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Old Jan 8, 2013, 05:50 PM   #1
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I hurt my friend.

I dropped the ball and now one of my friends is suffering because of it.

How can I make it up to him?

I'm lost and don't know what to do.

A card? another apology?
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Old Jan 8, 2013, 06:51 PM   #2
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It depends what you did/the severity of it.
Depending on it, it's something you need to do ASAP or something that needs time.
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Old Jan 8, 2013, 06:53 PM   #3
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It depends what you did/the severity of it.
Agreed. It is hard to know without knowing more details.
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Old Jan 8, 2013, 06:56 PM   #4
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When there's real harm, nothing trivializes it quite like sending a card.

Except maybe emailing a link to an ecard.
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Old Jan 8, 2013, 07:02 PM   #5
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There was no physical harm.

He's always been there for me, and I wasn't there for him.

I already apologized in person and he's over it and such but I still don't think he knows how I feel.
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Old Jan 8, 2013, 07:17 PM   #6
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I dropped the ball and now one of my friends is suffering because of it.

How can I make it up to him?

I'm lost and don't know what to do.

A card? another apology?
Usually, time and space works, give it a few then write an apology card. If it's a close girl friend, flowers do wonders too.

Edit: Oops didn't read your last post. If he's over it, no use pushing it.
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Old Jan 8, 2013, 07:18 PM   #7
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There was no physical harm.

He's always been there for me, and I wasn't there for him.

I already apologized in person and he's over it and such but I still don't think he knows how I feel.
I've learned this the hard way.

In any kind of relationship, whether friends, romantic, marriage, familial, or otherwise, communication is the best solution to any problem. Sitting down and talking out your thoughts, concerns, and problems, no matter how trivial or deep, will always help a relationship. Always. Coming across as whiny, accusatory, or stubborn/irrational will not help.

Luckily, in this situation, your friend sounds like he is over it, and wants to remain friends, but you still feel awful. I think it would help both you and him out to let him know how you feel, and that you want to work on being there for him more, because that is what friends do. True friends care for eachother. It may help him out as well, especially if he might be trying to put on a brave face and say that it doesn't hurt when in fact it does.

Talk it out. It will help both of you, and perhaps strengthen the friendship that is already there.

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Old Jan 9, 2013, 06:30 PM   #8
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There was no physical harm.

He's always been there for me, and I wasn't there for him.

I already apologized in person and he's over it and such but I still don't think he knows how I feel.
give it time, give it space...dont be pushy trying to make it up, just be there the next time...

that said, don't expect him welcome you back with open arms..years ago I needed someone at what was a very traumatic point in time for me...gist of it is that person let me down in a huge way and our relationship has never been the same since.
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Agreed. It is hard to know without knowing more details.
I wonder what he did. It can't be good. One time a friend of mine dropped a bowling ball on my foot. It really hurt...
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I wonder what he did. It can't be good. One time a friend of mine dropped a bowling ball on my foot. It really hurt...
How much weight?
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How much weight?
I was young like maybe uh 10-12 ish. It was like an 8lber or something. Nothing to bad. still hurt though.
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