Whatever your background is, who you are is determined by three answers: Who do you want to be? Who do other people see? Who do you see in the mirror? If these questions were points of a triangle you would be inside it. A loner would be closest to the mirror, a socialite would be closest to other people and a champion would be closest to the dream. I am not one to judge one better than the other and try to stay in the middle but there are obstacles that could change that any moment.