how to ask a girl out

[wywern209]

k, there is this one girl at school who i rly like but when i decide to walk up to her and attempt to ask her out, i get all nervous and decide against it...
P.S i know the girl.so normal stuff ain't a prob but i can't ask her out for the life of me.

[bizzle]

Say, "sup boo?"

[KingYaba]

Stay in your basement behind your computer screen instead.

[dukebound85]

grow a pair and do it

sorry,but thats really the only way lol

[atszyman]

Yep, you go up and ask, her saying "no" is not the end of the world.

Of course back when I was a lad, I was not a follower of my own advice and was frequently paralyzed by the thought of rejection. It all worked out fine, got the wife and kids, but if you don't ask you'll always wonder in some dark recess of your mind "what if?" On the other hand, you may remember the rejection forever, but you'll never regret asking and knowing what the answer was.

[floyde]

+1 on the pair.

Just drop something like this in the middle of the conversation "so hey, wanna grab a bite after school? There's this great (insert stuff here) restaurant that I've been wanting to go to for a while" but say it as though you were actually saying this to a dude: "dude, my arse is itching like crazy".

Actual wording may vary ;). Just go for it though.

[Abstract]

Say this: "Hi, I think you're cute. Want to go out with me at some point?"

If she asks you if other people will be there, or if she asks you who else to invite, then consider it the equivalent of "No thanks."


grow a pair and do it


And then hand them to her to make it official. You may as well. Once you start dating, she'll have you by the balls. Marriage is supposed to be the same, except she has a firmer grip.

[JG271]

Just... do it? You'll never know otherwise.

You really shouldn't need to post on a forum for things like this... don't you have anyone in the real world you can ask for advice??

a bit harsh of me maybe, but yeah, just get it over with.

[apsterling]

Just go for it. Rejection isn't really that bad, trust me.

[ChrisN]

Try it on a girl who is your friend but isn't your "girlfriend", but that might not work because you might feel to comfortable around her.

ChrisN

[Kev052683]

Rejection hurts a lot, avoid life lessons at all costs.

Ask her out through a note, with a check box for yes, no, and maybe, and ask for a prompt return of said note with check box checked.

[xlii]

Just ask her out... Don't be this Hank Williams Sr. song:

Kaw-liga was a wooden Indian standing by the door.
He fell in love with an Indian maiden over in the antique store.
Kaw-liga just stood there and never let it show,
So she could never answer "yes" or "no."

CHORUS:
Poor ol' Kaw-liga, he never got a kiss.
Poor ol' Kaw-liga, he don't know what he missed.
Is it any wonder that his face is red?
Kaw-liga, that poor ol' wooden head.

He always wore his Sunday feathers and held a tomahawk.
The maiden wore her beads and braids and hoped some day he'd talk.
Kaw-liga, too stubborn to ever show a sign,
Because his heart was made of knotty pine.

Kaw-liga was a lonely Indian, never went nowhere.
His heart was set on the Indian maid with the coal black hair.
Kaw-liga just stood there and never let it show,
So she could never answer "yes" or "no."

And then one day a wealthy customer bought the Indian maid,
And took her, oh, so far away, but ol' Kaw-liga stayed.
Kaw-liga just stands there as lonely as can be,
And wishes he was still an old pine tree.

[wywern209]

Try it on a girl who is your friend but isn't your "girlfriend", but that might not work because you might feel to comfortable around her.

ChrisN

lol yeah. that won't work. guess i will have to give the checkbox thing a try.

[ChrisN]

It also helps to know how she feels about you, if you are close to anyone who is good friends with her and you don't mind sharing your secret then ask your friend how she feels about you.

ChrisN

[jonbravo77]

And then hand them to her to make it official. You may as well. Once you start dating, she'll have you by the balls. Marriage is supposed to be the same, except she has a firmer grip.

That's funny. :D But I have to say, there are exceptions to the rule. The OP might get lucky and find that 1 in a billion girl who will actually let him keep them balls like my wife has. Or am I just fooling myself? :(

EDIT*** Sorry for the duplicate above. My internet must have farted and caused it... If a Mod can delete that "That's Funny" post of mine above that would great. TY

[Lava Lamp Freak]

How to ask a girl out in three easy steps

Step 1) Ask her out
Step 2) If rejected, don't let her see you crying as you walk away.
Step 3) There is no step 3!

Rinse and repeat.

[Kev052683]

lol yeah. that won't work. guess i will have to give the checkbox thing a try.

....don't really do that, I was kidding.

Seriously, just carry yourself with some confidence, not arrogance. You'll be surprised what confidence can do for your overall personality.

Wait, I'm single right now... dammit...

[wvuwhat]

Alcohol solves all... I've said some things that I would have never said sober that ended up getting me the girl. However, the next day I'm kicking myself. Love sucks, one night stands are better. You'll realize this one day, until you find that one.

[sycho]

You're probably gay, I know that's the reason I couldn't ask out girls.

[Crawn2003]

Say....

You're good woman. I'm good man...

Worked in old country. You usually get a goat too!

~Crawn

[joepunk]

Read this book (http://browseinside.harpercollins.com/index.aspx?isbn13=9780061709999). Published by HarperCollins on November 25th of this year called How to Talk to Girls, by Alec Greven. This is how HarperCollins describes the book:

Are you smart enough to take over a girl's heart?

Leave it to a nine-year-old to get down to the basics about how to win victory with a girl. how to talk to girls is for boys of all ages—from eight to eighty—and the girls they like. So read this book and then you're ready. Good luck!

Tips:
Comb your hair and don't wear sweats
Control your hyperness (cut down on the sugar if you have to)
Don't act desperate

It's a relationship advice book written by a child. If this is all publishing companies can come up with, then I say let them all die :rolleyes:

[numbersyx]

Go for it. Even if she says "No" she'll be flattered by the request and you'll be treated well. If she says "Yes" ... you know the rest....

[iDAG]

If you are only 15 then you just might run into this problem. Most guys run into this when they are in high school. I've been dating my girlfriend for over 14 months. :D

You're probably gay, I know that's the reason I couldn't ask out girls.

He is only 15 and this girl is most likely his first time, and just fears the thought of rejection. It doesn't mean he is gay. :cool:

[tennismanclay]

If your scared of rejection, just start texting her alot. Eventually tell her you like and her and see what she says, if she says she likes you back, your all good =] Another option would be to talk to one of her friends, but not like her best friend, and ask them if they might could find out what she thinks about you. Hope it helps, let us know how it goes.

-Clay

[wywern209]

You're probably gay, I know that's the reason I couldn't ask out girls.

lol no, im straight. like iDAG said, this is my first time... im **** scared of rejection. btw, can't rly text her, don't got her phone number... how about email?( we have a school email...)

[Kardashian]

"Sup darlin', Can I take a swim in your fish pond?"

I'm queer - so maybe you shouldn't listen to me... :rolleyes:

[wywern209]

"Sup darlin', Can I take a swim in your fish pond?"

I'm queer - so maybe you shouldn't listen to me... :rolleyes:

lol, im thinking that won't work with her. well, i guess i will have to ask her somehow....hmm.... THINK!!!

[iObama]

lol, im thinking that won't work with her. well, i guess i will have to ask her somehow....hmm.... THINK!!!

Wear some Nike's to school the gay you're going to ask her out. Everytime you get nervous, look down at the logo and think "Just do it."

+ btw, dnt du it ovr the intrnt.

[99MustangGTman]

Man up and just ask her out. No matter how stupid you sound, she'll just think its cute that you attempted to ask her out. Even if she says no, i'm sure you won't feel rejected. You'll feel so confident that you actually had the courage to say something that it won't bother you and you'll ask more girls out with a chip on your shoulder.

[wywern209]

k, will try to eat some courage cake tonight! i will try tomorrow

[Melrose]

Just ask her.

Girls (even the hot ones, so I hear) like to be treated like normal humans being, so just act like she's a reglar bro. Don't act like this (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75zf_l7Swtw)*

Nothing to be afraid of I don't think.. I mean, it can be nervous your first time, but really it's not that bad.

Hope it goes well fer ya.. :)




*not a Rickroll...

[juanster]

is she in your class or anything? do you seak to her on a daily basis?

[nickspohn]

I have a interesting story that just happened today that I'll share if anyone is curious.


As for the first poster, I would def make sure she knows you well enough first. It sounds like you just like her because she is good looking. If you ask her out randomly and she barely knows you, you guys will probably never have a chance and if she is popular you will get made fun of by her and her friends.

On the other hand, if you actually do like her, you know her well, and you guys have hung out already, you shouldn't be nervous about asking her out. Best advice to give.

[juanster]

im pretty curious whats up

[daneoni]

Hmmm...you're making too much of a big deal out of it and dare i say it putting the girl on a pedestal already. but if you want try:

"Hey. So listen, i'd like to take you out for drinks sometime". or after you've both just laughed at something "So listen, i'd like to take you out for drinks sometime"

Say it like its no big deal and you've done it before i.e. be confident when you say it.

Its not threatening and it sends a clear message i think.

If she likes you she'll say yes. If she doesn't then you know where you stand and life goes on. There are other women out there.

If she does say yes, show her a good time. Be funny (make fun of your tutors or something), flirty (not overtly) and tease her occasionally (don't be mean). Also focus your attention on her i.e. get her to talk about herself.

Remember the longer you wait the more you increase/solidify your status in the 'friends zone'

[nickspohn]

Ha okay. It's kind of pathetic on my part, but i'll share it because it's actually really cute. Don't make fun of me. :o


I'm a Senior in high school. Last year (my Junior year) there was this girl who I saw in my lunch that I thought was really cute. And she acted really nice and stuff. She was a Freshman then and now she is a Sophomore. She sat by our lunch table, and I never said anything to here. Now, I've never been shy around girls. I've had like 6 girlfriends that are deemed long enough to actually be a decent relationship for my age. But still, I thought this girl was so cute and something was different about her.

Flash forward to a month ago.
I had my friend introduce us, because i rarely see her at school. So we saw each other a few times and started texting. We didn't see each other a lot in person last month, but we sure have texted a lot. I never thought I would have a chance with this girl because she is incredibly cute and not even in my class.

