to look that one up on urbandictionary. Never heard that term before...

Anyway, for me:

1. smoking
2. artificially nice
3. overly religious
4. hardcore republican (ok... this might be pushing it, but I feel like there's some fundamental personality differences between them and me, and I don't like them)
5. EDIT (stolen from vniow) Afraid to try new things / anything that's different or strange... I hate that.

[rockthecasbah]

-stubbornness/closed-mindedness
-over reactivity/high strungness
-irresponsibility
-when girls don't call you back about plans (LIKE TONIGHT GRRRRRR!!!!!!)
-clothing choices (ugg boots, sweat shirts, et al)

[kretzy]

Nothing too dissimilar here...

- Smoking
- Bogans :D
- People that think they're better than everyone else
- Bible bashing
- Stupidity

[shecky]

-religion
-ignorance
-rap/hip-hop culture
-arrogance
-beauty in lieu of intellect

[MACDRIVE]

2. Being a bogan.

I suppose I need to find an Australian dictionary.

[Blue Velvet]

1) The right
2) Ditherers
3) Poor listeners, which leads to...
4) People whose favourite word is 'me' or 'I'
5) Misogynists, racists and homophobes

[devman]

selfishness
religion
self-importance
insecurity
blonde

[siurpeeman]

flakiness (absentminded, can't commit to plans, etc.)
excessive drinking and smoking
artificial
whining
lacking confidence

[Deepdale]

Smoking/drinking
Being overbearing
Lacking a sense of humor
Talking too loud in close quarters
Gum chewing

[Mord]

1) People who think that extreme tounge action is a good way to kiss.
2) Tobacco
3) Myself (don't ask.)
4) People who blindly agree with me, I'm wrong all the time.
5) 99% of men.

(edit: totally wrote that in a foul mood entirely due to an unpleasant experience I had last night)

More universaly general list:

1) People who engage in one way relationships
2) Strangely enough I could totally date a conservative if they were a certain type, I need something to argue about and I hate people too similar to me, I quite dislike myself as I've had enough of me to be brutally honest, I need someone to complete me not just aggree with me on everything I say.
3) Extrmely religious people, I couldn't deal with that, sorry but I'm quite firm on that one, I could handle someone being buddish or vaugely CoE christian but anything more and I'd just argue all the time.
4) People who "don't belive" in science.
5) Anyone who considers me second prize.

[j26]

Selfishness
Stupidity (not being unintelligent, but not wanting to learn or listen)
Mutton dressed as lamb
Fashion victims (especially if they dress in something that's completely inappropriate for their body type/colouring for the sake of being "trendy")
Right wing views

[calculus]

smoking
croydon facelift
racism
stupidity
thin but dieting

[iBlue]

People who won't take care of themselves (smoking, drinking excessively, eating too much, not shaving, not showering, dressing sloppily, etc etc)

Selfishness/Arrogance (you can take TOO MUCH care of yourself)

Dishonesty

Neglectfulness (of others) Taking things/people for granted

Whining/Over-sensitivity

[UberMac]

Smoking
Obnoxiousness (is that a word?)
Unintelligence
Being boring
Thinking they're better than you

[ghall]

That is not cool....

Sorry. It's just one of those weird things that turns me off. Don't ask me why, it just is.

[twistedlegato]

^^^^^^^

Actually my air is auburn, not red...

And to any red heads out there, if people call you a Carrot top just say, carrot tops are green idiot. Though most of the time then they will call you carrot bottom!

[Tymmz]

1. some people's laughter
2. loud speaking people
3. people who appear too self-confident
4. when certain parts of the body are too hairy
5. long fingernails

[Xeem]

^^^^^^^
And to any red heads out there, if people call you a Carrot top just say, carrot tops are green idiot. Though most of the time then they will call you carrot bottom!

Not to mention the negative connotations that the term has when you are talking about the comedian (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carrot_Top)!

