The Number of Male Domestic Abuse Victims Is Shockingly High

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So Why Don’t We Hear About Them?

When you think of a victim of domestic abuse, who comes to mind?

If you’re being honest, it’s probably a woman. After all, domestic violence against men isn’t a theme of many Hollywood movies.

Yet in 2010, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released data from its National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey — and one of the most shocking statistics wasn’t just the sheer total of victims of physical violence but also how those numbers broke down by gender.

According to the CDC’s statistics — estimates based on more than 18,000 telephone-survey responses in the United States — roughly 5,365,000 men had been victims of intimate partner physical violence in the previous 12 months, compared with 4,741,000 women. By the study’s definition, physical violence includes slapping, pushing, and shoving.
do any of you know of any men shelters?

https://www.yahoo.com/health/the-number-of-male-domestic-1284479771263030.html
 

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Part of the problem is when a man hits a woman, society collectively gasps. When a woman hits a man, he's supposed to shield himself and not hit her back and walk away. Meanwhile, onlookers laugh. It's a total double standard.
true, but we are not used to seeing abused men.
 

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Well everyone thinks it's fine to joke about this, the damage of domestic abuse is horrible, but easily dismissed. Most are men, but I would imagine abuse from women is underreported.
 

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Worth reading the study rather than the yahoo article. Although the raw numbers are headline grabbing (and we shouldn't belittle violence against men) the data reveals a lot more about what is really going on. The author of the article is a bit sloppy and doesn't relay what the data shows in full for their men-centric article. The seriousness of the violence against women is objectively far greater.

Rape - these figures are just atrocious.
Nearly 1 in 5 women in the United States has been raped in her lifetime (18.3%)
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Approximately 1 in 71 men in the United States (1.4%) reported having been raped in his lifetime
Sexual violence overall is perpetrated largely by males.
Most perpetrators of all forms of sexual violence against women were male. For female rape victims, 98.1% reported only male perpetrators. Additionally, 92.5% of female victims of sexual violence other than rape reported only male perpetrators. For male victims, the sex of the perpetrator varied by the type of sexual violence expe- rienced.

The majority of male rape victims (93.3%) reported only male perpetrators.
The raw numbers she lifts (5,365,000 men and 4,741,000 women in the OP) doesn't again show the full data from the source when is lifting it from (see reference tables 4.1 and 4.2). Women are greater than 3 times more likely to suffer consequences of the violence than men defined as; experiencing any of the following: being fearful, concerned for safety, any PTSD symptoms, need for health care, injury, contacted a crisis hotline, need for housing services, need for victim’s advocate services, need for legal services, missed at least one day of work or school.For those who reported being raped it also includes having contracted a sexually transmitted disease. This is most likely in direct relation to the much greater significance of the violence that men perpetrate on women (see tables 5.1 and 5.3).

jkcerda said:
do any of you know of any men shelters?
Although you are being flippant here the need for shelters/accommodation from the study is 3 million a year for women and 500 000 a year for men. Which is enormous on both counts.

As comes up a lot in PRSI it is worth having a read of the original study and not relying on the author who also writes articles on Jimmy Falon's "funny-cause-it's-true" juice cleanse stories. This is why the media has so much power to control the narrative for advertising page hits.
 

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I've been married for 26 yrs and abused through everyone of them. However, I wouldn't have it any other way. ;)

I do think there is a double standard around the subject though.
 

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Worth reading the study rather than the yahoo article. Although the raw numbers are headline grabbing (and we shouldn't belittle violence against men) the data reveals a lot more about what is really going on. The author of the article is a bit sloppy and doesn't relay what the data shows in full for their men-centric article. The seriousness of the violence against women is objectively far greater.
Domestic violence against men is objectively more present than is represented in most articles I see about domestic violence. Even if it is 70:30 that doesn't excuse the way it is mostly ignored.
 