Randomly, i don't see her much at school, but next semester which is in a day we have a class together.

And yesterday, I offered her a ride home today, and she said yes i need one that would be great.

So today comes, I meet her at her locker. Talk real quick, then go to my car, I'm also giving my friend a ride home too. I just figure i'm dropping him and her off, but nope! I drop him off, then she is like "Wanna go to my moms work and meet her?" So i'm like sure. We end up talking for over an hour, and her mom just fell in love with me. She even hugged me as I left. Then we went out to starbucks, just me and the girl. And then after that we were gunna go see some puppies at this place, but it was closed. So what I thought was a 5 minute session turned into 2 hours, until I had to go to work. It was great.

Yes, I sound extremely noobish, but this is thee cutest, nicest, smartest girl I've ever actually been interested in.

PS, we are hanging out all day Saturday.

[juanster]

nice,, i find when you are not actually looking for it surprises make it just sooo much better...

[nickspohn]

nice,, i find when you are not actually looking for it surprises make it just sooo much better...

I know. Thank you very much. I'm kinda shocked too. It's great. She really is something else..

[juanster]

sounds greta man all teh best to you

[wywern209]

will do melrose ! anyways, just realized something.. i'm broke right now. and btw daneoni, i am not even close to drinking age so no alcohol for me. either way, i hope she says yes... well, i have knwn her since last year and we sit at the same lunch table and stuff but we have never hung out outside of school before. what are my chances?

[nickspohn]

will do melrose ! anyways, just realized something.. i'm broke right now. and btw daneoni, i am not even close to drinking age so no alcohol for me. either way, i hope she says yes... well, i have knwn her since last year and we sit at the same lunch table and stuff but we have never hung out outside of school before. what are my chances?

hang out with her first. DO NOT ASK HER OUT. then see how that goes.


read my post above for inspiration.

[BoingoBongo]

Ask questions, that's it. Women do not care about what you have to say at all anyway. All they want to do is talk about themselves, so you just gotta let them do that. Ask questions, be cool, and be kind of a dick. Be David Caruso in Jade.

[wywern209]

hang out with her first. DO NOT ASK HER OUT. then see how that goes.


read my post above for inspiration.

i see. i'll ask her tom. if she wants to hang out on the weekends. btw, since i know like nothing about girls, what do they like to do? hmm, that gives me an idea and a goal for tom. find out what her hobbies are.

[juanster]

I agree with the above poster as well, because of your age I would nto go into asking her out right away... I would try to talk to her first for a couple of days and see where that goes.. by the way when i say a couple of days i do mean a couple of days, if you talkt o her for more than a week then you will very fast and surely fall into that F zone you really don't want to slip in... just talk to her, ask her about herself, if she is interested she will easily try to talk back and make convo, if not then she will try to walka way from you, taht was my experience wen i was your age...so if she talks to you ask her out then

[wywern209]

I agree with the above poster as well, because of your age I would nto go into asking her out right away... I would try to talk to her first for a couple of days and see where that goes.. by the way when i say a couple of days i do mean a couple of days, if you talkt o her for more than a week then you will very fast and surely fall into that F zone you really don't want to slip in... just talk to her, ask her about herself, if she is interested she will easily try to talk back and make convo, if not then she will try to walka way from you, taht was my experience wen i was your age...so if she talks to you ask her out then

k, the future looks rly blurry for me right now.;):rolleyes: well, gotta hope for the best. and what is the F zone? friend ?

[Abstract]

I think being a 15 year old in high school, and asking a girl out at that age, is really difficult. She'll be really shy, you'll be really shy. Sure, it gets easier and less embarrassing when you get older, since asking a girl out isn't seen as a big deal after you're 16 or 17.

Best thing to do is to hang out first. Somehow, you've got to be in a social situation with her, where she can see how you are in a social situation. If she already knows you're not a bad guy, it'll make it easier to ask her.


If you've already hung out with her socially (i.e. just you two, or with other friends), then great. Does she send you any signals at all to indicate that she likes you?

[juanster]

yeah, you don;t want to go there..

[wywern209]

I think being a 15 year old in high school, and asking a girl out at that age, is really difficult. She'll be really shy, you'll be really shy. Sure, it gets easier and less embarrassing when you get older, since asking a girl out isn't seen as a big deal after you're 16 or 17.

Best thing to do is to hang out first. Somehow, you've got to be in a social situation with her, where she can see how you are in a social situation. If she already knows you're not a bad guy, it'll make it easier to ask her.


If you've already hung out with her socially (i.e. just you two, or with other friends), then great. Does she send you any signals at all to indicate that she likes you?

well, we sit at the same lunch table and we talk everyday but well if she likes me based on what i can tell from body lang., its about 50/50. she likes or not. well, she smiles when i say hi and stuff but as far as body language goes, i suck at reading that. hmm, i will have to see if we can hang out and celebrate after finals are over!cuz, next week, finals end and i want to see if she would like to come over wit ha couple of other ppl who also sit at my lunch table(she and i are friends with like everybody at the table so maybe i cna ask one of them for help)

[juanster]

yeha why don t you organize like all gogin to a movie or somehting an dthen at the movie stry to sit with ehr and talk a lot to her and stuff

[wywern209]

yeha why don t you organize like all gogin to a movie or somehting an dthen at the movie stry to sit with ehr and talk a lot to her and stuff

k, are there any other things that i could do besides going to a movie? good idea though. us 2 and a couple of other ppl.

[nickspohn]

You need to really have the attitude of "I'll have nothing to lose". I know it's hard and you'll be shy, but you need to engage in the conversation first if you want to get to know her. You have to make the attempt, and she will see that if you try to talk to her. If she responds back and is willing to keep talking that is a great sign. If she gives you short answers and she is looking around, that's a bad sign. If she is looking at you most the time, then that is good.

Really get to know this girl first. There are many things you can do. I know FOR A FACT, it would be EXTREMELY awkward for you 2 to hang out alone the first time. If you want success, here is what you need to do.

Get your friends and her friends to hang out. Like a small group, maybe 4-8 people. You guys can do movies because that is good for your age, but you can also do lunch or dinner. That is very good too. Make sure you TALK A LOT, and get her attention in a great way. There is nothing WORSE than sitting there and not making a conversation. That will put you backwards. Trust me i know from experience.

If you live somewhere warm, goofy golf works great too. Or go karts. Or you guys can all go the mall. Stuff like that.

[juanster]

I also think that because of your age, movie and then wendy's or whatever you guys like would probably be the best, start out by hey what did you think of teh movie? a nd then why or why she dind t leik it c ompare to other movies maybe? her favorite movieS? and take it form there...

[Abstract]

well, we sit at the same lunch table and we talk everyday but well if she likes me based on what i can tell from body lang., its about 50/50. she likes or not.

Well, if you don't make a move, and she really DOES like you (as more than a friend), you run the risk of losing her interest.

If you make a move and she's not interested, it'll just be weird for awhile and you can (probably) go back to being friends. It may be weird for all mutual friends involved (this is high school, after all), but oh well. Do you want to be sitting at MacRumours 10 years from now talking about how there was a girl you should have asked out? :confused: Do you know how many people tell us this story here? Too many. If you think she may like you, don't miss your chance.

well, she smiles when i say hi and stuff but as far as body language goes, i suck at reading that.

Well she's not going to rub her boobs in your face if she's interested, so as subtle as body language can be at times, you'll have to learn how to read body language by paying extra attention then. ;)


hmm, i will have to see if we can hang out and celebrate after finals are over!cuz, next week, finals end and i want to see if she would like to come over wit ha couple of other ppl who also sit at my lunch table(she and i are friends with like everybody at the table so maybe i cna ask one of them for help)

Good idea. Maybe if you tell your friends, they'll help you out by intentionally leaving you two alone together whenever it's possible. I mean, if you're all walking together in a group, perhaps everyone else will back off so that you two can walk side by side.


P.S.: Mini-golf and McDonalds. After that, go have one of those sweet fake coffee-ish mocha vanilla creme brulée-ccinos at Starbucks or another café. Talk. Eating, background noise, and close proximity are always good.

[phas3]

to the thread starter, do you guys have mutual friends?

I suggest you get some of your friends together first and go get lunch somewhere, and then invite her to go and maybe some of her friensds that are also your friends. By doing this she won't feel wierded out and she can get comfortable becauses its just not you two, its with a bunch of poeple and she can be comfortable. And while you guys are at lunch this is would be your chance to talk to her more and get to know her and if by the end it goes well, ask her if she would like to catch a movie sometime.

[Teh Don Ditty]

Ask questions, that's it. Women do not care about what you have to say at all anyway. All they want to do is talk about themselves, so you just gotta let them do that. Ask questions, be cool, and be kind of a dick. Be David Caruso in Jade.

Watch '40 Year Old Virgin' much?

[Rapmastac1]

You just need to do it!

I have found girls at my school attractive but I have never asked them out per-say. Most of the time I will ask them to dance at a "free for all" dance (not the formal ones where you have to have a date) and it just goes from there. Even in my sophomore year I had a good job and I was making decent money for someone my age so it was really easy to just do stuff.

The last girlfriend I had in high school was a girl that I had seen around and thought was hot, but never thought twice about it. I guess she knew so she asked me to dance. I guess she had something planned with her friend because the next thing I knew they were daring us to kiss on the lips. From there the night was really fun! It was like six of us hanging out having fun and she wanted to hang out the next day.

The best way to pursue a girl is to make it friendly at first. Say "hey you wanna come hang out with me and my friends on saturday?". They feel more comfortable when other people are around and that is how people put themselves in the best light, if that makes sense. If you both have fun and you feel a connection, ask her out solo! Don't put too much stress on it.

In Jr. High I had major crushes and it was a major problem. I would put the girls on pedestals and it would make it impossible for me to go up to them and ask them out or even just talk to them. I would think about them all the time, I would dream about them, and I would get so nervous around them. It took me a while to realize this is a problem I have and had to work it out. Now it's not a problem, I could easily go up to a group of girls and get their numbers no problem! My job has really helped me out with that (Lead Manager - taking care of guests, talking to them, striking up random conversations, ect).

