Do YOU believe in "the one"???

[MovieCutter]

"He's the one" "She's the one" Do you believe it?

Personally, I think there's nearly 7 billion people on this planet and this whole "the one" thing is a pile of sh**, but I'm just curious what the consensus is.

[twoodcc]

yeah, i think i believe it. but sometimes i'm not so sure

[iBookG4user]

I do believe in it and I personally think I've found the one for me. :)

[jng]

yeah, i think i believe it. but sometimes i'm not so sure

Agreed. I believe in not settling though. And I have high standards. So that's almost like believing in "the one," which would explain a lot...

[Dynamyk]

Yes I do, already found her :)

[biturbomunkie]

i believe in infatuation.

[devilot]

I don't think there is just one "perfect" person for another. Funny though, this thread reminds me of an older one. :o (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=150375)

[MACDRIVE]

I'm still saving myself for the world's first android hooker. Complete with life like emotions and gyroscopic vaginal muscles.

[walangij]

I don't think there is just one "perfect" person for another. Funny though, this thread reminds me of an older one. :o (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=150375)
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The notion of "the one" bothers me in that it, at least to me, it lends itself to the idea of pre-destination or fatalism. Personally I think that sure, there maybe "the one", but there are many in the world who can fit the description of "the one" for you.

[fuzzwud]

I believe it's a both/and situation and not one or the other. There is the one person for you, and at the same time, there is more than one. I think from a human perspective, it seems like there's so many "ones" out there. At the same time, I believe in a reality where God predetermined who that person is. We're not mindless drones. I believe that we have free will to make choices. And we shouldn't go around saying that person is "it" and not do anything to build a relationship because we really don't know the future. I still have to take time to get to know this person well and move towards that place where she may be the one. What do you all think?

[sushi]

The question is, what is the one for me?

This is a hard question to answer. I would venture to say that many individuals feel that they have found the one for them, only later, after breaking up/divorce they find someone much better.

Sexual attraction is important for survival of the species. Unfortunately, sexual attraction for someone else does not equate to them being the one. Many times it just clouds our vision, which is why so many folks make the wrong partner decision these days.

[fuzzwud]

Maybe I can further clarify. There is no "the one" until that person becomes "the one." If I'm thinking about this girl that I like, I don't know whether she's "the one" because we're just friends right now. However, I intend to build the relationship and move towards a relationship that is deeper. (Fast Forward the relationship some). At some point, if God allows (meaning given the opportunity, circumstance, timing, I'm still interested and she expresses similar interest), we may want to "commit" to either an exclusive relationship and then marriage. For me, when the relationship is defined by marriage, I consider it "the one." However, "the one" seems to imply a destination which I don't believe marriage is. I believe that it is a commitment and a continual work in progress.

[macmama]

"He's the one" "She's the one" Do you believe it?

Nope, I don't. It's overly romantic schmoopy nonsense in my book. :)

[Jopling]

The whole "the one" thing is ********. I always thought love at first site was ******** too, until I experienced it myself and then was seperated forever after a day.

[vniow]

"The" one? I used to believe in it but I don't so much anymore. I don't think its very logical to think that there's only one single person out there that's the right one for you given as the OP said, there's several billion humans out there. It goes against all statistics really. I was kinda raised on the Disney notion that my prince/ess will come or whatever but I just don't buy it.

My take on it now is mostly there's not one right person for you, but some of those individuals you may never meet or the circumstances simply may not be right for chemistry to happen. When you do meet one of those people, the chemistry's there and you have the opportunity then why not go for it? You only live once...

[xfiftyfour]

I don't believe that there is only one, but I do believe there are those out there better fit to become "the" one. Once you've accepted that there are plenty of "ones" out there that are compatable (life styles, beliefs, interests, personality, ethics, so on and so on), I think the quest to find "the" one is much less about fate or predestined futures, and moreso about your lives aligning themselves in order to make it happen - timing and location are key.

[furious]

I don't even believe in myself how can I believe in 'the one'.


I am 21 have no confidence, no friends, no 'life', nothing but me and my interests. Sometimes I really hate living in small towns. You have to compromise so much about yourself to 'fit in'.

