My annoying cousin wants to come over...

[gregdrummeraz]

What should I do? all she does is start drama with us. And she only wants to see the "right" people, and they are not here.


If I tell her she cant come, then we will here about it at ever holiday till the invention of a new one, and we are pretty full on major holidays.



If I tell her she can, then I get bugged and annoyed for 2 hours.


Any advice? :o

[bartelby]

Tell her she can't come round.

It's not hard.

:confused:

[gregdrummeraz]

Tell her she can't come round.

It's not hard.

:confused:



I forgot to mention my mom does photography for my aunt(annoying cousins mother) who does real estate..... that would not go over to well.

[iShater]

I'm almost in the same bought. Except I am pro-visits vs. anti-visits.

It is such a touchy decision, how do you keep peace with everybody and not stress yourself and your life out.

Best of luck. You are gonna need it. :p

[bartelby]

Feign death then. It's the only option.

[gregdrummeraz]

Not a bad idea, I mean really. It looks like you have put a lot of thought into this. almost as much as I have.

What about then next holiday when I am alive and good?

[psychofreak]

Not a bad idea, I mean really. It looks like you have put a lot of thought into this. almost as much as I have.

What about then next holiday when I am alive and good?

Suicide?

[.Andy]

Sounds like you've got the hots for your cousin.

[bartelby]

Not a bad idea, I mean really. It looks like you have put a lot of thought into this. almost as much as I have.

What about then next holiday when I am alive and good?

Feign death again. You got better this time.:D

[Jaffa Cake]

Tell her you're going out. Then you don't run the risk of being found out for not being properly dead.

[Mikey-]

Invite her over and "accidentally" fall asleep

[OllyW]

What about then next holiday when I am alive and good?

Use this excuse (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Resurrection_of_Jesus)

[iShater]

So who does she actually start the drama with? how long is she traveling? how long is she staying?

[gregdrummeraz]

But I would miss apple product releases... :D

[PlaceofDis]

either put up with it or say no

[gregdrummeraz]

She starts drama with all of us. this girl is a nightmare... I swear she's a lesbian too man. she complains about the way someone's hair is done, all the way to there socks.

She leaves sunday but is staying at her parents house, not here.

[yellow]

2 hours? Wait until you have in-laws.
2 hours of a whiny cousin will be good practice for the true hell of in-laws.

[gregdrummeraz]

Yeah, seeing as she is a bible major at manhattan college in kansas. hmm, that probably would not go over to well. :p

[Jaffa Cake]

she complains about the way someone's hair is done, all the way to there socks.To be fair, it does sound like their hair is a bit on the long side if it goes all the way to their socks. Would it really hurt to have a bit of a trim? ;)

[gregdrummeraz]

what would be wrong with inlaws??? why complain?:rolleyes:

To be fair, it does sound like their hair is a bit on the long side if it goes all the way to their socks. Would it really hurt to have a bit of a trim? ;)

thats funny, good one jaffa... :D

[iShater]

2 hours? Wait until you have in-laws.
2 hours of a whiny cousin will be good practice for the true hell of in-laws.

Hehehehe, or until your s.o. meets his/her in-laws :D

[jb60606]

leave

who says you have to stay home?

[atszyman]

2 hours out of a day? Suck it up and deal with it. How are you going to handle working at a job for 8+ hours every day if you can't suck it up for 2 hours to deal with one annoying relative, consider it practice for adulthood, you'll have to deal with annoying people for more than two hours and more often than just the holidays at some point.

You can always ignore her and just nod and say "uh-huh" every time there's a pause where it sounds like you should respond. Eventually she'll get the point, and if she doesn't you have a new strategy for dealing with it.

[MacNut]

She starts drama with all of us. this girl is a nightmare... I swear she's a lesbian too man. she complains about the way someone's hair is done, all the way to there socks.

She leaves sunday but is staying at her parents house, not here.Tell her to shut the hell up or get out. It sounds like she needs a swift kick.

[gregdrummeraz]

Whats an s.o.??

[MacNut]

Whats an s.o.??significant other.

[yellow]

Whats an s.o.??

I suspect, "significant other".

[iShater]

Whats an s.o.??

Significant other, didn't know if you were a she or a he, so I covered the bases. :)

[gregdrummeraz]

2 hours out of a day? Suck it up and deal with it. How are you going to handle working at a job for 8+ hours every day if you can't suck it up for 2 hours to deal with one annoying relative, consider it practice for adulthood, you'll have to deal with annoying people for more than two hours and more often than just the holidays at some point.

You can always ignore her and just nod and say "uh-huh" every time there's a pause where it sounds like you should respond. Eventually she'll get the point, and if she doesn't you have a new strategy for dealing with it.




I agree with your last paragraph. first ones not true with me. I do not NEED to deal with this person, shes a relative. but an employee is very different..