Just work on it and don't think about it too much. You can't stress over what ur not thinking about. I'm surprised you haven't asked her out yet. This is starting to sound like the Ghall Saga !

[Consultant]

Smile. Look at her eyes.

Some body language from her:
plays with hair more than usual
tilts head slightly
really smile
puts hands on you
compliments you frequently


k, are there any other things that i could do besides going to a movie? good idea though. us 2 and a couple of other ppl.

Well going to a movie much guarantees that you can put your arm around her, but typically dinner or some other activity before that s o you guys can talk.

[Abstract]

This is starting to sound like the Ghall Saga !

I certainly hope not. Not like that has ended on a very good note.


Smile. Look at her eyes.

Some body language from her:
plays with hair more than usual
tilts head slightly
really smile
puts hands on you
compliments you frequently


Yeah, or if she just listens to you more attentively and smiles and laughs more often. Oh, and if you feel a bit of nervous energy coming from her as well, then perhaps that's a good thing. ;)




Well going to a movie much guarantees that you can put your arm around her....

Well if she takes his arm off her shoulders, then he just got rejected and will have to sit beside her in the dark for 2 hours.

Awkwaaaaard.

[wywern209]

to the thread starter, do you guys have mutual friends?

I suggest you get some of your friends together first and go get lunch somewhere, and then invite her to go and maybe some of her friensds that are also your friends. By doing this she won't feel wierded out and she can get comfortable becauses its just not you two, its with a bunch of poeple and she can be comfortable. And while you guys are at lunch this is would be your chance to talk to her more and get to know her and if by the end it goes well, ask her if she would like to catch a movie sometime.

yeah, we both have mutual friends. and we are sort of friends so i suppose i could arrange something... btw, school today was a suckish experience. after last period, i went to her locker to talk to her but sadly she was on the phone so just said see ya (insert name of girl). and then went off to my locker to get my stuff. maybe we can celebrate after finals are over. cuz most of them are over on friday. we have monday off and perhaps my friends and her as well as me could go to starbucks or something.

I certainly hope not. Not like that has ended on a very good note.




Yeah, or if she just listens to you more attentively and smiles and laughs more often. Oh, and if you feel a bit of nervous energy coming from her as well, then perhaps that's a good thing. ;)





Well if she takes his arm off her shoulders, then he just got rejected and will have to sit beside her in the dark for 2 hours.

Awkwaaaaard.

lol yes. that would be frikin awkward...

u know, its a pity there isn't a sure fire way to do this. like a manual... then again, manuals are the books that most people toss aside when they buy something and open the box.

[bobfitz14]

u know, its a pity there isn't a sure fire way to do this. like a manual... then again, manuals are the books that most people toss aside when they buy something and open the box.

not everyone is perfect in all aspects, some guys are fine asking girls out because rejection doesn't affect them much, other guys can't get over the fear of rejection so they don't do it. it's a risk, go for it i guess.

oh and i saw on page 1 of this thread that you can't text her...get her digits first!

[wywern209]

not everyone is perfect in all aspects, some guys are fine asking girls out because rejection doesn't affect them much, other guys can't get over the fear of rejection so they don't do it. it's a risk, go for it i guess.

oh and i saw on page 1 of this thread that you can't text her...get her digits first!

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.:D

[phas3]

yeah, we both have mutual friends. and we are sort of friends so i suppose i could arrange something... btw, school today was a suckish experience. after last period, i went to her locker to talk to her but sadly she was on the phone so just said see ya (insert name of girl). and then went off to my locker to get my stuff. maybe we can celebrate after finals are over. cuz most of them are over on friday. we have monday off and perhaps my friends and her as well as me could go to starbucks or something.


there you go man, you two have mutual friends so it won't be so weird to her. If they're gonna be over friday that's your chance to talk to her just chit chat, ask her how her day was, compliment her on something that just sticks out but don't put all your attention on her, mix in with her friends and your friends. If you're in with her close friends that means they'll aprove of you. Also joke around with her make her laugh and also kinda clown on her not like DAMN YOU GOT SERVED kinda stuff but if she messes up on something joke around on how she messed up. Again don't be too pushy though.

And if yall go out to starbucks stand in front of her in the line and when you're done ordering your drink turn to her and say whataya want? and if she says oh no its okay i can't pay for my own tell her its alright and that she'll get the next one when she takes you out to lunch sometime. And say it with a smile then say so come on whataya want its fine.

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.:D


phone numbers easy, if all goes to plan on friday and you guys go to starbucks and what not at the end just say "hey can I get your number so I can let you know when I'm free for lunch?" thats if that plan i said up above goes well.

If not just say "hey do you wanna hang out sometime?" and then ask for her number"

another way opportunity is if she likes to take pictures with her phone see if you can take a picture with her on your phone and then do it with her phone then put your number on there while you have her phone and then say "i thought you'd like to have my number on her you know incase of emergency"

trust me if you do it with a little bit of humor she won't mind and you'll have her number and she'll havey ours. I wouldn't be telling you this if I haven't done any of this before and it works.

[bobfitz14]

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.:D

for getting her numbahh it usually depends on what you're doing with her and like where you are and such. it could be anywhere from you whip out your....phone, she makes a comment, and you say "well it's a shame i don't [phrase that will get the message through that you want her digits]"
ya diggggg?

and lol@your steps 1-4. unfortunately i do have the fear of rejection.


EDITTTTTTT:
i don't know if you already said this or not, how old are you?
and...
take out the "4" in your sig before the "FTW" because FTW means "for the win" so your sig currently says "metal gear solid fo[u]r for the win"

[Luis]

1.Any ideas on how to get her digits?
2. For guys that don't fear rejection, they have been through this process more times than i have and thus i guess have perfected the art. lol.
step1. hang out with her and some friends
step2. get a phone number somehow
step3. ask her out
step4. step 4 is only here if you got rejected. go and curl up in a corner and cry.:D

Ask her out first and then get her number. That way you could show further interest if the 'date' turns out well.

[InvalidUserID]

I say get in there and just go for it. Life is too short.

If it doesn't work out the way you picture, at least you gave it a shot. And unless its something like "I think of you as a brother" or "I'm insanely not attracted to you", at least she knows you think of her as more than a friend.

Go get her, tiger!

[wywern209]

Argh... i am in over-drive from stress. i kid you not. i have way too much crap due this friday than most ppl on the planet. why do i have to take my finals if i am acing my classes. it makes no sense, its like saying" mr.einstein, we will ask you to reinvent the wheel, just so we can make sure you are smart". i rly hate this time of the year. it is the polar opposite of xmas! is anyone here a master of body language and subtlety?

[apsterling]

Well hey, out of two times, the only time I was wrong was the first one, and it was because I didn't pay attention.
The second time I was right, and I waited far too long to make a move to the point where she got a guy cause she thought I didn't like her.
Yeah, dumb, I know.

Just go for it because you don't want to be the guy who gets tossed like I was.

[wywern209]

Well hey, out of two times, the only time I was wrong was the first one, and it was because I didn't pay attention.
The second time I was right, and I waited far too long to make a move to the point where she got a guy cause she thought I didn't like her.
Yeah, dumb, I know.

Just go for it because you don't want to be the guy who gets tossed like I was.

yeah.... that reassures me A LOT. :rolleyes::D

[chilipie]

u know, its a pity there isn't a sure fire way to do this. like a manual... then again, manuals are the books that most people toss aside when they buy something and open the box.

LMAO, what?! She's a person, not a sodding computer.

[MrM]

Dude, seriously, we can't be there in person to hold your hand and feed you words on this. Just do it. Girls like confidence. The next post I see from you better have a "She said yes!" or a "I"m too good for her anyway." in it.

[Yamcha]

Ask her if she'd like to have lunch or a coffee, I wouldn't say I like you straight away.. but obviously she will assume you do, imo bringing it up is not a good idea at this stage at least :p

[nickspohn]

Can you post a picture of this girl? lol

[anjinha]

I was going to give you some advice too but then I realized that I'm a 21 year old girl and I still can't ask the guy I like out...

God, I'm pathetic...

[ChrisN]

I was going to give you some advice too but then I realized that I'm a 21 year old girl and I still can't ask the guy I like out...

God, I'm pathetic...
Why don't you let the guy do all the asking?

ChrisN

[fotografica]

Dude, seriously, we can't be there in person to hold your hand and feed you words on this. Just do it. Girls like confidence. The next post I see from you better have a "She said yes!" or a "I"m too good for her anyway." in it.

+1..Fifteen years old or not,sack up and go for it..Four pages on how to ask a girl out :eek: Stop over analyzing and go for it....

[scottkifnw]

k, there is this one girl at school who i rly like but when i decide to walk up to her and attempt to ask her out, i get all nervous and decide against it...
P.S i know the girl.so normal stuff ain't a prob but i can't ask her out for the life of me.

First, it is a date, not a proposal. It will end sooner or later. Think of it as practice. If you fear rejection, then get to know her first and pick up clues. If you are perceptive enough, you will generally know the answer before you ask. That said, rejection is part of the growth process. You will never grow unless you get out from behind the computer screen.

[lozanoj83]

Honestly, just ask her out or stalk talking her to her more then ask her.
Stop with the im scared of everything crap, and scared of rejection. I asked my ex out, went a couple of months then broke it off, but it taught me that I need to ask if I want to find out, so just go out and ASK!

[wywern209]

kkkk!!! i got the message! i will try to ask her out like after exams are over cuz, i have exams till next Tuesday.

[Demosthenes X]

Argh... i am in over-drive from stress. i kid you not. i have way too much crap due this friday than most ppl on the planet. why do i have to take my finals if i am acing my classes. it makes no sense, its like saying" mr.einstein, we will ask you to reinvent the wheel, just so we can make sure you are smart". i rly hate this time of the year. it is the polar opposite of xmas! is anyone here a master of body language and subtlety?

As it happens, I have just the list for you! :D

Kiss on the hand means : FRIENDSHIP.

Kiss on the nose means : YOU'RE CUTE.

Kiss on the cheek means : I NEED YOU.

Kiss on the neck means : I WANT YOU.

Kiss on the lips means : I LOVE YOU.

Kissing with eyes closed means : I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU.

Kissing with eyes opened means : I'M WATCHING WHERE YOUR HANDS ARE GOING.

