You should believe in miracles, really.

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  1. billyboy macrumors 65816

    billyboy

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    Get your hankies out.

    I am a Brit. 15 years ago I met a beautiful girl in California. She won't mind me saying she was a crazy, drop dead gorgeous party animal, but despite what people kept trying to tell me about her being bad news, I just loved her most for the things I could see inside of her. We hit it off from the first moment, and despite all the mutual attraction, we took everything really steady and actually courted properly. I asked her if she would like to go to Wales to see the castles she had only seen in books. See what I mean about her being different?How many chicks are into Welsh castles for goodness sake.

    She bit my hand off and also made a decision to go straight and clean and she returned with me to the UK where we became close friends and had some great times. Sure there were hard times too, very hard, because it was not at all easy for her to get over the problems of addiction, and neither of us properly understood the score, but basically we were doing OK.

    I believed she was worth every ounce of effort, so I proposed to her, she didnt say no, but the wheels fell off. It turns out that the laws in the UK made it impossible for us to make a life together unmarried because she would not have been able to work legally in the UK or me in the US. No way did I want her doing anything illegal, so the plan was for me to stay in the UK and work my butt off for three months to put in our kitty. She returned to California where she could earn a packet, and then Id fly out and we'd marry and start our new life somewhere in the US.

    Unfortunately during this time apart, the power of addiction was too much, and back with her "friends"who did not do a lot to support her, she lapsed back into her bad ways. When I pitched up in California to be with her as agreed, she basically ended it all between us. There were more questions than answers, nothing seemed to add up at the time, and I guess the frustration of not knowing the full story made the break up really hard for me. So 15 years ago I returned to the UK and anyway you get on with life, get over it and re-join the field of play. I never expected to see or hear from her ever again.

    There are some people you never forget. 5 1/2 years ago something got me thinking about her, and I wondered what she was up to, so following my instincts I sent a letter to a newspaper in Minneapolis where I remembered her family was from, asking if there was any way of maybe finding her just to see how she was. I was not surprised that nothing came back. I was relieved actually, because I didnt really want to know she was still out of control. So, no reply, all forgotten. Never mind.

    Just before Xmas something triggered a memory again and I was thinking about her again, so armed with the Internet this time I followed my instinct and sent a Christmas card to a person with her name in some Minnesotan hick town I had never heard of, just to say hi and how's things. It was a complete pitch in the dark really, and I forgot I even sent it.

    Well, on Monday I had a little letter back from the US of A and guess who it was from? 5 1/2 years ago, the former love of my life went for treatment and from that day to this has been straight and sober and clean and happy. She has a good job, her own rambling house, a couple of cats, and generally doing OK. Thee were so many emotions reading her letter. It was an unbelievable feeling of relief - and I just felt so proud of her - and vindicated as well, I guess, that I hadnt been mad thinking all those years ago that there was something special inside her. She has got over an unbelievable path of self destruction and all those talents I could see hidden away 15 years ago are now out in the open.

    But it gets better than that. She enclosed every which way piece of contact info. Last night I phoned her, and after the initial shock "I cannot believe this is happening", well, it was like we had never been apart. She is still the same to talk to - the funniest lady you ever heard, sexy husky voice and absolutely buzzing with life, but all in the best possible way. She is still mad on Harleys and driven to live life to the full and see the world and try things, but not in a desparate way like you do when you are running away from something you cant face when you wake up from being stoned out your mind.

    Brits and Yanks apparently speak the same language, but we dont always, and it was amazing talking and misunderstanding and laughing at our different turns of phrase. I dont want to bore you with any more, but luckily I changed the tarif on my phone for international calls just before I rang her, but even at 2p a minute, it is still going to be a decent sized bill. And who gives a %%%%

    One step at a time, but she sounds serious about us getting together for a week or so. And this time she wants to make the big effort to fly across the ocean to see me! And judging by the picture she sent me of a beaming drop dead gorgeous 41year old chick on a Harley, there will be no problem picking her out of the crowd at the airport.
     
  2. MrMacMan macrumors 604

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    Wow thats quite a story.

