Good Christmas For My Daughter - iPhone 5! - Page 5

MsRandall · 09:22 AM

My opinion is the OP did what is right for her daughter and if that is buy an iPhone 5 then so be it.

I have two sons - 25 and 23 now. When they were 12 I bought them cellphones- they both had entry level phones but were upgraded to smartphones the next year. They both played for 2 basketball teams and I would have to wait at one gym and the other would call when practice was over. I got alot of questions, opinions, etc from family members regarding my husband and I decision to buy our sons phones at such a young age.

This is an individual decision a parent/family gets to make. Each parent has a different set of values that affect this situation

I have never had one issue, not one lost or stolen phone, no lazy I only want to text and not live in the real world scenerio, etc....

I do say to the OP if you cant trust your daughter with an iPhone 5 at 13 how do you trust her with your family car 3 years later????

I am glad your daughter is enjoying her iPhone 5 - sounds like she is understands the responsibility the device demands..

meistervu · 11:05 AM

Again, I am not making a direct argument for or against OP's decision. One thing that I found disturbing is the disproportionate number of posts here concern were about cost and pleasure, and almost none about the social impact. To me that is more significant than the $1500 or so for the cost of a phone.

It is like debating the cost versus pleasure of eating bacon without considering the health effect.

Of course what OP does is his own business - he sounds like a responsible rational human being - but this is a public forum and he brought up a debatable topic. We would not do him justice had we ignore it.

j.dstasio · Dec 26, 2012, 12:08 PM

Every child has a different level of responsibly. No one is going to know the OP's daughter's level better than the OP himself.

Kudos to you, Dad for picking up your daughter a great gift and allowing her to prove her responsibly first hand rather than gauging her level of responsibility based on other people's experiences with their children.

We bought our daughter an iPad 2 for Christmas this year. She will be 8 years old in January. Did she need it? Probably not. Will she learn from it & enjoy it? Yes, we feel she will. She has been responsible with past electronics including an iPod touch 2nd & 4th gen. It has been a progression of trust & responsibly with her that we started at an early age. When she was 4 & started really showing an interest we gave her an iPod touch with a huge bulky case that she could use under our direct supervision. Over time she was taught how to take care of her devices & when it was appropriate to use them.
Even now, we have set limits on what she can & can't do with her devices. She is not allowed on YouTube, she must ask one of us to install apps, no online gaming, & if she want to use Facetime she has to use that feature when one of us is around to supervise.

We hope that by taking baby steps where technology & responsibility are concerned, we will have an easier time with her as she gets older and wants more independence.

enophi1 · Dec 26, 2012, 12:17 PM

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Originally Posted by iMas70

Santa will be bringing my 13 year old daughter a white iPhone 5. This will be her first iDevice and first real phone. She wanted an iPod. For the price of that, the phone is a better choice and it will do so much more! Looking forward to seeing her gifts Christmas Day!

My 13 year old and 12 year old both got an iphone this Christmas.

My 12 year old got the iphone 5 , but my 13 year old didn't like it and wanted the 4S instead . (She's weird like that and doesn't care about the latest gadget)

I saved my ass off for over 6 months to be able to afford them.

They both have ipads from school. They don't get any pocket money, or allowance during the year, they don't have anything. Birthdays they get £100 and that's it.

At Christmas I do like to spoil them though. I have the iphone 5 too so it's handy knowing where they are ALL the time , terrible yes, but useful , I can keep my eye on their whereabouts and I can get hold of them when I need to.

Cheaper on birthdays too, just buy them an itunes voucher and be done with it.

I had one of the first cell phones to arrive in the UK when I was 15, begged my mum for ages to buy it. It was an ugly neon pink brick. I had to work a weekend job though and pay my own cell phone bill, and I had to look after the device.

617aircav · Dec 26, 2012, 12:35 PM

It's the Ops choice to buy his daughter what he wants. But OP what was your point in telling us? Seems like a personal choice issue.

iMas70 · Dec 27, 2012, 12:27 AM

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Originally Posted by 617aircav

It's the Ops choice to buy his daughter what he wants. But OP what was your point in telling us? Seems like a personal choice issue.

Because I was excited about the purchase and wanted to share it with people that might understand

Chuchichan · Dec 27, 2012, 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by dinggus

Your daughter is 13.. Let's be realistic here, when I was 13, I had a pager.

I hope she still doesn't believe in Santa.

I'm not going to hate, but at least you saved up for it. You learn to appreciate things better and as you grow up you understand money management.

When I was 13 I had a pad and pencil.

mentaluproar · Dec 27, 2012, 03:03 AM

Carrier pidgin. Beat that.

Rocko1 · Dec 27, 2012, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Chuchichan

When I was 13 I had a pad and pencil.