The military Kiss means ..... "Keep It Simple Stupid"..

Stolen Kisses ARE THE SWEETEST! (Always want to return it)

Morale of the story is ... Its not WHO you are KissING but WHERE you're KissING that matters

Other signs .....

Often thinking of you means : I CARE FOR YOU

Holding hands means : I LIKE YOU

Looking into the eyes means : DO YOU LOVE ME?

Squeezing fingertips means : I WANT A Kiss

Leaning on the shoulder means : COMFORT ME

Getting occasional short hugs means : I MISS YOU

Biting lips means : I AM JEALOUS

Winking at you means : I WANT TO GO WITH YOU

Playing with your hair means: I ADORE YOU

Stepping on toes means: I HATE YOU

Getting hit in "very painful places" means : I REALLY HATE YOU

Dreaming of you at night : YOU'RE SOMEONE SPECIAL

Always being with you means : I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU

Wearing his or her ring means: YOU'RE MINE FOREVER

Often giving you something means : CARE FOR YOU VERY MUCH

Placing hands on shoulder means : GET THE HINT STUPID!!!


;)

[wywern209]

As it happens, I have just the list for you! :D



;)

thanks!!! a big help. knew some of these just not all of them! now i gotta be more observant.

[phas3]

As it happens, I have just the list for you! :D



;)

where the heck did you get this list from? i completely disagree with most of those body languages...sounds like an 8th grader made it up

[juanster]

I was going to give you some advice too but then I realized that I'm a 21 year old girl and I still can't ask the guy I like out...

God, I'm pathetic...

it's okay you can tell me ;)

[wywern209]

anjinhamarota, don't worry. just look nice and cute and all the guys will come. :p no kidding. go to the apple store. i heard tha tlots of guys hang out there. ;)

where the heck did you get this list from? i completely disagree with most of those body languages...sounds like an 8th grader made it up

lol. it was supposed to be funny, while witholding some truth.

[Vivaldi]

Here is my advice: if you have to ask for advice on this subject, then you are not ready yet.

Many of us have been in this same predicament before: the only way to succeed is to stave off your fear and commence the query. Otherwise, what you would like may never be realised.

Just take care of it, and even if the result is negative, hopefully you will have acquired enough courage to apply it to the next time you wish to ask this question.

[wywern209]

u know vivaldi, they say a person who does ask a question is stupid for 2 minutes, but one who never asks one is stupid for all eternity. either way, don't ask me who they is cuz i don't know either.:D

[phas3]

well tomrorow is the big day, its friday, you better have a good story when we talk to you again after this weekend.

[ntrigue]

You'll love college. Here's your manual:

1) Tear-off small corner of paper
2) Write NAME. NUMBER. ADDRESS.
3) Make eye contact.
4) "Party at my pad on Saturday, bring girlfriends."
5) Smile.
6) Wait until Saturday.
7) Invite inside.
8) Fill Dixie cup with beer.

[wywern209]

lol. i am gonna like college. seriously though, i can't wait to be out of high school and to start learning what i want to learn.

well tomrorow is the big day, its friday, you better have a good story when we talk to you again after this weekend.

yeah, but we have a messed up schedule tom, due to final exams. so maybe, maybe not. well would good story be that i asked her out, and then she said maybe later, i shall consider and for the rest of the weekend, i am held on suspense.

[Rapmastac1]

Can you post a picture of this girl? lol

Do not, I repeat DO NOT do this! Haha, not only is it illegal but it isn't very nice. Like putting a piece of meat up on display.

Wait til Tuesday, but I bet once it's then you will wait again til Friday, and then you will continue indefinitely. Get it going now!

"You can get whatever you want, you can do it! Hooray for you!" ;)

[Abstract]

Do not, I repeat DO NOT do this! Haha, not only is it illegal but it isn't very nice.

It's definitely not nice, but it's not illegal unless you took a photo of her on her private property. ;)

Why do you think paparazzi still have jobs?

[Melrose]

where the heck did you get this list from? i completely disagree with most of those body languages...sounds like an 8th grader made it up
A pre-adolescent girl with Orlando Bloom posters on her bedroom wall, at that.

I was going to give you some advice too but then I realized that I'm a 21 year old girl and I still can't ask the guy I like out...

God, I'm pathetic...
I don't like women that are too forward.. Don't be afraid to ask, just don't be pushy. Do it sweet.

[anjinha]

anjinhamarota, don't worry. just look nice and cute and all the guys will come. :p no kidding. go to the apple store. i heard tha tlots of guys hang out there. ;)

No apple stores here. But that is a good idea, I like mac geeks. :D

I don't like women that are too forward.. Don't be afraid to ask, just don't be pushy. Do it sweet.

Usually I'm confortable talking to guys and even asking them out... except when i really, really like them. Then I get really nervous.

[Melrose]

Usually I'm confortable talking to guys and even asking them out... except when i really, really like them. Then I get really nervous.

Funny how that it always seems to work like that.. I get the same way. Damn hormones!

[WinkWink726]

grow a pair and do it

sorry,but thats really the only way lol


Right?!?
"Lift up your skirt and grab your boys, Sally!!!" as I always say! LOL

Just be honest.
I mean... if she's worth dating and she's right for you.
She's hoping that you're GOING to ask her out and she doesn't care how you do it.

Be yourself--best advice
Don't change for anyone (compromise is different).
If you change... someone will love/like you for who you're NOT ;)

[SteveMobs]

lol. i am gonna like college. seriously though, i can't wait to be out of high school and to start learning what i want to learn.

The first year is Gen-Ed mixed with some concentration stuff. And then you get to what you want and it's hard. That's college, at least engineering. But study hard and you'll be fine.

As for this girl, is this really still going on? It's friday and you need to ask. It's better to regret doing something than to regret not doing something. Seriously, what's the worst that could happen? It's High School, grow a pair. You should be out egging houses, destroying trash cans, partying with friends and doing stupid stuff before you turn 18.

This is probably really bad advice to be giving you. But ask already!

[Eric Piercey]

It's a lot easier to just be a loser and never ask girls out. Get her laughing and the rest is downhill.

[Demosthenes X]

where the heck did you get this list from? i completely disagree with most of those body languages...sounds like an 8th grader made it up

LOL. Obviously it's not meant to be taken seriously. It's one of those chain emails than some of my friends still send me, even through we're all 20. I thought it was kind of funny. :D

[arkitect]

It's a lot easier to just be a loser and never ask girls out. Get her laughing and the rest is downhill.

I don't think you meant that… ;)

"Get her laughing and the rest is easy." Perhaps? :p

[Iscariot]

The first step is to dress appropriately. I always approach a woman in my finest silks, silvermail polished and hair and beard braided with the teeth of my fallen foes. I don't know how many foes you've felled, but if you've yet to become a man in the eyes of Ganthitor, you could just dress it up with some of your baby teeth. Since you want to demonstrate high value, you may want to complete a hunt beforehand, a mythical creature would be best but even if you just had some hide to offer you could show that you're an ample provider for the hut.

Once you're ready to go — don't be afraid to give a little pep talk in front of a mirror, you're a stud! — you need to approach her and make your intentions known. Something along the lines of "Lo, look fore, for I am wywern209, son of [father's name], next in the line of [lineage]. I have battled the Wyrm, felled the demons of the Infernal Chasm, and in my wake lay broken homes and broken bones. My battlecry pierces the hearts of men and drowns out the sea of widows. Kneel before me and I shall have thee!"

The rest is baby-makin', infidel smiting and dying in your twenties of an easily preventable disease. Good luck!

[Badandy]

Wow.

[Melrose]

Wow.

Playing World of Warcraft probably won't help imho.. :D

[wywern209]

The first step is to dress appropriately. I always approach a woman in my finest silks, silvermail polished and hair and beard braided with the teeth of my fallen foes. I don't know how many foes you've felled, but if you've yet to become a man in the eyes of Ganthitor, you could just dress it up with some of your baby teeth. Since you want to demonstrate high value, you may want to complete a hunt beforehand, a mythical creature would be best but even if you just had some hide to offer you could show that you're an ample provider for the hut.

Once you're ready to go — don't be afraid to give a little pep talk in front of a mirror, you're a stud! — you need to approach her and make your intentions known. Something along the lines of "Lo, look fore, for I am wywern209, son of [father's name], next in the line of [lineage]. I have battled the Wyrm, felled the demons of the Infernal Chasm, and in my wake lay broken homes and broken bones. My battlecry pierces the hearts of men and drowns out the sea of widows. Kneel before me and I shall have thee!"

The rest is baby-makin', infidel smiting and dying in your twenties of an easily preventable disease. Good luck!

LOL, i doubt that is going to work...:P i don't live in the middle ages with knights and stuff. sry, merlin, not from ur time.

[zombie1210]

To the OP:

Get any yet?
:D

[macthegreat]

Without reading the 5 pages, and to answer the OP, you simply tell the girl, "I'm hot, you're hot, let's go out". Done.

[wywern209]

Without reading the 5 pages, and to answer the OP, you simply tell the girl, "I'm hot, you're hot, let's go out". Done.

lol, i can't even ask the girl out normally. how the heck u expect me to pull that off.

[Fiveos22]

Girls love a guy who can dance:

How To Dance [Youtube] (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M5qx-MVrXfk)

[OutThere]

Without reading the 5 pages, and to answer the OP, you simply tell the girl, "I'm hot, you're hot, let's *******". Done.

better.

[Abstract]

Do you have any good skills?

[macthegreat]

lol, i can't even ask the girl out normally. how the heck u expect me to pull that off.

That's because you are choosing to place a limit on yourself :)

[MrM]

Do you have any good skills?

Girls only like guys with skills.

[macthegreat]

Girls only like guys with skills.

And a massive penis.

[wywern209]

well, i am a pretty good artist( good at drawing). and can use color pencils and paint well. would that work?

[wywern209]

That's because you are choosing to place a limit on yourself :)

hmm, how to put this. i am not choosing to put the limit, my own frikin mind is doing that. its not like i want to be constrained like this.:rolleyes:

[hatehereyes]

well, i am a pretty good artist( good at drawing). and can use color pencils and paint well. would that work?

honestly each girl is different and at the same time exactly alike.

