I came out of the closet today!

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  1. Prof. macrumors 601

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    It took me four years to do it but I finally did it! Today, I told my mom that I am gay. She took it really well (as I expected her to) but it was the scariest five minutes of my life. There were tears and there were some laughs. But in my heart, I know she will always love me no matter what I do - unless of course I murder someone then I know she'll throw me away. :p

    Now... to any of you that are gay and are still "in the closet" it's okay; take your time, no one is rushing you. Be yourself.

    In the words of Mark Hoppus - "I'm gay. So what. Don't judge. My butt"

    LOL... sorry but I had to say that.
     
  2. FJ218700 macrumors 68000

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    I'm glad the outcome with your mother was positive.

    good for you.
     
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    Congrats.

    Sorry, I have to ask... your Dad? Please forgive me if that's presumptuous.
     
  5. Prof. thread starter macrumors 601

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    Ummmm... what? I don't get it.:confused:

    EDIT: You mean did i tell my dad? No efing way; he'd kill me.
     
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    I think the question is, how did your dad take it?
     
  7. CalBoy macrumors 604

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    I think she also meant that she didn't want to presume that you had a father.

    Congrats, and I'm glad it went well for you. :)

    You should consider yourself fortunate (many have had quite a different experience). :)
     
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    I just want to say that when I was trying to tell my parents, I had everything ready to go, all packed up. I had no idea what they were going to do.

    It went better then I expected, but not what I would call great.

    Parents "So who is this new girlfriend you keep on seeing?"
    Me "Ummm, well about that..."
    Parents "What?"
    Me "It's no a girl..."
    Parents "What do you mean?"
    Me "It's a guy"
    Dad "why?"
    ...
    ...
    ...
    Mom "Andrew, go to your room."

    mom yells at dad for a few hours

    Mom comes and talks to me for a bit.
    Dad comes in my room, hugs me, leaves, doesn't say anything.


    Yep... Not even fun remembering it.
     
  9. dopey220 macrumors 6502

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    Heh. I'd forgotten about that song.

    Anyway, congrats. Try not to cause too many earthquakes.
     
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    Congratulations!

    Really good to hear that your mom took it so well and that you found the courage to tell her!
     
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    cool...still its a bummer its an issue at all...still nice to know your moms supports you(as she should!)
     
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    congratulations :)

    i can't imagine a tougher thing to have to do. i'm glad your mom took it well.
     
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    I think I speak for everyone when I say: watch out for Lee.
     
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    This is how you told your mom you are gay!? Respect! :p
     
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    sounds harder than telling my parents/grandparents im in an interracial relationship which im still prepping for.


    congrats as i assume it was difficult to do!
     
  16. Prof. thread starter macrumors 601

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    Who is Lee?
     
  17. Iscariot macrumors 68030

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    Leekohler? The sexiest man on MacRumors?
     
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    most probably referring to leekohler.

    Congrats to you.

    I once had the reverse conversation.
     
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    coming out as straight? lol or parents coming out i take it
     
  21. CalBoy macrumors 604

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    Oh really? Do tell. :p

    I'm guessing your parents are the accepting type if they came to you with it.
     
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    I've never had to go through anything like this, so I have no idea what it's really like. With that disclaimer out of the way, do you think she already knew on some level? While some guys really do hide it well, I've met many guys that were officially in the closet, but it was clear to everyone that they were gay, which they eventually acknowledged to the world that it was true.

    In at least one of these cases that I know of, the guy acted in a very flamboyant way while he was in the closet, but soon after he came out of the closet his mannerism were much less stereotypically gay. The amateur theory I've heard is that when guys are in the closet they try to repress it, but that winds up subconsciously making them acting in a way that makes it obvious to the world that they really are gay.

    How well did you hide it? Do you think your mother had any suspicions?

    p.s. Congrats man.
     
  24. Prof. thread starter macrumors 601

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    Oh yes; i know of Leekohler. He's gonna be single handedly responsible for the earth quake that is goin to destroy Chicago.:D:p
     
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    More seriously, I'd like to commend you for your bravery.

    But what I really feel is a sense of disappointment that it should take bravery, and that one must take the chance that even bravery won't be enough. I was having a conversation with a friend yesterday regarding how even in our supposedly progressive social circle there are still very real boundaries and comfort levels that shouldn't exist in the capacity they do.

    Even in the supposed land of milk and honey for gay rights, some of us grew up hearing things like "you can be anything you want, as long as you're not gay".

    I shouldn't feel relief that I'm not in your situation. The fact that I do is both distressing and depressing.
     

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