:\ (social anxiety)

Discussion in 'Community Discussion' started by calebjohnston, Mar 19, 2006.

  1. calebjohnston macrumors 68000

    calebjohnston

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    I have no idea what to do. If only the damn school would fix the dryers in the laundry room (which are all broken) and my iBook's screen wasn't bent, I probably would have scored lower. I really need help.
     

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  2. mkrishnan Moderator emeritus

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    Caleb, I'm so sorry that you're going through difficult times now. I know that anxiety can feel really crippling. Do you have access to therapy through your school or parents' insurance? What you describe is something you can DEFINITELY overcome with help in terms of things like coaching in how to catch and stop this pattern of thinking, and how to gain control over your body's experience of relaxation. In any event though, I hope that you are able to get help.
     
  3. eva01 macrumors 601

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    Maybe you just hate other people?

    Thats why i scored high, i know i don't have anxiety i just hate people ^_^, a lot.

    so i avoid everything out of not wanting to interact with people cause 99 times out of 100 i will think they are idiots and i will hate them. So i just don't care anymore and avoid it.
     
  4. muffinman macrumors 6502

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    im sorta clueless right now. what is this anxiety thing, and where can u take it?
     
  5. eva01 macrumors 601

    eva01

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    i googled it, mmm google, good for your soul
     
  6. ITASOR macrumors 601

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    I think I'm the same way.
     
  7. PlaceofDis macrumors Core

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    Anxiety issues can be bad. i know its a hard thing to deal with. i have friends who suffer from panic attacks and the like. its not easy to live with, but there comes a time where you just have to face your fears and move on. yes i know it sounds easier than its done, and its easy to say and all that. but int he end its the simpilest answer. i hope things improve for you.
     
  8. neocell macrumors 65816

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    Are you the same one that wants to become a giving, helping, empathetic member of society (doctor)? :confused: :p Just picturing some good SNL/scrubs/house skits :D
     
  9. jefhatfield Retired

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    getting help early is key while you can admit to it

    i have a friend with asperger's, who is even aware of others with it, but being older now, he is either unwilling or feels unable to deal with it

    it can affect relationships and progress at work and doing and being what you really want in life and it has turned my friend into a ball of regret

    don't let your anxiety issue make you choose or not choose the right mate, school, job, hobbies, etc

    anyway, good luck and keep us posted
     
  10. bousozoku Moderator emeritus

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    Be glad that you have to go out and deal with things. I've had weeks where I hadn't left the house for 6-7 days at a time, not even to get retrieve something from the mailbox.

    I definitely suggest seeking treatment for anyone with even moderate anxiety and the various anti-depressant/anti-anxiety meds may not be perfect but they may lower the anxiety enough that you can get things done.
     
  11. decksnap macrumors 68040

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    I just scored a 102. I feel your pain. I have no idea how old you are, but take it from me, this stuff will not go away on its own. It only gets worse and worse unless you work against it every day. And that has proven too hard for me to this point.
     
  12. calebjohnston thread starter macrumors 68000

    calebjohnston

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    Thanks everyone for the responses, at least it isn't just me. I do intend to get help for it, but I'm at school - some 600 miles from home - so that's hard to do right now.
     
  13. eva01 macrumors 601

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    Going to become a pathologist. Doesn't matter if i hate the dead :p
     
  14. PlaceofDis macrumors Core

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    and i'm sure that doesn't help things either. but as long as you remember that its your life and to not let yourself be ruled by your fears it should help a small bit. and again i wish you the best in all of this.
     
  15. someguy macrumors 68020

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    I don't even want to know how poorly I'd score.

    I recently got into the Real Estate business and my anxieties are crippling my growth and prosperity. I'm frightened of cold calling and door knocking, for instance. Everyone tells me, don't be afraid to hear "no", but I'm afraid to hear "yes" because that would mean being the center of attention for up to an hour in a relatively high pressure situation, not to mention speaking in front of a couple or an entire family.

    We have weekly sales meetings (which I attend of my own free will, they are not mandatory). We go around the room, to each person one at a time, and each will let the rest of us know of any new listings or buyers they have recently acquired. Because of the way my heart races (it scares me sometimes it beats so violently) when my turn is coming up, I know that even if I did have something to share, I would not be able to speak or even move to let the group know. This makes me even more fearful of doing business with anyone.

    In other words, I can relate to the anxiety in this sense. I am currently looking into public speaking classes because I think they target the core of my fears and help me overcome them.

    I can tell you that avoiding the situations that frighten you the most only makes things worse over time. I spent all of junior high avoiding speeches in front of the class and most-all social events, then halfway through high school I was unable to avoid speaking in front of the class... let's just say I was excellent for the first - oh - 12 seconds? After I was no longer coherent, I basically had a nervous breakdown which involved a lot of crying and, for lack of a better word, hyperventilating. Very embarrassing. My social status - or lack thereof - at school made it easy to get over the event, but I had definitely taken a drastic step away from overcoming this fear.

    </ramble> :D

    Anyone know of a good public speaking course in mid-Michigan?
     
  16. mkrishnan Moderator emeritus

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    Are you at a private high school, or at a college or university? Many / most universities have counseling centers that should be able to provide you with the right kind of help.
     
  17. calebjohnston thread starter macrumors 68000

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    I'm at a university - maybe I should look into doing that. Thanks.
     
  18. 2nyRiggz macrumors 603

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    I feel your pain man....just continue to TRY. try your best to comfront and overcome..not easy i know but you must TRY.


    Bless
     
  19. XIII macrumors 68040

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    Your score:
    24 (fear) + 27 (avoidance) = 51

    Hmmm. Ish.

    Caleb - I'm sorry for you - hang in there.
     
  20. OutThere macrumors 603

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    Your score:
    4 (fear) + 4 (avoidance) = 8

    :eek:

    I feel like I was pretty honest about everything. I quite like doing a lot of those things mentioned. :eek:
     
  21. homerjward macrumors 68030

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    i got a 16, but on most of the ones where i put a 3 i would have put a 9 or 10 if that was an option :eek:
    i'm not really anxious or anything, just very shy...:eek:
     
  22. zap2 macrumors 604

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    21, the time i really fessed up to my fears:rolleyes:

    Hang in there buddy!

    (all my fears are pretty big, but there are less, on that test it was mostly 3+2 and a few 1)
     
  23. ravenvii macrumors 604

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    31 here. Which is a tremendous improvement for me, I used to have social anxiety. I basically conquered it on my own, after refusing medication, and having several ineffective counseling sessions. I just told myself "snap out of it" and said it enough where I started to actually "snap" out of it. Not recommending that you try it though, it took me almost three years to accomplish this.
     
  24. alexstein macrumors 6502a

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    I'm sorry to hear that caleb.

    I hope things are going to look a little brighter in your future.

    Try to get out a little more start interacting with people. I know it's easy for me to say, but you have to get out otherwise it is just going to get worse.
     

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