YIKES!!! I didnt think my boss would be upset over me changing my invite to the staff golf tourney next month from yes to no. To be frank, I just dont give a damn about golf, that and I dont like staff get togethers especially if theyre AFTER work in your free time. Want me to go? Make it during work hours, where im paid. So I emailed him last weekend saying Im not gonna go anymore because I got family plans that night and I wont have enough time (of course this was a lie :noes since the tourney is at night and really I didnt want to go and take off only an hour later. Today he comes to me asking what i got going on that I cant go, and gives me this dead serious look. I thought he was being sarcastic, but few secs later realized that holy crap hes pissed! Then i told him I got a family birthday blah blah blah. Sorry but family always comes first, well before work. I know that may sound bad but whatever. It is what it is. Even though technically i dont have anything planned for that night except going home and playing video games. Then he said that he really wants me there and that its a great time to meet the staff from other offices that i havent met yet. For me, i couldnt give a crap about meeting others. Am I way out of line for thinking this way? Not to be rude or anything but I just dont like mingling after hours. And that he will let me go 2 hours early that day with pay, to let me do my thing, just so i can be at the golf course after and stay the whole 9 rounds. Being let go 2 hours early with pay, nice! 3 hours on the golf course after, OH THAT SOUNDS SO EXCITING! NOT! I appreciate being offered the 2 hours pay, but still not happy about having to go. How bad does it look on me for trying to back out? :noes: I felt uncomfortable at the end and didnt know what to say so I said "its not that i dont want to go" 1) Does it look bad on me? Put a black mark on me as a person or employee? 2) What can I do now or say to him to deflect some of the negativity and backlash on me?