Nice gesture on her part for sure..didn't really have any plans that day (my family members are either deceased or live far away) until later that evening when Im getting together with friends. The meal is at her place at noon with her parents and some of her friends from outside of work. Not really sure if I am going or not, since I really like to keep my work and personal life separate, but she is pretty insistent, extending a verbal invitation as well as an email invitation. Thoughts on this? I'd like to graciously decline but don't want to offend her at the same time, and in this day and age of good jobs being hard to come by, and given my "advanced age" of 45 I figure I need all the brownie points I can get. Also, should I go, does anyone have a wine recommendation? The meal is going to be a prime rib roast..all I know is that means red wine...Since she is a wine person Id like to make a good choice...my budget for that would probably be around $40-$50. thanks in advance.