So in short, I've massively f*ukced up my life. Dropped out of high school during my junior year partially due to lack of interest, care, and slowly digging myself into a deeper pit. Right afterward though I got my GED, which because I got it in New Mexico is the equivalent of a NM high school diploma, and passed with honors. Took two semesters of college the following spring and fall - barely got any credits. I wanted to go back this semester, but because I failed previous classes I would have to pay for 48 credit hours myself before receiving financial aid, which I can't afford. At the moment I work at The County Line (a barbecue restaurant) as a cook and Hot Topic as a sales associate, though the latter might end up just being seasonal so it would end sometime in January.
I'm 20 and have no idea what I'm going to do with my life. I have no support from my mom and she pushed me away so much I'm living with my grandpa, which I prefer way more. My best friend, Sonya, is 19 and also a drop out, but she's at least going to school and gets to work 22-27 hours a week and will soon get paid more than me and has a plan. My other closest friend, Micah, found the love of his life here (ironically met her while working at the same Hot Topic 11 months ago), moved to New York for her, has a high paying job as a realtor with the same GED I got (seems like everyone in this state drops out, doesn't it?), has a nice home, and got married in October - and he just turned 18 this most recent August. My girlfriend that I've been dating for almost 9 months, Lauren, is only 16 - straight A student, couple AP classes a year, job, responsible, etc.
Basically, it sucks seeing everyone around me accelerate their lives and have a future while I'm sitting here with myself as the only person to blame. When I was in New York for his wedding, Micah said I could move there any time I needed and that he could set me up with a job there most likely working for him or his boss. I started to think about this a lot more and my lack of options more recently. Based on how well he's doing and how good the company is, etc, I trust in him. I could even try for a Hot Topic there or an Apple Store (5th ave. preferably) in the mean time if needed. I just don't know if I could leave my girlfriend like that for a year until she could move out there as well. Of course we haven't been dating for years and years, but she's the first one I'd do anything not to lose and the only thing motivating me to have a future. I know she's only 16, but we were friends for a really long time before we started dating and I don't think our relationship is on the verge of changing any time soon. She fully supports me on moving if I have to financially and in terms of having a place to live for us in the future, she's, however, obviously very upset over it.
I've never been in a long distance relationship and at least this one wouldn't be forever. Maybe I'll be fine without her for a year. Maybe I'm over thinking it and she'll be fine. I just thought I'd get the opinion of others or talk to people that have been in similar situations.
Edit/ Other than the girlfriend thing, I want to make sure this is the right decision. I'm basically going to be uprooting my life with Micah being the only person I know. So I guess this would also pertain to people in that situation and that have moved across the country. /edit
Thanks for your input! ="^.^"=
Edit2/ PS: Thanks, but don't suggest any military based programs. /Edit
I'm 20 and have no idea what I'm going to do with my life. I have no support from my mom and she pushed me away so much I'm living with my grandpa, which I prefer way more. My best friend, Sonya, is 19 and also a drop out, but she's at least going to school and gets to work 22-27 hours a week and will soon get paid more than me and has a plan. My other closest friend, Micah, found the love of his life here (ironically met her while working at the same Hot Topic 11 months ago), moved to New York for her, has a high paying job as a realtor with the same GED I got (seems like everyone in this state drops out, doesn't it?), has a nice home, and got married in October - and he just turned 18 this most recent August. My girlfriend that I've been dating for almost 9 months, Lauren, is only 16 - straight A student, couple AP classes a year, job, responsible, etc.
Basically, it sucks seeing everyone around me accelerate their lives and have a future while I'm sitting here with myself as the only person to blame. When I was in New York for his wedding, Micah said I could move there any time I needed and that he could set me up with a job there most likely working for him or his boss. I started to think about this a lot more and my lack of options more recently. Based on how well he's doing and how good the company is, etc, I trust in him. I could even try for a Hot Topic there or an Apple Store (5th ave. preferably) in the mean time if needed. I just don't know if I could leave my girlfriend like that for a year until she could move out there as well. Of course we haven't been dating for years and years, but she's the first one I'd do anything not to lose and the only thing motivating me to have a future. I know she's only 16, but we were friends for a really long time before we started dating and I don't think our relationship is on the verge of changing any time soon. She fully supports me on moving if I have to financially and in terms of having a place to live for us in the future, she's, however, obviously very upset over it.
I've never been in a long distance relationship and at least this one wouldn't be forever. Maybe I'll be fine without her for a year. Maybe I'm over thinking it and she'll be fine. I just thought I'd get the opinion of others or talk to people that have been in similar situations.
Edit/ Other than the girlfriend thing, I want to make sure this is the right decision. I'm basically going to be uprooting my life with Micah being the only person I know. So I guess this would also pertain to people in that situation and that have moved across the country. /edit
Thanks for your input! ="^.^"=
Edit2/ PS: Thanks, but don't suggest any military based programs. /Edit
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