What some girls would think is extremely sweet and cute, others would think it's a lame attempt.
My advice is what a few other people have said: stop being afraid of rejection and just ask her in a the most comfortable way. Which seems like the best for you would be just to go up to her and be as polite as you can and ask her if she would like to go out sometime. The worst she could say is no but it's not the end of the world. At least after that she'll know that you show interest in her and maybe she'll come looking for you.

[wywern209]

k, i have another thing. what does it say about somebody when they are being sort secretive i guess? when i or just about anybody asks her what she did the past weekend, she just says nothing. well, maybe she did nothing but she could elaborate. this happens every single week. Is it possible to get her to open up?

[NT1440]

k, i have another thing. what does it say about somebody when they are being sort secretive i guess? when i or just about anybody asks her what she did the past weekend, she just says nothing. well, maybe she did nothing but she could elaborate. this happens every single week. Is it possible to get her to open up?
Dont get her to open up, become her weekend plans.

"what did u do this weekend?"

"nothing really"

"well thats boring, this weekend how bout you get out and lets see a movie or something?"

Don't try to sound too much like your asking, kinda just say it playfully and gauge her reaction.

[flyinmac]

I've always gone the light-hearted casual route. Just throw something out there and see what the response is. If you're already good friends, perhaps a simple joke about dating or "hooking up" would be taken well. If she says yeah right, then you've not really committed yourself. And, if she flirts back, and ups the ante, then you've broken the ice.

Many of my girlfriends became girlfriends after simply doing some rather innocent flirting and then peaking their interest to the point that they just had to go for it.

And, depending on the girl, sometimes a direct "hey, wanna *****" is all you need. Either they blow it off as a light-hearted joke, and you have some fun with an interesting conversation, or you find that they're interested and get together.

But, then again, I used to make a lot of suggestive comments (which were really just in fun) to most of my female friends. And, we were all used to flirting for the hell of it and just having fun. So, I could just throw something out there and see which way it went. Either way, it was always fun. Either it led to a very interesting and fun conversation, or it led to something... Shall we say hotter. Sometimes I got both reactions (which was particularly nice).

Be careful though... Last time I made a suggestive comment to a woman about just having some fun, I ended up married (been nearly 15 years now).

But, that's not bad either. Now I can just say what's on my mind, and tell her as directly as I want. Sure, there's a time for soft and gentle approaches. But, the more direct ones will usually get you a response other than being softly declined.

I'd rather put it directly and either have a fun flirtatious conversation (or be taken up on my offer), than take a soft gentle approach that would be easier to decline.

Think of it this way... You go up and say "would you like to go out with me?", and she says (likely in a very gentle and polite way) no thank you. Or, you can just be direct, and then most likely even a rejection would be fun and take the relationship to a more interesting level.

If you up the friendship to fun and flirtatious, then at least you've gained some ground. Then, perhaps you'll have some more interesting and flirtatious conversations. And, perhaps over time, she'll decide that she'd like to do more than just talk about getting together.

Of course, I guess that all depends on the girl. I've never really gone after the shy quiet ones. So, if the innocent type is what you're after, then you're on your own :D

[flyinmac]

k, i have another thing. what does it say about somebody when they are being sort secretive i guess? when i or just about anybody asks her what she did the past weekend, she just says nothing.


Could be she went to rehab and doesn't want to talk about it...

Could be she has some hobbies she doesn't want anyone to know about (perhaps a nerd in prep's make-up).

Could be she has a job as a stripper.

Could be she went down on your best friend and doesn't want to talk about it.

Could be she spends the weekends with relatives, and doesn't care to get into the reason why.

Could be she lives in a controlling household and has very little personal life.

Perhaps she's only allowed to leave the house for school, and tries to act like she has a normal childhood.

Could be that there's some sort of issues at home that she doesn't want to discuss.

Could be she's just shy.

Could be she's in a book club, and spends all her time reading novels and getting together with others to discuss them.

Could be that she's responsible for all the missing people in your town.

Could mean that she has a boring life and tries to pretend it's great when she's with her friends.

Could be she spends every weekend working in the garden.

Could be she spends the weekend figuring out scientific theories.

Could be that she spent the weekend talking to aliens.

Could be that whatever it was, you don't want to know about it.

[rhsgolfer33]

well, i am a pretty good artist( good at drawing). and can use color pencils and paint well. would that work?

Yeah, that totally works, draw her a Liger. Or a draw her a portrait, both will definitely get you the girl.

[jecapaga]

Do you have any good skills?

Excellent observation..what is your typing speed WPM. :)

[flyinmac]

Excellent observation..what is your typing speed WPM. :)

Dangerous question to ask a dateless guy ;)

Perhaps you should specify... Typing speed with one hand, or with two? :D

Now... Just teasing.

But, if you type well enough, you could always offer to type her papers. Maybe slip something in with her homework and see if she catches it. Just a little tease....

[Melrose]

Yeah, that totally works, draw her a Liger. Or a draw her a portrait, both will definitely get you the girl.
I was going to say build her a cake, or something..

And a massive penis.
Oh, there's the root of everything.. No, of course men aren't chauvinist pigs!

[Rapmastac1]

Well, it's tuesday and I await your results. If you are man enough that is...

[wywern209]

lol, no, nothing has happened today cuz we were both in dif classrooms and it was one exam after another so, no.

[TheDance511]

GOD it will either happen or it wont... what are you gonna do about it? ANYTHING??? if not, then step down...but if so..let her know....

[fotografica]

Cripes man..Piss or get off the pot..Honestly,strap it on and make a move..

[flyinmac]

Yep, if you don't ask her out, be assured that someone else will. Then you can look forward to her talking with you (her friend) about all the stuff she loves doing with her new boyfriend (which would be someone else).

If you want a chance, you have to go for it.

But, if you like hearing about the great stuff she might do with someone else, then just wait and take your time.

[phas3]

what happened to this weeekend?

[Keebler]

Say this: "Hi, I think you're cute. Want to go out with me at some point?"

If she asks you if other people will be there, or if she asks you who else to invite, then consider it the equivalent of "No thanks."




And then hand them to her to make it official. You may as well. Once you start dating, she'll have you by the balls. Marriage is supposed to be the same, except she has a firmer grip.

lol way to pump him up abstract :) lol

not saying it's not true... :)

[Demosthenes X]

Could be she went to rehab and doesn't want to talk about it...

Could be she has some hobbies she doesn't want anyone to know about (perhaps a nerd in prep's make-up).

Could be she has a job as a stripper.

Could be she went down on your best friend and doesn't want to talk about it.

Could be she spends the weekends with relatives, and doesn't care to get into the reason why.

Could be she lives in a controlling household and has very little personal life.

Perhaps she's only allowed to leave the house for school, and tries to act like she has a normal childhood.

Could be that there's some sort of issues at home that she doesn't want to discuss.

Could be she's just shy.

Could be she's in a book club, and spends all her time reading novels and getting together with others to discuss them.

Could be that she's responsible for all the missing people in your town.

Could mean that she has a boring life and tries to pretend it's great when she's with her friends.

Could be she spends every weekend working in the garden.

Could be she spends the weekend figuring out scientific theories.

Could be that she spent the weekend talking to aliens.

Could be that whatever it was, you don't want to know about it.

LMAO... brilliant.

Yep, if you don't ask her out, be assured that someone else will. Then you can look forward to her talking with you (her friend) about all the stuff she loves doing with her new boyfriend (which would be someone else).

If you want a chance, you have to go for it.

But, if you like hearing about the great stuff she might do with someone else, then just wait and take your time.

And this, sadly, is too true. Speak now, or forever hold your peace. :/

[nickspohn]

You might as well just ask now, because if you never ask, you'll never go out with her, and if she says no, you'll never go out with her.

[wywern209]

i'm gonna spend the next few weeks getting to know her better. perhaps get her to open up about weekends, even if she is an assassin, i don't care. :p i like assassins. then , after 2-3 weeks i shall make my move! muahahaha! that is my plan. now lets just hope it works.:rolleyes: well, if it doesn't worst case, i will spiral into depression, but i am not affected by death so i doubt its going to be that bad. only my own freaking mind, which i have control over is holding me back. for example, my mind has fears i have no idea about. my doctor suggests hypnosis to get rid of it.

[apsterling]

i'm gonna spend the next few weeks getting to know her better. perhaps get her to open up about weekends, even if she is an assassin, i don't care. :p i like assassins. then , after 2-3 weeks i shall make my move! muahahaha! that is my plan. now lets just hope it works.:rolleyes: well, if it doesn't worst case, i will spiral inot depression, but iam not affected by death so i doubt its going to be that bad. only my own frikin mind, which i have control over is holding me back. for example, my mind has fears i have no idea about. my doctor suggests hypnosis to get rid of it.

I suggest a spellcheck and English course from the nearest teacher.

[wywern209]

the point of a language is to communicate.i believe i got my point across.

[phas3]

so the whole plan on friday didn't work out I am guessing?

dude...just do it, it aint going to make a difference 3 weeks from now. If she likes you she'll want to go out, if she doesn't then she wont. Giving it another 3 weeks is just another opportunity for another guy to swoop in.

[polishmacuser]

well to all the guys that that said just go up to her and ask her is a little easier typed then done :p if its a girl that he really like its pretty hard and hell if none of you had any problems of just asking a girl then you got either great balls or just the girl didnt really matter for you idk because i cant even get one im scared ******** when i even think about it. Mind it im 17, i did it once and my legs literally started to shake :p its hard but eventually you will have to overcome it. GOod luck :D

[apsterling]

the point of a language is to communicate.i believe i got my point across.

The point of grammar is to help people take you seriously whilst you get your point across. Not to slam on you, but in the working world you'd get fired for typos and bad grammar.

But to keep from going off track, just do it man, you don't want another guy to get in before you. All it takes is 30 seconds, you get in, you say it, then if the conversation ends with a date, it's good, if it ends in rejection, grab a soda and listen to a sad song. It's that easy.

Either way, you don't ask her, you don't get the date, you get rejected you get the date, you ask her and you might get the date or more, and it's not like you've got anything to lose?