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I've been married for 26 yrs and abused through everyone of them. However, I wouldn't have it any other way. ;)

I do think there is a double standard around the subject though.
If there's a double standard, a lot of it comes from men, establishing our codes of masculinity and discouraging others from coming forward, and then complaining when no one takes the issue seriously.
 

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do any of you know of any men shelters?
This has been well documented for at least 40 years, but:

Can men be the victims of domestic violence?
According to the U.S. Department of Justice, 95 percent of the victims of domestic violence are women. The National Crime Victimization Survey consistently finds that no matter who initiates the violence, women are 7 to 10 times more likely to be injured than are men. It's important to realize the climate of intimidation and control that occurs in abusive families. Most men will say they are not afraid of the woman with whom they live, even if they had also been hit, scratched, or punched by her. However, you'll often hear that women are terrorized and live in constant fear of being battered by the man with whom they live. The difference in strength and physical size puts a woman at more risk than a man.
http://www.pbs.org/kued/nosafeplace/studyg/domestic.html

That is the bottom line: when it comes to being physically injured or killed, women more often get the worst of it.

However, I think you will find that many police departments do take woman-on-man domestic violence more seriously than they used to.
 

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You guys seem to be overlooking the fact that it can be male on male.

In previous threads I have admitted to being raped twice and physically assaulted by significant others. I have heard the retort that's because I'm gay, but it doesn't make it any easier.

KGB:confused:
I did not think of that angle
 

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You guys seem to be overlooking the fact that it can be male on male.

In previous threads I have admitted to being raped twice and physically assaulted by significant others. I have heard the retort that's because I'm gay, but it doesn't make it any easier.

KGB:confused:
Ugh. Anyone who says that is really just a bad person. The author doesn't indicate one way or the other, but I suspect she mostly pulled figures from that. Nothing in her background suggests she would be able to offer any in depth analysis of the study, and the article uses memes for filler. I wouldn't read too far into it. I will probably read the CDC study at some point. Not today.
 

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This is clearly a "shock you with the numbers" media article with selective analysis, as @.Andy pointed out. It's one thing if a woman slaps a man, it's another if a man beats the pulp out of a woman, not to say the opposite can't happen, but usually it's the men that significantly overpower the woman.

Spoken like a true feminist. It's the men's fault :rolleyes:
Spoken like a true victim. It's the fault of women. :rolleyes:
I would say our societal norms (both male and female) are the biggest problem. It's okay for a woman to hit a man, but I've always (as a male) heard "you never hit a woman". If a woman is hit by man, she is expected to receive sympathy, the man is seen as a monster. If a woman hits a man, I think we usually assume he deserved it and good for the woman for standing up. Thinking of TV shows, movies, etc that is generally the case with domestic violence. If a man is hit by a woman, he's supposed to hang tough. If a woman is hit by a man, she is supposed to call the police. There's absolutely a double standard, but given how we're conditioned to to perceive male vs female violence, one is comical and the other is serious.

As @Grey Beard pointed out, homosexual relationships are not mentioned here. I'm trying to think of the societal perspectives... male on male seems like something that is done to settle problems off the books/without legal intervention (the after school fight to settle a score) -or- part of natural dominance/pecking order. A male vs male fight almost has a sense of socially acceptance. Female vs. female brings to mind a cat fight, which is often portrayed as the violence is over some arbitrary disagreement, and seen as very un-lady-like and immature (where as men fighting provokes masculinity and maturity).

So I'm just rambling off the top of my head here. I think there are a lot of double standards here and society is to blame how we construct violence. I've never been in a fight in my life (domestic or otherwise), I've never seen the need to fight. I guess that makes me un-manly :(
 

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What most of you have completely missed is the psychological aspect. While a woman may not necessarily be able to inflict the same kind of physical injury on her partner, by getting into a guy's mind to make him feel like a failure or "less of a man" they can inflict damage that will remain long after the bruises have healed.

And women can be really REALLY nasty. And that's not even in a jokey flippant way.