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Discussion in 'Community' started by mymemory, May 2, 2004.

  1. mymemory macrumors 68020

    mymemory

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    Why me again?

    Ok, I have been hanging around the "date sites" for a while because here in NY is very complicated to meet people, everybody is in their own stuff. So I decided to meet people in the internet and I'm falling in to the sex search sites, you know, to got strait to the point.

    So, I uploaded my profile to one of this places and now I have this hot chick coming from some where ready to go for it!

    Let me tell you that I have slept with only two people in my life... well 4 and this is a kind of funny for me.

    Do you have some sort of experience about this kind of meetings? I know, take care of my belonings and use protection.
     
  2. pseudobrit macrumors 68040

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    Sounds too good to be true, and you know what they say about that.
     
  3. crenz macrumors 6502a

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    Somehow, I don't understand the appeal of having sex with a stranger. :confused: But maybe I'm the odd one out here.
     
  4. mymemory thread starter macrumors 68020

    mymemory

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    Me neither, I'm the romantic kind of person but I am in a different place where hook-up in my way is close to impossible and many people are doing it in some other ways. It is not bad to explore a littel, I'm 29 so I can fool around a bit I think to get the experience for a while. I do not see any trouble in that so far.
     
  5. Damien macrumors regular

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    Be careful she could be

    1) A weirdo, freak, mental unstable (v likely)

    2) Have something you don't want to catch, you say about fooling around before you get old but be careful not to have a constant reminder.

    3) Think long and hard why she is on a internet website looking for sex?
     
  6. jimjiminyjim macrumors 6502

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    If you are an odd one out, you're not the only one. My advise for an encounter like the one you're expecting: cancel, go out for a meal instead...

    I hate to sound non-macho....but (this reminds me of another thread where someone wrote "I hate to sound racist but...") sex with someone you know and care about and *gasp* can be intimate with *end gasp* is much more appealing *gasp* even the long-term aspect of that *end-gasp* than sex with a stranger.
     
  7. virividox macrumors 601

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    well watever happens i hope u dont catch anything...
     
  8. macka macrumors regular

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    Don't have sex with her until later. Then you can see what she's really after.

    Strange...it's normally to the females I would be advising such things... ;)
     
  9. pseudobrit macrumors 68040

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    4) A bunch of dudes who blackmail you or beat you into giving up your wallet and/or possessions.
     
  10. rainman::|:| macrumors 603

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    oh come on, it may not be discussed much, but hookups happen all the time... it's not like he's the first one to ever do it. I've seen enough friends do it, that there are some ground rules. Besides the obvious safe-sex, you should meet in a public place, for dinner or coffee or drinks, so if it is not who you are expecting, you have some built-in safety. She will probably expect to meet in public, if she's done this before. (even if she says she hasn't, there's a good chance she has). Small talk for a bit, unless she wants to avoid talk completely. My suggestion would be to go to a hotel, but if you go to your house, make sure you don't let her have access to your stuff! you don't want to wake up in the AM to a cleaned-out apartment, and you never know. I doubt she'll want to spend the night, more likely take off afterwards.

    Use common sense, treat her nicely but prepare for the worst. Criminals do target sex hookups, because people don't often report those crimes. But, there are a lot of adults that simply want sexual outlet without any emotional strings, so it could be just what you expect (or better). Be careful.

    paul
     
  11. Damien macrumors regular

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    If it turns out to be blocks i think that thats the best thing that can happen
     
  12. Abstract macrumors Penryn

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    Do you have a picture? If you have seen one, does her hair style look like it could have come from the 70's, because if it does, she ain't an Olsen twin, if you know what I'm saying...
     
  13. MongoTheGeek macrumors 68040

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    I had a friend who met someone on one of the personals websites. She was beautiful, intelligent, and polite. They wound up in a committed long term relationship. She did have one flaw though. She had no self esteem.
     
