Girl Kicked Out Of Prom So Her Dress Wouldn’t Lead Boys To ‘Think Impure Thoughts'

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macrumors Penryn
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Sigh. When are we going to leave the 20th century and stop blaming women when the issue is teaching our sons properly?


A 17-year-old high schooler from Virginia says she was kicked out of her prom because the parental chaperones were worried she was inspiring “impure thoughts” among the boys in attendance. Even though her dress adhered to the “fingertip length” dress code requirement, she was asked to leave.
Clare recounts her experience in a guest post on her sister’s blog. After Clare and her boyfriend bought tickets to the Richmond Homeschool Prom, she bought a new dress that she made sure was long enough according to the event’s “fingertip length” rule. But Clare is 5’9″, and even though the hem of her dress was within the guidelines, she says her long legs led some chaperones to assume she was breaking the dress code.
“I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives,” Clare writes in her blog post. “I’m not responsible for some perverted 45 year old dad lusting after me because I have a sparkly dress on and a big ass for a teenager. And if you think I am, then maybe you’re part of the problem.”
http://thinkprogress.org/health/2014/05/13/3437464/teen-girl-prom-impure-thoughts/
 

Tomorrow

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I read her rant, she makes some good points while also coming across like a whiny brat.

The school officials erred when they decided to define the dress code so rigidly. In the end, they felt like her dress was inappropriate, and that should have been the end of it; instead, they decided they needed to write down a hard and fast rule that she could hurl back in their faces.
 

citizenzen

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From the article ...

Clare was pulled away by one of the dance’s organizers, who told her that some of the fathers chaperoning the event had complained about her.
I'll bet they thought they recognized her from the porn sites they frequent.

:rolleyes:
 

steve knight

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a bunch of perv dads sporting woodies that's ok no need to deal with that problem all the girls fault of course. Christian men need to learn to control themselves burka's don't stop sexual thoughts.
 

Technarchy

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Girl has a lofty opinion of herself and she absolutely knew what she was doing when working the guidelines.

My wife is slender and 5'9 and she has to give some thought on where she shops and how things fit. A business appropriate skirt for someone that is 5'2", is street walker whore length and inappropriate for work on my wife.

My wife is aware of this, and has been since she was in her teens. No doubt at all that "Clare" is also aware of this issue for tallish women.

Furthermore, I have 3 boys and one daughter, and if one of my sons brings home a date and she is dressed on the skimpy side, and I discourage her from doing so, that doesn't mean I have a boner and want dive into some jailbait. It means as an adult and a parent, you will try and give guidance to a teen/child making iffy decisions.

Yes, dressing like a street walker tends to lead to bad things. I would discourage it for my own daughter, and her friends. Has no ties to my own libido or what appeals to me visually.
 

iBlazed

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My wife is slender and 5'9 and she has to give some thought on where she shops and how things fit. A business appropriate skirt for someone that is 5'2", is street walker whore length and inappropriate for work on my wife.
Wow. Really? Way to be judgmental.

Furthermore, I have 3 boys and one daughter, and if one of my sons brings home a date and she is dressed on the skimpy side, and I discourage her from doing so, that doesn't mean I have a boner and want dive into some jailbait. It means as an adult and a parent, you will try and give guidance to a teen/child making iffy decisions.
They themselves said it was giving the husbands impure thoughts. No one put those words into their mouths.
 

SwiftLives

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Furthermore, I have 3 boys and one daughter, and if one of my sons brings home a date and she is dressed on the skimpy side, and I discourage her from doing so, that doesn't mean I have a boner and want dive into some jailbait. It means as an adult and a parent, you will try and give guidance to a teen/child making iffy decisions.

Yes, dressing like a street walker tends to lead to bad things. I would discourage it for my own daughter, and her friends. Has no ties to my own libido or what appeals to me visually.
Have you ever lectured your daughter's (presumably) male date about the way he was dressed?
 

LIVEFRMNYC

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Or could it be cause her prom date was black? Cause I can't fathom to think every other girl at the prom was stick figures with skirts down to their ankles.

http://www.hannahettinger.com/****-the-patriarchy-guest-post-by-clare/

I was informed by more then one friend who stayed at the prom throughout the course of the evening that there was some truly dirty dancing, and that there were several couples making out and grinding on the dance floor, and yet out of a group of 500 people, only one person, (me) got thrown out for inappropriate dancing.
 
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thekev

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Girl has a lofty opinion of herself and she absolutely knew what she was doing when working the guidelines.
Is that really a suitable reason to eject her from the event? Admittedly some of the attached links attempt to make silly points, as they ignore the act that dress code standards are applied to both sexes in many situations.
 

MrWillie

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Sounds to me like an old lady caught her husband sneaking a peek and decided to take matters into her own hands. I think it's just one person that didn't like it, one person acting alone.

Of course she could have just said that the dress was inappropriate, please leave, and it wouldn't have been an issue.


This is the problem with Religion, useless ******** ideals that mean nothing ruining peoples lives.
Where in the **** is religion mentioned ? Not all home schoolers are religious people, some just don't like the screwed up government training centers.
 
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MacNut

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Isn't the whole idea of prom to have impure thoughts about after the prom.
 

steve knight

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Sounds to me like an old lady caught her husband sneaking a peek and decided to take matters into her own hands. I think it's just one person that didn't like it, one person acting alone.

Of course she could have just said that the dress was inappropriate, please leave, and it wouldn't have been an issue.




Where in the **** is religion mentioned ? Not all home schoolers are religious people, some just don't like the screwed up government training centers.
true but most home school groups are christian they have taken over really.