Hello... having been inspired by the famous MacRumors post detailing a man catching his cheating wife via Find My Friends, I decided to solicit advice here. Please go easy on me, as this is my first post.
Here's my dilemma:
My significant other began using Instagram about a year ago. Now it's her life. She's constantly hunched over her iPhone 4S screen. We share an Apple ID for our iDevices. Some time back, a new app called Kik Messenger showed up on my phone. She explained that it was a common IM client that was used by most Instagrammers to exchange tips, etc. Later, I learned that it's also all the rage for anonymous hookups.
I decided to look into this world a bit further.
Upon creating a fake IG account and building it up to a point where it's "legit," I began following her and tracing the trails of her friends and comments she/they have made on each other's photos. I was surprised (or maybe not) to find that there was lots of flirting with a particular group of guys and plenty of references to the trading of private, er, "revealing," photos via Kik. All out in the open. All within a few taps. In the meantime, I continued to feign ignorance on the IG platform, asking her "dumb" questions about it whenever she'd mention it (all while wondering if she thinks I'm selectively dumb on this topic- she knows I'm a smart person! I digress...)
So I begin to wonder... what would a really tech-smart person do in this situation... maybe to peek behind the curtain when it comes to Kik? I'd love to see proof of what's happening, because I'm honestly still having trouble believing that she'd do this. If it's nothing, it's nothing. But I need to know either way. We've been together for 12 years.
Specs:
iPhone 4S (both of us)
iOS 6, up-to-date
Same Apple ID
Instagram and Kik Messenger apps
I have a MacBook Pro.
She does most of her IM-ing while connected to our home Wi-Fi network.
I cannot get physical access to the phone- she guards it with her life.
Jailbreaking is not an option. She's savvy enough to detect that.
Just looking for advice here... want to look at all my options before jumping to any conclusions.
And yes, Find My iPhone works wonderfully. But the thing is, this seems to be mostly a virtual affair, as these guys are out-of-state/out-of-country. So she's never really anywhere unexpected physically.
Thanks very much for your time and thoughts.
Here's my dilemma:
My significant other began using Instagram about a year ago. Now it's her life. She's constantly hunched over her iPhone 4S screen. We share an Apple ID for our iDevices. Some time back, a new app called Kik Messenger showed up on my phone. She explained that it was a common IM client that was used by most Instagrammers to exchange tips, etc. Later, I learned that it's also all the rage for anonymous hookups.
I decided to look into this world a bit further.
Upon creating a fake IG account and building it up to a point where it's "legit," I began following her and tracing the trails of her friends and comments she/they have made on each other's photos. I was surprised (or maybe not) to find that there was lots of flirting with a particular group of guys and plenty of references to the trading of private, er, "revealing," photos via Kik. All out in the open. All within a few taps. In the meantime, I continued to feign ignorance on the IG platform, asking her "dumb" questions about it whenever she'd mention it (all while wondering if she thinks I'm selectively dumb on this topic- she knows I'm a smart person! I digress...)
So I begin to wonder... what would a really tech-smart person do in this situation... maybe to peek behind the curtain when it comes to Kik? I'd love to see proof of what's happening, because I'm honestly still having trouble believing that she'd do this. If it's nothing, it's nothing. But I need to know either way. We've been together for 12 years.
Specs:
iPhone 4S (both of us)
iOS 6, up-to-date
Same Apple ID
Instagram and Kik Messenger apps
I have a MacBook Pro.
She does most of her IM-ing while connected to our home Wi-Fi network.
I cannot get physical access to the phone- she guards it with her life.
Jailbreaking is not an option. She's savvy enough to detect that.
Just looking for advice here... want to look at all my options before jumping to any conclusions.
And yes, Find My iPhone works wonderfully. But the thing is, this seems to be mostly a virtual affair, as these guys are out-of-state/out-of-country. So she's never really anywhere unexpected physically.
Thanks very much for your time and thoughts.