  14. flyfish29 macrumors 68020

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    If she doesn't want to meet in a public place then be very wary!! I say go for the hook-up IN the public place. :D Just kidding...sort of...anyway, good luck and be careful!!
     
  15. big macrumors 65816

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    If it comes down to it, be sure to use a saying we have here in Alabama....
    "We like girls who sing soprano"
     
  16. Mantat macrumors 6502a

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    I have slept with countless girls, from bar to the internet or the girl at the grocery, I have met them all. Seriously.

    One thing I can tell you: meet her, if you find her attractive, sleep with her. If not, just tell her that you dont feel any chimestry (sp?) with her and that you would never sleep with someone that you are not confortable with. She will understand. In these kind of situation, respect is the most important thing, both side.

    As for the number of partners, I have no regrets of having slept with.. 30,40, 50 (?) girls. It allowed me to better understand what people are really about, girls and myself. I am now in a very serious relationship with probably my future wife and I dont think I would be so serious if I hadnt done all these stupid thing in the past. The more girl you meet, the less you will be attracted to girls in a sexual matters. When you have seen it all, you look for something else to impress you and that will probably be the mind/social skills/attitude, etc... And thats when the fun really starts! (ok, sex is fun too!)

    Oh, dont be surprised that girls ask for sex. Of all the girl I have slept with, I NEVER asked for sex, they all asked for it! Well... technicaly speaking... :)

    Good luck and if you met her, come back to the thread to tell us how it was. Well, not the details, but if she was as nice looking as her picture or if it was a fraud... Always fun to hear these stories!
     
  17. kiwi_the_iwik macrumors 65816

    kiwi_the_iwik

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    Whoa, Mantat! You STUD, you!!!


    Bottom line - be wary of bunny boilers, fruit-loops and STD's.

    Your best bet is to just TALK to people - and yes, I KNOW that New York isn't the BEST place in the world to do that (i.e., you're more than likely going to be wearing a FIST where a set of teeth used to be, especially on the subway for doing so much as to LOOK at someone...).

    Try joining a club - be it a sports, church or music group. Whatever. Or try enrolling in an evening class. What about a band?!? You're already an accomplished musician. You'll meet people who have a common interest - which is a great start. And even if THEY suck, they might have friends who DON'T...

    :)
     
  18. FightTheFuture macrumors 6502a

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    um... any way i could get a few links to these sites?
     
  19. Mantat macrumors 6502a

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    Ok.. by popular demand, here is the time tested and proved method to get the hottest chick in a bar in your bed. (ok, no one asked but I will do a public service by telling you all)

    First of all, spot the girl, smile, come to her and start talking about something interesting but general... So no talking about how good/rich/etc you are. Never buy a drink to a girl and dont even think about touching her are talking about sex, etc.. Act as if you were talking to your best friend sister (you know that they are off limit, right?). Keep talking until its time to go. When your time is up, tell her that you had a lot of fun tonight, she was very bright and whished that everyone in a bar would be that interesting but you have to go back home. Kisses on the chicks big smile and you are set to go.

    Now two things can happen:
    1- she doesnt want you to go and gives you some signs that she wants to see you again (or stay with you for the rest of the night). If this is the case, she was an easy one, no glory here, do standard procedure...
    2- she says that she really enjoyed the night too and also hope to see you again. Now is the critical moment that separent the apprentice from the master: just answer that you are sure that you two will meet again, that you are ofter here (the bar), kiss on the chicks (again!) and go.

    WTF? You might say! How can this work if I am leaving the bar empty handed? Well, I never said that it would on the first night...

    So a week or two latter, when you go back in the bar, if the girl is there she will come to you and unless you act like an idiot, she will be yours.

