The age old question...

[mad jew]

So, does age matter for you in a relationship? Over the past year or so I've started noticing all the girls I've been seeing are in their late teens, whereas I'm about four or five years up on them... Back in high school this would have got to me, but now it just seems to make sense. It seems like all the girls my age are wanting kids and marriage and that crap. I couldn't handle it right now. Imagine more mad jews running around!

Down here it seems quite common for the girl to be younger than the guy. Is this the same where you come from? How does that relate to same-sex partnerships? Hmm?...

Sorry if none of this makes sense. It's 5:45AM on a Monday, I've been up for hours, and I have a head cold. I'm pretty sure my brain's rattling too, which is worrying...

[ghall]

Dude, you've gone crazy! LOL. :D

From what I've seen, the girl is usaully younger than the guy, but I've seen the opposite. I think girls are more attracted to older guys, but I'm not sure about guys (and I am a guy, which is funny).

[mad jew]

Been crazy for a while, mate... :p

I'm definitely attracted to younger girls. Mmm... So supple.

[Fearless Leader]

brain...? o well...

Where I Live, Indiana USA, it doesn't seem like there is a huge gap between partners. 5-10 years but thats for older, comparative to me, folk 45+. Theres a lot larger difference between a 17 and 22 year old as apposed to a 50 to 55 year old.

In both sides of my family there isn't an older wife than husband, original marriages, for every remarriage it opposite.:confused:

I think 4 or 5 is pushing it, how on earth do you keep it all straight? oh oops age:rolleyes: but I personally think thats ok but after a couple of years it'll start to get really weird, when your getting near double their age.

[mad jew]

I admit seventeen's too young for me. It's illegal to have fun with a seventeen year old.

[shecky]

I'm definitely attracted to younger girls. Mmm... So supple.

im 35. my girlfriend, who i live with and will marry in a few years, is 22.

i know the feeling. :)

[mkrishnan]

Just as long as they're not in their early teens, mate. You can get in trouble for that. Although you'll get to make a fun R&B opera along the way. :)

Mmm, I have actually dated significantly older and moderately younger. It all depends on where people're at in terms of their wants / needs, what their personality is like, etc.

A problem I run into now is that relatively few unmarried women my age (32) want to have children, and ultimately, I really want to have children. That and my environs keep me around slightly younger people than me right now, since I'm a little on the older side of the typical doctoral student in clinical psychology.

But I think between two adults who are generally able to give and receive consent, it all really just depends on the situation.

[Iscariot]

I try not to date 21-22 and under. It's a general consensus amongst myself and my friends that our girlfriends go through a 1/4 life crisis at around that age. I know there's no empirical root whatsoever for that kind of logic, but we've all gone through the worst break ups (some of us more than once) with a girl once she's reached that age.

Nowadays, I don't find women are interested in marriage and kids until they get close to their 30s. In today's financial climate, starting a family young is a one way ticket to bankruptcy. I don't want kids, anyway.

A problem I run into now is that relatively few unmarried women my age (32) want to have children

I sincerely hope I have that problem. We'll find out (too) soon enough.

[mad jew]

I try not to date 21-22 and under. It's a general consensus amongst myself and my friends that our girlfriends go through a 1/4 life crisis at around that age. I know there's no empirical root whatsoever for that kind of logic, but we've all gone through the worst break ups (some of us more than once) with a girl once she's reached that age.


So that's my problem! All the girls my age are loopy.

[skunk]

So that's my problem! All the girls my age are loopy.No, your problem is that you should be rooting empirically.

[mad jew]

I'll see what I can do...

[skunk]

Report back.

[raggedjimmi]

One set of the ol' grandparents have a 9 year age gap between them. My grandfather is reaching 80 and my gran about 71. Caroline's folks have a 10 year age gap too.

I've never really cared for it. I've only dated girls my age just because I've been beside them throughout school/college/uni. I'm 1 month (minus a day) older then Caroline, yet I don't feel it :D

[Leareth]

I guess the age difference depends on what age you are.

five years difference when you are in you 40's is not the issue it is when you are in your teens early twenties.

I personally think the best age difference is about 3 years - at least you will have the same cultural background to talk about.

Dating anyone who is still in highschool and you are not - wrong. no matter what the laws may say.

I think that 30 year old with a 19-22 year old is wrong too. just too much mental maturation gap there. but a 70 with 50 does not seem too bad.

SO yeah physical age matters but so does mental age.

[IJ Reilly]

Report back.

With details. We want details.

[comictimes]

Dating anyone who is still in highschool and you are not - wrong. no matter what the laws may say.


