Here's the situation. We have family all over the country with most concentrated in a state over 1,000 miles away. We don't visit them often but exchange Christmas cards and generally stay in touch with them. We just received an invitation to a baby shower for one family member who is far away. We have not planned to take a trip to be anywhere near where the shower will be, nor have we ever told them we would be in the area around that time. Of course, the invitation includes the registry information for the shower. I feel like they sent the invitation knowing that we wouldn't be able to attend but they still want a gift from us. While I'm not mad about this, I think it's tacky and greedy. Am I being unreasonable in feeling this way? I have half a mind to respond with a card wishing them well and stating that we unfortunately won't be able to attend (and not including any gift). Would this be mean, passive-aggressive, appropriate, or something else?