with a new job et al, i have not been here for the past month, and now see all the changes here. (coloured smilies ?!!) but i wonder, have some threads been deleted? i specifically searched for the one started by our friend jayscheuerle about his marital problems and find its gone. why would a whole thread go missing? something to do with moving from the old to the new forums? and jay, whats up with you?