Is it Okay for a Straight Guy to go to a Gay Dance Club? [Archive]

Rapmastac1

Oct 3, 2009, 03:11 PM

I'm a straight guy and recently have been going to Club Sound here in Salt Lake City. The first time was by a mix up when the website wasn't updated, all I saw was women get in free so I'm like heck yes! Well it was the opposite as it was "Gossip" night. But man I had more fun that night than I ever have had in any club.

Is it wrong for me to go to Gay clubs, I can't go to normal clubs anymore because no one really dances. When I go to normal clubs, I feel like I'm the only one who is there to dance and maybe get a few phone numbers, but I'm certainly not on the prowl. At this club, it's much more relaxed and there is no stress involved with dancing with people. If a guy started hitting on me (they were telling me to take my shirt off, big sign, haha) I tell them right off that I'm straight but we can still party.

To get something straight though, I don't go to dance clubs to meet girls. I prefer to meet them "out in the wild" if you will. Right now is a time in my life where I just want to enjoy myself and not have to worry about a ball 'n' chain so to say. I just go to have fun with my friends, and have made a lot of new friends doing so.

What are your thoughts?

electroshock

Oct 3, 2009, 03:14 PM

Nothing wrong with that. As long as you're having fun, being upfront with people who hit on you, and not causing issues, I say, have a good time. :)

(It's a little different had you been a straight guy crashing a gay club that caters to lesbians, though.)

tofagerl

Oct 3, 2009, 03:23 PM

People hit on eachother in all kinds of clubs. They don't expect you to immediately take your pants off, so you shouldn't feel guilty for not being interested ;)

CylonGlitch

Oct 3, 2009, 03:24 PM

Nothing wrong with that. As long as you're having fun, being upfront with people who hit on you, and not causing issues, I say, have a good time. :)

Nope, nothing wrong with it at all. Nothing wrong with getting your pants pounded once in a while too. Each their own.

dukebound85

Oct 3, 2009, 03:25 PM

not my cup of tea as i dont like dancing with dudes

anjinha

Oct 3, 2009, 03:27 PM

Nothing wrong with that if you're comfortable. And I agree, gay clubs are more fun, people dance more there. :)

jmann

Oct 3, 2009, 03:29 PM

Yes Nick you should go to club sound! Don't worry, I see straight guys there all the time! There are always straight girls there too! Don't be worried. :) Just go and have fun. BTW who have you been going with? People from The Sizz or what?

not my cup of tea as i dont like dancing with dudes

You don't have to dance with guys when you go there. You dance with other girls or the friends that you go with. :)

It's America. FREEDOM! Yes, it is okay. But I can't imagine a straight guy going to one. O_o

You obviously have never been to one before. There are always a lot of straight guys there that go with their girlfriends because the girlfriends don't wanna get hit on, or they like the music better. It's not weird at all.

laughingperson5

Oct 3, 2009, 03:30 PM

It's America. FREEDOM! Yes, it is okay. But I can't imagine a straight guy going to one. O_o

Ttownbeast

Oct 3, 2009, 11:32 PM

Usually the drinks are cheaper and you make a few friends should a fight break out around the neighborhood of the club it's strange at first when a drag queen has your back but you wont regret it--its nice being the token straight.

.Andy

Oct 3, 2009, 11:38 PM

not my cup of tea as i dont like dancing with dudes
Although you like to watch ;) (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=776091)

OP of course you can go to a gay club :)

aristobrat

Oct 3, 2009, 11:58 PM

not my cup of tea as i dont like dancing with dudes
Same here, and I'm gay. It's mostly because I can't dance though. :)

There are a lot of hot straight girls that go to gay clubs out here with their gay friends.

My smarter straight guy friends have figured that out, and it really works to their advantage. Seems like some of the girls find it very cool when a straight guy is comfortable enough to have fun in a gay bar.

Randman

Oct 3, 2009, 11:59 PM

Back in the 1990s, the gay club in Myrtle Beach was popular with straights on Saturday nights as it stayed open much later than other clubs. Once you hit past midnight, the mix slowly changed to about half straight/half gay.

The music was good, the attitude low, the bartenders were cool and the owner was very involved in social work in the city.

It was a fun place to go.

Now, once I went with 2 stripper friends (me = straight guy, them = 2 straight stripper chicks) on a Wednesday night where we might have been the only straights there. The music was still good but the vibe was ... different. We got a ton of stares that night since we were the different ones.

