Caught my 13 year old brother looking at porn...

[MACDRIVE]

I don't see the necessity of this "chat" I keep hearing about; the porn pretty much explains everything better that any chat could do. The best thing you could do for him while he's at the tender age of 13 is to explain to him the value of smooth latex gloves and straight mineral oil.

 

[mgargan1]

You are handling this with so much Maturity.

The only advice I could offer is this. Be his big brother not a Authority figure. Tell him he can talk to you about anything. Then ask if there is anything he would like to ask. Then tell him about the first time you took a girl on a date. How much you respected her etc. Don't mention the Pron. Not till you are deep in conversation if you get to the part at all.

Thank you very much! I love him, and i want nothing but the best for him. A part of me feels like a father figure to him, and I want him to be able to have someone he can confide in.

That's a great idea about not starting off with the porn. I just need to be careful not to be too "fatherly".

 

[mgargan1]

I don;t know I was I was looking at the wrong thing. But every time I have been exposed to porn, I felt kind of offended. This was the really hard core crazy stuff, I just thought it was kind of weird.

Now I'm defiantly NOT prude at all, I'm 15 and have done so far what I want to do. I just found it weird that people get amused by this stuff. I'll take MAXIM over it any day.

Well, when you get older you'll start to realize that A) your tastes change... B) you understand about life a little more, so things are a little different in porn.. C) you actually try some of the things that you see and it's awesome! So it turns you on even more...

But at the same time, I can't stand the stuff where the guy is being abusive and/ or just plain distasteful (and by distasteful, i mean that relative to porn... many people think porn itself is distasteful)

At 15, you have no reason to want to see more, nor should you.

 

[mgargan1]

I don't see the necessity of this "chat" I keep hearing about; the porn pretty much explains everything better that any chat could do. The best thing you could do for him while he's at the tender age of 13 is to explain to him the value of smooth latex gloves and straight mineral oil.

Latex gloves? Really? Why?

 

[®îçhå®?]

Tell him about "Apimac Secret Folder"

I will agree wit the masses that most young guys look at it in one form or the other. Make it plain that some of it is illegal and in the UK (not sure if it is different in the US but i doubt it), you can be sent to prison for looking at it.

I think you should hold off the talk until you find something that is straying towards the bad side in which case you have to step in and guide him away from that kind of stuff

 

[mlochm]

a thought

By the age 13 I was already curious about sex like many on this forum- there wasn't any internet for me to look up porn with, but to be quite honest that wasn't my primary objective- I was seeking answers to all of the questions I had about sex- much more than seeking a depiction of my sexual fantasies- I would suggest that you make a book readily available for him to look at privately, which would contain the answers to any questions he may have- The questions I had were vast- and my parents had a book called "human sexuality" which was actually a college textbook from one of my mothers nursing courses (there was a note on the inside cover). I found it to be very useful and educational- My first "pornographic" experience was from this book as well- There were illustrations of various sexual positions, coupled with a description of the techniques involved and the various sensory experiences one would feel- The book should be a good one- with unbiased information about safe sexual methods and practices, reproductive organs, menstrual cycles, sexual deviance, deformations, basically anything you would expect a college couse book to contain- He will find the book if it's around, and he will read it- and by the time he is "old" enough to take sex-ed he will have a college level education on the subject- And he will be able to make informed decisions pertaining to sex.

just my thoughts on the subject-

 

[mgargan1]

By the age 13 I was already curious about sex like many on this forum- there wasn't any internet for me to look up porn with, but to be quite honest that wasn't my primary objective- I was seeking answers to all of the questions I had about sex- much more than seeking a depiction of my sexual fantasies- I would suggest that you make a book readily available for him to look at privately, which would contain the answers to any questions he may have- The questions I had were vast- and my parents had a book called "human sexuality" which was actually a college textbook from one of my mothers nursing courses (there was a note on the inside cover). I found it to be very useful and educational- My first "pornographic" experience was from this book as well- There were illustrations of various sexual positions, coupled with a description of the techniques involved and the various sensory experiences one would feel- The book should be a good one- with unbiased information about safe sexual methods and practices, reproductive organs, menstrual cycles, sexual deviance, deformations, basically anything you would expect a college couse book to contain- He will find the book if he it's around, and he will read it- and by the time he is "old" enough to take sex-ed he will have a college level education on the subject- And he will be able to make informed decisions pertaining to sex.

just my thoughts on the subject-

not a bad idea at all!

 

[faustfire]

If you want to be the best big brother in the world, get him a hot ass hooker! Porn is no excuse for the real thing.

 

[MACDRIVE]

If you want to be the best big brother in the world, get him a hot ass hooker! Porn is no excuse for the real thing.

He's right; that would be the way to go.

Tell him to vary his technique, use both his right and left hand, etc.

