...of the dreaded "Friend Zone"? I hate that term - it makes the whole love/lust/dating/romance/sex thing sound like an American field sport, instead of what it truly is... a cruel and unusual form of medieval torture.
I'd really appreciate any advice from any female posters, though any and all advice is welcome from everyone. Even automated spam-bots.
Ok, some background: I'm 33, single, know absolutely nothing about women whatsoever, and have the backbone of a lump of jelly. I have many female friends, but I would never, ever, approach a stranger in a bar or club and ask her out or ask for her number. I guess you could say I'm pretty backward in being forward.
But this is a specific problem: I've been receiving (private) Spanish lessons for about a year now, changing teachers from time to time as they return home. When I started being tutored by my latest teacher - who shall remain nameless here (don't worry, she has several names in real life) - I didn't think anything of it.
Then one day as I nearly fell off the couch laughing at something she said, I realised I'd fallen head over heels for her. I realised we'd the same sense of humour, we both loved Irish music, and Spanish dancing, and drinking until we forget how bad our jokes are, and flirting endlessly.
This love/lust/crush/infatuation just snuck up on me and caught me completely unawares. Just like those sneaky miniature elephants that sneak up on you and nibble on your ankles. (If you don't know about them - it just shows how sneaky they really are).
Just as I was working my way through my customary 3,763 point checklist ("does she like me too?" "could she like me?" "is it inappropriate when she works for me?" "are we fr**nds?" etc..etc..) before letting her know how I feel, she told me she'd just met someone else. Bummer.
To cut a (far too) long story short, what should I doooooooo?
a) Nothing. Meet up with her twice a week for lessons feeling just a little bit more miserable each time.
b) Throw hissy fit. Tell her I can't keep doing lessons with her as it's too hard spending so much time with someone who just wants to be friends when I want so much more. And lose the funniest, most interesting person in my life.
c) ....help me out here guys, I'm run out of ideas!
I'd really appreciate any advice from any female posters, though any and all advice is welcome from everyone. Even automated spam-bots.
Ok, some background: I'm 33, single, know absolutely nothing about women whatsoever, and have the backbone of a lump of jelly. I have many female friends, but I would never, ever, approach a stranger in a bar or club and ask her out or ask for her number. I guess you could say I'm pretty backward in being forward.
But this is a specific problem: I've been receiving (private) Spanish lessons for about a year now, changing teachers from time to time as they return home. When I started being tutored by my latest teacher - who shall remain nameless here (don't worry, she has several names in real life) - I didn't think anything of it.
Then one day as I nearly fell off the couch laughing at something she said, I realised I'd fallen head over heels for her. I realised we'd the same sense of humour, we both loved Irish music, and Spanish dancing, and drinking until we forget how bad our jokes are, and flirting endlessly.
This love/lust/crush/infatuation just snuck up on me and caught me completely unawares. Just like those sneaky miniature elephants that sneak up on you and nibble on your ankles. (If you don't know about them - it just shows how sneaky they really are).
Just as I was working my way through my customary 3,763 point checklist ("does she like me too?" "could she like me?" "is it inappropriate when she works for me?" "are we fr**nds?" etc..etc..) before letting her know how I feel, she told me she'd just met someone else. Bummer.
To cut a (far too) long story short, what should I doooooooo?
a) Nothing. Meet up with her twice a week for lessons feeling just a little bit more miserable each time.
b) Throw hissy fit. Tell her I can't keep doing lessons with her as it's too hard spending so much time with someone who just wants to be friends when I want so much more. And lose the funniest, most interesting person in my life.
c) ....help me out here guys, I'm run out of ideas!
