Is It Normal That I Have Fallen In Love With a Reality TV Star to an Extreme Degree?

Maserati7200 · Aug 20, 2009, 04:04 AM

Recently I have found that I have extreme feelings for Heather West, a woman who i only saw on TV. Keep reading, it's more extreme than you might think. For those who don't know, Heather West starred in a cooking reality show on FOX called Hell's Kitchen. Guys, tell me if this is normal, because I'm really flustered. I was watching season 2 of HK an I started to like Heather. I thought she was hot and had a nice personality, she was great. It wasn't anything extreme. I thought that way for a few other contestants in Hell's Kitchen, it wasn't love, but I liked them. As the season progressed more and more, my emotions for her have grown dramatically. Lately I've just been thinking about her being happy on hell's kitchen (when she won challenges etc) and her smile and it makes me really happy. I really really loved her at that point. But yesterday I hit an extreme, I was crying thinking about how I will never be with her. In a subway station. I was really emotional, I was really sad. I'm a 16 year old guy, I can't remember the last time I cried over anything. Heather really has a spot in my heart, and I cant control it. Is it normal to have such extreme feelings for someone I never met? I'm concerned this might be something psychological.

I found her twitter account and asked her a few questions about HK, but I never mentioned this. Should I?

Don't judge me

jk

edesignuk · Aug 20, 2009, 04:23 AM

I think you need to look at some interweb porn, stat.

Maserati7200 · 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by edesignuk

I think you need to look at some interweb porn, stat.

I do that regularly...

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Originally Posted by edesignuk

I think you need to look at some interweb porn, stat.

Also, I'd like to add that this isn't a sexual attraction (I would love to have sex with her and think she is attractive, but it is way more than sexual) this is emotional. It's not like I have these feelings because I want to have sex with her, it's love.

arkitect · Aug 20, 2009, 05:40 AM

This one?
http://c3.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/i...cd7a0120c2.jpg

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Originally Posted by Maserati7200

Guys, tell me if this is normal

Sorry, but it really isn't normal behaviour.
On the other hand you are only 16 and well, I guess your hormones are a tad out of control.

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Originally Posted by Maserati7200

I found her twitter account and asked her a few questions about HK, but I never mentioned this. Should I?

rather not. She will think you a stalker — even if you're only 13 years younger than her…

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Originally Posted by edesignuk

I think you need to look at some interweb porn, stat.

+1
Get busy.

dukebound85 · 06:34 AM

Sorry to burst your bubble man but she is a lesbian...so you may have a hard time winning her heart being a guy and all lol

She is the Sous chef for the current season as well

Now Bonnie on the other hand.......wowzers!
http://img2.timeinc.net/ew/dynamic/i...l/bonnie_l.jpg

appleguy123 · Aug 20, 2009, 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by dukebound85

Sorry to burst your bubble man but she is a lesbian...so you may have a hard time winning her heart being a guy and all lol

She is the Sous chef for the current season as well

Now Bonnie on the other hand.......wowzers!
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way to crush the little guys dreams

Chappers · 07:29 AM

Sorry but you've fallen in love with an imaginary person - not a real person. She is represented in a certain way by TV editors etc to get people to watch -she is not real. You are seeing a person created by TV.

Is it normal - yes. Should you do your best to get over this and find a real person - Yes.

maflynn · Aug 20, 2009, 07:53 AM

Its called a crush and since you really don't know her, at least personally, it doubtful its love. Not to sound harsh or anything.

There's a difference between how people comport themselves on tv versus how they really act and until you get to know a person personally I don't think you can truly fall in love. Besides there's nothing you can do about it. Enjoy looking at her, but realize you have zero chance with her. Don't go off the deep end and start acting creepy

Boneoh · Aug 20, 2009, 11:47 AM

Hey, this is not that unusual. Maybe not ever 16 year old guy, but normal enough. You should realize by now that your hormones are raging! Channel your energy into finding a real girlfriend. THere is someone for everyone out there!

northy124 · Aug 20, 2009, 01:21 PM

Hell's Kitchen rocks

On to your infatuation, it is normal for a 16 year old I guess but crying over her is not.

Just go out and find a real GF

CaptMurdock · Aug 21, 2009, 12:21 AM

Geez, people, lay off the poor guy. He's in the midst of his first crush. Have a smidgen of sympathy already...

Maserati: Okay, don't be trying to find out where she lives and start camping out on her doorstep. They have laws against that sort of thing. Strange but true. If you do tweet to her, keep it low key, keep it "I was pulling for you on Hell's Kitchen" rather than "I want you to have my children." Other than that, enjoy your fantasy. At your age, it's not so bad to Dream The Impossible Dream. You have plenty of time to make mistakes IRL.