[walangij]

I don't believe that there is only one, but I do believe there are those out there better fit to become "the" one. Once you've accepted that there are plenty of "ones" out there that are compatable (life styles, beliefs, interests, personality, ethics, so on and so on), I think the quest to find "the" one is much less about fate or predestined futures, and moreso about your lives aligning themselves in order to make it happen - timing and location are key.

I agree. I think that this talk of "the one" really is stepping to far ahead. People talk about "the one" but there is no definition to describe it logically, mostly it seems that its just intuition, gut feeling and emotions. I mean, what is "the one"? Can it be defined? Truthfully, I think all talk about relationships is just about how willing you are to commit to whoever you meet and therefore make them your "one" if you decide.

[swingerofbirch]

"He's the one" "She's the one" Do you believe it?

Personally, I think there's nearly 7 billion people on this planet and this whole "the one" thing is a pile of sh**, but I'm just curious what the consensus is.

OMG, I feel the EXACT same way. When I was reading your post I almost felt this instant, uncanny, kindred spiritual connection telling me this person was somehow destined to post this and for me to see it.

;)

[Father Jack]

Yes I do, already found her :)
Me too :) :)

FJ

[thejadedmonkey]

You tell me if there's "the one". I've haven't been with a particular "one" for almost a year now, but every time I see her, I just feel at peace with myself. It's sad, I hate it, and I can't get over it.

[SMM]

I don't even believe in myself how can I believe in 'the one'.


I am 21 have no confidence, no friends, no 'life', nothing but me and my interests. Sometimes I really hate living in small towns. You have to compromise so much about yourself to 'fit in'.

Go do something else. Serious, leave on an adventure. Make it a long one. Find yourself.

[Kamera RAWr]

Well, I personally of the mindset that there is no "one". I agree with the person that said there can be more than one person that fits that "one" mold. Although I believe we can sometimes connect with some people and not connect at all with others... sometimes 2 people are capable of connecting on a "deeper" level (I cringe in a way, saying that). And I think thats possible with more than one person. To quote Robin Williams from Good Will Hunting... its not about if she's perfect, but whether you're perfect for each other. May not be quoted 100% accurate, but you know what I mean :)

[jessica.]

I think it is BS.

[SMM]

Maybe this is an individual thing? I do not think there is a 'one' for me. There have been three of them in my life. One died, one I had to leave, and I am married (20 years) to the other. Each has an indelible place in my heart and always will. I never let myself compare them. However, I have never been one to 'guard my feelings' or put up barriers to lock others out. So, it has always been easy to enjoy relationships, even all the ones which were not sustainable.

[Abstract]

"The One"? ************.

What if "the one" is a 62 year old hooker in Beirut with a peg-leg and extreme body hair? That's silly.

Besides, how big a coincidence is it for most of your bfs/gfs to live within 100 km of you right now? The World is such a big place, and the majority of you live so close to them? And actually, what are the chances of you being in the same city (or same part of the world) at any point in your lives? Probably slim, especially when she's pulling tricks in Beirut, poor girl. :(

[Blue Velvet]

What if "the one" is a 62 year old hooker in Beirut with a peg-leg and extreme body hair?


To be someone's 'one'? You've given me a new career goal... I like falafels and baba ghanoush.

[Mac-Addict]

I kinda don't... I beleive there is one type of people that people are into.
Example:
Bob is Jane's type
Jane is Bob's type
then they match and fall in love. :P
Theres no "one" because if there was what if the your "one" lived on the moon? How would you ever meet them? what if you never? would you live the rest of you life in a small flat slowly killing yourself with drinking and smoking while watching Drop Price TV?

[juanm]

And if you take in account every dead person who has existed, the romantic vision of "the one" gets even more ridiculous.
However, I've found a pretty good "one" :D

[heehee]

When I saw the title, I thought it was gonna be about "Neo". :D

No, I dont believe in "the one". I did, but she left. :rolleyes:

But then, what's really weird is I'm currently talking to a girl I met online (friendster) everyday for the past 2 months either by phone, msn or webcam and she's literally half way around the world. I'm going to meet up with her when I go to Hong Kong in 3 weeks and this trip was planned before I met her. I'll see if she's "the one" when I see her. :)

[Eraserhead]

I don't believe that there is only one, but I do believe there are those out there better fit to become "the" one.

That pretty much sums up how I feel, there certainly isn't just one person in the whole world who you is 100% perfect for you, it's just when you find someone who is pretty damn amazing that it feels like that and you don't want to be with anyone else.

