Female infidelity

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  1. obeygiant macrumors 68040

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    I understand what the author is getting at here, however the more women I meet it seems they're are just as good as men in compartmentalizing sex and love. Thoughts?
     
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    The piece is packed full of unsubstantiated claims and blatant bias. Are we supposed to take it seriously?
     
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    Well thats kind of why I posted it here. It seemed like a male's perspective on why females cheat which isn't always correct.
     
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    Well you're still a man right? Do you compartmentalize love and sex? I think I can.
     
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    There is a lot of research and anecdotal evidence behind the findings in this article. What's interesting is that much of what the author has said parallels discussions I have seen/heard/read elsewhere.

    I'm sure the findings are controversial, but that doesn't mean they should be dismissed. Also, there are enough caveats that its clear that the discussion wouldn't apply to all men or all women.
     
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    Anecdotal evidence-based research, maybe, not much else that I can see.
     
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    That's crap. Women cheat for good sex also, it's not all about love. My best friends girlfriend cheated on him with a married man. They have a very loving relationship and an amazing sex life (i know more than i should, those two have no concept of TMI). She didn't cheat for love, she was just looking for something new and different and had no plan to leave her primary relationship. He was deeply hurt, and he never cheated on her. Luckily, he was able to forgive her.
     
  9. Rt&Dzine macrumors 6502a

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    I think more women cheat for the emotional connection than men do.
     
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    There are a surprising number of men who will admit that they don't like one night stands and much prefer relationships.
     
  11. obeygiant thread starter macrumors 68040

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    I think I'd be one of them. I've never had a one night stand have you? More like 1 or 2 week stand maybe.
     
  12. Eraserhead macrumors G4

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    Its not my thing either really.
     
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    What? I thought everyone was the same within their gender (or other classification).

    ;)
     
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    I thought it was an ok piece. Really the genders minds are wired differently. Just watch kids play for a few hours its so apparently.

    Of course its generalization, but monogamous relationships survive male infidelity much more than the other.
     
  15. CorvusCamenarum macrumors 65816

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    CNN is the wrong place to go for this sort of enlightenment. Go read some Roissy in DC/Citizen Renegade instead.
     
  16. skunk macrumors G4

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    It is not only a generalisation, but a completely unsubstantiated one.
     
  17. robanga macrumors 68000

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    Maybe but I would bet there is science out there on it. although its certainly not quoted in this piece. In depth journalism...not enough margins in the business to do it anymore.

    All they would have to do is survey therapists
     
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    Assuming that women are only motivated by luuuurve and never by a good hard **** is a quaint and, most any woman will tell you, entirely false assumption. So is the idea that emotional connections aren't important to men.

    There are general differences between men and women. This is not one of them.
     
  19. skunk macrumors G4

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    That's actually not two of them... :cool:
     
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    Fair point. Guess which sentence I inserted before submitting. :p
     
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    Next thing you'll be trying to convince us girls poop too. Nice try buddy.

    On something vaguely related to the story, I recall reading a study that gauged women's physical responses to multiple encounters with the same partner. The research noticed some sort of biological and/or emotional adaption that made the women enjoy the physical part of the intimacy more. My recollection of it is much too vague to even begin to find it via a search, but it is worth noting that there may be a small difference in how the genders treat sex with the same partner due to different processes that occur as a result of repeated sexual encounters. Whether that is learned or congenital, I can't recall what the study said, if it had any conclusion at all. I just remember the adaptation (for want of a better expression) seemed to be unique to the female.
     
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    I found this interesting because I recently read that people with higher incomes are much less likely to get divorced. Perhaps people who earn less need to spice up their love lives by extramarital sex in order to stay together.
     
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    Fixed the article ;).
     
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    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard
    To love one who never did love you
    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard great god
    To love one that never would be true

    It was late last night when my true love came home
    He was a-knockin' on my door
    I got up in a fit of jealousy and I said
    True love, don't come here anymore

    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard
    To love one who never did love you
    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard great god
    To love one that never would be true

    The first time I seen my true love
    He was a-knockin' at my door
    The last time I seen his hard-hearted smile
    He was lyin' dead on the floor

    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard
    To love one who never did love you
    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard great god
    To love one that never would be true

    Don't go to drinkin' and gamblin'
    Don't go there your sorrows to drown
    This hard liquor place is a low-down disgrace
    It's the meanest bad place in this town

    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard
    To love one who never did love you
    Hard, ain't it hard, ain't it hard great god
    To love one that never would be true

    - Woody Guthrie
     
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    Perhaps those with higher incomes have more to lose in the divorce settlement.
     

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