I do not know if I wrote it right. The case is if you parents have a way to make your life miserable or at list try to manipulate you some how in a selfish matter or because they had a trauma from their childhood. In my house I have an issue with my mother, she is very nice and she like to spoiled everybody but after so many years I can see she is doing it because she does not want to be alone in her life. I broke up with my girlfriend and my mother liked her because she was staying with us and she was a part of our family more than she was with hers. But now I have a new girl coming just to spend some time in December with her and my mother is making everything so difficult, specially because this girl is from Germany and she know I have feelings for her. She know that I can end up living in Germany pretty easy in no time. My mother has my older brother domesticated already, he is 36 and he lives and work in my house, he doesn't have a girlfriend, he doesn't pay bills and he is not require to do any of that. In my case I'm 28 and I'm moving to New York in January to get a life. Already my mother told me that I should go to NY in April when there is not that cold (burning time). There are tons of details that I can see are trying subsconciently to eliminate my instinct of leaving my house. Of course is impossible to talk to her because I'm the youngest (I'm 28!!!) and "I do not know what I'm talking about". Do you have a parent like that? I mean, that is being selfish with you?