I join the club and ask for...wait for it.... guy advice

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by mariahlullaby, Jul 24, 2006.

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    mariahlullaby

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    So what do you do when you meet this guy and you've fallen for him completely? All you can do is think about him -- and you NEVER fall for guys like this. Ever. And what do you do when this guy seemed interested in you and like things were going well and now seems so aloof? Oh and have I mentioned the 2.5 year age difference? And that he's that much younger than me? Oh, and that I'll be leaving for college in a month and that I realize completely that this is crazy?
     
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    Well, since it seems pretty obvious that it wouldn't work out, I'd say move on, try to occupy your mind with something else, and avoid this guy. In a month you'll be in a completely different environment, and he'll be the last thing you want to think about, trust me.

    That, or one-night stand?
     
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    SamIchi

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    Either have a fling for a month or forget about it. You are moving to college, which is the biggest grounds for dating, hook up etc, so you'll most likely forget aout this guy, and it's NYC.
     
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    emw

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    I'm far from an expert in adolescent romance, but a few things strike me here:

    1. You're 18, which makes him roughly 16. At this age, I don't think you can really expect a lot of long-term emotional commitment, especially since he knows you'll be far away in less than a month.

    2. You're going to NYC. To college. As much as the loss of this "relationship" might pain you, you're heading to a guy mecca. You won't have trouble finding dates there. Unless you let it out that you're a huge Mariah Carey fan... :p

    3. You don't want any ties when you head off to college either.

    In the end, this is something that just didn't work out. You're too young to stress about this stuff. Go have fun in NYC and forget about this kid.
     
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    Damn right, that's my biggest regret from when I was that age - too much worryin' about individual women. I'm not sayin' you should be running around with every guy you see, but have some fun, when you do end up finding the right guy you may wish you had run around a bit more in the past.
     
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    emw

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    Which was sooooo long ago. ;) :p
     
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    Hey, 5 1/2 years is almost 1/4 of my life! Qualifies as long enough in my book!
     
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    emw

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    I know, just giving you crap. Of course, in my mind you should still be "running around" at 23. :D
     
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    Well, that's what my mind says too, but my girlfriend says otherwise.
     
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    baby duck monge

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    Funny, my wife doesn't seem to mind too much ;)

    You can still 'run around' and have a good time... just not in the same way you used to be able to.
     
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    quigleybc

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    You're going to meet a new guy every day in College....

    love him and leave him....better for both of you.
     
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    freeny

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    Give him one good, freaky "schtoop" before you leave for college. Its a pretty good bet h'ell be waitng for you when you get back;)

    And yes, NYC is a great place to hook up. College was alot of fun:D
     
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    Sesshi

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    Oh how I wish I hadn't spent my teenage years being a nutcase. I missed out on so much fun.
     
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    redAPPLE

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    i would suggest, go out with him and have fun with him.
     
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    ®îçhå®?

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    I'm speaking from the otherside. A girl who is 2 years older than me fell for me. For a while it was great, we had a good time but then it kinda didn't work anymore. She lives fairly far away and it was difficult. I suppose our tastes were slightly different and she was going away too and didn't want to have connections. It is best if you speak to him about it and then leave it at that. He will think about you but life will move on.
     
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    Stridder44

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    answers.yahoo.com


    if you don't have an account just make one it takes like 2 minutes. It's free and easy, and usually you get some good advice.
     
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    So you can save two minutes and get good advice here as well :rolleyes:
     
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    Les Kern

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    18/16 is, well, illegal.
    But beyond that, it depends on what your philosophy of life is, and not one person on this board can tell you that. Please treat all reponses as "good reading".
    But remember this old farmers saying: "What you eat today, walks and talks tomorrow".
     
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    ejb190

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    I am getting married this fall - I'm 32, she is 29. Three years don't seem like that much when you get a decade or so down the road, but it makes a big difference in maturity at the age you are.

    I didn't really start dating anyone until I was 29. I don't think I missed a thing. I built a solid career and a number of great friendships that I will have for the rest of my life.

    And Sarah doesn't mind my running around either. A few miles a day helps with the stress and depression and helps keep the weight off!
     
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    pseudobrit

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    Not in Georgia.
     
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    celebrian23

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    Advice from another 18 year old going to college in a month: don't do it. And why? Because it's hard enough if they live in the same city and you go to college, but going that far away? And as freshman, I think we both can say, there will be plenty of young men to catch our eye at college. You could do a one month fling, but you'd both have to stick to your guns about it. :D
     
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    Sun Baked

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    Don't you mean have a fling with a MacRumors member(s).

    We'll either make you forget this guy, or give up on guys altogether. :eek:

    Knowing MR members, it'll likely be the later. :p
     
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    medea

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    I would suggest getting yourself pregnant and forgetting about the whole college thing.
     
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    Felldownthewell

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    Yah, because that is just about all girls are good for. :eek: :D






    I was just kidding don't kill me!
     
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    mariahlullaby

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    Yes, logic tells me to do that. And anyways, I'm not sure if he's even interested in me anymore. But for some reason, I just can't get over him, despite all my better judgement, my usual level-head concerning guys, all the things that point to "stay away."

    Am I just being silly? Should I just chalk it all up to hormones?

    I know I should forget it...but it's driving me insane!
     

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