High School Drama

Discussion in 'Community' started by CubaTBird, Mar 3, 2005.

  1. CubaTBird macrumors 68020

    Apr 18, 2004
    if i have discoverd anything about high school, its how much so crap goes on there---socially that is... i am sure there are schools where teaching doesn't go on, but this isn't that case.. back to what i was sayin, my school is located in what u would call an "affluent" area and is considerd "upper class"... what i find every freakin day at my school is soo much backstabing, a lot of talking behind other kids back, and the irony here is that everyone does it with a smile on their face and act as if everything is going swell.. while i do have friends and collegues at the school, i try to keep a low profile to avoid this "drama" if u will.. nevertheless, my question is... does all this crap that occurs in high school, does it follow u into college? id figure everyone goes their own ways. ive heard the term that in college u can reinvent ur self.. to what extent is that? it just seems that high school is one big popular contest, but yet everyone wants to be over accepting of others that it gets to the point of hypocracy... another question i hab is what have been ur experience with friends from high school? does everybody forgive and forget all their friends from high school? kinda stupid i c it to go through the trouble of forming DEEP relations in high school only to forget em' on that last day of high school.. i guess reality bites :rolleyes:
  2. musicpyrite macrumors 68000


    Jan 6, 2004
    Cape Cod
    I hate my high school, everybody acts like it is one big popularity contest.

    Way too much drama..... I just stay out of it.
  3. 7on macrumors 601


    Nov 9, 2003
    Dress Rosa
    meh, in college everyone is too poor to focus on coolness. You'll get hassled a lot if you don't drink - but usually nothing too bad.

    There's always drama, but so far the people in college I've known have acted like adults around such matters
    ... unless of course they are drunk, then fights can break out over mundane ****.
  4. howard macrumors 68020


    Nov 18, 2002
    haha, ah that brings me back...jeez i'm starting to feel old now..

    so much drama went on in my high school too. It was all so ridiculous looking back. I'm glad i was never really involved in all of that.
  5. virividox macrumors 601


    Aug 19, 2003
    Manila - Nottingham - Philadelphia - Santa Barbar
    i loved high school some of the funnest times and great memories

    as for the drama its everywhere :)
    i dont think it will ever leave u as u grow older

    but in high school teens have nothing better to do or worry about
    unlike college - lack of money
    work - making your own money
    mid life - making money to support your kids!!! hehe
  6. Lyle macrumors 68000


    Jun 11, 2003
    Madison, Alabama
    It gets better, although there's always going to be the potential for this kind of drama in most social situations -- even when you're long out of college and an "adult". The only thing you can really change is how you react to it, and whether you let it affect you. I would recommend that, if it's an option, for you to go away to college. That is, try to avoid staying close to home and going to the same college where a lot of your high school classmates are likely to attend.
    You will figure this out on your own. Yes, it's pretty likely that you will drift away from the friends you're close to right now, but you'll still see them at Christmas when everyone's home for the holidays. For most of my old high school friends, that's as often as we see each other, but it's still fun to catch up and reminisce. And as for the idiots who are making your life so miserable right now, you never have to deal with them again unless you just want to.

    I know that it doesn't seem like it right now, but the distinctions between who's "popular" and "unpopular" at this point in your life will seem awfully silly ten years down the road. I promise.
  7. mactastic macrumors 68040


    Apr 24, 2003
    Hell, I know people to this day that can't get enough of the drama. I tend to stay away from those types, but for them the drama never ends. And if it does, they go seek out new drama or create it themselves.

    All the crap that happened back in HS seemed important at the time, but looking back it really wasn't. It still happened in college, but I was an oddity in that I was so much older than the rest of my college mates that I heard about the drama but never had to be involved in it.

    Office drama exists too once you hit TRW. I've worked places where the backbiting is every bit as nasty as it was in HS. Thankfully I've never worked for long at those places.

