What should I tell her???

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  1. TheDance511 macrumors 6502

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    okay. heres whats going on...im still a young whipper snapper and i have my own instincts but it never hurts to ask....okay here it goes.. theres this girl...shes my friend i have known her for a month or so and shes rly awsome....so cool....and maybe more... you get the idea... so were friends...ick :( ...JUST friends cuz yeah i like her...alot... but she has a bf and she kind of flirts back with me but not rly but she thinks im joking and she has NO idea how i feel about her..everytime i talk to her i jsut wanna tell her..but i am afraid that if i do it will just make things weird later on...What should i do? Should i make a move? Or should i just shut up and say nothing andd hope she makes a move..or wut.. yeah I know she has a bf..but he has got to go .. i know he cant compare to me..anyway what should i do:eek:
     
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  3. TheAnswer macrumors 68030

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    I'd sit back and just be there for her if things go wrong with her bf. And if things never go wrong between the two of them, then just be happy for her.
     
  4. ebouwman macrumors 6502a

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    if she likes you she'll break up with that guy, don't make a move on her or anything like that, just think how you would feel if you were cheated on.
     
  5. AvSRoCkCO1067 macrumors 65816

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    Bull.




    (joking - this is exactly what you should do) :)
     
  6. siurpeeman macrumors 603

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    sorry to say this, buy you do nothing. don't tell her how you feel, because it will make it weird. my recommendation is to let it go and move on. you've only known her a month. you'll get over it quick.
     
  7. devilot Moderator emeritus

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    I agree.
     
  8. ebouwman macrumors 6502a

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    it seems kind of arogant thinking that you deserve her love more than this guy, or that you are better than him.
     
  9. AppleIntelRock macrumors 65816

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    Here's one vote for drowning your sorrow in Haagen-Dazs triple chocolate and moving on.
     
  10. TheDance511 thread starter macrumors 6502

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    ....i am better jus trust me on this 1
     
  11. TheDance511 thread starter macrumors 6502

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    ok yeah....this girl is nothin compared to that other thread u jus gave us...but im jus tryin to live you know..she looks okay...i donno maybe i am wrong here:(
     
  12. ebouwman macrumors 6502a

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    if he is so bad then why is she still going out with him?
    You don't allways see the whole story
     
  13. vniow macrumors G4

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    if you want my advice..i say hold off on dis one..cause u sem like teh type that falls in love hard and fast...plus she's in a relationship already..best to let this one slide..and find some1 that wont allow u to fall so fast..
     
  14. gauchogolfer macrumors 603

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    exquisite

    it positively drips...
     
  15. Old Smuggler macrumors 6502a

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    why does she have to leave her boyfreind does'nt anyone have adulterous random sex acts anymore?

    pardon my french
     
  16. Rodimus Prime macrumors G4

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    I agree,

    A) you only known here a month
    B) If she did break up with the guy to date you she also a bad choice because what preventing her from doing the same thing to you the 2nd something that looks better comes along
     
  17. mgargan1 macrumors 65816

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    honestly... you have no idea what she sees in him. She could think that he's the best guy in the world for her.

    You're young... you need to learn that there will be women in your life who you're going to want, but you can't have.

    So here's what you do, and listen closely: If you want to keep her as a friend, and maybe (just maybe) something more down the road... then don't say anything. Just be her friend... get to know her more.

    If you don't care about the relationship and don't care about her being your friend, and you just want more than a friendship... don't say anything, cause you can't build a relationship when you're not friends, and if you don't value your friendship enough, then don't do it.

    So to sum it up... don't say anything.
     
  18. jamesi macrumors 6502a

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    i kinda just went thru this/still am always. if she really loves him (like for real, she is in love with him) then she wont go for u most likely. if its only casual and u think she really does like u then go for it. girls usually flirt with their guy best friends b/c its fun for them and they likely see you as a safe person so she can do that without worrying ull take it the wrong way.

    however, its not worth staying friends with her if u are in love with her. you'll go crazy and take so long to move on that u are wasting time u could spend getting to know someone else. even if u tell her and she isnt interested it doesnt mean that u guys cant be friends, but id expect her to be docile for a little bit afterwards. this is just one of the scenarios
     
  19. jamesi macrumors 6502a

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    amen. thats what happened with me and its the smartest thing i ever did
     
  20. emotion macrumors 68040

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    I agree with this.

    Just got a load of piercings and forget about her for a bit. ;)
     
  21. jamesmcd macrumors 6502a

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    Kill the boyfriend, and then take advantage of her sadness.
     
  22. Apemanblues macrumors regular

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    You should go and get some group therapy. Maybe join a testicular cancer support group, or one for brain parasites, or bowel cancer, or all of them. Then you can go on to start some underground boxing clubs. Make some rules, like, not talking about it, and, not talking about it. Then through doing that you can form a subversive underground movement, causing mischief and mayhem, and making a lot of soap.

    You might want to move to a dilapidated house, develop an alternative personality and have a weird suicidal girlfriend who smokes a lot.
     
  23. TheDance511 thread starter macrumors 6502

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    i always love your posts apemanblues your funny:) im serious lol..but ya all you other guys...great advice....i jsut wasnt sure and i kinda was ij sut needed a little push mayeb i dont know...but thank you all:)
     
  24. Abstract macrumors Penryn

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    Continue to be her friend, watch some porn, and move on.
     
  25. JBazz macrumors 6502

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    I couldnt disagree more.

    Sitting there, playing the "friend" who "listens" to her "problems" is some serious BS. She will never respect you. Trust me on this one. If she sees that you will just wait in the wings while she gets her groove on, she will not respect you and you will be forever the "understanding shoulder to cry on" about all her "man problems".
     

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