InvalidUserID · Aug 21, 2009, 10:10 AM

After eating at Ramsey's restaurant, I have a new appreciation for the show.

yg17 · Aug 21, 2009, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by dukebound85

Sorry to burst your bubble man but she is a lesbian...so you may have a hard time winning her heart being a guy and all lol

She is the Sous chef for the current season as well

Now Bonnie on the other hand.......wowzers!
http://img2.timeinc.net/ew/dynamic/i...l/bonnie_l.jpg

I wouldn't mind sticking my bread in her oven

Signal-11 · Aug 21, 2009, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by InvalidUserID

After eating at Ramsey's restaurant, I have a new appreciation for the show.

Which one? That dude has his name on 30+ restaurants.

I've eaten at two of them, not including the one in Heathrow (there are much better food options in Terminal 5)

and my experience was no different than other celebrity chefs' restaurants - disappointing. Come to think of it, I'm actually more disinclined to go some place if I know the dude running the joint's written a book or is on TV.

/old curmudgeon hat off

maestro55 · Aug 21, 2009, 01:58 PM

Dude, you haven't fallen in love with her. So you think she is hot and you want to bone her. You are 16, you would probably want to bone Chef Ramsey in a skirt.

rdowns · Aug 21, 2009, 02:13 PM

I say you should act on your feelings. Do you want to regret it the rest of your life? Stalk her ass. If it doesn't work out with her, you'll get your 15 minutes and we can close this thread.

jessica. · Aug 21, 2009, 02:20 PM

If you stalk her please post updates.

Can we get this thread stickied?

MKSinSA · Aug 21, 2009, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by rdowns

I say you should act on your feelings. Do you want to regret it the rest of your life? Stalk her ass. If it doesn't work out with her, you'll get your 15 minutes and we can close this thread.

HA! Where were you and your advice back when I had my pubescent crush on Farrah Fawcett? And Kate Smith? And ...

rdowns · 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MKSinSA

HA! Where were you and your advice back when I had my pubescent crush on Farrah Fawcett? And Kate Smith? And ...

Kate Smith? That old broad who sang God Bless America?

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedi...Kate_Smith.jpg

dmr727 · Aug 21, 2009, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by rdowns

Kate Smith? That old road who sang God Bless America?

::eye twitches::

MKSinSA · Aug 21, 2009, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by rdowns

Kate Smith? That old road who sang God Bless America?

DON'T JUDGE ME BRO!!!!

Those were different times - I was young, weed was shared, the van was rocking - Kate Jackson/Jaqueline Smith, there were dreams, so many dreams ... Fortunately, none ended up looking like that!

InvalidUserID · Aug 21, 2009, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Signal-11

Which one? That dude has his name on 30+ restaurants.

I've eaten at two of them, not including the one in Heathrow (there are much better food options in Terminal 5)

and my experience was no different than other celebrity chefs' restaurants - disappointing. Come to think of it, I'm actually more disinclined to go some place if I know the dude running the joint's written a book or is on TV.

/old curmudgeon hat off

Gordon Ramsey's at the London in NYC. And not the watered-down "Maze" lite restaurant.

babyjenniferLB · Aug 21, 2009, 03:00 PM

My input i mind the boys in highschool were so "active" when they were in there late teens that even a lamp post was exciting to them.

Abstract · Aug 21, 2009, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Signal-11

Come to think of it, I'm actually more disinclined to go some place if I know the dude running the joint's written a book or is on TV.

Well my friend went to Hiroyuki Sakai's restaurant, and Iron Chef French did not disappoint. Apparently, it was the best meal he ever had.

It may depend on which Ramsay restaurant you go to. I probably wouldn't give a rats ass which one I went to, as I'm not picky at all and wouldn't be able to tell a great dish from an outstanding dish. I'd probably like them all. However, I guess there are pickier people out there who can tell the difference, and would actually be disappointed if their meal was only 'great' rather than outstanding.

MKSinSA · Aug 21, 2009, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Abstract

I'd probably like them all. However, I guess there are pickier people out there who can tell the difference, and would actually be disappointed if their meal was only 'great' rather than outstanding.

I'd like Ramsey's Chinese Take-out, Pizza Delivery and Bar-b-que Hut, if he'd oblige!