    Drama is as drama does. Those who like it will continue to revel in it, the rest of us can go our own ways.
  8. MoparShaha macrumors 68000


    May 15, 2003
    San Francisco
    College is much better. In my experience, people are much more mature. High school was very clickish. I'd say college, for the most part, is the opposite. People are approachable and friendly.
  9. howard macrumors 68020


    Nov 18, 2002
    ain't that the truth

    in highschool no one wants to be your friend, in college everyone wants to be your friend.
  10. wdlove macrumors P6


    Oct 20, 2002
    I was expecting a different topic. Thought it was going to be about theater arts.

    I also tried to stay away from trouble. The only group that I was in, happened to be the ones doing our Fall & Spring play each year, drama.
  11. xsedrinam macrumors 601


    Oct 21, 2004
    Paul Simon's 'Kodachrome' still resonates, I see.
  12. CubaTBird thread starter macrumors 68020

    Apr 18, 2004
    is it hard to get dates with girls if u don't drink or smoke in college? or find friends for that matter? i don't don't do both for that matter and never will. ;)
  13. leftbanke7 macrumors 6502a


    Feb 4, 2004
    West Valley City, Utah
    Not drinking and smoking won't hinder your ability to find a date or find friends. There are so many school groups that you would be hard pressed not to find a group that would be fun for you to join. Don't let those Hollywood movie versions of college deter you. They are all pretty much bunk. I mean, if the stuff that happened in Animal House happened in all colleges, there would no longer be frats or serorities. While there are some party frats, they aren't that bad and on the flip side, there are many more frats who hold their members to high personal and educational standards. Just go into college with an open mind and be friendly and by the time you graduate, you will have many new friends and perhaps even your future mate. Now, if you'll excuse me, I am headed to my Fat Dateless PowerBook User Group. We party HARD!!!!!!
  14. leftbanke7 macrumors 6502a


    Feb 4, 2004
    West Valley City, Utah
    I don't know why your post reminded me of this but my friend was walking down the the area of the school where the drama room was. He made the comment about how there were a bunch of thespians. A girl turned to him and yelled,"Did you just call me a lesbian?"
  15. stubeeef macrumors 68030


    Aug 10, 2004
    I live in the same county I went to HS in, since I left, I have my best friend and that is it, no clue about anyone else, never see'm or hear about them. I was in a class of 750+ grad in '79.

    I can not describe one of the hellish events of HS, after awhile they blend in to a vat of fog, no one will care. Do what you want, be good, go to college, take advantage of it, make friends like you-that share the same values. Keep your mind open and your thoughts your own.

    HS will be over soon, enjoy the parts you like, walk from the ones you don't like.
  16. jefhatfield Retired


    Jul 9, 2000
    high school is very different than college socially

    it's not the academics so much but the fact that in high school, you will reach puberty, go out on your first date, possibly have your first kiss, lose your virginity, and maybe experiement with drugs and/or alcohol...there are ample opportunities to make stupid mistakes and get into a lot of trouble

    by college, many have already made some really stupid mistakes so the pressure to do something foolish is not as severe...the overall effect is that college seems so much more subdued and mature

    i don't envy you...i had my most difficult years of my life in high school
  17. CanadaRAM macrumors G5


    Oct 11, 2004
    On the Left Coast - Victoria BC Canada
    Life = Drama
    High School = Drama - Responsibility

    The young people I know (and was) exercise (and sometimes abuse) the freedoms they have without seeming to understand that they have responsibility for the outcomes. Getting past that attitude = maturity.

    You know, I was thinking on this the other day; in hindsight, there was a lot of potential in high school, if I had only had the confidence to try things, socially. Like, actually talk to someone, enjoy being with them as a person, instead of playing a role in some game.

    Had I to do it again, I would trade all the hours of trying to "date" "score" "be a jock" or "be seen with the right person" for simply talking, relating and enjoying life with any and everybody there. And I am convinced that approach "B" would have accidentally resulted in much better results romatically (it's way easier to get to know and like a real person than an actor). But it took another 20 years to figure this out - go figure.
    #1 secret: Talk to people and be interested in *them*. That's it. Everything else follows.