Significant other, didn't know if you were a she or a he, so I covered the bases. :)



My names gregdrummer... kinda guyish dontcha think hahahahahah

[iShater]

I agree with your last paragraph. first ones not true with me. I do not NEED to deal with this person, shes a relative. but an employee is very different..

An employee is worse, cause you HAVE to work with them if you want to keep your job. :(

[MacNut]

Just because she's family doesn't mean you can't put her in her place.

[iShater]

My names gregdrummer... kinda guyish dontcha think hahahahahah

LOL, I read it as some acronym g.regarding.drummer.a.z. :o

[gregdrummeraz]

LOL, I read it as some acronym g.regarding.drummer.a.z. :o



Well thats a first.:p

[jessica.]

I agree with your last paragraph. first ones not true with me. I do not NEED to deal with this person, shes a relative. but an employee is very different..





My names gregdrummer... kinda guyish dontcha think hahahahahah

This coming from the kid who decides her cousin is a lesbian for no apparent reason.
She is your family, end of story.

[MacNut]

Ya maybe she can't stand you just as much as you can't stand her and she does it to piss you off.:p

[atszyman]

I agree with your last paragraph. first ones not true with me. I do not NEED to deal with this person, shes a relative. but an employee is very different.

I'm not talking about only fellow employees although if the boss's son is annoying and you get stuck on a project with them, you're either going to have to deal with it or find another job.

You may also deal with customers, vendors and any number of other people throughout a day and probably far more often than just the holidays. If you can't figure out how to handle one annoying family member for only two hours on a holiday you're going to have a tough time before you can retire. Unless you're currently independently wealthy and can afford to tell everyone to piss off. In which case you can deal with her for the two hours and then take the rest of the family on an extravagant vacation during finals week or something like that so you can spend time with your family sans her.

[gregdrummeraz]

This coming from the kid who decides her cousin is a lesbian for no apparent reason.
She is your family, end of story.

Hmm... seeing as I know her far better then you, I have my reasons for suspecting her to be gay. Dont put words in my mouth...

[MacNut]

Hmm... seeing as I know her far better then you, I have my reasons for suspecting her to be gay. Dont put words in my mouth...Has she come out and said it to you? If not you don't know either.

[gregdrummeraz]

Ya maybe she can't stand you just as much as you can't stand her and she does it to piss you off.:p

Wow.. that makes no sense seeing as she is the one calling here to come over. trust me. she knows it will NOT hurt my feelings. Shes the one wanting to come here. shes called 4 times now...... make that five shes here... never mind.. its was someone else...

[MacNut]

Wow.. that makes no sense seeing as she is the one calling here to come over. trust me. she knows it will NOT hurt my feelings. Shes the one wanting to come here. shes called 4 times now...... make that five shes here... never mind.. its was someone else...Well she sure is pissing you off.:p If you hate her this much just tell her so. Otherwise eat your pride and deal with it.

[iShater]

Wow.. that makes no sense seeing as she is the one calling here to come over. trust me. she knows it will NOT hurt my feelings. Shes the one wanting to come here. shes called 4 times now...... make that five shes here... never mind.. its was someone else...

Then you must pretend to tolerate her really well if she really wants to see you guys that bad!

I'm starting to feel sorry for her. :confused:

[MacNut]

Then you must pretend to tolerate her really well if she really wants to see you guys that bad!

I'm starting to feel sorry for her. :confused:I wonder if the whole family hates her or just the OP. What does she look like by the way.

[gregdrummeraz]

I wonder if the whole family hates her or just the OP. What does she look like by the way.

What does she look like???? thats kind of a creepy thing to say dont you think???? :o

[MacNut]

What does she look like???? thats kind of a creepy thing to say dont you think???? :oWhat do you care you don't like her. So it's ok to call her a lesbian but ask what she looks like and thats wrong.

I think there is some jealousy here.

[gregdrummeraz]

What do you care you don't like her. So it's ok to call her a lesbian but ask what she looks like and thats wrong.

I think there is some jealousy here.



there is no jealousy but seeing as your photos is a lingerie model. Speaks volumes for what the purpose of the photos is for. that is disrespectful to her to send photos on the internet of her regardless. You dont even seem half normal.

quit trying to suite talk me into to a free photo of my cousin you can your nasty on with.. thats sick bud.

[gregdrummeraz]

here is your answer.... she looks like a 20 year old college student who couldnt make a correct decision and not be bossy. if thats what your wanting from a chick.. then you have hit your jackpot!

[MacNut]

I didn't know Rachel Bilson was a lingerie model. And you didn't answer the question, does your whole family hate her or just you. If you can't stand her this much tell it to her face don't put on a fake smile. And when did I say I want a photo. I asked what she looked like.