[Queso]

1. Projected Insecurity
2. Ignorance/Prejudice
3. Selfishness
4. Pretence
5. Dishonesty

4. when certain parts of the body are too hairy
Impossible. No such thing as too hairy :)

[ghall]

Impossible. No such thing as too hairy :)

Don't be so sure.....:)

Nothing is impossible.

[Jaffa Cake]

Impossible. No such thing as too hairy :)Even the palms?

As for me, I'm not overly keen on...


Snobbishness
Poor personal hygiene
Taking people for granted
Bigotry
Complete pig ignorance

[Queso]

Even the palms?
Even palms. You forget I'd regress back to ape form and swing from the trees if I could :)

[Jaffa Cake]

You forget I'd regress back to ape form and swing from the trees if I could :)Yes... quite why I allowed myself to forget that image is totally beyond me. :p

[iPhil]

Impossible. No such thing as too hairy :)

something like this ?

[Queso]

something like this ?
Phwoarr!!! :cool:

[ghall]

something like this ?

Dude, I'm eating!

[2nyRiggz]

-rap/hip-hop culture
:rolleyes:


1. Ignorance/Prejudice
2. Negative Mind
3. Dishonesty
4. Smart Arses.....You really think you are funny don't you





Bless

[shecky]

Bless

:rolleyes:

[thejadedmonkey]

ok, so I'm picky and it's really what turns me on, not what turns me off. but these are major no-no's

fat/ugly/etc
loud and obnoxious
mean
short hair
unathletic

[Zwhaler]

Lets see... I get turned off by someone who is/has

1. No sense of humor. I cannot stand that.
2. Overly serious about everything. (kinda relates to #1)
3. Like many people have said, don't take care of their body (excessively overweight)
4. People who only care about money
5. People who are just plain uninteligent.

I can go on, but those are my main five.

[Plymouthbreezer]

1) Overweight, smelly, poor upkeep, etc.
2) Very poor finically.
3) Unorganized (I have OCD).
4) Lacks goals (I find goal driven/powerful people attractive).
5) Bad teeth.

[®îçhå®?]

1. Overweight
2. Quiet (I am quite quiet so it wouldnt work and i prefer listening to people)
3. Mean and vindictive
4. Smoker or heavy drinker or both
5. Smells really bad

[Mord]

4. Smart Arses.....You really think you are funny don't you


People who take themselves too seriously.



I took that a little too far I know, don't take me seriously, I sure as hell don't.

[MacDonaldsd]

1.Smoker
2.Heavy Drinker
3.A follower of other people (can't think for them selves)
4.Take people for granted
5.Poor Personal hygiene

[2nyRiggz]

People who take themselves too seriously.

I took that a little too far I know, don't take me seriously, I sure as hell don't.

Turning some people off is a good thing:) .....seriously..it can help you out of a jam.

dynamicv you are always funny...



Bless

[miniConvert]

1. Body odour
2. Greasy skin/hair
3. Dirty clothes
4. Smokers
5. Manky shoes

[MacNut]

1. ugly people
2. loud mouths
3. people in charge that don't deserve to be
4. people that act like *******s
5. people who think they know everything and never admit to being wrong.

[Xander562]

- Long fingernails
- Smoking/Drinking
- Tattoos
- Overweight (sometimes. I'm really skinny - like a 15 BMI - so I'd like them to be close to my size)
- Having a natural whine in their voice. (yes this does exist and its not as rare as you think)

[FrankBlack]

My 2 ¢:

-Smoker.

-Obsessive about weight. (Bones sticking out all over the place. Can't enjoy a meal without pulling out the calorie counting book. Contantly brags about her low resting pulse, then goes ballistic when she cannot get a parking space near the door. What am I not able to put together here?)

-Engages in Mac Bashing, without ever actually having tried one.

-Arrogant yuppie attitude.

-Excessive drinker. They try to cover this by calling themselves "Weekend warriors", or something.

