Opinion: They had Sex in my bed :(

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by AgamicSpec, Feb 4, 2006.

  1. AgamicSpec macrumors newbie

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    Hey. I know im a newbie and asking a non mac question on my first time, im sorry, i just read these forums and think your cool.

    I had some mates over from college as they live across the country and wanted to see my home town. Now the one of them, say Jane, is going out with, say Chris. We all met in college 4 months ago, live together in same residence. There is also my other mate, say Claire. Now the plan was, Jane and Claire were to sleep in my bed, as it's a big double bed. Chris was to sleep in the guest room and i was to sleep in my sister's bed (who doesn't live at home). That happened the first night.

    The second night I was quite ill so went to bed 10 mins before them in my sister's room, but ended up laying awake all night with a bucket being quite sick. Anyway, Claire had swapped with Chris so he could sleep with Jane. I know this cos my sister's room is next to my room and the beds are just on either side of the thin wall. At first I thought, well i dont really mind cos they'll just be hugging, surely they wouldn't do anything sexual in their best mate's bed, when they're a guest in his house, with his parents in the house too?

    I was wrong. And apart from having to put up with knowing my mates were having sex, i also had to endure it while they were in MY BED, as MY GUESTS. Now I want your opinion...

    Would you like it? Would you like your best mates having sex in your bed? Or would you not care? say good on them? I dunno how to react?!
     
  2. iGary Guest

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    Eff them.

    Tell them how it is.

    That's BS. I would have opened the door and told them to get a room for the night.

    Totally uncalled for.
     
  3. jsw Moderator emeritus

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    Agreed. Bad form.

    Next time, they should at least make a video you could sell online to compensate you for your suffering.
     
  4. dan-o-mac macrumors 6502a

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  5. Dagless macrumors Core

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    bloody hell! I can't even sit on my mates bed without feeling a little uncomfortable! its y'know... somebody else's bed who you aren't sleeping with! all their skin, sweat, stains *feels a little queazy *

    iGary is right. its uncalled for.

    If I were in your situation I'd just say something along the lines of "what the hell are you playing at?" if they felt sorry for what they did then leave them alone for a week or 2, if they argue back then just stick em. at least that's what I'd do.
     
  6. whocares macrumors 65816

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    Tell them you have an IR webcam filming and broadcasting your bed 24/7 :D
     
  7. unfaded macrumors 6502

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    What the...? Who gives a *******?

    Sex is as human as involuntary respiration. Chill the **** out.
     
  8. puckhead193 macrumors G3

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    *gag* I would flip a nut if this happened to me.... i can't stand when people sit on my bed..
     
  9. jsw Moderator emeritus

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    Ah, cool. So it's fine by you if people defecate on your bed?
     
  10. 2nyRiggz macrumors 603

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    Indeed. you have to tell them about it and let them know how u feel about the matter...leaving crust in your friends bed is bad


    Bless
     
  11. AgamicSpec thread starter macrumors newbie

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    haha i could! "oh btw guys, my room is broadcast on the web as im bit of a cam celeb."
     
  12. whocares macrumors 65816

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    Thanks for spelling out something we were trying *not* to think about :eek: :eek: :p :p
     
  13. frankblundt macrumors 65816

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    i hope they did the laundry. and drycleaned your mattress.

    borrow their clothes without asking and vomit on them.
     
  14. iDM macrumors 6502a

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    Living on and off campus for 4 years in addition to traveling for a semester with my bed still in my apartment I don't even want to imagine what happened in my bed.

    Its a touchy subject and I'd be on the fence about it in your situation. I wouldn't have encouraged it but I wouldn't flip my lid either. I think I am a little hazy with the details. Bottom line if they were my friends(mates) and it happened in my bed I wouldn't care. Now with my parents home.............I probably would have said something along the lines, "its fine since your both my good friends but don't pull that while my parents are home." They are the LAST people that should have to deal with the situation or feel uncomfortable.

    May I ask if possibly you like this chick that slept with your mate? If yes then I probably would have flipped sh** as well.

    Edit: I reread your post and got the details straightened out. Were there boozes involved? Had they not seen each other for a while? It sounds a little high schoolish to sneak around a friends house to sleep with your girlfriend if you've been living away from home(college) and had ample time to be intimate. You could also say, Dude my parents totally heard what was going down(pun intended). That way he will probably feel extremely embarrassed and I doubt it would ever happen again. At the same time you won't have to feel like a prude.
     
  15. pseudobrit macrumors 68040

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    Was it really loud? I wouldn't worry too much. It could've been much worse.
     
  16. obeygiant macrumors 68040

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  17. mdavey macrumors 6502a

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    Jane, Chris and Claire having a threesome and AgamicSpec's mom walking in on them?

    I can understand you being upset now, but I also think you shouldn't make a big deal about it and fall out with your mates. I'd suggest having a quick word in either Jane's or Chris' ear (whichever you are closest to), explain that you think it was uncool and leave it at that.

    I think you'll see the funny side of it in a few years time and look back on the incident with rose-tinted fondness :D
     
  18. Kwyjibo macrumors 68040

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    two routes

    1) ignore it sort ... college kids will be college kids. my roommate once spilled a vodka sprite in my bed. I knew he did it, he flat denied ... but there was 0 other explanations (neither of us had vodka or sprite in the room)
    2) make him buy you some new sheets, if he doesn't want to seek your revenge some how. I mean decent sheets aren't cheap and you were doing him a favor by letting him stay over ...
     
  19. AgamicSpec thread starter macrumors newbie

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    Both Jane and Chris are my some of my best mates, the four of us (inc Claire) met at uni (living together) and are good mates. The end. She is as good a mate to me as Chris is.

    No booze. We'd had one or two glasses of red wine at dinner. It's been term.. its just a week off, they hadn't seen each other for what? 4 days! They could have waited till tomorrow when we're back at uni!

    I dunno, your response seems very sensible to me, the fact is i dont particularly want to go in my bed now! its gross.
     
  20. Leareth macrumors 68000

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    hmm

    did they at least change and wash the sheets after?
    I mean if they are going to do it , they are going to do it . I rather have them do it in bed where I can change the sheets rather than on the carpet where its not so easy to get the stains out or ever worse in the kitchen on the counters...
    next time give them those horrible fold up cots to sleep in... :p
    If they dont like it they can get a hotel room...
     
  21. whocares macrumors 65816

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    That shouldn't bother you. When you stay in a hotel, god knows what's gone on in that bed :eek: :eek: :eek:
    I think is more of a respect issue and how this whole affair fits in with your morals and ethics. Just clean the sheets and enjoy sleeping in your otherwise unharmed bed.





    I'm sorry if you can no longer sleep in hotel beds :eek: :p :p
     
  22. topicolo macrumors 68000

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    Dude. get your friends to wash your sheets since they obviously stained them.
     
  23. QCassidy352 macrumors G3

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    I personally wouldn't have minded (just wash the sheets... hell, make em pay the $2 for washing and drying), but then again I also wouldn't have done that in their situation. It's insensitive of them, but not something that would bother me all that much.
     
  24. gekko513 macrumors 603

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    I wouldn't care.

    But if you're not able to laugh it off and you really feel betrayed, talk to your friend about it.
     
  25. dornoforpyros macrumors 68040

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    eh it depends on the friends, there are certain friends I'd just laugh it off and be like "good on ya" and there are others I'd be more pissed. The way I see it they buy ya a case of beer and all is even
     

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