[flyinmac]

All postponing it really does, is give you more time to build it up in your mind, get more nervous, and then find more reasons that you're afraid to ask.

If she says no, then you've saved a week or two of agonizing over it before she says no. Gives you your time back to perhaps find another girl you like.

If she says yes, then you're a few weeks ahead and can move on to enjoying your time with her.

If you haven't just met each other like yesterday, then she's probably already got an idea of whether she would possibly be interested in you.

But, realistically, a girl has probably already decided if you stand even a remote chance with her by the time you've seen her.

So, if she knows you're alive, then she probably already knows whether there's any way in your wildest dreams that she might possibly consider dating you.

You can either find out now, or agonize about it for a few weeks and then try to overcome the wall you build in the mean time.

[OutThere]

I don't know why these girl-help-on-a-computer-forum threads always fascinate me so much...but I can never resist. :D


Look man, the 'give it a few weeks' strategy isn't going to get you anywhere. That is you avoiding and delaying the moment because you're scared. We're all scared to take the plunge the first time...the first time off the high dive, the first time skiing a black diamond, the first time skydiving, the first time at a job interview, whatever. The first time I asked a girl out (when I was 12/7th grade) I was scared as hell, but my friends pushed me to do it. Once you've done it once it's nowhere near as hard the next time. Do it now! I can't even imagine the last 8 years of my life if I had spent them being scared of girls. To be honest picking up girls is one of my favorite activities. Don't miss out!

[Rapmastac1]

Yeah dude, the longer you wait the harder it will be to ask. I don't know how you think this plan will work. I had these same plans years ago. I would say, I'm going to ask her out in a week. Then that week comes up and I get scared, so I say I will do something else to get to know her more. BUT, all I do is get more and more nervous. I find, if you like a girl, just ask her out then and there.

Heck, I would be surprised now a days if I wait more than two days to ask a girl out. Most of the girls I ask out are girls I have never met before.

[DiamondMac]

I always make sure I am slightly intoxicated

It helps a LOT

[flyinmac]

I always make sure I am slightly intoxicated

It helps a LOT

Unless she doesn't care for drunks ;)

Beer breath is not so great for getting women. But, then I'm a Vodka man (and you'd need a closet full of any alcohol to get me drunk - crazy high tolerance).

No, calm nerves, and no weird smells will get you further. After all, who wants to date someone who approaches them smelling of Alcohol? But, then that's just me I guess.

Now, one drink, and still fully normal is fine. Anywhere near intoxicated, and the only thing I think of is one night stand (but then wouldn't because of consent questions).

Seriously, it's just better to approach any prospective mate sober. Even if you appear nervous, that's better than them thinking you might be a drunk (even if you're not).

[gibbz]

How to ask a girl out.

You: Hello
Her: Hi! (maybe she is batting her eye lashes)

You: Would you like to go out sometime?
Her: _______

Whatever the blank winds up being, life goes on. But until you ask, the blank stays blank and you will never know. Live life with no regrets.

[flyinmac]

How to ask a girl out.

You: Hello
Her: Hi! (maybe she is batting her eye lashes)

You: Would you like to go out sometime?
Her: _______

Whatever the blank winds up being, life goes on. But until you ask, the blank stays blank and you will never know. Live life with no regrets.


Yep... Quite true... But, most of the time, if you don't ask, the blank gets filled by someone else. Well, actually, I would change that to be "All of the time".

If you don't ask, someone else will always be there to ask her.

If you like talking to her about other guys, then don't ask. Then you can listen to her go on about this wonderful (other) guy she is dating. I know this from experience (before I got smart). I know I got really tired of hearing about all the great sex my dream girl was having with a guy I didn't like (while I was relegated to "buddy" status). I imagine you would as well. So, ask now, or just forget about it altogether.

I learned that even if you were shy, you'd best speak up soon if you want to date a girl. Best to just walk up to her, open your mouth and say something quickly that you can't back down from. Once you start, you might as well finish the sentence. Don't think, act. Walk up, start talking, and then finish what you started saying. Once you get the first few words out, you're committed, so the rest comes much easier.

[anjinha]

If you haven't just met each other like yesterday, then she's probably already got an idea of whether she would possibly be interested in you.

But, realistically, a girl has probably already decided if you stand even a remote chance with her by the time you've seen her.

So, if she knows you're alive, then she probably already knows whether there's any way in your wildest dreams that she might possibly consider dating you.

You can either find out now, or agonize about it for a few weeks and then try to overcome the wall you build in the mean time.

+1. Ask her now!

[Iscariot]

i'm gonna spend the next few weeks getting to know her better. perhaps get her to open up about weekends, even if she is an assassin, i don't care. :p i like assassins. then , after 2-3 weeks i shall make my move! muahahaha! that is my plan. now lets just hope it works.:rolleyes: well, if it doesn't worst case, i will spiral into depression, but i am not affected by death so i doubt its going to be that bad. only my own freaking mind, which i have control over is holding me back. for example, my mind has fears i have no idea about. my doctor suggests hypnosis to get rid of it.

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/friends.png

[velo]

^^Did you write that?

There's a whole lot of truth right there.

[Teh Don Ditty]

^^Did you write that?

There's a whole lot of truth right there.

that would be xkcd.com

[velo]

that would be xkcd.com

Oh excellent. Another enjoyable way to pass (work)time.

[Abstract]

That's hilarious! :p That describes the original poster in many of these relationship threads. They all start off with that "strategy".


Ever since kids stopped watching Looney Toons' Pepé Le Pew (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pep%C3%A9_Le_Pew) cartoons, they have grown up to be more timid in their approach with women. :p

[flyinmac]

Just walk up to her, and say "Hello, I'm a Mac".

Boy: "Hello, I'm a Mac"

Girl: "I'm a PC... Sorry, we're not compatible"


Or, perhaps:

Boy: "Hello, I'm a Mac... Where's your USB Port?"

Girl: "Sorry, I only use Firewire... I like it hotter and faster"

[apsterling]

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/friends.png

I hate you Iscariot. :p
That strip right there sums up my life.

[Vivaldi]

Just walk up to her, and say "Hello, I'm a Mac".

Boy: "Hello, I'm a Mac"

Girl: "I'm a PC... Sorry, we're not compatible"


Or, perhaps:

Boy: "Hello, I'm a Mac... Where's your USB Port?"

Girl: "Sorry, I only use Firewire... I like it hotter and faster"...but the USB port isn't as fast. ;)

[flyinmac]

...but the USB port isn't as fast. ;)

Exactly :cool:

Some girls like to know they've been had. If she's screaming out faster, faster or Harder, Harder, then you best switch from USB to Firewire. :D

Depending on the girl, you might need a Firewire 800 interface :D

Now, if she likes is SCSI (Scuzzy), then you best just move on. As a Mac, you're not properly prepared for those kind of bugs :eek:

[TheDance511]

Bottom line...

Dont screw around
Do the job and do it right
fire wire or not

[Vivaldi]

Some girls like to know they've been had. If she's screaming out faster, faster or Harder, Harder, then you best switch from USB to Firewire. :D

Rather unfortunately, however, Firewire has the tendency for its ports to blow at random, unexpected times...

[flyinmac]

Rather unfortunately, however, Firewire has the tendency for its ports to blow at random, unexpected times...

Very Funny :D

I suppose though, that it's still better than USB. I find my USB ports tend to totally give out quite frequently. Can't even shut down the computer without using the power button.

So, I suppose a random and unexpected blow / burst would still be better than no performance at all :p

[aaquib]

1. Invite her to hang out with you and a couple of friends
2. Get her # so you can "call and confirm"
3. Go out and TALK A LOT
4. Ask her if she'd want to do it again
5. Do it up again
6. Text her that night asking if she'd want to do it again, but this time just you and her

[phas3]

man this thread should be dead, no progress at all since this was posted...sigh

[fotografica]

man this thread should be dead, no progress at all since this was posted...sigh

+1..seven pages,no move made by the OP and it turns to talk of firewire and USB.....

[orsfan21]

Its a rough combination of trying, and trying to hold back your basic natural instinct to act a fool.http://n08q1114fvte161.imageshacknow.info/img/2460/v08w1128rhlb/smile.gif Can't really give definite advice on a vague subject.

[MegaMillions]

I registered here just to answer the OPs question.

Here's how to ask a girl out. I'm not gonna give you childlike details. You've gotta figure out how to do some of it by yourself, but i'll give you an outline.

1. Arrange to hang out with her sometime. Not a date. Just you and her, hanging out. This shouldn't be hard to do. Be creative in how you manipulate circumstances in such a way that it ends up just being you and her. Just asking her is probably the best way. Ask her if she wants to hang out with you after school or something.

2. Repeat step 1 until you can manage to get her into your house, or get yourself into her house. Get to know her well enough that you feel comfortable around each other, but not well enough that you drift into the friend zone. This should all still be well within your comfort zone because you haven't said a word to her about asking her out or dating her.

3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.

4. Keep in mind, these steps can be mutated slightly depending on the reality of each persons situation, but the bottom line is, you've got to be one on one with her, be scared to ask her "something" and make sure that there's enough of a connection between you two that she shows interest and strongly encourages you to ask the question, and shows signs of liking you. It's that encounter when you finally get down to asking the question that is the ultimate goal of these steps. That's all you're working towards.

[TheDance511]

I registered here just to answer the OPs question.

Here's how to ask a girl out. I'm not gonna give you childlike details. You've gotta figure out how to do some of it by yourself, but i'll give you an outline.

1. Arrange to hang out with her sometime. Not a date. Just you and her, hanging out. This shouldn't be hard to do. Be creative in how you manipulate circumstances in such a way that it ends up just being you and her. Just asking her is probably the best way. Ask her if she wants to hang out with you after school or something.

2. Repeat step 1 until you can manage to get her into your house, or get yourself into her house. Get to know her well enough that you feel comfortable around each other, but not well enough that you drift into the friend zone. This should all still be well within your comfort zone because you haven't said a word to her about asking her out or dating her.

3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.

4. Keep in mind, these steps can be mutated slightly depending on the reality of each persons situation, but the bottom line is, you've got to be one on one with her, be scared to ask her "something" and make sure that there's enough of a connection between you two that she shows interest and strongly encourages you to ask the question, and shows signs of liking you. It's that encounter when you finally get down to asking the question that is the ultimate goal of these steps. That's all you're working towards.