Stupid question that I'll probably regret asking: Why are so many guys so turned off by tattoos? I find it very sexy. Now, I don't mean I like the "Born to ride" stuff. No thanks on that. I do like some of the designes some ladies have across their lower backs and upper arms.:D As long as the work was done by a pro, in a licensed shop, I'm fine.

[raggedjimmi]

I don't have such a wash-list style of preferences, but some things I don't like -

Overuse of Make up. I like natural beauty and don't believe any amount of off-the-shelf make up can (oh dear...) make up for that.

Smokers. It's a no if a girl smokes. I just don't like smokers around me. Same for drug users. Flat out no.

I was about to say drinking... but me and my girlfriend are teetotal, but I'd really love us to get a bit drunk just to see what happens really! So I'll just say excessive drinkers.

An independent thinker, but not in the extreme as they ironically just fall back into the sheep pen of people who want to be independent thinkers.


... I think.

[siurpeeman]

Even the palms?

i remembered another one. i absolutely hate sweaty palms. grosses me out.

[Grakkle]

Things that I absolutely can't stand in a gal?

1. Smoking
2. Crudeness/Foul language
3. Fat
4. B.O.
5. TV addict

[iPhil]

Phwoarr!!! :cool:

I was trying to find pic of this mexican family has this disease and i found that pic right before i went to work .. And i knew that since i became Demi.. So Thanks dynamicv that ;)

Dude, I'm eating!

Sorry :o :o .. iI can't remember the world time and the eating habits of other people .. i aint that good to remember all that info .. :p :rolleyes:




4. Smart Arses.....You really think you are funny don't you

Bless


Well if i had a Sm@rt @rsee say the abc's and count for you but i got a H@iry one ;)



People who take themselves too seriously.



I got thru seriousness phrase 'bout 15 years ago :o :o ..

[viccles]

1)Bad breath
2)Tattoos
3)Drinkers
4)Overweight (only if they make no effort to keep healthy)
5)Changing this to body hair on a guy. I like a guy all hairless :D none zip

[ghall]

Smokers. It's a no if a girl smokes. I just don't like smokers around me. Same for drug users. Flat out no.


I take the city bus to and from school every day, so I'm around smokers a lot. I actually have this really weird thing around smokers. When they whip out that cigarette and start puffing away, I start coughing like I'm about to choke to death. It never seems to faze them though. So I just walk away.

Seriously though, it's just sad how ignorant some smokers can be. My uncle smokes, but at least he has the courtesy to not smoke while other people are around.

Sorry, I got a bit off topic there. I could rant on and on, but I wont.


Sorry :o :o .. iI can't remember the world time and the eating habits of other people .. i aint that good to remember all that info .. :p :rolleyes:


Don't worry. I have very strange eating habits. I don't like to conform to the 3 meals a day, I eat when I'm hungry. It doesn't work well at school when we have a specific time to eat (I think it's called lunch-time :confused: :rolleyes: ), but somehow I get by.

[Mitthrawnuruodo]

Turnoffs:
- Excessive over- or underweight
- Believers in organized religion and/or religious fundamentalist
- Windows users
- Country and Western fans
- Violence (tendencies or mindset)

Stupidity, in general... :D

[MacNut]

I forgot the biggest turnoff of all, Red Sox fans.:p

[XnavxeMiyyep]

Hmm, hard to put them in a list.

1. Excessive disregard for health (obesity, bad teeth, odorous, etc.)
2. Furries (Why can't she have normal fetishes, like whips and/or leather?;) )
3. Severe lack of intelligence (Self-explanatory)
4. Smokers (I really don't like kissing smokers as much as nonsmokers)
5. Obsessiveness (Kind of like the polar opposite of the first thing I listed)

I guess I could forgive either 4 or 5, depending on the situation.

[MACDRIVE]

5. people who think they know everything and never admit to being wrong.

