Not all computer users are that literate, though, so its always best to give them a helping hand. I mean, look at how long we've been spewing "don't click on unknown attachments", but we still see this week after week with new viruses.
Just because a program "phones home" doesn't automatically qualify it as spyware. I mean, Software Update "phones home," as do other apps with auto-update facilities. SpyWare is such that it collects information about you (whether your surfing habits, your daily activities, maybe even personal files) and transmits this to parties without your knowledge/permission (usually these are "forgotten" by the user). But there are also apps that have "spyware"-type activities. Case in point is the Hotline client (adware).
While there aren't any known annoying spyware on Mac OS X yet, it isn't impossible to write one. And like in MS Windows, a potential spyware program CAN run on startup, by simply being put in the /Library/StartupItems folder. And what's worse is that, since these programs need not have an icon or somesuch, they don't appear in the "programs list" when you invoke the Force Quit menu. Rather, you'd have to look at the entire process list, and not all applications there have exactly obvious names to most users (e.g. smbd, nmbd, nfsiod, rpc.lockd are alien to most users).