Casual dating- sure. I agree with that. College guys going around picking up highschool chicks are just douchbags.

However, I like to think that my situation is slightly different. My girlfriend is a couple years younger than me and still in high school, but we were dating for a while when I was a senior and we were both at the same school, then stayed together when I went to college, and have been together for the past year+ since I came here. And it would not surprise me at all if we were still together when she goes to college.
So I don't think it's always wrong to be going out with a high schooler...

[MACDRIVE]

MJ, if I was a fit good looking mate such as yourself, I'd be looking for a rich sugar mama that's unhappy with her marriage and I'd start doing her. I'd do her twice a day and have her buy me a BMW 7 Series. :)

[IJ Reilly]

Okay, now we demand details.

[skunk]

And pictures. Plenty of them.

[Mord]

Not really no, between my current girlfriends the oldest is 15 years older than the youngest.

If it works it works, personally I don't really get on with people my own age as I really just don't relate to them on many levels, i've been through allot in my time and I feel i need someone with equivalent or more experience.

[IJ Reilly]

And pictures. Plenty of them.

My goodness. I think we've both just been voted into the Dirty Old Men's Club, by unanimous consent.

[skunk]

Hey, I'm no Groucho Marx: I'll join if they'll have me. Do they accept VISA?

[IJ Reilly]

No, you only need to learn the drools and regulations.

[Arantxa]

My boyfriend is eight months younger than me...

Girls are generally more mature than boys the same age until the late twenties because girls begin and finish puberty 2-3 years before boys do. Plus, it's kind of a societal thing. Most guys would rather their girl be younger, shorter, smaller, etc than them, and girls would rather their boy be bigger, stronger, older, etc.

:rolleyes:

Whatever.

Oh, and in many states, the age of consent is 16, making 17 year olds so far from being jailbait, it hurts.

[skunk]

Do they have a Members List?

[skunk]

girls would rather their boy be biggerSo it's true after all.

[jsw]

If all you're looking for is fun, I'd say go for whomever you want who wants you back.

If you start to think about marriage, then clearly the important thing is the dowry, not the age.

Seriously, though? Age is less important than compatibility. Sometimes age differences lead to compatibility differences, but not always.

However, since you're primarily concerned with gettin' it on, I'm not so sure your ancient taste in circa-2003 music will be an issue.
My goodness. I think we've both just been voted into the Dirty Old Men's Club, by unanimous consent.
Is the 'Dirty' really necessary? Seems redundant to me. I don't think the 'Old' is all that necessary either.
So it's true after all.Well, if the girl can't make the boy bigger, there's definitely a problem.

[skunk]

Is the 'Dirty' really necessary? Seems redundant to me. I don't think the 'Old' is all that necessary either.The 'Men' definitely aren't. Who needs the competition, especially at our age?
well, if the girls can't make the boys bigger, there's definitely a problem.There's definitely a prescription.

[sushi]

Age is less important than compatibility.
This is so true!

[comictimes]

Oh, and in many states, the age of consent is 16, making 17 year olds so far from being jailbait, it hurts.

Not in %#@% California


... not that I'm bitter or anything

[IJ Reilly]

Do they have a Members List?

No, but many of the members do list. To the starboard, for the most part.

Is the 'Dirty' really necessary? Seems redundant to me. I don't think the 'Old' is all that necessary either.

Speak for yourself, whippersnapper!

[floriflee]

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I foresee nothing good coming of this thread with you lot piping up and drooling all over the floor. :D

I, for one, am older than the hubby (not much--a little more than a year), and from what I can tell he likes it that way. Apparently, though, he was at a stage where he was ready to settle down and have kids. <shrugs>

[the vj]

I have been with girls younger and older than me. I am 32 and I dated a 35 yo, I have dated mostly 25 and 26 yo. I dated one one year younger only and one 9 years younger but she was 19.

Now...

Men are atrracted phisically the most, they like good bodys and specially, they liek to be the head in the relationship, to have the control.

On teh other hand girls like to feel protected, just a male with experience can give them the sensation.

So, everything starts from those stereotypes.

If the girl is too young she is just... too young! and when she is very close to your age there would be a situation on "who is the boss". When she is older is easyer to organize the papers.

Now I am 32 and my GF is 26, the age difference is perfect. I could handle some one up to 29 average or 21 the most.

The problem is: where are we in out time line?

I still creating my business and I am not ready for marriage. My GF is graduating and she is not prepared either.

If the girl is your age and you are aroudn 24 probably she wants children, it is an impulse and probably she will look for some one older who can provide her the "security".

My GF is not into kids now, she is into traveling and I am ok with that even I do not have the resources yet because I still growing in my business, but that si the regular situation.