That one belongs over in - Politics, Religion, Social Issues.

[furious]

No bodies perfect. I find that most people are turned off by me so I don't have a list. But lets just say that nobody so far would be seen dead with me.

[bozigle]

1. red hair

Strange?? there would be a thread about what turns you on... this one would probably be on top of mine... nevermind

so for mine
1 smelling tabaco
2 smelling booze (those two are really in so many people list that it is a wonder why anyone is still doing it... well maybe they are the same that use M$...)
3 extremist (religious, politics)
4 fat/skinny
5 too much make up (it has so many underlying meaning/explaination)

bozigle

[MultiM]

People who spend more time in judgemnet over others rather than looking in a mirror. None of us are perfect and I accept you as you are.

[Queso]

People who spend more time in judgemnet over others rather than looking in a mirror. None of us are perfect and I accept you as you are.
"I'm starting with the man in the mirror,
I'm asking him to change his ways
tum tum te-tum tum-ti-tum tum-ti-tum-tum
If you wannamaketheworld a better place
Takealookatyourself and make that chay-ange"

[iBlue]

People who spend more time in judgemnet over others rather than looking in a mirror. None of us are perfect and I accept you as you are.

That's very enlightened but we'll see how turned on you are when a 500lb stinking hairy orangutan look-a-like wants to jump your bones. Everyone has a turn-off/turn-on policy, no matter how much it's denied. Such as, this thread preferred 5 tun-offs. :p

[MultiM]

That's very enlightened but we'll see how turned on you are when a 500lb stinking hairy orangutan look-a-like wants to jump your bones. Everyone has a turn-off/turn-on policy, no matter how much it's denied. Such as, this thread preferred 5 tun-offs. :p

Leave my wife out of this.....:D

[MacBoobsPro]

"I'm starting with the man in the mirror,
I'm asking him to change his ways
tum tum te-tum tum-ti-tum tum-ti-tum-tum
If you wannamaketheworld a better place
Takealookatyourself and make that chay-ange"

Nananananananaaaa

Wooo...

http://www.stuartluff.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/stuartluff/mj_files/droppedImage_3.png

[ghall]

I forgot the biggest turnoff of all, Red Sox fans.:p

What's wrong with Red Sox fans? :confused:



:D :D :D :D :D

[mkrishnan]

That one belongs over in - Politics, Religion, Social Issues.

Well, if it were there, it would just make everyone feel excluded! :D

[Pac a Mac]

1. People who rank their turn-offs
2. People who rank their turn-offs
3. People who rank their turn-offs
4. People who rank their turn-offs
5. People who rank their turn-offs

**** thats me.:p

You guys who have listed must have pretty close associations with the people that have these nuances. H ate does not develop with passing, mmmm....what does that say

[iBlue]

1. People who rank their turn-offs
2. People who rank their turn-offs
3. People who rank their turn-offs
4. People who rank their turn-offs
5. People who rank their turn-offs

**** thats me.:p

You guys who have listed must have pretty close associations with the people that have these nuances. H ate does not develop with passing, mmmm....what does that say
How close do you need? Personally I don't need a "close" rendezvous with the big, hairy, smelly oaf standing arms raised on the train to know that I'm so uninterested that I find the word turn-off not nearly strong enough to describe the experience... it's just close enough.

[edesignuk]

1) Pubic Hair (shaven poon is ideal, but a groomed vertical hitler stash is ok)
2) Girls that don't wash their butt hole (no chunks please)
3) Genital Warts (condylomata acuminata)
4) Girls with bad gas.
5) Girls that use PCs (or don't like macs). It reflects a character flaw, imho.^ I laughed :o :D

[whooleytoo]

1) Having preferences which seem random or arbitrary.
2) Being stuck in their ways with regard to random or arbitrary things.
3) Showing a general unwillingness to accept people who either express different preferences to themselves OR who possess those attributes which they do not like.
4) Fat people.