    But it seems this is the 2ed recorded time on MR history that people who have been away from eachother for a long person of time have meet up...


    Anyone know of the aspiring VJ living in NY that I speak of?

    :D
     
  3. mymemory macrumors 68020

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    Oh, God, I was just reading the thing, I'm gonna mail it to you know who.

    I believe that some people are meant to each other, for some reason we were dropped in different places but there is that indestructible link that keep us together. A bless? a curse? it depends if both of them believe in love.

    In my case I will never let her go again. She is in Germany, I'm from Venezuela in NY. Our cultures are so different but a bit of faith on her part can make the difference between the bless or the ethernal curse.

    But billyboy listen to this (she sent me this line actually):

    "Love was made for brave people".

    Grab her, give her room if she needs it but please, do not let her go. Work out any differences, put your hands on the fire but do not let her go. Is a living hell to be apart after meeting again. If you have the chance to move together do it, my baby (my German girl) is gonna stay in Germany for2 1/2 years more. I do not know how I'm going to survive that and she doesn't get it yet, she is German and very practical and detached, I'm Venezuelan not that practical and very attached and I have to deal with that, I do not know for how long.

    But I really feel good for you, for taking your risk. I'm the same with the phone bill, she just deserves all, everything she is gonna have from me is a YES!

    If is a miracle? Yes it is, a gift from life, a love history out of a good book.

    Peace

    rei
     
  4. Dippo macrumors 65816

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    I'll assume that she didn't get married in the last 15 years?
     
  5. billyboy thread starter macrumors 65816

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    Doesnt sound like it, unless she popped the question to one of her cats.:D

    I hope the Latin German connection works out. Thats tough being so close so far apart for a long long time. At least I had the relief of not being on tenterhooks for 15 years, I thought she was gone forever.

    Anyone seen a book that says what to do when you meet like this?
     
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  7. scem0 macrumors 604

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    Interesting story.

    Best of luck to you.

    scem0
     
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    Wow, this kinda of thing does happen. Not just in the movies. Awesome stuff :)
     
  10. wdlove macrumors P6

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    That is a great inspiring story billyboy. Congratulations and continued success. It just goes to show that it is never too late. Love can continue to grow in an absence.
     
  11. topicolo macrumors 68000

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    Inspiring? Darn it! you beat me to it wdlove! It's good to know that romance isn't dead yet and guys and girls aren't just coming together to shag like a bunch of 8th graders.
     
  12. billyboy thread starter macrumors 65816

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    Just tidying up for the New Year and thought I d post an update. No match made in heaven Im afraid. I went out to the States in the summer and we had a great time, and there seemed to be some chemistry bubbling away still. Then, in the meantime, some issues seemed to crop up her end and I was quickly put down the list of priorities. I was pretty teed off with her evasive attitude and said I would rather just stay friends and exchange cards at Christmas, but she eventually said she wanted to come out to see me and explain everything.

    She just came over in December to see me and it looks like it was to be shown around Spain and say goodbye! Although, for some reason, her last words at the airport were, "Ill ring you to say I got home OK." I know she got home, but she never had the decency to actually contact me or say goodbye, which was wierd, as we never had a cross word and seemed to part company at least as good mates, albeit with no romantic future.

    Oh well. In the respect of dumping blokes in a slightly hard hearted inexplicable way, she hasnt changed from 15 years ago. I tried and that chapter is well and truly closed, which is neat actually. Easy to move on from that one.

    Happy New Year
     
  13. rock6079 macrumors 6502

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    i think i remember that from a while back
     
  14. apple2991 macrumors 6502

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    I'm sorry to hear she hasn't changed her aversion to confrontation.

    Dang Californians and their dang drugs.
     
  15. billyboy thread starter macrumors 65816

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    I hear you, except she is a dang Minnesotan (who lived in California) and although I am pretty sure she only dabbles in weed, them there other heavier dang drugs seem to be everywhere.
     
  16. wdlove macrumors P6

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    I think that the neat thing is that you were there for her in a time of great need in her life. You could say that you were her angel.
     

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