HAHA thats SWEET.... I wish i had that kind of patience.... I always just act like my wacky ass self and hope it works...

[MegaMillions]

HAHA thats SWEET.... I wish i had that kind of patience.... I always just act like my wacky ass self and hope it works...

My steps aren't a malicious system that I invented in order to manipulate girls. The steps are what naturally happened when I was being myself. I noticed that they consistently worked out pretty well, and so I wrote it out in steps.

I actually am shy.. and that's why my natural behavior resulted in those steps. It does work though. :)

[TheDance511]

My steps aren't a malicious system that I invented in order to manipulate girls. The steps are what naturally happened when I was being myself. I noticed that they consistently worked out pretty well, and so I wrote it out in steps.

I actually am shy.. and that's why my natural behavior resulted in those steps. It does work though. :)

Ya see, at least you have something goin that works.. my loud personality usually sends em away, and if that doesn't most of time time it is my level of openness.. but every once and a while, once in a blue moon, I find one worthy enough to keep :o

[MegaMillions]

Ya see, at least you have something goin that works.. my loud personality usually sends em away, and if that doesn't most of time time it is my level of openness.. but every once and a while, once in a blue moon, I find one worthy enough to keep :o

That's the other thing. I find a girl that I actually want to be in a serious relationship with about once every two years.

[TheDance511]

yeah, i hear you there.... well hey, welcome to Mac Rumors though...Stay a while....:)

[MegaMillions]

yeah, i hear you there.... well hey, welcome to Mac Rumors though...Stay a while....:)

Thanks! :)

[Rapmastac1]

Just tell the OP to pop in some "HITCH" and see where that takes him...
:rolleyes:

[wywern209]

lol,i'm pretty sure she is a a person who is between USB and firewire. firewire would be way too awesome. either way, no progress. i am sorry to disappoint you guys but this is something that i have to take at my own pace due to past "incidents" in middle school. i will post if there are any updates:)
- :apple: wywern209

[MegaMillions]

lol,i'm pretty sure she is a a person who is between USB and firewire. firewire would be way too awesome. either way, no progress. i am sorry to disappoint you guys but this is something that i have to take at my own pace due to past "incidents" in middle school. i will post if there are any updates:)
- :apple: wywern209

Oh come on. Take my advice! Follow my steps. :) I can coach you through it in detail privately if you want.

edit: Sorry. You do whatever you want. It's just, i've helped people in the past before, and it's always so rewarding and fun.

[TheDance511]

lol,i'm pretty sure she is a a person who is between USB and firewire. firewire would be way too awesome. either way, no progress. i am sorry to disappoint you guys but this is something that i have to take at my own pace due to past "incidents" in middle school. i will post if there are any updates:)
- :apple: wywern209

Figure, you only get what you want about 1/4 of the time... ask for A LOT and you might get her? For real though...Good luck

[dvdhsu]

Exactly :cool:

Some girls like to know they've been had. If she's screaming out faster, faster or Harder, Harder, then you best switch from USB to Firewire. :D

Depending on the girl, you might need a Firewire 800 interface :D

Now, if she likes is SCSI (Scuzzy), then you best just move on. As a Mac, you're not properly prepared for those kind of bugs :eek:


Ha. That was the best post in this thread.
But anyways, just ask her:
"Do you like hot stuff?"
then
"Come get some hot stuff."
Classic.

[aaquib]

lol,i'm pretty sure she is a a person who is between USB and firewire. firewire would be way too awesome. either way, no progress. i am sorry to disappoint you guys but this is something that i have to take at my own pace due to past "incidents" in middle school. i will post if there are any updates:)
- :apple: wywern209

Don't think just do. Don't care just ask. Don't worry about you. Don't surrender to any task.

[nickspohn]

You are such a wussy.

[TheDance511]

http://i383.photobucket.com/albums/oo275/ocilot511/the-pickup-artist-vh1.jpg

[MacLaw]

Easy. Stop putting the ***** on a pedestal. Don't be intimidated by women. Be the man. Women are people too.

[Dagless]

Where's the OP? I want to know how this panned out :D

[dvdhsu]

Live Young, Die Fast.
Listen to the song by Alkaline Trio.

It's no big surprise
We turned out this way
It's in our eyes
Like shallow graves
But we are one with the lover and grace
We don't discriminate at all
For what it's worth

So live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and you're gone
Live young, die fast
Die fast

Young easy life
And untimely death
This doesn't work at all for me
So save your breath
You took your time
And stashed it away
Deep down inside of a cardboard box
Marked "rainy day"

Live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and it's gone
Live young, die fast

And I feel a miracle
In every breath that I breathe
Won't let this miracle
End in tragedy
I sense a miracle
In all that I see
Won't let this miracle
Slip away from me

Live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and it's gone
Live young, die fast
Live young, die fast
Die fast
Live young, die fast
No one will last
So sit back and relax
Enjoy the crash
You're fading to black and it's gone
Live young, die fast
Die fast

[dvdhsu]

Who knows, you could be dead tomorrow.:o
Just go for it.

[flyinmac]

Where's the OP? I want to know how this panned out :D

He said in his post today that he had not approached her yet

[ich1ban]

Sorry if this has been posted already but just go up to her and ask "Does this smell like chloroform to you?"

:D

[pac-a-mac]

I cringe now but one of my most successful lines was

"are you wearing stocking and sussies (garter belt & nylons..for the colonials) under your bike leathers?" she was and we are still together 25 years later:D

PS I used to find being drunk was a good ice breake in my pubescent days...it was amazing how few are put off by this..perhaps I just approached the wrong kinda gal:o

[MegaMillions]

All this stuff about how to start a conversation with a girl, or what pick up line to use, etc, is completely superficial and bears no relevance to how a relationship will actually work out once the people get to know each other. In a socially dysfunctional level that comes before getting to know somebody, there exists all this crap about how to dress to make them like you, or what to say, or how to behave. It's all meaningless in reality. I feel really sad when I think about guys who get rejected by immature barbie dolls and then feel like they're never gonna have a girlfriend. It doesn't mean anything. It bears no relevance whatsoever on a real relationship between two people who have gotten to know each other. It's like a stupid game people play before they just cut it out and get to know each other.

[zombie1210]

Most girls/women these days tend to be a little on the dumb side, so it doesn't make sense to take the intelligent approach. Just asking them if they want to go back to your place seems to work as well as anything else.

[XnavxeMiyyep]

"If I asked you to go out with me, would your answer be the same as your answer to this question?"

[NT1440]

Most girls/women these days tend to be a little on the dumb side, so it doesn't make sense to take the intelligent approach. Just asking them if they want to go back to your place seems to work as well as anything else.

:rolleyes:

You mean the ones that think being dumb is the same as being cute. Otherwise thats a massive insult.

[phas3]

I registered here just to answer the OPs question.

Here's how to ask a girl out. I'm not gonna give you childlike details. You've gotta figure out how to do some of it by yourself, but i'll give you an outline.

1. Arrange to hang out with her sometime. Not a date. Just you and her, hanging out. This shouldn't be hard to do. Be creative in how you manipulate circumstances in such a way that it ends up just being you and her. Just asking her is probably the best way. Ask her if she wants to hang out with you after school or something.

2. Repeat step 1 until you can manage to get her into your house, or get yourself into her house. Get to know her well enough that you feel comfortable around each other, but not well enough that you drift into the friend zone. This should all still be well within your comfort zone because you haven't said a word to her about asking her out or dating her.

3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.

4. Keep in mind, these steps can be mutated slightly depending on the reality of each persons situation, but the bottom line is, you've got to be one on one with her, be scared to ask her "something" and make sure that there's enough of a connection between you two that she shows interest and strongly encourages you to ask the question, and shows signs of liking you. It's that encounter when you finally get down to asking the question that is the ultimate goal of these steps. That's all you're working towards.


shyness and insecurity? If i was a chick and you acted like that I wouldn't want to date you...first of all don't show your insecure that'll just give her a hint on how **** would be like if you where to be in a relationship together. Shyness? there's a fine line between being shy and having no balls. Acting like you're scared to ask her something will just either make her want to know cause of course everyone wants to know something they don't know or she can just say oh well whatever. Either way its hard to READ a girl acting like that.

btw what "incidents" happened in middle school?

[Demosthenes X]

lol,i'm pretty sure she is a a person who is between USB and firewire. firewire would be way too awesome. either way, no progress. i am sorry to disappoint you guys but this is something that i have to take at my own pace due to past "incidents" in middle school. i will post if there are any updates:)
- :apple: wywern209

Whatever you do... don't compare her to Firewire or USB. :eek:

[zombie1210]

:rolleyes:

You mean the ones that think being dumb is the same as being cute. Otherwise thats a massive insult.

I see and hear dozens and dozens of girls every day. I stand by my statement.

[mrkramer]

Whatever you do... don't compare her to Firewire or USB. :eek:

But if he does I hope he has a friend record it on video and post it here so we can see the reaction.;)

[P-Worm]

I see and hear dozens and dozens of girls every day. I stand by my statement.

I second the statement. And this only comes from personal experience with them.

P-Worm

[Abstract]

3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.


That's really, really embarrassing. Grow a pair and ask out the girl rather than ask her a lame ass pre-question to see if she's interested or attracted to you so that you can be spared the pain of asking your real question: "Do you want to go out with me?" She's not stupid enough not to realize what's going on, so when she answers your question with a yes or no, you already have your answer, and she has already given hers. I know that's what you're going for in order to spare yourself any "pain", but in reality, you're not really sparing yourself at all. "Yes" means success, and "no" means failure. The only difference between asking, "Are you attracted to me?", and, "Do you want to go out with me?" is that you end up looking like a coward. That's it. You still get your answer, but you're a coward.


Do you watch a lot of Adam Sandler movies or something?

[Mr. Giver '94]

If you want to take things at your own pace that's perfectly fine. Maybe compliment her about the way she wears her hair one day or what she's wearing or something. Women always enjoy it when people (regardless of gender) notice something like that. It doesn't have to be flirty, just something that she will remember when you finally decide to ask her. :)

[SOLLERBOY]

any update?

