need help to see what wife is up to

[roadking30]

After seeing a few message on my wife's phone when one of the kids opened her messages i believe she is having an affair. Is their a program you can get to see what she is up to before i talk to her.

I just want to know all the facts before speaking to her

[ConCat]

All macs come with a built-in VNC server. Turning it on is trivial. Go into system preferences, then into sharing, and check "Screen Sharing". Allow access to "All Users" then make sure you know the logon for her computer, and you can connect from anywhere on the network. Just go into the Finder and her computer should appear in the sidebar on the left. Click it, click the "Screen Sharing" button, and you're in. I suggest doing this and logging into screen sharing and switching it into "Observe mode" when she's not around just to be safe. Good luck.

[MacUser09]

Google Spectorsoft. That might be what you are looking for.

[Macman45]

Do you really think that spying on your wife is likely to help this situation? It all comes down to trust....I'd pass on the spying angle, sit down and have this out with her face to face. In the long run, it's the only way to resolve your issues with her. Good luck.

[ConCat]

Originally Posted by Macman45

Do you really think that spying on your wife is likely to help this situation? It all comes down to trust....I'd pass on the spying angle, sit down and have this out with her face to face. In the long run, it's the only way to resolve your issues with her. Good luck.

Although sometimes talking about it can create a problem where none exists. I think he's right to get some evidence before he confronts her with his suspicions. If he gets no concrete evidence, then he should probably drop it. Then again, it really isn't any of our business what he does with his marriage.

[justperry]

Originally Posted by Macman45

Do you really think that spying on your wife is likely to help this situation? It all comes down to trust....I'd pass on the spying angle, sit down and have this out with her face to face. In the long run, it's the only way to resolve your issues with her. Good luck.

+1000
Have to completely agree here.

And for the the 2 poster above you nice job man, nice job.

[ConCat]

Originally Posted by justperry

+1000
Have to completely agree here.

And for the the 2 poster above you nice job man, nice job.

Well, I figured just being helpful was more helpful than being rude and berating him for his marital decisions.

[roadking30]

Originally Posted by ConCat

Well, I figured just being helpful was more helpful than being rude and berating him for his marital decisions.

Thanks for all your help.

I just asked a question I don't wish to having a tennis match. to what everyone else thinks i should do everybody is different

[justperry]

Originally Posted by ConCat

Well, I figured just being helpful was more helpful than being rude and berating him for his marital decisions.

You can reply without being rude, initially I wasn't going to reply to his request since I find it unethical, and yes if the story is true and his wife is having an affair that is also unethical, the best way out of such situations is talk to the wife.
Maybe nothing's wrong and it's just a plain friend/colleague.

IMO this is not to site to get help like this, but this is just my opinion.