How to be Unique

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  1. Shaun.P macrumors 68000

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    I'm 19 years old and and pretty unhappy with my personality and life in general. I want to feel more unique. I feel like nothing uniquely identifies me, I don't have my own 'thing', as if everything I do is common.

    I have been thinking about it a lot, and i don't really have any hobbies (apart from music and socialising) but nothing special. I want to start doing some cool unique things. I'm going to be taking up body combat at the gym, so that's something.

    Also, these days, I hate being alone. I cannot occupy myself, I end up getting really down when I'm not around friends. So, a hobby would help out in this respect to.

    Over all I just feel as I'm a run of the mill boring person, nothing about my personality stands out. I don't know if it's normal to feel like this, but I want to change it and I was hoping some of you would have suggestions.

    Thank you for your help, I really do appreciate it.

    S
     
  2. risc macrumors 68030

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    What you should do is never make a decision on your own at all. Why not create a website where you run polls constantly so people can vote for what you should do?

    Should I go to school / work today? Y/N

    That kind of thing...
     
  3. spicyapple macrumors 68000

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    It gets worse. :)
     
  4. crazycat macrumors 65816

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    Dont try to be different because you feel the need to be, sometimes you have to do things, act a different way in different places. During meeting i have to act a way, burning my free time i act another way. Dont try to fit yourself to being one thing, just be yourself. If you find something funny laugh, if you find something sad be upset, dont stop yourself from doing something because you have to be unique.
     
  5. crazycat macrumors 65816

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    I agree, it really does.
     
  6. Shaun.P thread starter macrumors 68000

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    I feel all messed up. Sorry to be vague but it's how I feel. I which I was more quiet and reserved, not as outspoken and just in general a much nicer person. I wanna be more interesting, have cool hobbies and stuff.

    Meh I'm sad.
     
  7. Josh macrumors 68000

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    Want to be unique?

    Take this advice, and only this advice: Make your own decisions, do what YOU want, no matter how goofy or silly or lame you might think others will see it.

    You only have one life, which could end at any moment. Live like you want to live, not how others do, not how someone thinks you should.

    Read this post, and never come back to this thread again :)

    It's your life..spend it your way, and maybe show us a thing or two about being unique.
     
  8. PlaceofDis macrumors Core

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    gotta say i agree with Josh on this one.

    its your life, do what you will with it.
    live without regrets.
    live the way you want.
    go where you want.
    do the things that you want to do.
     
  9. crazycat macrumors 65816

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    Was that a poem? i have to say its not that good.
     
  10. Shaun.P thread starter macrumors 68000

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    Thanks for the advice, but I feel I'm a boring person... I would like to change this. I want to do something that I dunno, defines me, makes me stand out from the crowd. I'm sick of the whole being like other people.

    Is it normal to feel like this?
     
  11. PlaceofDis macrumors Core

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    no that wasn't a poem. i have pleny of them at my website.


    yes it is normal to feel like this.
    we are all a part of a larger group in some way, shape, or form.

    i have tattoos and piercings that make me stand out.
    thats not for everyone though.
    just be yourself. thats what matters in the end.
     
  12. j26 macrumors 65832

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    People consciously trying to be unique are boring.

    Do your own thing and at least some people will genuinely find you interesting, and you actually are being unique.

    As for hobbies, what do you like doing? Doing something because you think people will find it interesting or cool is a waste of time. You won't enjoy it and people won't find that interesting.
     
  13. BoyBach macrumors 68040

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    Why do want to be "unique"? God knows that there are enough "individuals" in the world.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with just being a "normal, boring person."
     
  14. Shaun.P thread starter macrumors 68000

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    That's exactly how I feel. Doing something because I think people will find it interesting or cool.

    Things I genuinely enjoy are driving, photography (not skilled above iPhoto and point and shoot :p), reading Mac books (Apple Confidential, Second Coming of Steve Jobs, Cult of Mac etc (these are the only books I'm interested in). I enjoy listening to, and discovering music. I like seeing films (I work in a cinema so I get to see them all with my friends for free, but all my friends work in the cinema too lol). Speaking of that, I saw Wiker Man today - rubbish! That's really all my hobbies. Nothing special about them. Perhaps someone has an idea which could be branched out from one of my interests listed?
     
  15. risc macrumors 68030

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    YES
     
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  17. spicyapple macrumors 68000

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    Actually quite true. Find something you love to do, and do it well, people will start noticing you.

    Otherwise, as you said, trying to act unique is both boring and lame.

    [​IMG]
     
  18. hulugu macrumors 68000

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    I think it is to a point, you're a 19-year-old kid, you don't have any of the emotional and physical scars, you don't have many regrets or sucesses, you've probably never really loved someone outside of your family.
    And, that's okay because you're a 19-year-old kid.

    You'll find your path and meaning by making choices that fulfill you, not someone else's idea of what you should be. Including ours. We can't tell you what to do with this particular existential crisis because we'd only be telling you what we'd do.

    How do I appear different than my peers? I write poetry for fun and smoke cigars. I drink really dark stouts and I drive an old Jeep which leaks when it rains. I wear hiking boots with suits (polished of course) and I rock-climb. And for a while I was the sole Mac user, but I fixed that.
     
  19. mactastic macrumors 68040

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    How to be Unique?

    Copy another unique person~ :p
     
  20. BoyBach macrumors 68040

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    You're just weird! ;)
     
  21. Shaun.P thread starter macrumors 68000

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    In fact, all this wanting to be unique stuff has started since I have fell in love with someone. The way I feel about this person, I have never felt about anyone. And it breaks me up inside because *nothing* can never come of it (don't ask me why, that's a whole other story!). This person is perfect to me, and I find myself wanting to become like them. They are quiet and reserved, into cool hobbies, and just in general are quite and cool, but difficult to get to know. Is is weird that I want to become like someone who I am in love with? I'm all f**ked up, aren't I?
     
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  23. Shaun.P thread starter macrumors 68000

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    He'd certainly be unique! Probably whilst being chased by the police! :D
     

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