I dont know what to do anymore. My mom has always been very good with her money and taking care of financial priorities in life. My dad on the other hand has always been the complete opposite. He wastes it away money every chance he gets, and when I say waste, I mean waste. It goes to stuff that he doesnt even use. He doesnt have any life savings, he lives pay cheque to pay cheque working 30 hours a week at walmart, scraping his nickels and dimes to buy him lunch. He is 82 and my mom is 69.
My mom has pretty much been supporting his *** for the past 10 years. Everything from food, to their car payments to his insurance (he drives, she doesnt but yet my mom financed the car), even gas....she pays for. He just puts it on her credit card. They needed to get a new car cause his old car was old and he kept sinking moms money into repairs on it. I have never seen my mom so upset before.
Well like a month later they had no choice but to get a new car. Guess who financed it, mom. Hes a poor soul, he can barely feed himself and you think he can finance a car? Guess who does the payments, mom (but me as well so I take the stress off her, the last thing she needs is another monthly bill) cause I know he sure aint doing the monthly payments on it. She doesnt drive because shes not comfortable driving, she hasnt driven in over 30 years. So he drives her everywhere she needs to go, shopping, work, etc.
She pays for the gas and he just drives for the sake of driving. 8 hours everyday, 7 days a week, 365 days a year, no matter if it doesnt have anywhere to go, he just drives around the city all day and wastes gas (he works nights so he has all morning and afternoon free). He thinks cars run off water. This would explain why he has to fill up every 3-5 days. But he doesnt care cause its not his money. Again, just puts it on the wifes card. Make it his money and trust me HE WILL DAMN care. I gaurentee that! And its just little **** here and there that really piss me off. Him starting his (or should I say HIS WIFES car) and letting it sit for 20mins in the winters before leaving the house. Leaving the TV on all night. JUST WASTING MONEY!
I will give him some credit, he does pay for the water, electricity and gas (house) bills every month.
What i just dont get is how when i grew up,dad would always tell me to save my money and dont buy stuff i dont need. Well look whos talking!
Well my mom i know has been fed up with his BS for the past few years and even though I keep telling her that she should leave him she wont. They have been married for over 50 years. I keep harping on her to leave his ***. Hes not going to learn until you take everything from him. Take the car keys from him. He doesnt own it. He doesnt even pay for the gas. Take away his cards. Make him use his cash. But he knows he would end up in a homeless shelter within a couple days if she did this. She just loves him too much to do something like this.
But what really pisses me off is that Ive been trying to help mom with her bills by giving her money and paying her bills. But i cant do this when dad keeps piling up the bills right back up! Like seriously, who the hell drives for 8 hours everyday just for the sake of driving around?! Really! Even with the new car being much better on gas than his old gas guzzler, we still pay more on gas each month than most do on their car payments. All because he just drives around all ****** day like if the car ran on water. Ridiculous.
But still, he is single handedly wrecking her financially. Shes not in serious debt but i know gaurenteed she would be much better off without him. I keep telling her, you know...you wont be able to pay off your debt until he passes away. I know some of you may think thats rude for me to say about my own dad but its true. He is a burden on her and the only way things will change or stop is when he passes away. Its the harsh fact, but its true. Until he leaves this world, mom wont be able to pay off her bills. Which really wont be long because he has diabettes and he has already lost his mind in the past 5 years. He eats like crap and after endless amount of tries of my siblings, mom and I trying to change his ways and educate him at the end of the day he doesnt give a **** about his health or well being. Theres only so much you can do when someone isnt willing to listen and is so stubborn. If he wants to eat Iciban, processed trash like donuts and high fat french fries and drink high sugar juices and eat no veggies and doesnt get his vitamins and nutrients everyday then so be it. He is literally killing himself the way he eats alone. My dad just never learns.
This whole situation just makes me so upset. Ive tried and tried and tried talking to my dad in the past but hes the most stubborn person you will ever met and never listens. Doesnt help that he doesnt have the same hearing and ability to hear what others have to say as before. But im just so upset at him that when I go to my parents house and hes there I dont even say hi anymore and I quite frankly cant even look at him anymore because im just so full of rage towards him. He wont change trust me. If he wouldnt change 10 years ago, he sure wouldnt today. Hes more stubborn than ever.