But other than that, it was fun. If you enjoy the club and aren't put off by possible same-sex pda and even being hit on by a gay, then enjoy it.

cantthinkofone

Oct 4, 2009, 12:02 AM

I guess. I wouldn't be caught dead in one.

ucfgrad93

Oct 4, 2009, 12:10 AM

Personally, I wouldn't go to a gay club.

Iscariot

Oct 4, 2009, 12:11 AM

Gay clubs are way better than straight clubs.

LowEnder

Oct 4, 2009, 12:31 AM

It's fine!
Dance and have fun!

dukebound85

Oct 4, 2009, 12:36 AM

Although you like to watch ;) (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=776091)

OP of course you can go to a gay club :)

lol a bit different context

shivermetimbers

Oct 4, 2009, 12:37 AM

Whatever floats your boat mano.

Rapmastac1

Oct 4, 2009, 02:16 AM

Yes Nick you should go to club sound! Don't worry, I see straight guys there all the time! There are always straight girls there too! Don't be worried. :) Just go and have fun. BTW who have you been going with? People from The Sizz or what?

You don't have to dance with guys when you go there. You dance with other girls or the friends that you go with. :)

You obviously have never been to one before. There are always a lot of straight guys there that go with their girlfriends because the girlfriends don't wanna get hit on, or they like the music better. It's not weird at all.

Yeah Jeff, the first time I went I was just by myself. It's much much better than Area 51! I just go with Alex and a few other people who work at the Sizzler who are new since you have been there. When I went last night, I saw both Dexter and Gonzalo there together (it's funny how Dexter refuses to come out, EVERYONE knows he is gay, haha).

Thanks guys, yes there are a lot of straight girls there. I don't hit on many of them because I know they are going there to get away from that very thing. Although I haven't run into many straight guys with their girlfriends though.

One of the big reasons I go there is because I'm only 20 (I refuse to use fake ids, especially now they are scanning them), and there aren't many clubs that are good for people under 21. The kind of clubs I'm into though, are the ones where they enforce a dress code, I love wearing my nice buttoned shirts and suit jackets/blazers. Because of that styling I guess I feel closer to home in the gay clubs, I dunno...

kymac

Oct 4, 2009, 02:29 AM

you sound like quite the closet case, who's just curious to know if your cover will be blown if you go to a gay club ;)

jecapaga

Oct 4, 2009, 03:22 AM

you sound like quite the closet case, who's just curious to know if your cover will be blown if you go to a gay club ;)

Not sure what your experience is with going to gay clubs but they are fun, lively. A straight guy going isn't a problem though you may be hit on. Just end it by saying you're straight. If you think that anyone going means they are gay, you're wrong. I've gone several times with different girlfriends and groups and it's always fun. Loosen up. Pun intended.

kymac

Oct 4, 2009, 04:16 AM

Not sure what your experience is with going to gay clubs but they are fun, lively. A straight guy going isn't a problem though you may be hit on. Just end it by saying you're straight. If you think that anyone going means they are gay, you're wrong. I've gone several times with different girlfriends and groups and it's always fun. Loosen up. Pun intended.

i wasn't judging him based on the fact he goes to these clubs.. i was judging him on the fact he has non directly continued to reiterate that he is 100% not gay. why so important to include? why would someone's sexual preference have to be anyone else's problem?

Badandy

Oct 4, 2009, 05:25 AM

i wasn't judging him based on the fact he goes to these clubs.. i was judging him on the fact he has non directly continued to reiterate that he is 100% not gay. why so important to include? why would someone's sexual preference have to be anyone else's problem?

It's so important to include because the whole point of his question is whether it's appropriate for a straight guy to go to a gay club. I'm assuming he'd like the opinions of the gay members of this board so it's a pretty important piece of information. In fact, it's the important piece of information for the question. If you don't have anything to add you can go ahead and venture into another thread where your immature accusations might fly.

Personally, I've never been to a gay club/bar. I'm not against the idea, but I would definitely need to go with a good group of friends to not feel overwhelmed socially.

savoirfaire

Oct 4, 2009, 05:27 AM

Rapmastac1

Oct 4, 2009, 07:36 AM

Thanks for the defense guys, from what I gathered I only mentioned I was straight about four times. It is the big point of my question, I mean, look at the title - it's the first word!