I think that love is probably a sliding scale, but I suspect that if you find someone else who is only slightly better than your current partner that you won't "switch", but if they are a lot better you will.

[MovieCutter]

timing and location are key.

ROFL

I agree with you though.

[xfiftyfour]

ROFL

I agree with you though.
Don't laugh at my beliefs! :mad: You didn't laugh at anyone else's response! :mad:

[MovieCutter]

Don't laugh at my beliefs! :mad: You didn't laugh at anyone else's response! :mad:

Sorry, something about it stuck out at me...

[SamIchi]

Depends on what you consider "the one". Due to our limits, time, our physical world, and what not, we are limited to certain situations, which in the end usually comes up with "the one" There are probably plenty of others around the world but there are too many constraints. If we lived as orbs of energy with telepathic like communication and the ability to go anywhere, no restrictions, it would be more of like a computer matching thing. Which would be more proficient, but lacks, what we humans call, soul/heart. yea... I'll stop talking now, I think I'm going off on a tangent.

[Dagless]

Not sure on if there is just "one", but through her personality and events we've been through she has become "the one" for me.
It was also love at first sight with her too. Very strange really, I even had dreams that more or less came true. It's actually all a very long string of coincidences and luck.

Yea. Obviously "the one" is just someone who ticks all your boxes, and perhaps if you're lucky, you will tick all their boxes too.
I always saw "the one" as being a short way of saying "the one I will marry" or "the one I will spend the rest of my life with". So in that respects. Yes I believe in "the one".

[xfiftyfour]

Sorry, something about it stuck out at me...
Likely story. :mad:


;)

[jng]

I wonder how old people are and if age plays a role. I find that I'm young an idealistic so I tend to lean towards in believing in the "one." But I also believe that many of you are right. It can just be right chemistry.

[Cassie]

I do believe in "the one". There has to be someone perfect for you with 6 billion to choose from. :D

[wimic]

I don't believe in "the one" but I believe in compatibility.

I don't think that anyone is ever going to find someone who doesn't bother them in some way and who likes all the same things and is exactly what they've searched for all their lives. That's a load of crap.

The idea is to find someone who you love and who loves you back and who you enjoy being with and who you want to be with forever.

I love my boyfriend very much and want to be with him for a long long time, but there are still things that bug the hell out of me about him.

If "the one" existed then that would mean that someone has achieved perfection in a human being - afterall, nobody seeks imperfection. The trick to figuring out and being able to identify "the one" is to realize that imperfections play a part in making your partner perfect for you!

But that's just my opinion.

-Wendy

[Legolamb]

I don't think there is just one "perfect" person for another. Funny though, this thread reminds me of an older one. :o (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=150375)

Me too. But my answer is yes, I do believe in "one"...at the/a time;)

[yojitani]

"He's the one" "She's the one" Do you believe it?

Personally, I think there's nearly 7 billion people on this planet and this whole "the one" thing is a pile of sh**, but I'm just curious what the consensus is.

No. People just get tired of looking.

[MovieCutter]

No. People just get tired of looking.

priceless...

[iBlue]

No.

because (among other things) putting it like that implies fate, which I don't really buy into.

I think there are simply good matches and bad matches. - and luck.

and for the record, this is from someone who is very much in love. :-)

[maccam]

I believe in "the one" and I think I found her. :eek: :)

[Queso]

It can't possibly be right. Think of those whose partner has died. Do they all just pine away and die in loneliness or do they mostly find someone else after a few years of piecing themselves back together?

The concept of The One in that scenario also leads to all sorts of jealousy issues about who really was The One for the widow/er who has remarried? Really unhealthy stuff down that path.

[jng]

It can't possibly be right. Think of those whose partner has died. Do they all just pine away and die in loneliness or do they mostly find someone else after a few years of piecing themselves back together?

Just because someone's partner dies, doesn't mean the survivor pines away and dies in lonliness IF that person was indeed the one.

Maybe they piece themselves back together but won't find a person like that ever again. I know someone in this situation.

I think the love transcends death. And although there may be a "one" for you, there may also be other ones out there: "one2", "one3", etc. Not that this makes sense from a logic standpoint. But it makes sense to someone who is young and idealistic like myself.