[wywern209]

btw what "incidents" happened in middle school?

the "incidents" were very relevant to this as i asked a friend of mine to ask this one girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime. i was turned down and it felt like a frikin stake was driven into me. since then, this has been a not so good topic for me.

[daneoni]

the "incidents" were very relevant to this as i asked a friend of mine to ask this one girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime. i was turned down and it felt like a frikin stake was driven into me. since then, this has been a not so good topic for me.

Never ask someone to do it for you...its weak and very unlikely to work.

[nobunaga209]

grow a pair and do it
sorry,but thats really the only way lol

Truer words have never been spoken. Every guy has been there before and those of us that get over it and just get it done reap the rewards...or the EPIC fail...either way...this IS your ONLY option buddy. Good luck!! ;)

[nobunaga209]

I registered here just to answer the OPs question.

Here's how to ask a girl out. I'm not gonna give you childlike details. You've gotta figure out how to do some of it by yourself, but i'll give you an outline.

1. Arrange to hang out with her sometime. Not a date. Just you and her, hanging out. This shouldn't be hard to do. Be creative in how you manipulate circumstances in such a way that it ends up just being you and her. Just asking her is probably the best way. Ask her if she wants to hang out with you after school or something.

2. Repeat step 1 until you can manage to get her into your house, or get yourself into her house. Get to know her well enough that you feel comfortable around each other, but not well enough that you drift into the friend zone. This should all still be well within your comfort zone because you haven't said a word to her about asking her out or dating her.

3. After you've established these circumstances, wait until a time when just you and her are hanging out together, and tell her that there's something you have to ask her, but that you're scared to. She'll show interest, and find your shyness and insecurity attractive. Keep her on the hook for a while, even a few hours (i've done it). Tell her that you really want to ask her this question, but you're really scared. Try and start asking her but then fail to have the courage to bring the words out. Eventually, you can finally ask her something like "do you think i'm attractive?" Tell her that that's not your actual question, but that you chickened out. Based on her answer, you'll know whether you can ask her out or not. Finally, after she thinks you're adorable, and has repeatedly encouraged you to just ask her whatever it is you want to ask her, ask her if she'd like to go out with you. If she doesn't want to by this point, then it wasn't meant to be, you have been spared and there is nothing to be sad about.

4. Keep in mind, these steps can be mutated slightly depending on the reality of each persons situation, but the bottom line is, you've got to be one on one with her, be scared to ask her "something" and make sure that there's enough of a connection between you two that she shows interest and strongly encourages you to ask the question, and shows signs of liking you. It's that encounter when you finally get down to asking the question that is the ultimate goal of these steps. That's all you're working towards.

Bro, let's be real here. If you come at any self respective chic with shtick like that your liable to be laughed at, forever. C'mon now...there really isn't any "strategy" involved with women; yes I'll admit different "tactics" can be used, but for the most part you either step up and TALK to her like a real guy would or you let it pass and try to be in the "friend zone" while Spencer [captain of the football team] steps in and takes care of business...just saying...

While we're on the subject, you know you're wrong for getting that script from the "How to talk to Chics for Dummies" book....shame shame shame on you... :p

[heehee]

the "incidents" were very relevant to this as i asked a friend of mine to ask this one girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime. i was turned down and it felt like a frikin stake was driven into me. since then, this has been a not so good topic for me.

Do you want your friend to have sex with her too? :D Ask yourself, just ask and don't think too much about it. :)

[sporadicMotion]

Go watch a sappy ass movie with her and see if you can kiss her. If she kicks you in the face... it's a no go. Sucking face is easier than talking sometimes.

[ChrisA]

k, there is this one girl at school who i rly like but when i decide to walk up to her and attempt to ask her out, i get all nervous.....

OK no joking here is some real advice....

You can't expect to be good at anything you have not done a lot. No on can be. My son is only a few years older than you and wanted a job. what I told him was that he needs to learn how to ask. So I say... Go to about a dozen places where you likely will NOT get hired and ask about work. The idea here is to learn how to ask for work. You learn that you need to look presentable, speak confedently, look at the person you are talking to and. You will also llean about how to deal with saying "NO, Not you, leave...". Then after some time go after the job you really want.

The above applies here. Make a goal to ask some number of girls out every week. Remember the part about "can't expect to be good at anything you have not done a lot".

OK now for a direct answer to you question: Start with some kind of small talk and see if a conversation develops past "what time is it?" Then after a few minutes ask her. If you can't even exchange four sentences with her she's not interested in you at all. Ask her to do/go something or some place with you that is very non-threatening and easy and low key. The hardest part of this whole process is asking the right girl. Likely you will get this part wrong, many times. But luckily there are about 1 billion to choose from and time is on your side.

What was that I said about "You can't expect to be good at anything you have not done a lot".

[rfrankl]

I think we need to have that VH1 guy Mystery give this guy some advice...lol.

By the time you ask her out, I think somebody will already have.

[ikermalli]

Say it nicely, i just asked a girl out recently, we're going out this weekend :)
Yeah, what the other guy said, grow a pair

Just be like, hey, [insert small talk here, compliments, etc. (not too long though)], so I was just wondering if you'd want to go out with me to [insert activity here] sometime.

[fotografica]

the "incidents" were very relevant to this as i asked a friend of mine to ask this one girl if she wanted to go out with me sometime. i was turned down and it felt like a frikin stake was driven into me. since then, this has been a not so good topic for me.

Guess what? Rejection is part of life. It isn't all "hearts and flowers". The earlier on in life that you learn that,the better off you'll be. Nine pages on how to ask a girl out :confused: http://i59.photobucket.com/albums/g301/Captainandcoke/coco.gif

[Dagless]

Almost 7 years back I told a friend that I fancied a girl on my course, a few days later during a drinking sesh he rang her and told her my thoughts about her. But it really helped since I was being all secretive.

Few days after that I asked her out and she thought I was just joking! Plucked up the courage and asked her out again a couple of days later whilst walking up to a lecture. But we were good friends at the time and everyone and their cat knew we were going to happen, so it wasn't as if I was jumping in blind. This was at age 16.

It's always easier if you know that person well, but that can be said for anything. The only nerve racking thing for me is when its unpredictable.


About a year before I asked a girl out who I barely knew and that was just a big mistake. She said no and I felt a little gutted, but the worse part was the embarassing moments seeing her in the classes we took together. :o

[maestro55]

I hope by now you have asked the girl out. If not, than I hope you will. Believe me, every guy on this forum who has asked ladies out have likely been rejected. Sure you meet the occasional sweet talking stud that doesn't have to worry too much about rejection; however, all of us have gone for it. Frankly that is the least of your worries in the dating world.

I think that if you really think that something might be there than you should certainly ask her out and see where things go. You will never know till you try to make something happen.

[ikermalli]

I hope by now you have asked the girl out. If not, than I hope you will. Believe me, every guy on this forum who has asked ladies out have likely been rejected. Sure you meet the occasional sweet talking stud that doesn't have to worry too much about rejection; however, all of us have gone for it. Frankly that is the least of your worries in the dating world.

I think that if you really think that something might be there than you should certainly ask her out and see where things go. You will never know till you try to make something happen.

What about people's luck here? I've been rejected 1 time out of 4 (different girls).

So success rate: 75%

More in the future, I still have a while before I finish school (9th Grade).

[flyinmac]

What about people's luck here? I've been rejected 1 time out of 4 (different girls).

So success rate: 75%

More in the future, I still have a while before I finish school (9th Grade).

As a kid, I would say that I was not really rejected much. Of the girls I decided to actually ask, I would say only 1 or 2 probably didn't go out with me.

Of course there's lots of girls I never asked. Sometimes out of fear of rejection. But, the thing is, if you never ask, they'll never say yes.

When I was really young, I think I perceived more rejection than I received. It was lack of confidence more than actual rejection. And, later I learned from many women that they had been interested in me in high school but thought that I wouldn't be interested in them. So, if I had only had the courage to ask them then, they would have said yes. So, essentially, they were afraid I would reject them, and I was afraid they would reject me. And, because of that, we never dated.

Talking with them later when I'd see them somewhere (in my early 20's) revealed a lot of missed opportunities. Bumping into their mothers revealed some very interesting feelings that the girls had for me that I never knew about (mom's tell all about their daughters).

So, I say ask now. They'll never say yes if you don't ask. And, if they say no, then you're no worse off than if you hadn't asked.

Lately, as an adult, I find that I have inadvertently been getting a very high success rate. Unfortunately, I'm not interested in dating them. I'm married.

So, I guess you could say that I'm in the interesting spot of declining dates. And, found some of the women quite aggressive (in such a way that I could not describe here without being censored).

But, of course I'm married. And, while the attention is nice, it's not something I'm interested in doing.

But, if you want a girl to notice you, and be interested, then you need to first appear interesting.

No matter where you are, appear as though you're having a good time. And, appear not to care whether you're there alone or not. Just have a good time.

Someone may notice you and come over and introduce themselves. Or, if you see someone you like, go introduce yourself to them. But, if you look like you're lonely or boring, then going over and introducing yourself likely won't do any good (especially if they've noticed you before you approached them).

So, have fun. Be fun. Look like you are quite comfortable wherever you are, and are having a good time even if you're alone. And, just appear to be enjoying yourself and your surroundings.

When I go to a bar, it is the people who are having fun that I approach and introduce myself to. And, likewise, when I'm alone, I still have a good time enjoying the band, the things happening around me, and whatever else. And, that draws people to me.

Some of the people that approach me are interesting and I hang out with them for a while. And, some are not very interesting, and I am nice to them and talk with them a little, but also let them know (without saying anything about it) that I am not really interested in having a conversation.

Many of the women who make a move on me are still quite interesting to talk with and hang out with even after I tell them I'm not interested in anything sexual or romantic with them. But, you have to be the kind of person who can say no without making it a rejection. You just let them know that it's something you're not interested in doing with anyone you meet, and still show them that you think that they are an interesting person. And, usually a very interesting conversation and good time hanging out will still follow.

[STSNorthstar]

You walk up to her an say, "I make a great breakfast."