Sexuality is often debated here in the PRSI whether it be from a political or a religious perspective. So, I've got a question I want to throw out there because I think it's worth asking and hopefully we can have some meaningful discussion. Why is sexuality viewed as a state of being rather than as a behavioral choice? In our effort to better understand or define the human condition we have come to the conclusion regarding attraction, sexual behavior, and sexual response that an individual is either born heterosexual or homosexual (one way or the other). I've heard people on both sides of the debate decry those who identify as bisexual stating that they are simply in denial of their actual sexuality. Bisexuals are either homosexuals who are afraid to fully embrace who they are or heterosexuals who are just more open to experimentation. In debates on this website I've often seen people on the homosexual side defend their view by asking individuals on the hetersexual side to explain when in their life they "chose to be hetersexual". What if this "default" view of things is completely off base? Why are we so insistent that sexuality, which is simply one part of human identity, be boxed into predetermined categories? Is it possible that instead of defining sexuality by the object of our attractions that the actual "state of being" when it comes to human sexuality is simply that we are beings who are sexual by nature? We have the capacity for relationships and intimacy and inherent within this desire for conneciton is a complementary desire for physical connection and expression. Is this idea really that frightening? Is it truly that threatening to believe that all of us make a choice regarding our sexual behavior, regarding how we connect with others? Is it beyond the scope of belief that our attractions are not fixed but fluid; that they are a complex characteristic within us that has been influenced by our experiences; that instead of nature vs. nurture the actual answer is a combination of both? Why does it have to be "or" instead of "both/and"? It sure would end a lot of debate if we could all agree that we aren't divided into categories by our DNA or our genes, but that we are all humans endowed with the same capacities and that it is our choice how we go about the process of living our lives. Thoughts?