OP, I would say look at your usage and try to predict future usage. If your habits remain the same, RAM really won't matter. Second, consider the speed of page outs/page ins on the SSD versus what you would experience today with a standard SSD setup or even a HDD. The PCI-e speed increase may alleviate most of what someone would notice in terms of lag on a page-out anyhow. I haven't experienced the difference and it would be interesting to see someone force a system to page-out and compare a 2012 to a 2013 MBA.
I believe the difference would be significant but I really have no way to confirm. If cost/value were your driving factor for 4GB or 8GB, I'd go for 4GB and trust the specs I've seen and experience posts of users measuring speed on the new SSD setup. If the $100 isn't as much of an issue, go with 8GB just so you can feel confident you can resell years later for a decent value. But, all Macs hold significant resale value so it's still a judgement call in the end. Personally, 4GB would be fine for me because my uses are similar to yours and I've seen users post their results of SSD speed on new 2013 machines so slight hesitations would be meaningless for my purposes, and that same speed will be seen on the Windows side under Parallels anyhow. Only gaming, based on your uses, could push the system to page-out I think, and since you said "light gaming" I think even that's a stretch.
Edit: I look at it from a business standpoint. Get what you need and what you predict you will still need 2-4 years from now. Buy only what you need, not what may look good on resale because that extra investment is wasted until the resale date if you never/rarely need more than 4GB.
I believe the difference would be significant but I really have no way to confirm. If cost/value were your driving factor for 4GB or 8GB, I'd go for 4GB and trust the specs I've seen and experience posts of users measuring speed on the new SSD setup. If the $100 isn't as much of an issue, go with 8GB just so you can feel confident you can resell years later for a decent value. But, all Macs hold significant resale value so it's still a judgement call in the end. Personally, 4GB would be fine for me because my uses are similar to yours and I've seen users post their results of SSD speed on new 2013 machines so slight hesitations would be meaningless for my purposes, and that same speed will be seen on the Windows side under Parallels anyhow. Only gaming, based on your uses, could push the system to page-out I think, and since you said "light gaming" I think even that's a stretch.
Edit: I look at it from a business standpoint. Get what you need and what you predict you will still need 2-4 years from now. Buy only what you need, not what may look good on resale because that extra investment is wasted until the resale date if you never/rarely need more than 4GB.