Is love a one way street?

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  1. Moshiiii macrumors 6502a

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    Do you sometimes feel like you do more for your significant other than what you get in return?
     
  2. pknz macrumors 68020

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    Yes I often think I am the one putting the effort in to communicate etc. I'm sure its only my perception.
     
  3. katie ta achoo macrumors G3

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    If you feel like that is happening, you should sit down with your SO and discuss it. Love should not be a one-way street...
     
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    I'd go even farther and say that love cannot be a one-way street. If it is, it isn't really love.
     
  6. Moshiiii thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    Ya but what if you leave the person thinking possibly there is someone out there that could make you feel more loved. Than you notice your wrong... thats a grave mistake :(
     
  7. iSaint macrumors 603

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    usually...
     
  8. Markleshark macrumors 603

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    Not in a more obvious way, but I think sometimes she thinks something is ok for her, but not ok for me...:(
     
  9. Queso macrumors G4

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    You can't expect your partner to do everything your way. If it's really love, it will show in any number of ways.
     
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    No. We both have our strengths and we share them.
     
  11. MrSmith macrumors 68040

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    If you're lucky it starts as an expressway, then you get married and it soon becomes a country lane :cool:
     
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    The times I've thought that and complained about it to the hubby I'm usually brought to the realization that there are other things that he does that I didn't take notice of since they weren't what I was expecting. All in all, we show our love in different ways.

    If after rethinking everything you really think your SO is just taking advantage of you then it's time to talk about it with him/her. Unfortunately talking about it here with other people isn't going to make it any better. So...good luck in communicating with your SO. :)
     
  14. devilot Moderator emeritus

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    I know that seems like common sense, but I guess I'm guilty of both of those sentiments. I think you're so right, it's easy to only look for signs that we would recognize and so easy to overlook the others.

    And I'm guilty of using MR as an escape instead of dealing with issues head on. :eek:
     
  15. spicyapple macrumors 68000

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    The question is not if your significant other loves you in return, rather it is if you love yourself enough to continue this one-way relationship.
     
  16. PlaceofDis macrumors Core

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    its all about communication.

    love is often seen as one-sided, but put yourself in their shoes.
    its also about compromise.

    if things aren't working, you can't force them too.
     
  17. Mr. Durden macrumors 6502a

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    I think one person will always be putting more into a relationship than the other. I dont think thats necessarily an evil thing, but I do think it is unavoidable. Everyone is unique, and that includes their threshold for being outgoing and/or having their partner being not-so-outgoing.

    But, I could be wrong. ;)
     
  18. ejb190 macrumors 65816

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    Just remember that one-way streets usually come in pairs going in opposite directions... Right now it might seem like all give and no take, but, if you have a balanced relationship, the tide may very well turn and you will be headed down the street going the other way. That has happened more then once in my relationship, and we haven't even been married a year yet!
     
  19. Moshiiii thread starter macrumors 6502a

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    Thanks for all the two cents. I take peoples advice very close hearted.
    The fact is I think I'm being selfish. :(
    My girl friend of two years have moved to college for nine months. I'm also going to college and working monday through friday but my schedual is nothing compared to her brutal schedual. Tuesday through saturday she goes to school from 9:00am-5:30pm than work at 6:30pm till 10:00pm. She does this to make ends meet. Which is something I can't comprehend because I go to school and live at my parents house too, spending my free cash I don't save on over priced coffees and videogames.
    This is all new to me (only two weeks to be exact) and I'm not use to it. I use my spare time on making things for her or on weekends when we do see eachother I foot the bill for everything.
    For example valintines day is comming up and I bought a vintage bike for her and have been spending HOURS in my garage trying to get this thing looking new. I know nothing about bicycles and dammit they are complicated! Unfortunate she only has the money and the time to get me a card. Which is perfectly fine.

    Has anyone else been through a temporary long distance relationship? How did you two work it out? How did you cope with yourself that your SO doesn't have much time for you anymore.
     
  20. Quboid macrumors 6502

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    Love can very well be a one way street. Someone might ask themself, if he/she doesn't love me are they holding on. The sad truth is people cling until they have no need to, and well....the rest is history.
     
  21. Quboid macrumors 6502

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    And what if yo were right. Would that be an even worse mistake.
     
  22. someguy macrumors 68020

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    Um. I'm gonna say no because you'd be happier in that scenario.

    I think if you have something that makes you happy enough, and it works, then why risk it? I am happy in my current relationship. Am I as happy as I could be? I don't know. All I know is that I've never been happier, and trying to top what I have right now isn't worth risking, not to mention losing, what I have now.

    I guess there are always those people that hit big at a casino and put all the money back into the machines, thinking they are going to win even bigger than before, only to go home empty handed...

    Doesn't make sense to me.
     
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    I think I am still in love with everyone I have ever been in love with. That does not mean relationships endure forever. Often, one person is no able to get the same thing from the relationship as the other. Or, they do not perceive relationships the same. Then it is time to move on, while the good feelings still linger.
     
  24. devilot Moderator emeritus

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    That sounds a bit like the situation I was in the last few years (we just broke up though, after 4.5 years :( ). But yeah, in the very beginning, I moved out to a uni and he stayed at home. Then we flip-flopped, I moved back in w/ my parents and he moved about 40 mins away. We made it work for awhile.

    If you both want it badly enough, it will work. But just remember, it will take work. And patience. And understanding. From the both of you.
     
  25. Quboid macrumors 6502

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    I'm sorry I miss the part where this thread was referring to extremly happy people.
     

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