[IJ Reilly]

Do they now?

[Lord Blackadder]

I've noticed a trend among acquaintances in my life (and this is by no means anything other than an observation):

Most couples tend to be within three years of each other or so, but when there is a big age disparity I've noticed that when the male is the older partner the couple tends to be less ambitious, driven and successful, whereas among couples where the female is the older partner the opposite appears to be true. Just an observation...<shrug>

When I was in high school girls in their twenties seemed much more fun and easy to get along with than my classmates. Not that they paid much attention to me. :p

If both partners are mature adults age isn't really that important.

[Sesshi]

The comparatively oldest person I've been out with was a year older than me. She married someone five years younger if I recall correctly.

[aloofman]

Girls are generally more mature than boys the same age until the late twenties because girls begin and finish puberty 2-3 years before boys do.

I don't think it takes until the late twenties for guys to catch up. It varies a lot. I'm 32 and I meet women my age and older that still think they're sorority girls.

I guess I'm the contrarian once again. I haven't dated a woman under 25 in at least seven years, maybe longer. I just haven't met any that I was compatible with. And to be honest, I really don't want to be in a relationship with anyone who's still living with her parents, which many in their early 20s are. I need them to be independent and relatively settled career-wise. It's really more of a "stage of life" thing than age, but those go together more often than not.

I've often dated older women, sometimes 10 years older. They're a lot more secure in who they are, and not as shallow or dumb with relationships as a lot of the younger women I've met. There are only two downsides: (1) if a 40-year-old woman is single and childless, there's a good chance that she wants to start a family SOON, which I'm not quite ready for; and (2) a lot of women dismiss the idea of dating a younger man out of hand. So I get shot down more when I hit on older women. :rolleyes:

[leekohler]

mad jew- I hear ya! Guys my age are either insane or insanely dull. Life isn't over at 40 for god's sake. But you'd think so with some of the guys I've met lately.

I can't imagine having to deal with the "ticking clock" though. That can be either good or bad, I suppose.

[vicious7]

Since my mid to late twenties, I dated girls who were about 6 years younger than myself. Don't know why I stopped dating girls my age at the time, though, but I gotta admit, it was very energetic - the dating I mean ;). The age difference still holds true today.

[emw]

For what it's worth, I'm nearly 4 years younger than my wife. Seems to have worked out okay so far...

[jng]

So that's my problem! All the girls my age are loopy.

Many probably are.

Many women prefer older men. It's a maturity match thing ;)

In Germany, everyone is taken!

[skunk]

he likes it that way.TPIUWOP.

In Germany, everyone is taken!TMI.

[bartelby]

My wife is 5 years younger than me. I met her a couple of weeks after her 19th birthday. That was 11 years ago now...

[Jaffa Cake]

I'm younger than Miss Jaffa Cake. Mind, she's only my elder by sixteen days so it's never really been an issue.

[aloofman]

I'm younger than Miss Jaffa Cake. Mind, she's only my elder by sixteen days so it's never really been an issue.

Cradle robber. :p

[Jaffa Cake]

Cradle robber. :pEvery day is a battle against people's prejudices and preconceptions. :D

[IJ Reilly]

For what it's worth, I'm nearly 4 years younger than my wife. Seems to have worked out okay so far...

I've got you beat, but I'm not going to tell by how much. ;)

[mad jew]

For those playing at home, IJ Reilly's wife is thirty five. He's nearly twelve.

[IJ Reilly]

Oh, you spoilsport -- who told you?

[jng]

TMI.

How was what I said TMI?

My experience (at University so Mad Jew's age group) is that many Germans are in long term relationships, 5+ years with their partners. Most people I know back home (in Boston) don't have relationships for more than 2 years. As someone who studied abroad for one year (and is now back again), my point is that many people my age are already in committed relationships. And my experience is that those who aren't just want to hook up or are loopy or something. =/

Even that isn't TMI imo

[skunk]

How was what I said TMI?Sorry, I thought you meant "taken" as in "taken roughly from behind"... :)

[Telp]

Been crazy for a while, mate... :p

I'm definitely attracted to younger girls. Mmm... So supple.


I would say that most guys would be attracted to younger girls. And to a degree, girls are attracted to older guy, but the guys attraction to younger girls is always true, even in your late late late years, where as a womans attractive to older guys seems to be a middle school-college sorta thing, after that its usually guys there age, atleast thats what is eem to see.

[MacNut]

Im 27 and don't want a girl much younger then 21, I want to be able to take her to the bar and drink.:cool: I think 23 and up is good but not much above 30.