You simply don't understand the technology, that's the problem plain and simple. iPad LED/LCD panels use the Edge backlight method so that the iPad can be reduced in thickness. So a series of LED backlights are placed along the edges of the screen, and the thin light is dispersed across the screen from those points. The disadvantages to using this system is black levels are not as deep as they could be, the possibility of uneven lighting across the screen, especially towards the middle, and you could experience light leakage on the side areas where the backlights are placed. If you wanted close to zero or no light leakage, Apple could use a full array backlighting method, where several rows of LED's are placed behind the entire surface of the screen. However these full array panels are more expensive, and limit how thin the device can be. Sony and Samsung LCD panels are no different.
So it has nothing to do with dismissing an issue. It has to do with the limitations of the current LCD technology used combined with how much Apple wants to spend to bring this device to market. Now perhaps Apple should place a disclaimer on their product that all screens may exhibit some imperfections. LCD television manufacturers do it in terms of dead pixel count. Either way, you are looking for perfection where it rarely exists. You can return iPads until the cows come home, and you will most likely still be unsatisfied.
You're right and I was wrong. After reading your explanation I grabbed one of my Sound&Vision mags and checked out a review of an edge lit LCD TV. The reviewer complained about an annoying flashlight coming from the bezel area. Hmmm . . . I didn't realize this particular LCD tech is so poor. I'm not sure I believe that all edge lit TV's do the same but if they do it's another reason for me to stay away from LCD tech.
Now back the iPad. Apparently finding zero backlight bleed is pretty much a no go or a crap shoot and only the lucky ones will find one . . . maybe. The question is how bad is it and is it beyond what a typical backlight bleed should be or acceptable to the user.
I have decided to just forget about it now and enjoy. Here's hoping iPad 3 has a better display.