Situation - A couple, man and woman, unmarried and live together. Man doesn't want a child, but the woman does. But they both want to stay together. A few streets away is a really nice single man, career type, has cash he doesn't know what to do with. He desperately would love a child and he knows he'd make a good father. Thing is he's gay and hasn't been lucky finding a stable partner. Solution - The couple stay a couple, but the woman outsources her need for a child to the gay neighbour. The child lives with the gay man and she sees the kid daily, sometimes all three even hang out together with the kid. For the most part it's the woman and gay man that raise the child. My justification - knowing that these relationships happen naturally anyway, where women have children to a partner then split and find a new partner. Often this happens with several fathers to the same woman. The children grow up healthy and fine. It's the quality of their care, not the setup of the family that matters. Thought I'd put it out there to see how progressive folk really are. I'm actually good with the situation, and would personally be quite happy for my girlfriend to have her kid with a live-out man.