:p :p :p

[leekohler]

1. People who rank their turn-offs
2. People who rank their turn-offs
3. People who rank their turn-offs
4. People who rank their turn-offs
5. People who rank their turn-offs


Ditto- this is one of the nastiest, most mean-spirited threads I've seen in quite some time. Especially when it comes to people being turned off by inherent traits, such as red hair. How utterly ridiculous. The world is a diverse, colorful place- I suggest some of you go out and enjoy it.

[MarkCollette]

something like this ?

Hey, I saw that guy at the gym yesterday :p


Ditto- this is one of the nastiest, most mean-spirited threads I've seen in quite some time. Especially when it comes to people being turned off by inherent traits, such as red hair. How utterly ridiculous. The world is a diverse, colorful place- I suggest some of you go out and enjoy it.

It can be a fine line, acknowledging our prejudices, and being hurtful. Context and presentation are important. I mean, there are certain things that we arbitrarily key in on with others, attraction-wise. And I can see how some people might be curious about other people's turn-ons and turn-offs, and want to communicate them. But, it's fairly likely to be at least slightly hurtfull to people who match those criteria. Part of the problem may be that these lists mix together perceived character and physical flaws, along with matters of preference and taste. That could make people feel like these tastes are a judgement on them. Case in point, with that red hair example, I like dark red hair, but not the orange-red hair. That's a statement about myself, not about anyone with those colors of hair. Although, I'm not sure if that's what others feel.


Anyways, on with the list. Except mine isn't in any order:

A fitness level too different than mine
No direction in life
Not having the specific facial structure that I like
Not knowing about the world, current events, etc.

[After G]

Similarly to leekohler I don't like when a turn-off mentioned is an inborn trait, especially "fat/skinny people" without any qualifier such as "does not make an effort to better themselves". Can't really do anything about genetic factors you know.

That said, here's an unordered, incomplete list.

- Excessiveness. "Too much ...".
- Narrow-mindedness.
- Drinkers/smokers without consideration for others.
- Gossips and people who don't know how to keep their mouth shut.
- Strong odors good or bad. (leeway if they're losing weight. Ketones stink.)

[JBazz]

1. Poor hygeine.

2. Lack of confidence. If you dont believe in yourself, why should I?

3. Racist, sexist, elitist belief systems.

4. Substance abuse whether it be drugs, alcohol, or food.

5. Republicanism.

[SpookTheHamster]

I'm more swayed by personality traits than physical appearances. Smoking and drug use are things that I find extremely unattractive. I like people to be at least slightly intelligent as well, and to take pride in themselves: You're going to find it hard to find someone who thinks you're attractive, if even you don't believe you are.

Physical traits can be so easily forgotten when you meet somebody with a good personality. I'd always been a brown hair person until I met my girlfriend. http://att.macrumors.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=66486&d=1169208687

It's stupid to rule someone out based on something as small as the colour of their hair. At least talk to them, and feel free to rule them out if they turn out to be a complete idiot.

[panoz7]

Ditto- this is one of the nastiest, most mean-spirited threads I've seen in quite some time. Especially when it comes to people being turned off by inherent traits, such as red hair. How utterly ridiculous. The world is a diverse, colorful place- I suggest some of you go out and enjoy it.

I think there's a difference between ruling someone out as a friend because of a character / physical trait and being attracted to them... in fact many of my closest friends have a characteristic that I listed as a turn off. They're still my best friends; people who I'd do anything for, but that's different then being physically / emotionally attracted to them.

For example, on my list I had overly religious people. This certainly applies to some of my friends... being around them has shown me that there's no way I could live with someone like that for the rest of my life.

The physical things are a little different. I can see how it might potentially be hurtful, but these are a list of things that we aren't attracted to. Just because I'm not attracted to you doesn't mean you should be hurt. I'm certainly thinner and smaller then average... a number of people on this thread have listed thinness as a turnoff but that really doesn't bother me.