Yeah, and when your dad was a kid polio and small pox killed and crippled thousands of people each year.

meistervu · Dec 27, 2012, 04:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Rocko1

Yeah, and when your dad was a kid polio and small pox killed and crippled thousands of people each year.

And there were more open space, more fish in the sea, fewer endangered species.

Leonard1818 · Dec 28, 2012, 07:20 AM

My kid ended up with too much for a two-year-old!

When she's 13 though... it'll probably be ONE expensive thing and that's IT!

bandofbrothers · Dec 28, 2012, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Leonard1818

My kid ended up with too much for a two-year-old!

When she's 13 though... it'll probably be ONE expensive thing and that's IT!

Yeah nice idea but it doesn't work out that way.

Yes you get one expensive present that's really wanted by your child,.... then you get a few smaller items and when the date gets closer you push the boat out again !!!

blancoBronco · Jan 12, 2013, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by AFDoc

but what's the point with posting things you have sold? What are you trying to compensate for?

nothing? i dont see how attacking me for saying all of the devices i have owned is relevant. i was pointing out how it seemed a lot of people cared that the OP's daughter got an iPhone. not sure if you were upset because i poked a hole in your logic or what, but you shouldn't get so defensive. its unbecoming

Dec 26, 2012, 09:17 AM	#101
MsRandall macrumors regular Join Date: Nov 2011	My opinion is the OP did what is right for her daughter and if that is buy an iPhone 5 then so be it. I have two sons - 25 and 23 now. When they were 12 I bought them cellphones- they both had entry level phones but were upgraded to smartphones the next year. They both played for 2 basketball teams and I would have to wait at one gym and the other would call when practice was over. I got alot of questions, opinions, etc from family members regarding my husband and I decision to buy our sons phones at such a young age. This is an individual decision a parent/family gets to make. Each parent has a different set of values that affect this situation I have never had one issue, not one lost or stolen phone, no lazy I only want to text and not live in the real world scenerio, etc.... I do say to the OP if you cant trust your daughter with an iPhone 5 at 13 how do you trust her with your family car 3 years later???? I am glad your daughter is enjoying her iPhone 5 - sounds like she is understands the responsibility the device demands.. Last edited by MsRandall; Dec 26, 2012 at 09:22 AM.
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Dec 26, 2012, 10:56 AM	#102
meistervu macrumors 6502 Join Date: Jul 2008	Again, I am not making a direct argument for or against OP's decision. One thing that I found disturbing is the disproportionate number of posts here concern were about cost and pleasure, and almost none about the social impact. To me that is more significant than the $1500 or so for the cost of a phone. It is like debating the cost versus pleasure of eating bacon without considering the health effect. Of course what OP does is his own business - he sounds like a responsible rational human being - but this is a public forum and he brought up a debatable topic. We would not do him justice had we ignore it. Last edited by meistervu; Dec 26, 2012 at 11:05 AM.
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Dec 26, 2012, 12:08 PM	#103
j.dstasio macrumors 6502 Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: South Jersey	Every child has a different level of responsibly. No one is going to know the OP's daughter's level better than the OP himself. Kudos to you, Dad for picking up your daughter a great gift and allowing her to prove her responsibly first hand rather than gauging her level of responsibility based on other people's experiences with their children. We bought our daughter an iPad 2 for Christmas this year. She will be 8 years old in January. Did she need it? Probably not. Will she learn from it & enjoy it? Yes, we feel she will. She has been responsible with past electronics including an iPod touch 2nd & 4th gen. It has been a progression of trust & responsibly with her that we started at an early age. When she was 4 & started really showing an interest we gave her an iPod touch with a huge bulky case that she could use under our direct supervision. Over time she was taught how to take care of her devices & when it was appropriate to use them. Even now, we have set limits on what she can & can't do with her devices. She is not allowed on YouTube, she must ask one of us to install apps, no online gaming, & if she want to use Facetime she has to use that feature when one of us is around to supervise. We hope that by taking baby steps where technology & responsibility are concerned, we will have an easier time with her as she gets older and wants more independence. __________________  A good mix of both black and white gadgets.
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Dec 27, 2012, 03:03 AM	#108
mentaluproar macrumors 6502a Join Date: May 2010 Location: Ohio, USA	Carrier pidgin. Beat that. __________________ Powered by OSX 10.9 Ocelot Will someone please make a safari extension that gives us back the downvote button?
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Dec 26, 2012, 12:35 PM	#105
617aircav macrumors 6502a Join Date: Jul 2012	It's the Ops choice to buy his daughter what he wants. But OP what was your point in telling us? Seems like a personal choice issue.
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Dec 28, 2012, 07:20 AM	#111
Leonard1818 macrumors 68000 Join Date: Nov 2011	My kid ended up with too much for a two-year-old! When she's 13 though... it'll probably be ONE expensive thing and that's IT!
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