I'm a teacher at a high school, teaching from ages 11 to 16. I have a senior class who are 15/16 who I have a very laid back relationship with. I am very personable with them - and I've made an effort to try and get to know them in order to develop a good working relationship. For example, about once a fortnight I let the class listen to music - I asked them to write down their favourite song, downloaded them and made a playlist so that they're listening to each other's favourite music. I also often talk about anything eventful that I've been doing personally in my life, such as if I've been to any gigs, what I did at the weekend etc. I also ask these questions to the class, when appropriate. Anyway, I love teaching this class because this has harboured an extremely positive learning environment. Sometimes I have felt that the students have went too far (such as too much talking when I am talking) but on the whole I would say there is a mutual respect and I know that they enjoy being in my class. The pupils are naturally inquisitive about me and today when I was doing a study session, I was helping one pupil in particular. I could peripherally hear another pupil casual ask me, in a kind enough way (although sort of in passing and indirectly) if I am gay. I am gay. I am not particularly open about it (I rarely go out my way to tell people - but if people ask me straight (pardon the pun) I will be honest). Because I was helping another pupil, I pretended that I never heard it. The question was not repeated. I am stuck in a dilemma. If I tell the truth I worry that it might affect this excellent relationship that I have with the class. But I also think that this excellent relationship is based on a "fake" me if I am not being true to myself. Moreover, I am worried that if I answer truthfully this might spread throughout the school causing problems with my younger, more troublesome classes. However, I don't see why I should have to lie and say I'm straight when I'm not. I have been thinking that if I am asking again to give a general comment that isn't very specific and vaguely answers the question, like "I don't see how this is relevant to me being your teacher". However feel that that is a bit rude considering how open I've been with them so far. I know I am a teacher and I carry a responsibility - which I do take seriously. I am trying to approach this uncomfortable situation from a professional view point. It's starting to stress me out - hence why I thought I would ask for some help here. I don't think I would have a problem telling this class in particular if I knew each of them wouldn't tell anyone else in the school. This obviously isn't going to happen. I should add that I am relatively new to teaching.