[Sirus The Virus]

1. Bad Hygene
2. No sense of humor
3. Ignorance
4. Obesity
5. People who have no taste
6. Loud people
7. People who don't call back
8. Multiple piercings (ears are ok, but there's always exceptions)

[Queso]

1. Bad Hygene
2. No sense of humor
3. Ignorance
4. Obesity
5. People who have no taste
6. Loud people
7. People who don't call back
8. Multiple piercings (ears are ok, but there's always exceptions)
9. People who can't stop at five? :p

[darkwing]

What a fun thread!

In girls:

1) Overweight (I admitted my shallowness in this nature to my very skinny girlfriend, despite me being a bit fatso! :P) (this is trumped if she gains weight while giving me children someday (see #5))
2) Liberal politics
3) Doesn't plan for the future. By this I mean, a girl who wants a man to take care of her. While that's ok to some extent, she should educate herself and remain marketable to the work-force in case said provider should die or something.
#4) Not a Christian!
#5) Not open to having a family someday.

[freeny]

Bad drivers
selfishness
religion
machoism
Republicans

[iW00t]

Bad drivers
selfishness
religion
machoism
Republicans

Why?

[freeny]

Why?

My own personal history with religion as well as the global s**thole religion has made of this world.

Dont want to get too much into it so as not to make this a "politics/Religion" thread.;)

[SpookTheHamster]

Why?

Why not?

I'd rather somebody with an open mind, who will look into anything, rather than somebody who devotes themself to a single train of thought. Whatever their choice, they should at least have a reason. I'm not religious at all, but I find it all quite fascinating, so I read about different religions quite a lot.

[velocityg4]

In Girls
1. Party Lover (I do not particularly enjoy being drug to parties, bars, clubs or most any social gathering involving mass intoxication, sweat, filth and noise)
2. Dog Lover (Dogs are okay providing they don't shed, jump, nuzzle, lick, bite, whine, scratch at door, bark, beg, make business in house, and are bathed often)
3. Politically Obsessive (I could care less, usually the angriest people I know always listen to political radio shows and constantly watch the News, I use to be one and thankfully broke that bad habit years ago.)
4. Body Hair (Anything other than eyebrows, eyelashes and the hair on top of the head is disconcerting)
5. Untidy (Messy, hair on sink/tub/floor etc, filthy home/room)

In Guys
1. They are guys (Sorry, I don't swing that way:D )

[leekohler]

It can be a fine line, acknowledging our prejudices, and being hurtful. Context and presentation are important. I mean, there are certain things that we arbitrarily key in on with others, attraction-wise. And I can see how some people might be curious about other people's turn-ons and turn-offs, and want to communicate them. But, it's fairly likely to be at least slightly hurtfull to people who match those criteria. Part of the problem may be that these lists mix together perceived character and physical flaws, along with matters of preference and taste. That could make people feel like these tastes are a judgement on them. Case in point, with that red hair example, I like dark red hair, but not the orange-red hair. That's a statement about myself, not about anyone with those colors of hair. Although, I'm not sure if that's what others feel.

I know what you're saying, but being one who has sampled many "wares" so to speak, I would say that a lot of these turnoffs are superficial and based on inexperience. ;) I've found that there are many body types and "looks" I enjoyed that I didn't think I would until I tried. I think everyone has their pluses and minuses, but I find a vast range of body types, hair color and such very attractive. It depends on the person.

But then again, I can be a bit of a whore. :)

[MarkCollette]

I know what you're saying, but being one who has sampled many "wares" so to speak, I would say that a lot of these turnoffs are superficial and based on inexperience. ;) I've found that there are many body types and "looks" I enjoyed that I didn't think I would until I tried. I think everyone has their pluses and minuses, but I find a vast range of body types, hair color and such very attractive. It depends on the person.