My mom has pretty much been supporting his *** for the past 10 years. Everything from food, to their car payments to his insurance (he drives, she doesnt but yet my mom financed the car), even gas....she pays for. He just puts it on her credit card. They needed to get a new car cause his old car was old and he kept sinking moms money into repairs on it. I have never seen my mom so upset before.
Well like a month later they had no choice but to get a new car. Guess who financed it, mom. Hes a poor soul, he can barely feed himself and you think he can finance a car? Guess who does the payments, mom (but me as well so I take the stress off her, the last thing she needs is another monthly bill) cause I know he sure aint doing the monthly payments on it. She doesnt drive because shes not comfortable driving, she hasnt driven in over 30 years. So he drives her everywhere she needs to go, shopping, work, etc.
She pays for the gas and he just drives for the sake of driving. 8 hours everyday, 7 days a week, 365 days a year, no matter if it doesnt have anywhere to go, he just drives around the city all day and wastes gas (he works nights so he has all morning and afternoon free). He thinks cars run off water. This would explain why he has to fill up every 3-5 days. But he doesnt care cause its not his money. Again, just puts it on the wifes card. Make it his money and trust me HE WILL DAMN care. I gaurentee that! And its just little **** here and there that really piss me off. Him starting his (or should I say HIS WIFES car) and letting it sit for 20mins in the winters before leaving the house. Leaving the TV on all night. JUST WASTING MONEY!
I will give him some credit, he does pay for the water, electricity and gas (house) bills every month.
What i just dont get is how when i grew up,dad would always tell me to save my money and dont buy stuff i dont need. Well look whos talking!
Well my mom i know has been fed up with his BS for the past few years and even though I keep telling her that she should leave him she wont. They have been married for over 50 years. I keep harping on her to leave his ***. Hes not going to learn until you take everything from him. Take the car keys from him. He doesnt own it. He doesnt even pay for the gas. Take away his cards. Make him use his cash. But he knows he would end up in a homeless shelter within a couple days if she did this. She just loves him too much to do something like this.
But what really pisses me off is that Ive been trying to help mom with her bills by giving her money and paying her bills. But i cant do this when dad keeps piling up the bills right back up! Like seriously, who the hell drives for 8 hours everyday just for the sake of driving around?! Really! Even with the new car being much better on gas than his old gas guzzler, we still pay more on gas each month than most do on their car payments. All because he just drives around all ****** day like if the car ran on water. Ridiculous.
But still, he is single handedly wrecking her financially. Shes not in serious debt but i know gaurenteed she would be much better off without him. I keep telling her, you know...you wont be able to pay off your debt until he passes away. I know some of you may think thats rude for me to say about my own dad but its true. He is a burden on her and the only way things will change or stop is when he passes away. Its the harsh fact, but its true. Until he leaves this world, mom wont be able to pay off her bills. Which really wont be long because he has diabettes and he has already lost his mind in the past 5 years. He eats like crap and after endless amount of tries of my siblings, mom and I trying to change his ways and educate him at the end of the day he doesnt give a **** about his health or well being. Theres only so much you can do when someone isnt willing to listen and is so stubborn. If he wants to eat Iciban, processed trash like donuts and high fat french fries and drink high sugar juices and eat no veggies and doesnt get his vitamins and nutrients everyday then so be it. He is literally killing himself the way he eats alone. My dad just never learns.
This whole situation just makes me so upset. Ive tried and tried and tried talking to my dad in the past but hes the most stubborn person you will ever met and never listens. Doesnt help that he doesnt have the same hearing and ability to hear what others have to say as before. But im just so upset at him that when I go to my parents house and hes there I dont even say hi anymore and I quite frankly cant even look at him anymore because im just so full of rage towards him. He wont change trust me. If he wouldnt change 10 years ago, he sure wouldnt today. Hes more stubborn than ever.
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