From the gathering, it seems is pretty acceptable as no offense is really taken by my going. I can see, as long as I'm not bashing anyone there or going there with the intention of "crashing" the party, I'm pretty welcomed. I'm not sure how many other straight guys go because I don't really see them. Everyone is dancing with everyone so it's hard to tell, and I'm not going around asking for everyone's sexual orientation while I'm there - I just want to have some fun and get some stress off. Like that joke Dane Cook tells about guys going to the club just to dance, haha.

leekohler

Oct 4, 2009, 10:53 AM

I guess. I wouldn't be caught dead in one.

Remind me never to be caught dead in any club you go to.

mkrishnan

Oct 4, 2009, 11:04 AM

As long as we're welcome by the GLBT community... everyone knows that the dancing and DJ's are much better on the other side of the fence. :p Our first year in grad school, it was one of the first controversies because we went to Gainesville's only (I think, at that time) gay club to dance and some people wouldn't go because it offended them. But it's been the best place in Gainesville for dancing as far as I can remember. There and elsewhere, I've never gotten any sense of flack for going to gay clubs, so I don't particularly see where I'd stop.

Then again my GF and I have been in the <1% minority in a hip-hop club too, and as long as no one's acting the fool, no one really seems to care....

It's probably perfectly good self-selection that some people *cough* wouldn't be caught dead... ;)

Shotglass

Oct 4, 2009, 11:19 AM

As long as it's okay for married women to go to dance clubs, it should be okay for straight people to go to gay bars.

firestarter

Oct 4, 2009, 02:47 PM

It's no problem at all going into a gay club. I've only done it once or twice myself - but that's mainly cos I'm not really a clubber!

It always amuses me when people come under fire for this type of thread. As an open-minded type of person the OP is probably a lot more confident and self assured about his sexuality than the "I wouldn't be caught dead" types!

It's an interesting question though - and I have heard the odd gay friend complain about clubs attracting too many straight people.

Xavier

Oct 4, 2009, 03:04 PM

Personally, I wouldn't go to a gay club.

Me either.

TuffLuffJimmy

Oct 4, 2009, 03:10 PM

It's an interesting question though - and I have heard the odd gay friend complain about clubs attracting too many straight people.

I don't mind much when straight people show up at the gay club I normally go to. However, during prom month, it's awkward as hell when a large group of girls brings their boyfriends in and all they do is squeeze each other and sway back and forth. No one has fun on those nights.

obeygiant

Oct 4, 2009, 03:11 PM

Personally, I wouldn't go to a gay club.

Yeah, really. What's the point? Unless there are some hot MILFs to drink with.

SO, LEEK! Are you going to be Dr. Manhattan for Halloween this year or is it going to be Darth Maul again?

Dont Hurt Me

Oct 4, 2009, 03:14 PM

Only if there are hot gay woman.:D

niuniu

Oct 4, 2009, 03:20 PM

It's not even an issue really, just need to get your head around the idea I guess. I don't go clubbing anymore, but when I was in my early 20s we'd hit gays clubs - not everyone in there is gay, men and women go there for a good night regardless of their sexuality. Music often better and the crowd is less aggressive. Gay clubs are gay friendly clubs with a predominently gay crowd. After a few minutes in your there your first you forget all about that stuff though and just enjoy your night.

Saying that, not all gay clubs are so respectable. I remember when living in Manchester years ago I was out with a group of guys and we went to a gay club, knowing it was open later than the other clubs. We left after our first drinks - I was uncomfortable and I think we all were made to feel uncomfortable intentionally, they just didn't want us there. There was a lot of nakedness and although I didn't go to the toilets one of the guys I was out with did and that experience marked our swift exit.

But that's a hardcore scene, and you want to avoid those in general anyway, gay or straight as they're full of sleazy lowlifers in their fake bling for the most part.

ntrigue

Oct 4, 2009, 03:46 PM

My girlfriend's lesbian friend encouraged us to come with her to a club in SF. I can only describe it as more radical than any other US scene I've been to.

My girlfriend actually felt uncomfortable before I did as the code of conduct is much more lenient than ordinary clubs. Aside from partial nudity and oral sex dance moves, there was a 30-foot length of cage where anyone off the floor could strip.

No major concerns being straight and threatened though. I got a few compliments, a dance request and a drink offer. I just declined politely.

