Other good threads like that of iGary have touched on similar issues, but what kind of attitude and mindset will you have when gathering with family and your intimate circle of significant others over the holidays as it relates to areas of on-going or potential Conflict? Prevention? - flight, avoidance, disarmament Confrontation? - fight, confrontation, boundary declarations Stuff it - silence, resentment and suppressed anger, dread Not wanting to use names, but there are at least two conflicts which our family gatherings will face this holiday. An on-going divorce between a brother and sister in law, (last year we were all fine), another brother in law who has been cheating on his live in and she does not know about it, but they both will be there; financial pressures and set backs with families and unresolved blame and guilt issues among family members, all meeting together with differing religious and political views (though I'd hope to keep this out of the Political Forum) but which will certainly contribute to some volatile moments of conflict. Do you have any particular plan or mindset to deal with family conflicts over the holidays?