Christmas gift for a girl I like but not dating....

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  1. Abstract macrumors Penryn

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    Ok, here's the dealio: My relationship with my (ex-)gf ended 8 weeks ago, and over the past 2.5 weeks, I have been very interested in another girl. I think we're even a better match than my ex-gf and I. :) We have the same "sense." She's kind, good at "life/living" (if you know what I mean), spontaneous, open-minded, smart, school smart, good with people, gorgeous, very sweet, kind, bubbly, perfect. I'm 99.7% sure she fancies me as well. :D :eek: :cool:

    However, since one of the (2 or 3) reasons my relationship with my ex-gf ended is because of distance (she had to move back home.....a 10 hour flight away), I don't want an identical situation with this new girl 8 months from now when she leaves as well. This girl has also been in a long distance relationship, and it was very tough. She must go back to her home Uni in July.

    Today, she was talking about how to become a resident here, which is what I intend to do as well. I told her that I hope she finds a way to become a resident here, because if she did and was still single, I'd love to ask her out then. But I told her that after only 2 months of being single, I can't start a relationship right now that we both know will end up being long distance. She understands how I feel and agrees with me.

    What do I get this girl as an Xmas present? :confused: Do I just buy her a regular gift, or something more special? I don't want to get her a "gf" type of present, but I don't want to give her a "close friend" present. After what we just discussed today, I'm not going to Swarovski or Tiffany's and buying her a present that's way over the top, y'know? I want to get her something special (a bit "boyfriend-ish"), but not completely "boyfriend-ish."

    Or maybe I could just get her a CD set I know she would love to own, and then get her a card with a special message in it? :confused: That's my lame-ass idea right now.


    Any suggestions?
     
  2. betty02 macrumors regular

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    well i split wit ym ex 6 weeks ago after a 2yr realtionship, i met this other girl, who i like, n she likes me, but were not togeather (for long lol :p) and im just going to give her £100 and say, buy what ya want lol!
     
  3. Abstract thread starter macrumors Penryn

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    How did you manage to keep a gf for 2 years?

    (mini)-ZING!
     
  4. barneygumble macrumors 6502a

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    I suggest tickets to a concert, see what bands she enjoys and giver her two tickets, open ended so she is not obligated to take you, although that could get expensive, or

    PORN, Girls like porn don't they?
     
  5. mikebatho macrumors 6502a

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    A nice piece of white stilton or some Cornish Yarg.

    When in doubt, say it with cheese........
     
  6. betty02 macrumors regular

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    What you trying to say im ugly:eek: :eek:


    lol only messing, well we met each other one night, they day after she expressed how much she liked me, i asked her out that day, and we just spent 2 years 2geda, theres no right or wrong way to di it mate, there no way you can say, 'Ok were going to go out for 15 years 3 days 9 hours 53 minutes and 2 seconds' its just love i suppose
     
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    i like the bit you squeezed in there, 2 be honest its the kinda girl u meet that determins weather she lieks PORN, or not lol
     
  8. Chundles macrumors G4

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    How about a nice bottle of red wine, actually, make it two bottle of decent red wine and then drink liberally, garnish with emotional outpouring and follow with a good helping of flirtatious banter.

    Then leave.

    Then suggest another drinking night and repeat step one. It's up to you whether you repeat step 2. ;)
     
  9. Deepdale macrumors 68000

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    Your idea is not lame. It shows you care enough but is also not too extravagant at this early stage. Women love to receive a special message so I encourage that. If you really went over the top and bought her a gift that looks like my avatar (a heart-shaped ruby ring or pendant), it would really make your feelings abundantly clear.

    However, the downside is that she may feel additional pressure. Your objective at this stage is to demonstrate your interest and affection, but let her feelings blossom until the other key issue about location is resolved.
     
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    We do the whole flirty thing all the frackin time. :D

    No, I'm not saying that, but you're gonna give this girl money? What are you, her uncle? ;)


    @DeepDale: Yeah, that's what I think too. The gift is casual, but the card is what's gonna be on her mind, hopefully. If I got her something that's over the top, it may scare her off at this early stage.

    The card is in for sure, but the actual present itself is still a question. What about a teddy bear? Too lame-o? Another guy got her a bear several months ago, so its not like it's a new idea.
     
  11. Deepdale macrumors 68000

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    The bear may be too bearish ... something a bit more bullish will set you apart. As to the gift, consider a nice stylish watch (nothing with a truly outlandish price tag). Your message could then have some very personal references to "in due time" and that "time is on your side."
     
  12. Chundles macrumors G4

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    Massively lame-o.