    The principle at work here is that pretty girl are the target of ALL the guy looking for sex everytime they step into a bar. They usualy dont like this, they want to beleive that they are above all this and want to be respected. When you will come to them, they will at first think you are just looking for sex, but the more you talk to her about other topics, the more she will realise that you are interested in HER. She will still have some doupts, after all, all the guys that ever went ot see her before asked for sex, what are the odds of you being different? The doupts will fall when you will leave, giving her some great compliments (not breast related, idealy) and not giving her your number or asking for more. She wont be out of the bar that she will start to have remorse for leting you leave without know if she could ever see you again, etc... After all, you acted like a perfect respectable gentlemen and thats the first time a stranger was like that with her. Add to this a few days of girls2girls talk and you can be sure that she will be there the next time you show up. And tada! Pretty girl ready for you!

    Resisting the urge to give her your email/number before she ask is the hardest moment but as I stated, this is what make the difference between being alone and getting a hot chick!

    All that being said, I think its important to say that you should NEVER give love for sex. Never sleep with a girl that is in love with you if you arent. You can say that you are interested in knowing more about her, etc.. but dont give her false hope, it really sucks!

    So this was 'how to get a hot chick in a bar 101'...

    And dont forget that the best part of meeting strangers is not when you are in bed with her but all the seduction that led to it!
     
  20. mymemory thread starter macrumors 68020

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    These site are fake!!!

    Ok, I applied to some of them and there is always the same result.

    1. The invite you to joing for free to have a "taste".

    2. A week later they send you a mail telling that this "incredible girl" want to contact you. But you can not contact her until you pay.

    3. When you pay, you contact the girl and she is in another state, of course she never reply.

    4. I started to contact the girls in the area, from 200.000 in new york are about 20 girls???

    5. Most of them are pictures that you find in the regular porn sites in the internet. I started to see how many men are in teh database and it was at list 1000 compared to 30 girls (25 fake at list).

    Then I saw the same ruting over and over in the other sites. Most of the people are set ups, all those guys with muscles are not real for sure (I am not gay) but they are there to push the envelope and make you post naked pictures of you too. And the same situation with the girls.

    I am in Yahoo Personals too, in Match.com and in Amateurmatch.com. Amigos.com is inviting me with the same trick and sexsearch.com and adult finder.com are telling me (after a week) there is this girl waiting for me too.

    It cost me about $60 in 3 months to find out about this. Some people are lucky. I just got a mail from a not very hot girl and I am not going to reply that one.

    Just sharing my experience. Lets go to the Central Park or the bars in the old fashion way. :rolleyes:
     
  22. rainman::|:| macrumors 603

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    mantat is very much correct about getting people in bed. the advice above does indeed work, and in fact, has worked by accident for me before-- if you flirt with someone, but don't show any interest in actually sleeping with them, they get all sorts of curious, and by curious i mean horny.

    mymemory, have you tried the basics, like http://personals.yahoo.com ? personals sites are the best place for this, it doesn't need to be a "sex only" search site to find people just looking for sex... there are several personal sites on the net, and i believe many are still free (at least, to some degree).

    paul
     
  23. FightTheFuture macrumors 6502a

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    i tried out lavalife.com and noone is using it. the most i got was a smile sent to me, and still had no reply. tried paying for it, sent about 30 messages to girls and i'm still empty handed. i've met much more people (5) just going to coffee houses and starting casual conversation. eh. nothing works. networking is key to everything.
     
  24. mymemory thread starter macrumors 68020

    mymemory

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    Yes I did and I mentioned already. Lava life is another site where I have been too and the same results.

    I actually saw a picture of Christina Applegate but if you see, there are a huge amount of 50's 60's year old men looking for a girl 1000 to 1 porpotion, I realize that this sites are a huge bussiness for the owners only. The chances of getting a nice date are minimal IF you are a guy.

    I remember an add in the paper here in New York years ago about some one renting an appartment for $1000, when you called a machine said the appartment have been rented and then they sent you to the next operator. Those tricks to catch people are very anoying.
     
  25. carbonmotion macrumors 6502a

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    I disagree... whats so exciting about sleeping with RANDOM people. I mean, seriously what if you get a STD like AIDS!? If you mulitply the wheel of probability, its practically like playing russian roulette. I never ever ever screw a girl that I don't know... have a little care for safety!
     

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