Bennieboy©

Oct 4, 2009, 03:51 PM

nothing wrong with going to a gay club, theyre usually better then clubs for straight people, it's prolly only ya friends who'd take the michael if they ever found out but hey, sod em, if you had a good time then what else matters?

laserfox

Oct 4, 2009, 03:52 PM

Yo this is funny...I went to my first gay club last night off campus (by chance cause its was the only club that would let some under 21 friends in) and it wasn't that bad...Gays sure have a sense of humor and no one hit on me(I guess cause I stuck to my group and we sort of danced in our own circle)

I got tired of the techno after 30 mins lol...too much thumping
Whenever the lights randomly turned on I was rudely reminded that this was a gay club, guys dancing with guys, guys dancing with themselves in front the mirror :confused: funny stuff.

smwatson

Oct 4, 2009, 04:15 PM

I've been to a couple on Canal Street in Manchester with a gay friend of mine for his birthday. We were all wasted and there was about twenty of us. Was great fun.

Randman

Oct 4, 2009, 05:55 PM

If you're fine with your sexuality, it shouldn't be an issue.

Those people who say "I wouldn't be caught dead in a place like that" are likely overcompensating for some latent homosexual tendencies. They're probably as repressed in a "straight" club or bar as well.

leekohler

Oct 4, 2009, 06:26 PM

Yeah, really. What's the point? Unless there are some hot MILFs to drink with.

You guys have no idea how easy it is for a straight guy to pick up women in a gay bar. Your loss.

SO, LEEK! Are you going to be Dr. Manhattan for Halloween this year or is it going to be Darth Maul again?

Dr Manhattan is a very good idea. I wonder if it would OK for me to walk around naked as long as I'm painted blue? :)

Iscariot

Oct 4, 2009, 06:29 PM

not my cup of tea as i dont like dancing with dudes
I guess. I wouldn't be caught dead in one.
Personally, I wouldn't go to a gay club.

You're why I'd rather go to a gay club :cool:

DiamondMac

Oct 4, 2009, 06:36 PM

anjinha

Oct 4, 2009, 06:53 PM

I went to one once....but my girlfriend was with me and WANTED to go

I had a good time.

The only weird part was dancing with my g/f and having a guy come up behind me and trying to grind with me. I decided to leave after that.

That's how girls feel in straight clubs. There's always a random creepy guy that tries to grind with us or some other stuff.

mkrishnan

Oct 4, 2009, 07:30 PM

That's how girls feel in straight clubs. There's always a random creepy guy that tries to grind with us or some other stuff.

Now if you're going to play that card, I'm going to play this card (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=673478&highlight=bachelorette+gay). :eek: ;)

leekohler

Oct 4, 2009, 07:53 PM

Now if you're going to play that card, I'm going to play this card (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=673478&highlight=bachelorette+gay). :eek: ;)

Now, now- let's keep this civil. It's a very nice thread so far. ;)

BTW- are there straight dance clubs? Does everyone there do the frat boy shuffle? :) That must be a truly sad sight. ;)

mkrishnan

Oct 4, 2009, 08:06 PM

BTW- are there straight dance clubs? Does everyone there do the frat boy shuffle? :) That must be a truly sad sight. ;)

No, there are some that are actually pretty fun. And if we're being civil, there are plenty of straight men who can dance. ;)

andrew upstairs

Oct 4, 2009, 08:09 PM

Gay clubs are a blast. Great place to pick up hot, straight, single women.

I'm serious.

leekohler

Oct 4, 2009, 08:10 PM

No, there are some that are actually pretty fun. And if we're being civil, there are plenty of straight men who can dance. ;)

I know. I was having fun with stereotypes. :) Hey! You know where we should go? Neo. That place is a blast.

http://www.neonightclub.com/

Gay clubs are a blast. Great place to pick up hot, straight, single women.

I'm serious.

Those of us who take our straight guy friends to gay bars have seen this many a time. Ladies think it's cool if a guy is secure enough to go to gay bars and have gay friends.

numbersyx

Oct 4, 2009, 08:11 PM

TuffLuffJimmy

Oct 4, 2009, 08:11 PM

Gay clubs are a blast. Great place to pick up hot, straight, single women.

I'm serious.