Don't forget the reverse grip with the latex glove and lots of mineral oil.

 

[spicyapple]

And so the cycle of sex and violence continues for yet another generation. Good Plan.

I think you need a break from the Political forum. Discipline for naughty behaviour is different from chronic child abuse.

The best thing you could do for him while he's at the tender age of 13 is to explain to him the value of smooth latex gloves and straight mineral oil.

Latex gloves? Really? Why?

Break the world record perhaps?

Marko Terlevic Shatters Masturbation World Record!

It's official, Marko Terlevic (Terla) is the new king of masturbation.

In a stunning feat of endurance and determination, Marko Terlevic(Terla) achieved 36 orgasms in a 24 hour period!

Sleeping intermittently during the 24 hour marathon, Marko Terlevic(Terla) remained focused and aroused by his impressive library of pornographic films. With over 400 films in his library and 3 televisions playing movies at all times, he had a continuous stream of footage to aid him in his quest.

It is apparent by the massive development of the muscles in his forearm that Marko Terlevic(Terla) is not your average masturbator. In an interview with UJ reporters after the record setting event, Marko Terlevic(Terla) was quoted as saying, "masturbation for me is a way of life. I've been training for this day since I was 13 years old and I'm happy with my performance today".

This record was formerly held by German Student, Hans Blickstein who achieved 27 orgasms in a 24 hour period. Mr. Blickstein was not available for comment.

When asked what his next world record achievement would be, Marko Terlevic(Terla) said "my immediate goal is to get a bag of ice and some lotion on my penis to soothe the burning".

 

[OwlsAndApples]

That world record feat! Bravo, I have to say. Good he had a sense of humour with the whole 'lotion and ice to soothe the burning' thing

 

[72930]

Discipline for naughty behaviour is different from chronic child abuse.
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I still don't agree that it is 'naughty' behavior...

 

[MACDRIVE]

I wanted him to use a mac not only cause i thought they were better, but because i knew that the day would come when he did start looking at porn and I didn't want to deal with all the viruses on a PC.

That's good thinking.

 

[72930]

A few questions:

1. What would you have done if your dad was still around?

2. What do you think your dad would have done?

3. How 'fatherly' have you been in other situations since your dad passed away?

 

[FleurDuMal]

This kids lucky anyway. When I was 13 I had to use a 28kbs connection. By the time I'd downloaded another movie, all momentum had been...erm...lost

 

[MACDRIVE]

Latex gloves? Really? Why?

Do I really need to spell in out for you? Latex surgical gloves and mineral oil makes for some wicked artificial sex.

 

[jsw]

Ugh, it's great you want to be his "cool" bigger brother and all, but if I caught my brother watching porn at age 13, I would have given him a good, long smacking.

You have to assert it is NOT OK to be looking at porn at such a young age. Delete the porn off the computer, and punish him with restricted access.

And so the cycle of sex and violence continues for yet another generation. Good Plan.

I think you need a break from the Political forum. Discipline for naughty behaviour is different from chronic child abuse.

And why, exactly, is looking at porn "naughty behavior"? At 13, he's obviously hit puberty. This "sex is bad" attitude surprises me; your belief that a "good, long smacking" is better than looking at pictures of naked women is disturbing.

 

[islandman]

The best advice, really, is to let him know not to base his future sex life on porn. What happens in porn is far from reality (most of the time).

 

[MACDRIVE]

We need to get scem0 in on this; where is he?

 

[devilot]

...explain to him the value of smooth latex gloves and straight mineral oil.

Umm. Unless mineral oil is vastly different from other oil-based substances, it would be most unwise to use oil with latex. Oil degrades the latex. As in, better not teach that to anyone in case they think they can use oil-based substances with latex condoms.

 

[MACDRIVE]

Umm. Unless mineral oil is vastly different from other oil-based substances, it would be most unwise to use oil with latex. Oil degrades the latex.

I was talking about pharmaceutical grade mineral oil; the kind that you would find in the drug store. Jeez, some of you people are really in the dark about this stuff.

 

[jsw]

I was talking about pharmaceutical grade mineral oil...

... which degrades latex, like any mineral oil.

Funny, I never needed any accessories. But to each their own.

 

[Blue Velvet]

Jeez, some of you people are really in the dark about this stuff.

One of the most absurd statements to take pride in I've read for a while on MR.

 

[jsw]

One of the most absurd statements to take pride in I've read for a while on MR.

You must not have been visiting as much lately.

 

[MACDRIVE]

... which degrades latex, like any mineral oil.

Back in the day of over flowing hormones, I never ran into any problems with the oil attacking the latex; but then again, I would only use it once and then throw it away. Preferably in a place where mom didn't find it.

By the way, baby oil is mineral oil with fragrance added. So if a young bloke doesn't want to alert anyone to such illegal activity, he would use the straight mineral oil as described.