    (Cuba, kudos on the not drinking and smoking determination. Chances are you are already further along than some of your peers, and chances are you'll live to see your future. Way too many young road fatalities where I live, including three young drunk men (now deceased) who lost control at about 100 MPH and went through the side of a warehouse 2 blocks from were I am sitting now.)
  18. applekid macrumors 68020

    Jul 3, 2003
    Hmmm... my high school might be sound. Not really any drama happening. Actually, if anything, there might be drama among the "upper class" peeps at my school. They're quite snobbish, always partying, drugs and sex galore and just loud and trying to score; you know the drill. But, I drown them out and give them my middle finger ;) If I hung out with them, I might actually know more about this drama!

    Look around, and everybody dresses the same, with a few exceptions. No trendsetters, no leaders. Nothing like that. Everybody has a hoody on. Our teachers even say we lack leaders, not that we're not capable. When we bother to lead something, it works out great. But, nobody is leading the charge for anything around here.

    Nothing like cliques around here. Well, I guess there are cliques, but the lines are blurred. People seem generally nice. No fights, no bullying, no haters, as far as I can tell. You don't have jocks hating on the nerds, for example. People seem to fit in multiple cliques, in fact! You've also got the drama group and gothic group, but even they aren't very isolated. The snobs aren't important enough for people to care, so it works out.

    It all disappears in college. My sister was probably those types that got brought down by all of the drama at school (since it existed), but she seems like a happier and better person since college came around. I talk to my sister about her high school years, and in comparison, I have it easy.

    Just keep your friends close and take it easy. Just keep your grades up, get to college, and enjoy the rest of your life. Seems like that's what's working for me.
  19. superbovine macrumors 68030


    Nov 7, 2003
    confidence goes a long way in the world. remember that when you goto to college and after in the real world. it doesn't hurt to much with getting a date either.
  20. themadchemist macrumors 68030


    Jan 31, 2003
    Chi Town

    Election season is coming around for the student government here...

    Yes, there's drama, there's deception, there's angling, there's strategy.

    Could it get any better?! :p
  21. gwuMACaddict macrumors 68040


    Apr 21, 2003
    washington dc
    it's high school, what do you expect? people will eventually grow up and get over themselves... i only kept two or three good friends from hs, don't know if thats the norm or not... i feel like i'm meeting my real friends now, post college, etc.
  22. Moxiemike macrumors 68020


    Jan 1, 2002
    Pittsburgh, PA
    Sounds like a George W Bush campaign for President! Haha. I guess things really DON'T change in "TRW"

  23. themadchemist macrumors 68030


    Jan 31, 2003
    Chi Town
    Hahaha! I hope it's not so bad. We'll see. To a certain point, the drama is actually what makes things interesting...

    As long as there are no Orgo Lab Partners for Truth.
  24. Les Kern macrumors 68040

    Les Kern

    Apr 26, 2002
    I'm going on FIFTY years old, and currently work in a high school. Nothing has changed in the 30-odd years since I went to HS. Nothing.The cliques should be background noise, not important parts of your world-view.
    If it affects you deeply, see a specialist.
    For god's sake get on with your life, and leave the flotsam and jetsam in your wake.
  25. Moxiemike macrumors 68020


    Jan 1, 2002
    Pittsburgh, PA
    I sitll think one of my best college memories was when a few friends ran on a "freak" ticket for Student Gov. Pittsburgh, FYI, is a cold place in winter, when elections took place.

    We found a couch on "big trash day" when the rich folks throw away big ****. Haha. We took the ratty couch onto campus with a footlocker, set it up on Academic Walk (the main walking road through our campus) and those guys sat outside, from 830am until 5pm, in the freezing cold, handing out candy to anyone who passed by. It was HILARIOUS.

    Of course, I had quite the thing for one of the girls who campaigned and got my glory when I drove her to CandyRama to get more supplies. Unfortunately, they didn't win the election, but I think they were trying to show the absurdity of advertising in elections. This was in 1995!

    So yea... not much has changed, and I still think those guys should have turned their campaign into a sociology project. I mean, look at the election in 04. Almost ALL about advertising and pandering on the GWB side.

    Drama at it's finest. Haha.

    We were just the chilled out cigarette/weed smoking misfits in college. Well dressed and messed up. :)

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