How do I deal with my friend who has an inflated ego?

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  1. Suno macrumors 6502

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    Okay look, I love my friend and he's my bro and all, but honestly sometimes I hate him in the same way that siblings hate each other. Why? Because he has a serious inflated ego problem that it gets on my nerves. He thinks he's good at EVERYTHING. He thinks he's the jack of all trades, the modern renaissance man.

    Pick a topic or subject. No seriously, just pick any random subject. Is it movies? Is it molecular biology? Is it books? Is it love? Is it music analysis? Is it networking? Is it accounting?

    Doesn't matter, he thinks he knows everything, despite the fact that he clearly doesn't. It pains me listening to him use terms that he obviously only read about once or twice on wikipedia. What's annoying is that he has a superiority complex because of his so-called "knowledge" to a lot of things.

    Like I want to shut him up for good but every time I question him or argue back, it just turns into this nonsense bickering back and forth that doesn't get resolved. So I don't even try to argue anymore unless it's something really important. I just nod and silently shake my head.

    What triggered me to write this long vent is his recent comment. He watched the Hunger Games and suddenly he thinks he's a movie critic that can give recommendations now. Uh, no. His taste in movies is not only bad, but his repertoire of movies to even base his "analysis" on is terrible. If anything, -I'M- the movie guy of our group. At least I can give a half-assed analysis that can sound legit and even point out proper criticisms and for what it's worth, at least my scores mirror critic ratings on RT (usually).

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  2. William.Mantle macrumors 6502

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    This does not sound like a friendship.

    It does sound like your annoyed this person has an opinion on a film he recently watched.

    Time to move on
     
  3. MonkeySee.... macrumors 68040

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    phaze him out. if he asks why just say "you're too much effort".
     
  4. charlieegan3 macrumors 68020

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    i know someone similar. people like that always have a weakness. find that and just always bring it up, over and over. If they come out with something particularly big-headed just laugh.:D
     
  5. Macman45 macrumors demi-god

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    You are being used, you may not lnow it, but you are. He's not a real friend, and I doubt if having a talk is going to help.


    The physc. description is "Fading Away" if I remember my text books right. Let the calls go unanswered, your busy when he / she wants to do stuff.
     
  6. -aggie- macrumors P6

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  7. simsaladimbamba

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    Or Macs vs. PCs (if PC is short for Windows).
    Or Palestine vs. Israel.
    Or North vs. South / East vs. West.
     
  8. xlii macrumors 68000

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    Well, you could go in the opposite direction and feed his ego. Tell him how smart he is. Tell him he is right, you would have never seen that angle.

    Had a friend who always had to get the last word in. Even when I had proved him wrong. His last two words to every discussion that he'd lost...

    "yes, but..."
     
  9. barredfreak macrumors 6502

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    Read something from the encyclopaedia and ask his opinion on it.

    When he gives you that blur look that shows he doesn't know what you're talking about, ask him to suck a lemon.

    Problem solved.
     
  10. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    This reads like a couple of 12 year olds bitching at one another. It's ****ing stupid.

    Punch your friend in the cock and move on. Man up for christ's sake.
     
  11. Hastings101 macrumors 68010

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    Sounds like you're the one that needs to grow up. He had an opinion on a movie, oh no!
     
  12. soloer macrumors 6502a

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    This might be the best thing I've read on these forums. Ever.
     
  13. eternlgladiator macrumors 68000

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    Have you ever been punched in the cock? If my friend punched me in the cock over a verbal disagreement I'd roundhouse his ass right back to 3rd grade. Not cool.
     
  14. keysersoze macrumors 68000

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    hmm... look who made the comment and your question may be answered ;)

    got to agree that punching him probably isn't the way to go. Unfortunately people like this continue to exist, even at older ages. Just have to learn to deal with them... but don't have to be friends with them. It gets real old.
     
  15. GoCubsGo macrumors Nehalem

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    Clever but no. If someone punched me in the cock then I think the sheer surprise of me having a cock would level us both. Now, if you've ever been punched in the cock you would know that there will be no roundhouse following said punch. Not to 3rd grade or otherwise. ;)

    FWIW, I've never been punched in the vag either.

    You have to admit, the maturity of the OP's post suggests that cock punching is a possibility. Nothing will solve anything in this world if you're hyper-focused on someone's ****ing opinion of a movie.
     
  16. rei101 macrumors 6502a

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    He has an inferiority complex

    "Tell me what you brag about and I will tell you what you lack in life".

    People who show off like that is because they need self approval, insecurity.

    He may end up being a compulsive liar just to gain the attention from others and then, in reality he is a fraud.

    If you back up from him, he will chase you for sure.

    I have seen so many people like that until life catch up, they realized they have no friends and no actual skills or job and then they become humble or... they start to lie to themselves more!

    He is just immature, no normal people do that.
     
  17. Dagless macrumors Core

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    Honestly I'm shocked. I thought you liked my analysis of the film. At least I know where I stand now.
     
  18. yg17 macrumors G5

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    I have a cousin just like that. I try to tune him out. But the difference is, you can choose your friends but not your family. I can't choose to not be near him and have to listen to him at family gatherings. If your friend annoys you so much that you can't stand to listen to him, perhaps you need to evaluate your friendship.
     
  19. eternlgladiator macrumors 68000

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    I'm aware that jessica is a girl, hence the comment's relative sarcasm.

    For the record, you haven't lived til you've been punched in the vag but you're also right.
     
  20. rdowns macrumors Penryn

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    Is it possible that he is good at everything and you're not?


    I'll take teen angst for $800, Alex.

    So what you're saying is you must be the knowledgable one to know that he is full of it, right?


    If it turns into bickering back and forth, you're hardly sitting there nodding and silently shaking your head.


    It sounds good, has a decent beat but you can't dance to it.
     
  21. Tomorrow macrumors 604

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    Surely I can't be the only one who sees the immense irony in the OP, right?
     
  22. Shrink macrumors G3

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    Gracious me, I'm blushing...
     
  23. eternlgladiator macrumors 68000

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    I'd call that a win.
     
  24. Gregg2 macrumors 603

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    No you don't. No room can hold everyone. Just get up and join a conversation in another room. I do that all the time.
     
  25. yg17 macrumors G5

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    It's a small family, so family gatherings are usually at a restaurant or something, just a handful of us around a table. So yeah, unfortunately I am stuck listening to him.

    Thankfully, he recently took a job (one of the dozens he's had over the years because he can't hold one down) that has him traveling a lot so I haven't seen him in a few months ;)
     

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