[gregdrummeraz]

I didn't know Rachel Bilson was a lingerie model. And you didn't answer the question, does your whole family hate her or just you. If you can't stand her this much tell it to her face don't put on a fake smile. And when did I say I want a photo. I asked what she looked like.




Asking what someone looks like really pretty much is asking for a photo, I am sure many would agree. And my dad does not like her nor do 2 of my 5 brothers. My mom disagrees quiet a bit with her ways and amy 2 brothers in nashville couldn't care less. and lastly my other brother is not even around, but does "appreciate" her presence when she is.....

[MacNut]

So if you all can't stand her why do you put up with her? Tell her to get lost.

[iShater]

Asking what someone looks like really pretty much is asking for a photo, I am sure many would agree. And my dad does not like her nor do 2 of my 5 brothers. My mom disagrees quiet a bit with her ways and amy 2 brothers in nashville couldn't care less. and lastly my other brother is not even around, but does "appreciate" her presence when she is.....

MacNut did not ask for a photo, so I was actually surprised to read your response.

Sounds like it is a family thing, so talk to your family about it. Don't do anything that will get them in "family hot water".

[Melrose]

SO = Something Odd (eg: wearing a Patriots shirt whilst sporting a Seahawks hat, holding out your Dunkin' Donuts travel mug for a refill at Starbucks, etc)


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My advice is to watch For Richer or Poorer, and go with whatever idea for escape your mind might present.

Bartelby, I respect your opinion, however I disagree: Feigning death can be dangerous, if they take it too seriously. You may just find an over-eager relative rooting through your CD collection rather than take a pulse.

[Sun Baked]

I hope she IS a lesbian no matter how hot she is.

Otherwise a chick with a Diva complex is a future serial divorcee, and I really hope any future hubbies/SO's are smart enough to sign a prenup.

Either that or she will be living in a trailer park quite soon.

Relax, put up with her and wait for karma to sink its teeth into her ass.

[gregdrummeraz]

Sunbaked, I agree... trailer park it is.. I did not call nor did she call here.. shes breakin my heart :p:p:p ;);)


Thanks all,
case closed!

[maestro55]

I am still trying to figure out why who she sleeps with is relevant to the original point. I say, put up with her, you are going to have to deal with much harder situations in your life rather than putting up with a cousin that for whatever reason you don't like dealing with.

[CalBoy]

I agree with your last paragraph. first ones not true with me. I do not NEED to deal with this person, shes a relative. but an employee is very different..

On the contrary, the point is very valid.

As the old saying goes, blood is thicker than water. ;)

More importantly, you should realize that family will always be there for you, and even if you guys despise each other, you should try to maintain a cordial, even if fake, relationship because you never know what the future holds. No need to burn a bridge until you're sure you'll never need to cross it again.

My names gregdrummer... kinda guyish dontcha think hahahahahah
Honey, that don't mean anything these days. ;)

WTF? When did I start using the word "honey?":confused::eek:
Hmm... seeing as I know her far better then you, I have my reasons for suspecting her to be gay. Dont put words in my mouth...
I'm still wondering why that's even relevant. :confused:

Does it make her different in some way you wouldn't like? Are you looking for a problem when one doesn't exist?

And my dad does not like her nor do 2 of my 5 brothers.
I have two interesting thoughts which arise from this information:

1) Is it really the fact that you and your brothers don't like her, or that you are carrying on the prejudices of your father? I know you'd like to think that you hate her all by yourself, but parents can have a profound effect on the way we view our relatives.

and

2) You have 5 other brothers? Are you the youngest? I realize this seems tangential, but it feeds a hunch that I gathered from your earlier "I think she's a lesbian" post.

Maybe it's time for someone to stop projecting, but then that's just me and my crazy ideas. ;)

My mom disagrees quiet a bit with her ways
What "ways" are these exactly? Is she doing things that puts her life or others lives into peril? Does she steal? Trespass? Burglarize?

Or is this merely a "I don't like her taste in music, hairstyles, and clothing, so I choose to not like her" sort of deal?

and lastly my other brother is not even around, but does "appreciate" her presence when she is.....
I think this is demonstrative that she can in fact be good company, and that perhaps you've all been too judgmental from the start.

Just a hunch, but would this cousin be from your father's side? I believe you mentioned that your aunt and your mother do business, but you didn't mention which side of the family she's from.

Nonetheless, we're talking about a total time of two hours. If you're telling me that you can't deal with someone for just two hours, I don't know how you're going to be able to deal with the work force, in-laws, annoying people at the movies, etc. In fact, why not just watch a movie? It would keep her quiet and you wouldn't have to make it overly obvious that you're trying to avoid her.

Or, as others mention, just go out with friends when she's expected to be over. There are plenty of ways to avoid her; I think you just need to try harder. ;):p