I want to know whether someone can tell me if this is considered depression, and what I should do. I have a relative who is 24. It has been around 2 years since he graduated, but he hasn't found a job. He never goes out because he has no reason to. He never used to go out with friends because he has never really been the type to go out, meet new people, go to bars, etc. He likes staying at home, which is fine with me if he's happy that way. However, not going outside for almost 2 years is a bit much, so of course we're worried. At least he used to walk his dog, but the dog is getting very old and doesn't want to walk a lot. He wants to find any job that requires a degree, but he can't find anything, and I don't know why. I think he has been to workshops to help him with his resumé/CV, but he doesn't get through the interview. Maybe his confidence is entirely shot, and he's getting worse at interviews. I'm not sure. He might be getting better, but not good enough at them. (???) I don't know what else to say. Supposedly, he also looks very unhealthy and pale. He lives with his parents, and just eats whenever he wants (he doesn't have a strict schedule). He doesn't talk much, either. If they suggest something to him (eg: Go to a gym (he looks unhealthy). Travel on vacation (parents will pay). Travel to another city/country to find any job (degree or no degree required)), he doesn't answer or even look in their direction. I just want to know how to get him to a psychiatrist. I mean, it's a bit unfair, actually. First, we need to get him to a regular doctor, get a referral, and then get him to a psychiatrist. How can we get him to go to 2 doctors if he doesn't even go outside? If we could take him straight to a psychiatrist, I think it'd be easier, but we need to somehow get him to 2 different doctors on 2 separate days? I have been asked to ask him to go see a psychiatrist. I'm afraid of doing so because......well, it sounds a bit insulting if you think about it. "Everyone thinks you're messed up, so please go." Even sugarcoating it and introducing the idea of a psychiatrist in a friendlier way would sound bad to the listener. I've suggested brute force. It's tough love. Just drag his ass to the doctor twice. Yes, he's an adult, but everyone is doing it for his benefit, as he would never go if he's just asked to go.