Avoiding this seems to be the exact reason straight girls go to gay clubs...

leekohler

Oct 4, 2009, 08:14 PM

Avoiding this seems to be the exact reason straight girls go to gay clubs...

Not really. No straight guy is going to do anything inappropriate to a female in a gay bar. Us gay guys would kill them. We don't put up with that s***.

mkrishnan

Oct 4, 2009, 08:15 PM

I know. I was having fun with stereotypes. :) Hey! You know where we should go? Neo. That place is a blast.

http://www.neonightclub.com/

Having a GF who likes to dance though is a very useful asset if straight, male, and likes to dance. Fortunately I am so blessed. That place looks fun. How could I not like a place that had a Cure tribute night??? :D

leekohler

Oct 4, 2009, 08:19 PM

Having a GF who likes to dance though is a very useful asset if straight, male, and likes to dance. Fortunately I am so blessed. That place looks fun. How could I not like a place that had a Cure tribute night??? :D

That place ********** rocks. It's a great mix of gay and straight. I puked outside the front door one night in the 90s. They wouldn't let me back in. :) Ah- the good old days. ;)

andrew upstairs

Oct 4, 2009, 08:27 PM

Avoiding this seems to be the exact reason straight girls go to gay clubs...No, they do it to get away from the a-holes. ;)

Desertrat

Oct 4, 2009, 08:31 PM

"Sammy Straight Arrow", here: I don't see any big deal in my going to a gay club. I have, a time or three. Mainly, any "turnoff" would have to do with the type of music and the db level thereof. People are people, pretty much everywhere. If I'm with one or more of my gay friends, and they suggest such a club, fine by me.

However, most of my bar-hopping has been in places where I already knew some of the habitues, so I'm generally unlikely to be a customer at a gay club.

Giggle-snort: Fifty-five years ago, I got hit on while in Hong Kong. I always said I met the Hong Kong Fairy on the Hong Kong Ferry--the ferry from Kowloon over to Hong Kong Island. :D

anjinha

Oct 4, 2009, 08:39 PM

Now if you're going to play that card, I'm going to play this card (http://forums.macrumors.com/showthread.php?t=673478&highlight=bachelorette+gay). :eek: ;)

Well played. :p But I didn't mean that all guys in straight clubs are like that, just that there's always those creepy guys, and sometimes that's enough to ruin a girl's night.

Not really. No straight guy is going to do anything inappropriate to a female in a gay bar. Us gay guys would kill them. We don't put up with that s***.

That's why I like gay clubs, gay guys are awesome. :) I went to one a couple of weeks ago and danced there all night until it closed at 8am. I had a blast. :D

bobber205

Oct 4, 2009, 09:24 PM

I know. I was having fun with stereotypes. :) Hey! You know where we should go? Neo. That place is a blast.

http://www.neonightclub.com/

Those of us who take our straight guy friends to gay bars have seen this many a time. Ladies think it's cool if a guy is secure enough to go to gay bars and have gay friends.

I need some gay (openly as least) friends now! :D

dukebound85

Oct 4, 2009, 09:29 PM

You're why I'd rather go to a gay club :cool:

good for you?

all we did was state our preference you know..

CalBoy

Oct 4, 2009, 09:41 PM

good for you?

all we did was state our preference you know..

No one disputes that it is your preference; what those preferences reveal is very interesting (which should be read as a very, very complimentary euphemism).

Gelfin

Oct 4, 2009, 09:53 PM

My Hobby: Keeping a list of posters who stomp into gay-related threads to make off-topic assertions about how not gay they are.

NT1440

Oct 4, 2009, 09:55 PM

A club is a place where everyone is to have a good time, who the hell cares if its a gay club or not? Just enjoy the night

anjinha

Oct 4, 2009, 09:59 PM

My Hobby: Keeping a list of posters who stomp into gay-related threads to make off-topic assertions about how not gay they are.

Funny how that always happens.

DZ/015

Oct 4, 2009, 10:14 PM

Doesn't matter to me if a straight guy went into a gay bar. But I'm straight. I've known straight guys that have gone to gay bars and flirted just for the free drinks they would get.

Not really. No straight guy is going to do anything inappropriate to a female in a gay bar. Us gay guys would kill them. We don't put up with that s***.

And if there was a gay guy that was going to stomp you, my money would be on Lee.

Iscariot

Oct 4, 2009, 10:42 PM

all we did was state our preference you know..

