Should I ask this girl out?

[PowerMacPro]

Hey guys and girls,

First of all let me explain that I am using this noob account because I don't like the name of my other one...It's kind of dumb. But anyway, I just graduated high school and now I'm an upcoming Freshman at Rhodes College in Memphis, Tennessee (Go Lynx!). There's a girl that I just graduated with that I have known since 5th grade who is going to a school not far away from me. The reason I mention our colleges is because of the fact that a long distance relationship (gross) in college wouldn't be that hard for us because we will only be about 4 hours away from each other. Up until a few months ago, I never realized how much I've liked her. I won't say I love her because I honestly don't...I just really like her. Anyway, it's hard for me to decide if I should ask her out on a date or not. We have done numerous things together (movies, dinner, etc.), but we are not officially "dating." I don't know how to go about asking her to be my girlfriend. Sometimes it seems like she would be interested in dating and other times it's kind of a mystery. Tell me what you all think I should do...I would appreciate it a lot. Thanks.

[Chaszmyr]

The answer to your question is almost always yes. If it is your best friend's girlfriend, maybe not. If it's your roommate, maybe not depending on circumstances. If it's your sister, definitely not. But almost always, the answer is if you have the guts to do it, you should do it. You probably shouldn't expect to love a girl before you're in a relationship. I know that people talk about love at first sight, but usually love is something that develops over time.

[biturbomunkie]

ummm... are you sure you wanna ask dating advice on a forum that's filled with geeks? :D

anyways, if you are nervous to ask her out, then just make it seem less "official." just kick it with her and have a good time.

[ghall]

Is she hot?

No seriously dude. Take my famous 2 word phrase to heart: do it!

ummm... are you sure you wanna ask dating advice on a forum that's filled with geeks? :D

LOL. I know.

[Leareth]

Well you obviously enjoy her company, ask her out and only her - no friends, no buddies etc.
see how that feels if you both enjoy the company why not ask her to go out steady with you?
If she says no - well you will still have a friend (hopefully) who will enjoy your company but not a girlfriend label

In my own terms of reference a GF/BF is someone I know well and am intimate with - going to to movies/dinner/dancing does not equate that.
then they are just a good friend.

[jsw]

First of all let me explain that I am using this noob account because I don't like the name of my other one...It's kind of dumb.
We don't allow multiple registrations. You can PM Doctor Q and ask to change your name; he'll provide some guidelines for doing so, and, if they are met, would likely change it for you.

In any event, you're welcome to repost this as "you", but this new account won't be allowed.

[biturbomunkie]

going to to movies/dinner/dancing does not equate that.
then they are just a good friend.

o rly?

dang i thought i was ubber popular... :(