Aug 20, 2009, 04:04 AM	#1
Maserati7200 macrumors 6502a Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: 11230, Midwood, Brooklyn, NY, USA, North America, Earth, Milky Way, Universe	Is It Normal That I Have Fallen In Love With a Reality TV Star to an Extreme Degree? Recently I have found that I have extreme feelings for Heather West, a woman who i only saw on TV. Keep reading, it's more extreme than you might think. For those who don't know, Heather West starred in a cooking reality show on FOX called Hell's Kitchen. Guys, tell me if this is normal, because I'm really flustered. I was watching season 2 of HK an I started to like Heather. I thought she was hot and had a nice personality, she was great. It wasn't anything extreme. I thought that way for a few other contestants in Hell's Kitchen, it wasn't love, but I liked them. As the season progressed more and more, my emotions for her have grown dramatically. Lately I've just been thinking about her being happy on hell's kitchen (when she won challenges etc) and her smile and it makes me really happy. I really really loved her at that point. But yesterday I hit an extreme, I was crying thinking about how I will never be with her. In a subway station. I was really emotional, I was really sad. I'm a 16 year old guy, I can't remember the last time I cried over anything. Heather really has a spot in my heart, and I cant control it. Is it normal to have such extreme feelings for someone I never met? I'm concerned this might be something psychological. I found her twitter account and asked her a few questions about HK, but I never mentioned this. Should I? Don't judge me jk __________________ You better watch who you're calling a child Lois. Because if Im a child, you know what that makes you? A pedophile. And I'll be damned if I'm gonna sit here being lectured by a pervert -Peter Griffin

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dukebound85 macrumors 603 Join Date: Jul 2005	Sorry to burst your bubble man but she is a lesbian...so you may have a hard time winning her heart being a guy and all lol She is the Sous chef for the current season as well Now Bonnie on the other hand.......wowzers! http://img2.timeinc.net/ew/dynamic/i...l/bonnie_l.jpg __________________ Old Bike: 2008 Kawasaki Ninja 250r Green Current Bike: 2003 Suzuki SV650S Copper Last edited by dukebound85 : Aug 20, 2009 at 06:34 AM.

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Chappers macrumors 68000 Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: At home	Sorry but you've fallen in love with an imaginary person - not a real person. She is represented in a certain way by TV editors etc to get people to watch -she is not real. You are seeing a person created by TV. Is it normal - yes. Should you do your best to get over this and find a real person - Yes. __________________ Check out the fortnightly photo challenge at send me a postcard ◃--- CLICK HERE and don't forget the MacRumors Fortnightly Photo Flickr page Join today on Flickr Last edited by Chappers : Aug 20, 2009 at 07:29 AM.

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maflynn Contributor Join Date: May 2009	Its called a crush and since you really don't know her, at least personally, it doubtful its love. Not to sound harsh or anything. There's a difference between how people comport themselves on tv versus how they really act and until you get to know a person personally I don't think you can truly fall in love. Besides there's nothing you can do about it. Enjoy looking at her, but realize you have zero chance with her. Don't go off the deep end and start acting creepy __________________ Unibody MacBook Pro 2.53 GHz, 4GB ram, 500GB HDD; iPhone 3Gs 32GB

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Boneoh macrumors 6502 Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: So. Cal.	Hey, this is not that unusual. Maybe not ever 16 year old guy, but normal enough. You should realize by now that your hormones are raging! Channel your energy into finding a real girlfriend. THere is someone for everyone out there!

Aug 20, 2009, 01:21 PM	#10
northy124 macrumors 68000 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Cornwall, UK	Hell's Kitchen rocks On to your infatuation, it is normal for a 16 year old I guess but crying over her is not. Just go out and find a real GF

Aug 21, 2009, 12:21 AM	#11
CaptMurdock macrumors regular Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: The Spaceport	Geez, people, lay off the poor guy. He's in the midst of his first crush. Have a smidgen of sympathy already... Maserati: Okay, don't be trying to find out where she lives and start camping out on her doorstep. They have laws against that sort of thing. Strange but true. If you do tweet to her, keep it low key, keep it "I was pulling for you on Hell's Kitchen" rather than "I want you to have my children." Other than that, enjoy your fantasy. At your age, it's not so bad to Dream The Impossible Dream. You have plenty of time to make mistakes IRL. __________________ 12" iBook G4, 1.07 GHz, 768 MB RAM, 80 GB HD, currently running OS 10.5.8, back with Firefox 3.5.6; iPod nano 8GB "A flute with no holes is not a flute. A donut with no holes is a danish."

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maestro55 macrumors Demi-God Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Goat Farm in Meridian, TX	Dude, you haven't fallen in love with her. So you think she is hot and you want to bone her. You are 16, you would probably want to bone Chef Ramsey in a skirt. __________________ Happy Holidays!

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rdowns macrumors Demi-God Join Date: Jul 2003	I say you should act on your feelings. Do you want to regret it the rest of your life? Stalk her ass. If it doesn't work out with her, you'll get your 15 minutes and we can close this thread.

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