My closest friend is moving about 8 hours away. I have decided that part of my, i guess you could say grieving process, is to write her a letter. Below is my first draft. Please read it and provide me with any advice you might have.
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Help writing letter to a friend who is moving away.
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Hard to give advice on something like this...!
So long as it's from the heart, I'm sure your friend will really appreciate it.
So long as it's from the heart, I'm sure your friend will really appreciate it.
Agreed, you don't want to accidentally edit out the emotion!
The only thing I might say is that you may want to make it sound a little less like you will never see each other again. Perhaps say something about coming to visit and staying in touch! Don't take anything out, just add that at the end.
How true.The last thing you need are the suggestions of a bunch of Internet geeks.
But since you asked...
1. I agree that you shouldn't make it sound like you'll never see her again. It's 8 hours (by car or plane?)
2. "I've been through this so many times..."? That's unfortunate you've had to let so many friends go.
3. I've always been more of a tell it to their face type - get her a nice card or something, but make sure you tell her this before she leaves, not give her the letter to open on the way. Or, for that matter, open in front of you. You should be able to talk to her about this if she's that close to you.
There must be more to this story than just a friend moving away, for you to talk about never seeing her again. Normally, good friends stay in touch, write, phone, Facebook, whatever visit from time to time. Whatever happened here, I can hear the pain in your letter, and I feel for you mate. It's never easy.
Maybe throw in this Yeats poem that Kramer wrote in a birthday card to Elaine.
I've used that junk on a few of my female friends since I first saw that episode.
From: Seinfeld: "THE DEAL"
Elaine: (Reading card)
Think where man's glory most begins and ends
And say my glory was I had such a friend.
Kramer: (To Jerry) Yates.
Elaine: Oh Kramer! (They embrace)
Elaine: (Reading card)
Think where man's glory most begins and ends
And say my glory was I had such a friend.
Kramer: (To Jerry) Yates.
Elaine: Oh Kramer! (They embrace)
I've used that junk on a few of my female friends since I first saw that episode.
You are right. I have been given some advice that writing a letter is often a good way of getting over a lose and grief in general. It is helping.
It does not dull the pain though. Maybe throw in this Yeats poem that Kramer wrote in a birthday card to Elaine.
From: Seinfeld: "THE DEAL"
Elaine: (Reading card)
Think where man's glory most begins and ends
And say my glory was I had such a friend.
Kramer: (To Jerry) Yates.
Elaine: Oh Kramer! (They embrace)
I've used that junk on a few of my female friends since I first saw that episode.
I will think about it thanks.
I know she will not write me a letter or even give me a card. I am writing this letter to her simply to help me through the process of getting over her.
It sounds like you have a deep emotional connection to this person. Writing your letter is a really great idea, and your words, I can tell, are from the heart and very meaningful. I would change very little. Believe it or not, actually READING your words will get the message across far better than just saying them. Trust me, they will have a lasting effect, unless she is a particularly superficial individual.....doesn't sound like it if she had the sensitivity/ability to help you in a difficult time.
Maybe you should try keeping in contact with someone who is obviously so important to you. I left my country of birth (South Africa), many years ago and still maintain friendships with a few people that were close to me growing up.
Thank you. I gave her the letter yesterday.
For me writing the letter was a way to say goodbye and also for my own mental health. Writing the letter was a form of therapy for me.
I am still up set that she is leaving but i have accepted it and am slowing moving on.