No, all you did was state how boring you are :p

synth3tik

Oct 4, 2009, 10:43 PM

Most of the GLBT clubs in Minneapolis have higher numbers of straight club goers.

Fag hags hang out with gay men at gay bars. I hang out with my lesbian friends at lesbian bars. HA!

TuffLuffJimmy

Oct 4, 2009, 10:55 PM

Most of the GLBT clubs in Minneapolis have higher numbers of straight club goers.

Fag hags hang out with gay men at gay bars. I hang out with my lesbian friends at lesbian bars. HA!

I didn't know there even was a male equivalent to a fag hag! What's that called?

.Andy

Oct 4, 2009, 10:56 PM

I didn't know there even was a male equivalent to a fag hag! What's that called?
A virgin ;).

anjinha

Oct 4, 2009, 11:13 PM

I didn't know there even was a male equivalent to a fag hag! What's that called?

A hag fag? :p

.Andy

Oct 4, 2009, 11:23 PM

A hag fag? :p
This one is much better :D!

ucfgrad93

Oct 4, 2009, 11:29 PM

You're why I'd rather go to a gay club :cool:

Ok, have a good time.:rolleyes:

Badandy

Oct 5, 2009, 02:22 AM

Ok, have a good time.:rolleyes:

You don't think you could have a good time? You don't think any gay person has had fun at a "straight club"?

iBlue

Oct 5, 2009, 04:05 AM

I think it's perfectly fine but I also dropped into this thread to say…

Dr Manhattan is a very good idea. I wonder if it would OK for me to walk around naked as long as I'm painted blue? :)

Oooooooh! I approve of this idea! :D

leekohler

Oct 5, 2009, 08:42 AM

I think it's perfectly fine but I also dropped into this thread to say…

Oooooooh! I approve of this idea! :D

I kind of do as well. I don't think I'd be going home alone that night! :) OG is a very naughty boy to suggest such things. I might have to find a way to do this.

Unspoken Demise

Oct 5, 2009, 08:42 AM

I want to go to a gay club so badly. My close friend is bi, so he goes all the time, and he tells me its very full of energy and its fun for all sexual orientations. He said he'd take me to one soon. :)

Dagless

Oct 5, 2009, 09:01 AM

I wouldn't go to a gay club. I walked past Canal Street at night after attending some script writing course, was a little mad :o. But I wouldn't go to a straight club either so it all balances out.

barkomatic

Oct 5, 2009, 09:59 AM

Gay clubs are a great place for straight men to meet girls. Very little competition. My straight friend met his future wife while with me at a gay club. They have two kids now. lol

Iscariot

Oct 5, 2009, 10:12 AM

not my cup of tea as i dont like dancing with dudes
Personally, I wouldn't go to a gay club.
good for you?

all we did was state our preference you know..
Ok, have a good time.:rolleyes:

See? And that's exactly why.

edesignuk

Oct 5, 2009, 10:16 AM

Now all I can think of is the dance off between Stifler and Bear in American Pie 3 :D BRILLIANT!

tofagerl

Oct 5, 2009, 10:25 AM

The more I read this thread, the more _I_ want to go to a gay club. And I can't dance for ****.

anjinha

Oct 5, 2009, 10:30 AM

The more I read this thread, the more _I_ want to go to a gay club. And I can't dance for ****.

Don't worry about it, it's still fun. :)

leekohler

Oct 5, 2009, 10:38 AM

Now all I can think of is the dance off between Stifler and Bear in American Pie 3 :D BRILLIANT!

That WAS good! :)

Tomorrow

Oct 5, 2009, 01:02 PM

I've only ever been to a gay club once. Far be it from me to generalize and imply that all gay clubs are the same, but I found it next to impossible NOT to have a good time. The energy and atmosphere were incredible. I'd certainly do it again, but not without people I already know. (For the record, I don't really go ANYWHERE, except maybe a grocery store, without people I already know).

You can make up your own mind what that says about me. :cool:

Desertrat

Oct 5, 2009, 01:02 PM

Naked and wearing only blue paint? Been done. The night of the Beaux Artes Ball, summer, 1957. A group of about a dozen, with friends, going up the middle of the Champs Elysee from the Rond Pont to the Arc d'Triomphe.