But then again, I can be a bit of a whore. :)

In my wares sampling experiences, I have found an appreciation for some people that I might not have really considered otherwise. But it's still simultaneously reinforced my desire to be with someone who matches me more. But I'm weirdly complicated like that :)

/Newly single as of last night
//Freed up, to better find "the one"

[Cassie]

It's funny how many people have the exact same turn off's, yet There are a lot of people exactly as they described.(Fat, unkempt, windows users..)

[quigleybc]

people that take themselves and their jobs too SERIOUSLY !!

Lighten the F UP PEOPLE !!!

[shirley]

people smoking and blowing the smoke my way

body odour

men not shaving

bad breath

dirty clothes

[MarkCollette]

You know, I bet smoking wouldn't be getting banned everywhere if smokers had done one single damned thing to be more considerate, themselves.

Like, for example:


Not leaving cigarette butts everywhere. Who else litters that much?!
Used those ash-trays that suck the smoke in. Hell, a lot of the time smokers don't seem to mind ashing on the floor.
Blowing away, instead of right into everyone.
When sitting, holding cigarettes away, or at least more at waist level, instead of right at eye level.



And, on a different topic, people with bad breath... I keep a tooth brush and tooth paste at work. How hard is it to brush your teeth after lunch, or at least after the 1378th cup of coffee? Or if that's too hard, at least some mouth wash?


Although, I should probably defend guys who don't shave everyday. I use sensitive shave gel and try to be careful, but I just can not shave my neck every day, or else my neck looks horribly mutilated. Once every 3 days is about the best compromise. Although, I do shave the mustache and cheek areas every day.


And what's with people who hate being in crowded places. It's not like they're going to attack or something. I mean, I can understand prefering intimate small groups, or hating having to slowly push through a dense unmoving crowd. But come on. I like the eye candy of large crowds, but I wouldn't hate being in a small group.

[takao]

hm hard to choose especially since body traits would very likely be too easy and going very likely too much into genetic stuff we can't change like when we loose hair, how robust our teeth are etc.

so this is about girls mostly:
- being overly religious or worse believing esoteric.. and yeah thinking that astrology is science is included in that: at 4:30 AM while having a blast in the clubs i don't want to hear about how scorpions can go together with lions etc.
-perfume candles: just don't ... unless you want to kill me which on the other side is another turn off ...
-blindly following the latest trend in fashion without taking a step back and actually looking at it _once_: like pushing the end of trousers into the high boots, knowing that this even looks too stupid for the army should have got you thinking
- being vegetarian because of the "poor animals suffering" and letting everybody know about it while you are wearing leather shoes,leather winter jacket, a leather hand bag and a watch bound to your arm by leather might not be your brightest idea
- 5th is difficult because there is very likely too much to leave out: smoking is a candidate but i'm not that enthusiastic on certain hip-hop culture things either, another thing would be _tribal_ tattoos especially on the lower-back or too much piercings

[YS2003]

Here are "some" of my turn-offs.
1. lack of critical thinking (this includes: people who voted for George W Bush twice---PC way to say about stupid people
2. body oder/dirty hands/being fat
3. Self righteous people (religion fanatics, Christian fundamentalist, or any belief which judges other people based on their own belief).
4. Incompetent and lazy people (I hope Darwinism prevail on them)
5. People who do not respect other people's personal properties (I cannot get nicer car because someone will key, scratch or dent it).

[Xander562]

In girls:

#4) Not a Christian!

For some reason I read this one in the crazy trading-spaces lady (http://youtube.com/watch?v=Q8UPXGun5zI)voice. :p Is that how you meant it?

[applemacdude]

in no particular order

•bad teeth
•un-intelligent
•mac bashers
•bad odor
•people that cant take a joke

[redmeister]

fake people

(no, not fake boobs or fake plastic people as in barbie dolls... superficial people who put on a front/act)

when ya meet a good looking girl and find she is just a complete fake, ruins it for me. i dont care if shes gorgeous, if she's fake its game over and move on to the next broad

[John Jacob]

As TRITE as it may SEEM, I tend to find it DISCONCERTING when I meet a person and DISCOVER that they have a WHOLE LIST of items which they deem UNDESIRABLE and which they declare an inability to see BEYOND.

