A very good friend of mine - Best Man at mine and my wife's wedding - has recently received the awful news that his father has been diagnosed with having a brain tumour. The news was not entirely unexpected as his father had, just a couple of weeks ago, been found lying unconscious by my friend's brother. The father has only just turned 50 and is a healthy person, and this has only added to this news being such a huge shock. The father is due to go for an operation within the next 10 days, and will then receive a course of chemotherapy and radiation. He's been told that there's only a 25% chance of him surviving past 2 years. As a family they're very close, and are a very big hearted bunch of people too (they have adopted 3 children who still live with my friends parents), that this should happen to them is so sad it's beyond words. My friend is the eldest son and appears to have been hit very hard by the news. They were told of the above just under a week ago, but he doesn't appear to have been able to keep his head up, and this at a time when his father probably needs him the most. I'm feeling very concerned for him and plan to travel to see him later this week (he lives around 4 hours drive away), but to be honest I'm at a loss of what to say to him. Speaking on the phone I've tried to tell him that he should not lose hope; though it's probably wise to plan for the worst, he should hope for the best. I've also told him that he should not plan to try to conquer the weeks and months ahead, but should just try to take every day as it comes, making best of what's presented to him. Has anybody dealt with a situation alike the above before? If so, can you offer any advice of how's best to deal with such a situation? Any advice would be hugely appreciated!