Queso

Oct 5, 2009, 03:47 PM

Tomorrow

Oct 5, 2009, 04:12 PM

...it became impossible to tell the gay and straight guys apart in terms of dress sense or even dancing ability...

Has anything like that happened in the States?

I've never been good at being able to tell gay guys and straight guys apart. I can't speak for the rest of the States. :cool:

FreeState

Oct 5, 2009, 05:30 PM

leekohler

Oct 5, 2009, 05:36 PM

Serious question here. Back in the late 80s/early 90s here in the UK there was this sudden fusion of gay and straight culture. Everybody started going to each other clubs, and it became impossible to tell the gay and straight guys apart in terms of dress sense or even dancing ability ;). Since then it's not been a big deal to see straights in gay clubs or vice versa.

Has anything like that happened in the States?

Yeah it did- at that same time period too. I miss those days- they were lawless and fun. :D Let's hope we get back to that sometime soon.

I've only ever been to a gay club once. Far be it from me to generalize and imply that all gay clubs are the same, but I found it next to impossible NOT to have a good time. The energy and atmosphere were incredible. I'd certainly do it again, but not without people I already know. (For the record, I don't really go ANYWHERE, except maybe a grocery store, without people I already know).

You can make up your own mind what that says about me. :cool:

Only good things. :)

FreeState

Oct 5, 2009, 05:53 PM

Yeah it did- at that same time period too. I miss those days- they were lawless and fun. :D Let's hope we get back to that sometime soon.

It was even mixed in the 90s at the gay clubs in Salt Lake (Bricks, the now gone Sun and a couple others were always mixed)

FrankieTDouglas

Oct 5, 2009, 06:54 PM

Went to a gay club once. It was during college, with our gay/straight alliance organization. It was a fun time. Even found myself tipping a drag queen with a dollar in my mouth. I don't dance, so that wasn't the real draw. More just hanging out with friends. It was nice to see such carefree spirits on the stage, though.

I remember commenting to a friend a bit later how I went, and yet, not a single guy hit on me. He goes, "Well, in a box of fruits, you could appear to be an orange. But put you in a box of oranges and it becomes very obvious you're a tangerine. "

dmr727

Oct 5, 2009, 06:58 PM

I remember commenting to a friend a bit later how I went, and yet, not a single guy hit on me. He goes, "Well, in a box of fruits, you could appear to be an orange. But put you in a box of oranges and it becomes very obvious you're a tangerine. "

That's hilarious, and so true. :)

I've been to some gay bars and clubs, and have always had a blast.

Zombie Acorn

Oct 5, 2009, 07:06 PM

No gay bars around here, I would probably go with a group of friends though if there were girls there.

dukebound85

Oct 8, 2009, 06:05 PM

See? And that's exactly why.

no i dont see. you are trying to put a negative connotation on our preference not to go. i dont care where you go to be honest

you also wont see me at biker bars

why? because i wouldnt feel comfortable. the same reason i wont go to gay bars

just not my thing.

you have fun though

leekohler

Oct 8, 2009, 06:15 PM

no i dont see. you are trying to put a negative connotation on our preference not to go. i dont care where you go to be honest

you also wont see me at biker bars

why? because i wouldnt feel comfortable. the same reason i wont go to gay bars

just not my thing.

you have fun though

Now weren't you just saying you'd like to be dating somebody? ;) Lots of nice, cute straight girls at the gay bars.

Zombie Acorn

Oct 8, 2009, 07:26 PM

I imagine the straight chicks like the gay bars better because they aren't being inappropriately groped at every tight intersection.

Gelfin

Oct 8, 2009, 07:32 PM

I imagine the straight chicks like the gay bars better because they aren't being inappropriately groped at every tight intersection.

OT: "tight intersection" is the best unintentional euphemism ever.

Iscariot

Oct 8, 2009, 09:26 PM

no i dont see. you are trying to put a negative connotation on our preference not to go.

Nope. I'm just saying you're boring.

todd2000

Oct 19, 2009, 08:57 PM

People hit on eachother in all kinds of clubs. They don't expect you to immediately take your pants off, so you shouldn't feel guilty for not being interested ;)

Clearly you've never neen to a gay club! :D Kidding......or am I?

As for straight guys going to a gay club, why not? If your having fun, and your open minded and don't have a problem with Teh Gay™ than more power to you. There are always straight guys at the Gay Bar when I go (Im Gay.) Just go and have fun.