So MY list of THINGS would be THIS:

1) Having preferences which seem random or arbitrary.
2) Being stuck in their ways with regard to random or arbitrary things.
3) Showing a general unwillingness to accept people who either express different preferences to themselves OR who possess those attributes which they do not like.
4) Fat people.

That is ALL.

Doesn't your preference <4> demonstrate that you yourself possess attributes of <1>, <2> and <3>? :rolleyes:

Edit: Nothing personal, just found it a little bit curious...

[Bern]

People who spend more time in judgemnet over others rather than looking in a mirror. None of us are perfect and I accept you as you are.

I agree with you completely. It's amazing how people will judge a person without even knowing anything about them... isn't it???

I don't have a turn off list. I don't judge.

[leekohler]

You know, I bet smoking wouldn't be getting banned everywhere if smokers had done one single damned thing to be more considerate, themselves.

Like, for example:


Not leaving cigarette butts everywhere. Who else litters that much?!
Used those ash-trays that suck the smoke in. Hell, a lot of the time smokers don't seem to mind ashing on the floor.
Blowing away, instead of right into everyone.
When sitting, holding cigarettes away, or at least more at waist level, instead of right at eye level.



Mark, most smokers I know have done as you've requested or more, especially me. The fact of the matter is this- you don't like it, so any slip-up that happens gets magnified 100 times in your mind and the minds of other non-smokers. That's all I'm going to say about it. This subject is tired.

BTW- you know I love you mark. ;)

[vniow]

It's amazing how people will judge a person without even knowing anything about them... isn't it???

[...]

I don't judge.


Pot, meet kettle...

[Bobdude161]

:apple: Spaztic personality
:apple: No sense of humor
:apple: Lives on the Eastside of Louisville
:apple: Has no computer intelligence
:apple: Has no intelligence

[Bern]

Pot, meet kettle...

I hadn't realised honest expressions of opinion meant judgement of others, I have never personally judged anyone in this forum. I've expressed my personal opinions about some topics of discussion but have not sort to vilify, degrade or judge anyone. Just because someone doesn't agree with my personal beliefs and opinions doesn't cause for judgement.

[Apemanblues]

1. Serial Killers
2. Fuzzy hands and feet
3. The walking dead (zombies or anyone with advanced necrosis)
4. R n B, drum n bass, house music and any of that crap
5. Heavy Internet users

[Mitthrawnuruodo]

5. Heavy Internet usersYou sure are in the right place then...

:p

[epochblue]

Interesting choice of list, but I'll bite...

Smoking (by far the biggest turn off ever)
Blatant disregard for others
Poor musical taste (No, Ashlee Simpson is NOT a good songwriter)
Lack of intelligence (I'm simply not turned on by someone I can't talk to)
Inability to laugh at themselves (people do dumb stuff, laugh at it)

[wimic]

1. Bad Breath
2. Smoking
3. Greasy Hair
4. Sloppy Clothes
5. Bad Teeth

[MarkCollette]

Sorry, but just to be a dork:

1. People who claim that having a list of turnoffs is narrow minded, when clearly everyone has standards, and the inability to innumerate them only indicates poor communication or cognitive abilities.

2. Damn it, I lack the communication and cognitive abilities to make this into a list of 5...

Mark, most smokers I know have done as you've requested or more, especially me. The fact of the matter is this- you don't like it, so any slip-up that happens gets magnified 100 times in your mind and the minds of other non-smokers. That's all I'm going to say about it. This subject is tired.

BTW- you know I love you mark. ;)

Thanks man. Hmm, perhaps where you come from, people are a bit more conscientious, because over here, you can find litter and cigarette butts all over the place.