    Opp, gotta go, another storm rolling in. I loves me thunder storms.

    Couple of movie tickets and a nice bottle of red wine.
     
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    LMAO lol, nope were just close friends lo,, my dad uses a word begining with P.......... can't remember but it smenas 2 close firedn,s she wants a releationship, so do i so who knows lol, yeah becuase i don't know what 2 get her, i said her have this, and i will buy her somethig special, with a card with some nice words in it, which she will love more then the other prezzies, so yeah the card idea is great ;)
     
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    I'm guessing this word is Platonic but judging by the spelling in most of your posts I wonder if you pressed the wrong key by accident but managed to fluke a word that fits the situation.

    Platonic comes from the relationship shared by Plato and his friends, nothing sexual but a very deep emotional understanding.
     
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    And for those visiting from far away galaxies, they have their own special word for such friendships ... Plutonic.
     
  16. Applespider macrumors G4

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    A CD set is a pretty good idea; it's more than the single CD a casual friend might by and it's something she'll keep without feeling undue pressure, particularly if you know that she'd really like it.

    A good hardcover edition of a book, which you can write an inscription in, might be another idea but it is tougher to pick that ideal book!

    My only other suggestion would be some luxury that she might not buy herself but isn't so OTT that she'd never use it or be alarmed; I'd say a cashmere scarf but since it's summer down there, that might not fly!
     
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    Yup thats the word, please excuse my spelling, i should of said, its becuase im dyslexic sorry, im sure you understand what i mean to say though/

    I remebered the word just after i posted lol
     
  18. Abstract thread starter macrumors Penryn

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    ^^Oh, so english is your first language, but you're dyslexic, right? No worries, mate. I have ADHD/ADD and am a bit dyslexic (sometimes :p ), so I know how you feel about having problems. I feel like that all the time posting at a message board, reading everything and such.

    Anyway, welcome aboard.


    That idea is wicked-awesome. I might just go with that. ;) So I'll get her two gift certificates that equal to 2 passes to a movie of her choice, and on the card I imply that the other one is for me, and that I'd love to go to a movie with her. Whatever, she'd probably take me even if I didn't say anything. ;) I don't do cards (unless I need to), but I collect postcards and have one that says "Shamelessly Romantic" and has a girl embracing/hugging a guy.

    If you have ANY other suggestions, that would be great. I'd like to have more than one idea, since her b-day also happens to be close to X-mas. ;)

    And yeah, storm brewing at the 'Gong tonight. Will it ever end? Honestly, I haven't been out for a jog in 10 days because there's a storm every morning, it seems.

    An image of my postcard, in case you thought the idea of a postcard rather than a card was bad (again, I don't usually do cards for people I'm close with).....
     

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    I apologise, I don't know you were dyslexic and I would never pick on anyone with a bona-fide reason for what they do.

    You should have told us all earlier, nobody's going to judge you.
     
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    Welcome to spring time, honestly I'd rather it rained every morning for the next few months then have to deal with another 4 years of dry weather. If only this rain would fall where it needs to. It's going to get warmer in the next few days but I'm not sure as to when the storms will stop, it's typical spring weather though although the storms are a fair bit bigger than normal. These are summer storms in spring, can't wait till the real summer storms come rolling in, I hope it's not a let down and we get another hot, dry and scary bushfire summer.
     
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    Hey mate no worries, you weren't to know, yeah i should of said, but was scared people would be like 'will you need pink sheets over your screen' etc

    But i suppose i had the wrong dudjment and non of you are like that

    Thanks ;)
     
  22. Chundles macrumors G4

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    DUDE!!! ANYTHING BUT THAT POSTCARD!!

    Get a nice, classy Birthday card. That postcard will totally go against everything you've said you are trying to do. Talk about putting huge pressure on a budding relationship. Keep it light, something funny, a bit of a giggle, maybe a Far Side card.
     
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    What about flowers? But not OTT !!

    Nothing says I love like flowers.

    Applespider's book idea is good. A nice book, flowers and a card.

    If that doesn't work, buy her an iPod :p
     
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    Damn, I thought it was a bit of a giggle. I mean seriously, it IS a bit funny if you're not going out with someone. Look at the girl's face!

    But you're right, and I'm wrong. I'm just going to make her a card. :p It doesn't really matter what it says when I make her card. It just seems cute or something. ;)
     
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    No! Not lame! :eek: Okay, I don't think I'll ever get over an adorable, perfect-for-hugging-super-soft-stuffed animal. I'm a sucker for stuffed animals.

    Um, CD set is fine. Concert tickets would be neat. Boo on flowers. They're pricey and they die before a week is up.
     

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